Kel i put on a video for Leah and workout on my Elliptical whilst watching the picture i put on for her.. She is happy and i am happy .. lumpy dumpy da dee lumpy dumpy da dee heffalumpy like me .. you make a game of your name so its never the same never the same .... lol . now who can guess the film she always picks??? lol
Kel i think you put weight back on becuase you were starving yourself with those shakes.. and once you started eating again your body was already in starvatoin mode and held on to every calorie it could.. shakes gave you fast weight loss but it all came back so. it proves shakes dont work becuase eventually you have to come off them..
Vonni i have had the gobbalygosh email before and can read it easily lol..
Your son.. needs a kick up the ***.. i wouldnt mind knowing who sold hime the cigerrattes.. he is 13 for god sake.. Who couldnt tell he is far to young to buy them?.. I would take him down the shop he got them from and twell the shop keeper you will call the police.. if he/she ever sells to a minor again.. then go home and ring them anyway.. The shop keepers have a responsibility to keep our kids safe.. I would get them in trouble for doing it.. i bet hes not the only one they sell too. You have to come up with a very good punishment.. I would give him family service to do.. Dishes, cleaning floors/windows putting rubbish out. cleaning pets and pet bowls and feeding pets . Tidy up other kids rooms.. clean the car, all that sort of stuff.. Make a list and tell him he will do it for x amount of days and will also be grounded until he has completeed each task x amount of times..
I tell you he wont want to do it again.. lol ( i have been doing a directive parenting class.. and a girl of the same age had broken into a school. and this is how the director of ther course told her mum to deal with it.. and said do the same for other big things, like stealing smoking, explustion from school.. make them work.. no free rides.. lol) I think its a great idea.. It worked for this girls mum.. The girl has been a real problem child.. running away from home stealing of mum, breaking into a bike shop, starting fires.. etc etc.. So now the punishments is big she is behaving.. and the director says the family service teaches them to behave before there offenses become community service.. and works for extreme kids and normal kids..
Gen im coming to that shop even size 6 sounds fine to me... lol 6 wow lol...
Ani your right about the weightloss which is why im gonna hide the scales lol.. ( you have to remember im sick and feeling sorry for myself so probably not the best time to make weightloss decisions lol but putting the scales away i think is a good decision lol)
Julia its great to see you doing so great your so motivating me to get off my butt lol .. and i promise i will as soon as i can breathe properly.. lol..
Tommorrow we plan to take the kiddies to the zoo .. so that will get me off my butt . though on monday when we went shopping a sat down whenever i could.. i hope tommorrow ill feel better .. i feel a little better today then i did yesterday so by tom i should in theory feel better again.. lol Typical to be sick when hubby is home.. lol . Ive come to relive life is alot easier when he is not here .. lol hes always so grumpy .. also growling at someone .. Im kinda sick of his BS .. and im very happy when he is not here making trouble.. The kids are happy too when hes not here.. so this working away thing is very good .. lol .. He is worse then the kids he asked me to find my Camera and i dont know where it is so he carried on like a baby .. and called me nasty names.. He can go jump.. i dont need his bs all the time.. all he does is call me names and moans.. .. Im seriously thinking about my future .. without him.. He knows i get depressed and he is trying to make me depressed.. im sure of it.. *******.. .. I am sick but im also sick of him.. time will tell if he wont stop acting like a child i will leave him.. simple.. i dont need him putting me down and being his slave.. and if i dont he calls me something,.. **** him..
ok i feel better now.. *******...
ok im done lol...
Men stink..
I bet he is jerk at the zoo on the way to the zoo and after the zoo ..
Cameron who is 7 Fell over yesturday at sports day and cut his knee open he cryed his knee was a mess and John yelled at hime for falling over... *******...poor kid.. he was a mess when he got home and he had trouble walking all day ,i cant believe his Dad yelled at him..
ok im done whinging about him.. im just really mad at him but it is good to call him an *******.. becuase thats what he is.. lol
Ill stop now i promise.. cyas later..
oh btw .. i have not weighed myself for 3 days now lol
Oh Amy, it sounds like you're in a pretty rough spot with your husband. To be honest, it sounds like you really are better off on your own. Nobody deserves to be spoken to like that, it's abusive and unacceptable. I'm so sorry to hear that he treats you and the kids that way.
It's so hard to leave relationships, even when they're not good ones so I know it's easier said than done but you've planted the seed if you can picture your life without him.
Look after yourself
PS, Kel, I've seen that funny email before too and I could read it no worries! Re your 13 year old smoking, that's tough. Perhaps you could try the theory of getting him to smoke a whole pack one after the other. It'd make him so sick he'll never want to smoke again!
Amy you don't deserve that - you really don't. And neither do your children. What happens if you tell him it isn't OK to speak to you or the kids like that? Julia is right - it's abusive, and whether it's that you put your foot down and set some new rules for your relationship, or start imagining life without him, I think it's important to take a big, brave step now and make some changes.
Vonni you know as well as I do that you got really angry because you were scared. Can you talk to that boy and tell him why you're afraid? And maybe ask him why he's smoking? Kids might try it on - doesn't mean they'll make it a habit. But if there's something going on with him, and his bad behaviour gets attention from you… you're wiser than that my friend .
Kel I'm very pleased that you're going to that other PT - good stuff!
Gen how's the pretty doctor going ? I have a secret crush on a pretty woman - it's perfectly safe though, so don't get excited that I might be leaving my single life . Yes I know - I'm as bad as you!
Anyway I must do some work. It's a day off from Bunnings but I have a deadline - I'm writing a story for a book and I have 10,000 words due tomorrow morning, and I've only done about 10% of that. Lucky the research is finished!
I ate well yesterday but did no exercise. Spent my whole day researching and writing.
Amy - tried that. I just get told to eff off and effing shut up. He has major attitude at the moment. And cops say prob is the kids KNOW that neither the police nor parents can do anything. They control the world. I dread what it will be like in ten years time.
Grounded and he hates that. I get yelled at and sworn at etc etc but it falls on deaf ears. As for the family work - dishes should be a part of being in a family not as a punishment or pocket money incentive. They wont get paid to do it when they live on their own lol. other stuff well...... lol
Amy, I feel for you and yr hubby. Lifes not fun when you're trying to deal with your own issues and then they throw in the little boy act or the 'I'm a victim' act. Just be true to yourself. If you are seriously thinking of leaving start getting yourself a little 'starting over' nest egg first. I've been there done that. It's not fun leaving and trying to sort out your money at the same time as your emotions. As long as you save enough for a bond, and some new items (as I'm sure you will have to split stuff) and a decent one months worth of grocery money put aside. Even if you have to get a trusted family member to hang onto it for you. Do your research into centrelink payments / work and childcare arrangements, and also where you would think of living. If you have any joint debt pay extra on them now each fortnight. But I really hope that this is a storm and it will blow out shortly.
Ani thanks for the words. You are right. When I get angry I yell and kids don't care what kind of attention they get as long as they get some. He does it to get a reaction out of me. His father used to do the same, then laugh at me when I finally got burred up. (No wonder I divorced the ******* lol). The smoking thing has been going on about 3 months now, but last night was the first in room. He has done it once only in the yard. If I keep him away from town and the derros that hang there he gets really angry so it makes me wonder if he gets withdrawals already.
Ok now YOU tell the goss hehehe. And Gen how's the handsome dude going? Still keeping things safe???????
Gotta fly, assignment calling (2 weeks ago) and 2 others due next Monday and Monday week,
Yes indeed, spill the beans Ani ... who is this lovely lady you've got a crush on? And Gen how is your crush? Hope you're keeping it safe!
I still have a big crush on tattoo boy and am looking forward to my next appointment which is in a couple of weeks time.
I went for dinner last night at a Bangladeshi restaurant and it was really lovely. It was an event put on by a supplier with work and it had an open bar and loads of food.
I'm very proud of myself ... I had 3 glasses of wine over the 4 hours we were there, also had 2 diet cokes and was pleased to remain very sober. I avoided all of the amazing looking deep fried morsels and stuck with the plain meat and had only a very small amount of the creamy sauces.
It's hard to tell but I would estimate that I probably went over my daily points allowance by around 4-6 points and if I counted the bonus points you can earn from exercise then I was actually well within my limit. I even went for a half hour walk before bed and felt much better after that - it helped both the digestion and my legs which were sore from the weights in the morning.
Goals for today: 1) stick to my points and 2) go to the gym tonight and do my circuit programme followed by a 20 minute run.
another session with good trainer tomorrow
with me in better mindframe coz i have made some decisions about work
i am going to go back temping for a couple of months (after we get back from holiday in a couple of weeks) and then take a couple of months off to be with jemima then go back again and wot not
food and me is interesting at the moment, not really focused on anything in particular just healthy eating so we shall see how that goes.... i am going to seriously ask trainer if there is anyway to keep milo in my diet i mean how often can i have it and i can hold out and treat myself
no matter what i will always be an advocate of shakes diets for weight loss, not for maintaining weightloss that is another ballgame of its own but for dramatic i need surgery or i have a very special occasion happening i would recommend shakes diets..... it may not be healthy but i am still glad i did it, and would do it again.... i have kept off 3kg of the 6 or so i lost in the month or so i did the shakes and will NEVER know if i could have done it without the shakes
i am glad though that i am now in the mindframe of no more quick fix, as i could just keep losing 3 kg every couple of months until i am at goal weight but that is not a long term solution and we all know it.....
making healthy 'stuff' part of my daily routine is the only way i will get anywhere, thinking of it as a diet or thinking of the gym and stuff as just a weight LOSS thing is never going to work long term
Great post Kel, it sounds like you're in a really positive frame of mind which is awesome
I liked what you said about not thinking about everything being to do with weight loss. I agree that it's better (not easier, but better) to take a more holistic approach to this journey. I try not to worry too much about the scales because I want to lose FAT not WEIGHT. After all, what's the point in losing WEIGHT if it's muscle loss or water loss and not FAT loss?
How's everyone else doing?
I'm right on track. The boss asked me if I'd go up to Wellington again next week and after some careful consideration, I said no While it would be another chance to see my new nephew, I know that being away from home would send my training and nutrition right off track and that's my # 1 focus at the moment. Very pleased with my decision.
Met my goals yesterday which is cool. Today was going to be a rest day but I found myself wide awake at 5am so I went for a 40 minute walk and have been at work playing on the internet since 7am!
Going to a friend's for dinner tonight but she knows of my diet so is going to cook me something simple and healthy. My big challenge is the weekend because that's where I have difficulty sticking to a routine without the structure of a working day.
Goal for today: Stick to my points
Goal for the weekend: Stick to my points, exercise at least once, write in my food diary like I do every other day.
Now Ani, where have you been? Are you hiding so you don't have to tell us about your crush? I actually just got an email from a friend in London that made me laugh ... she went out for a drink with an old friend whom she'd had a crush on 10 years ago and this woman up and kissed my mate out of the blue, in the middle of the pub. Needless to say, my friend is sporting a healthy glow after that
Gen, how's the US treating you? How's the diet and exercise challenge with your workmates going?
Amy, how are things with you? And where has Lindor disappeared to?
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Hey ANI Can you remember when we were talking about everyone catching up in 12 mths time? When is that 12 mths up and is everyone still a go on it?
Vonni
Lindor you were about then to and I think Julia and Kylie was also, thought where she has disappeared to who knows lol. Kylie Kylie where for art thou Kylie?
I'm here - and I actually think we might be overdue for our meeting. I'm up for it if you give me a few months to save up some money.
As for my crush on this woman, it's harmless and safe . And there's no chance of it going anywhere, which is perfect for me - LOL.
Anyway, I'm flat out. It's very difficult to fit in full-time work with a writing deadline, and I'm completely stuffed - still have four afternoon shifts to go, and about 2,000 words so I need to get going.
But I'll be back when life gets more sane in a day or two.
I'm still up for it with a few months too. lol. I have to finish my course and graduate first as there isnt really a break now till graduation in November. But I can start saving and we can start looking at locations and adventures. Hmmmm, might be a goal to look forward to with losing so much by then lol. my goal is to lose a kilo a monthy and drink at least a litre of water a day.
OH, BTW,, Think I'll be a granny tomorrow lol. She's in early labour. I have her home here with me now, been up to hospital to get checked and things are slowly taking place.
oooooooooooowwweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee grandma!!!!!!!
how exciting
i want to know everything
i love babies
julia - that must have been hard to say no to work trip but good on you, make yourself number one and kick arse
amy - jemima doesnt focus on videos she doesnt really watch telly unless i have her in front of dr phil having lunch, my crosstrainer is out the back and i cant put her down out there coz of the dogs and annoying ground while she is still only just walking, i wish it could be in the house and i would do it while she was sleeping..... soon i guess when i go back to work i will need to or i will get heaps fat again
we all basically have 12 or 13 kg to go..... should we go for a mini challenge or 12 week plan or something??? to help us along the way - i was reluctant to suggest because we all should be working together to help ourselves achieve it by ourselves i know but i love a challenge and thinks it kicks me into getting stuff done.................
am already getting sad at leaving my baby girl for all day... especially since i dont know how far away from her i will be working, as i will be temping there will be nothing set in stone so i have opted for a daycare place near my house but i live 20mins+ away from town so if anything happened it is a long way to get back to her......
ps - amy dont take any crap from your man..... have you asked him how he would feel if you treated him that way?? have you asked him why he makes you feel like crap?? does he know he makes you feel like crap, sometimes people are so stuck in their own little world they dont know how they are affecting everyone else.....
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I've been away for work for a few days - just got home. Needless to say, food intake was not well managed! Heh! I really don't want to think about that now!
I think if we are to seriously consider this meeting, we need to give it 12 months notice? I'm just back at work after taking leave and therefore not likely to have leave approved in the next twelve months. Granted I'd be allowed to take a day off here or there, but I think if we were to meet somewhere it would mean a bit of travelling for me and a random day off will not cover that.
I also think 12 months might be ample time for those of us who might be struggling with our weight loss at the moment, to feel inspired to make some changes and possibly shed a few kilos before the meeting.
I think we'd have to find somewhere central to all of us...or definately somewhere practical, where most of us are going to be able to meet.
But, I am all for the idea! I'd love to do it!
Anyway, short post tonight, I am buggered and hot and in need of a shower! Just wanted to give my two cents on the 'meeting' before it got forgotten about again!
Good luck with the grandkid Vonni! Keep us informed!
your so motivating me to get off my butt lol .. and i promise i will as soon as i can breathe properly.. lol..
? I have a secret crush on a pretty woman - it's perfectly safe though, so don't get excited that I might be leaving my single life 
. Yes I know - I'm as bad as you!
While it would be another chance to see my new nephew, I know that being away from home would send my training and nutrition right off track and that's my # 1 focus at the moment. Very pleased with my decision.
and have been at work playing on the internet since 7am!
