I wonder if I can lose 2.5 pounds in 6 days? Lol. Oh well, I am eating healthy, exercising, etc. so if I am not under 145 Monday (which I won’t be), there is nothing to cry about. Such is life. Someone commented to me Sunday that I looked like I had lost some weight. I really just am re-toning up, dropping the couple pounds I had gained since March/April.
Yesterday was emotionally draining. Today is okay, I am moving on. The past is the past and I can’t sit and obsess or think about regrets; The future is the future which I cannot control. When I feel anxiety over one thing, I tend to focus on something small and usually irrelevent to the real problem, and turn that into an issue in order to not face the bigger picture. Blah. At the time that I am doing this, I usually think that my feelings are justified, I don’t see that I may be overreacting, etc. My therapist basically pointed out where I was wrong and R was right. I tried to discuss this with him, but things went south during that convo. Okay, everything is okay right now. I need to chalk these up as lessons learned.
Still nothing from MBFF but the daily one text regarding something stupid!
Food yesterday was good, exercise was good. The new Firm DVD I got was harder than I expected. I didn’t realize there were weights in that one too. I do like it though. It is short … 42 minutes and it was done, and 31-42 minutes was on the floor ab work and stretching.
In the evening, I had a large handful of cheez-its that I didn’t need. I really, really do need to keep them out of the house. This is one food that I could just sit and eat the whole box. They are also my mom’s favorite, which is why I bought them, but I should have waited until Saturday. I knew that, I SAID that to myself, and I didn’t listen … lol.
Today’s Food
Exercise: Centergy Class tonight
I was supposed to build DD’s TV stand this evening, but after inspecting the paint I am really not happy with it, so I am not sure.
I feel tired today … but not physically. I just want to lay down and be alone.
It is amazing what one can get accomplished at home in a day. I have trouble with being home and just “being with myself”, in case you didn’t notice, lol. I ALWAYS have plans, I rarely have down time, and I feel like I am wasting time if I sit down to watch a TV show. Maybe even a little guilt there. I am not sure why I feel that way. Anyway, yesterday I was home all day - except for a food shopping run. I made a massive bowl of chicken salad, got my meatloaf ready in the pan for today, did my workout plus one section of another DVD, laundry, yardwork, layed in the backyard for a bit (the heat was intolerable) and caught up on 3 episodes of Bridezillas that I DVR’d. (I think I am developing a habit with that show, it’s crazy! lol) Fried more eggplant too - the kids loves it.
Today there will not be a lot of downtime: work, therapy, dinner, workout, laundry/tomorrow’s lunch prep/bed.
Food:
Today my Punch, Kick and Jab DVD is supposed to arrive, so I will be trying that out tonight.
So, today is one week of no phone calls from MBFF, though she has been texting me the last 4 days once per day, checking on the kids rooms, and has been pleasant. Yesterday I read a chapter of a book I am reading that could have been written about her and I, and the need to set boundaries. It was very interesting. I don’t believe she is at a point that she would understand this though … if I said to her that I wanted to set some boundaries, I feel like she would have a panic attack right then and there, sigh. So, her being angry (? - not sure what her reasoning is) with my trip and not speaking to me is really a blessing in disguise, because I feel like she is really laying the groundwork necessary for the changes that need to come.
Okay work keeps preventing me from writing more, lol, so I shall publish …
Last night DS12 went to his dads, so DS6 and DD6 were ‘alone’ in their new bedrooms for the first time. DD has been sleeping alone since Tuesday, DS has not because he shares a room with his big brother, so he asked her if he could sleep over. He then asked me if it was okay that he slept over DD’s room “for a brother sister sleepover, just like the old days!” LMAO! The old days, soooo cute!
(That paragraph was from yesterday, about Friday night)
Wow, I started this 24 hours ago and am just now getting back to it, lol. In the last 24 hours I have failed at hanging the shelving I bought for DD’s room, resulting in ugly holes, patched/sanded/painted said holes so they are now non-existant (still no shelving up though, grrr), successfully purchased line for the trimmer and weed wacked the perimeter of half of the yard before the battery died, went on a 4 hour shopping excursion with the twins which resulted in the purchase of NO bra that is needed for vacation (but I did get adorable Michael Kors sandals for 50% off!) … kids PJs … a congratulations gift for newly pregnany XSIL from kids … scored blinds for DD’s room and hung those … returned everything on my shopping list and got 4 tank tops at Old Navy for $2 each!
Food yesterday was weird. Breakfast was late (egg beaters on english muffin) so I wasn’t hungry for lunch before we left for shopping, so I ended up sharing a popcorn at Target with the kids at 3 pm. Then at 5 they had McDonald’s which I didn’t want and wasn’t hungry for, so I had a vanilla cone from there. 150 calories and not quite real soft-serve, but it did satisfy the craving! Then at 7 pm I noticed my eggplants needed to be picked, so I took one of those, cut it up and made some fried eggplant. Not healthy, but considering my weird food day, all was still within calories.
Furniture … heh. Let’s see. Delivery of underbed storage for bunk bed was yesterday and so was the repair of the crooked slat and the newly discovered very loose top stair. Delivery came at 10:30, 5 minutes and underbed storage was in. Looks very nice. Asked the guy TWICE - when he first got there, and at the end, about the repair guy and he told me twice repair guy was coming separately. The window they gave me was until 11:44, so 12 pm rolls around and I call them and they say, “Oh, the delivery guy was supposed to fix it for you”. Then they said they could call them back, but it would be whenever they could fit me in and couldn’t give me a time. I was not spending my Saturday waiting for these idiots to come back. So after a few choice words, we rescheduled, again, for Wednesday. Another day out of the office. FURIOUS doesn’t define the way I feel about this company. Okay, moving on.
Linda, I was cracking up at your comment on the bra oxymoron … SO TRUE! Any strapless bra that stays up basically smooshes the girls to my chest like I wrapped them in an ace bandage. So I was looking for a corset type, but not having much luck with that either. Finally I ordered THREE different kinds from Kohls website, paid $26 shipping to make sure it would get here in time, and am praying that something in that shipment works for me. $26 shipping and it still won’t get here until Wed or Thurs? Geesh.
Today’s agenda is fairly simple:
This morning DS6 woke me up with a huge bowl of raisin bran that was 90% milk. I have to give the kid credit - he made it and carried it all the way up the stairs without spilling a drop! So I had to eat some, lol, although raisin bran the moment I open my eyeballs is not exactly appealing to me. He did it to thank me for his new XBox PJs I bought him yesterday. So cute.
Lunch will be whatever, a sandwich, and dinner will be something with chicken breasts I have in the fridge. I might just make a giant batch of chicken salad. The kids love it, and leftovers are good for lunches.
It is 9:13 am … I vow to be working out no later than 10 am to get it out of the way.
Vacation in 8 days! But I leave home in 7 days (stay at R’s since he lives near airport) … one week, woo hoo!
And I am hungry.
I already have the bulk of today’s work behind me, which is nice for a Friday.
Went to Group Kick last night and had an awesome class. Food was good, exercise was good. The day in general was good! Today is an exercise day off - HURRAY! I need the break - although I do have to cut the grass, and the hilly backyard makes that exercise anyway. That will be done tonight or tomorrow, depending on the weather I guess.
Weekends plans are to get the last few things for the kids rooms, and a few last things for my trip which is now officially TEN DAYS AWAY! Yippee! Need a good strapless bra, and a hat. We are going kayaking and the guide said we need to wear hats to protect our heads from the sun. I think I am pretty set with everything else … well, maybe one more pair of shorts/tank top. I was so focused on finding dresses to wear to dinner in the evening (and I did get some really cute, tropically ones) that I kind of neglected casual wear. Most of the time we will be in swimsuits anyway.
So after almost 4 days of no contact, I get a text late last night from MBFF asking how the kids like their rooms. I answered her, nicely, but didn’t press for any other conversation. I was doing some reading this morning in a motivational book I picked up, and today’s passage was so interesting because it was about “having someone in our life who challenges our ability in our life to trust and take care of ourselves.” Well, BINGO. I won’t type out the entire passage, but it goes on about the powerful tug-of-war feelings of anger, the control issues, etc. and says that we cannot change the other person, but we can stop playing our part of the game. That is what I am doing. I am detaching, I am not playing the game with her anymore. Talks about who we are when we are free from their influence … it is weird to look back and see how her opinions have basically influenced so many decisions in my life. Time to take all of that back.
Weird.
Anyway, today I wrote the check to pay for my tuition. My company will reimburse me if I get an A or a B, so I MUST DO WELL! LOL Once I drop this in the mailbox, it is officially official.
Today’s Food:
Tomorrow between 9:44 - 12:44 (lol) the furniture company is coming with the underbed storage and to fix the crooked slat. We will see how that goes. After that, I am taking the kids back out to do the rest of that shopping I mentioned earlier, and maybe we will catch a movie. Will just be me and twinsies.
Okay ladies, I owe a couple of email responses so let me get to that … have a wonderful, happy, healthy weekend - whatever ‘healthy’ means to you, because it is different for us all. HUGS!
Heck of a day at work. Always nice to find out that one of your site supervisors is only reporting to the site one day out of five per week, lol.
Cable guy came today and guess what? I disconnected the stairs on the bunk, moved it out of the way, and then reconnected/drilled it back together when cable guy was done. I am AWESOME! I love using a drill, isn’t it so much fun? lol! So now the boys have cable, yippee. And final pc of bed (storage) is being delivered Saturday (supposed to be) along with the repair man for crooked slat. We will see how that goes.
ELEVEN days until vacation. Can’t wait to start my ten day countdown!
Food yesterday was good, and exercise was good. Today is kickboxing class and then I have two days to rest my body, whew! I have no idea what will be for dinner tonight though.
Food:
Exercise: Kickboxing
Misc To Do: Not much! Rooms are pretty done, laundry is caught up, bathrooms are clean, YIPPEE!
So today is day three of no word from MBFF. Normally, half a day with no form of contact from her is just unheard of, so now I know she is obviously angry that I am going away. It is actually extremely eye opening as to what kind of friend she is … sort of sad. For so long I’ve tried to make her into this great friend, but in reality, she supports me very little. She is never happy for me about the things that make me happy - for one, going back to college. I would have liked her to be excited for me, maybe even proud of me. Do you think in the bazillion times per day she would even ASK what courses I am taking? Nope. The two times I brought it up she changes the subject. I guess if it doesn’t involve her, her controlling mother, her emotional affair she is having with an abusive alcoholic, or any of the other crazies in her life … she’s not interested.
The problem is we are growing apart. My life is healthier, more normal, still a WIP but getting there. Hers is not. I encourage her, I always listen to her, was supportive and enthusiastic about her going to therapy. Apparently none of this matters.
Life happens, I guess.
Okay, back to work. HUGS!
Morning friends. Peacefully sitting at work, sipping coffee, listening to Adele “Make You Feel My Love”. It is a remake … I love her voice though, and it is a gorgeous song.
Furniture was stressful yesterday. I don’t want to rehash the whole scenario because I don’t want to get upset/stressed out again. Basically, the bunk beds are built and beautiful, but they drilled one of the slats on crooked - almost diagonal - instead of straight up and down. I didn’t notice until after they left, and that was because I was too busy with Customer Service Home Damage department because they tore my son’s cable out of the wall. Yep, just ripped it out instead of asking me or just unscrewing the little metal pc. Wires all hanging out. So my boys have a new bedroom, new flat screen TV, that they CANT USE. First they tried to say it was like that already - GRRRRR - then the other guy (who didn’t speak english) must have told the english speaking one he did it, and the english speaking one apologized to me. The furniture company is going to pay for it, but now I have to be home from work tomorrow for the cable company. AND I am freaking out because where the cable company needs to repair is now behind the new bunk bed, and I cannot move it, and even the two furniture guys were huffing and puffing moving it without the mattresses, and now mattresses are in. So what am I going to do? See, now I am getting all worked up again. And, I will need to be home a THIRD day for them to come fix the crooked slat, which, btw - I have NO idea how they will fix it because when they move it, there is going to be a HOLE. Frustrating.
So anyway, here is a pic of the beds/bedding … I didn’t do a whole room shot for them yet because I am still waiting on the Mets rug, and need to do a little more decor. It is a cool bunk bed though, the boys are thrilled.
I bought chalkboard paint so that I could do a chalkboard wall for the boys, but now I have virtually no wallspace for it … the other side of the room is mostly closet doors, and the other one is windows/TV/another dresser.
Anyway, after all the room drama died down, I went to therapy (good) and back home, then went to my Centergy class (good). Food was good but I was feeling a little hungry at night and ate half of a devil dog.
Food:
Exercise: Get Chiseled DVD … boy do I need a break. Last night at class just doing Warrior pose my arms were killing me! Just very fatigued. Tomorrow is kickboxing class, then Fri-Sat I am having a BREAK!
I also need to cut the grass … but I am thinking I may try and put it off until Friday night. That’s what every woman wants to do on a Friday night, isn’t it?
Oh btw, I still haven’t heard from MBFF. :-D She did answer my text about furniture yesterday, and seemed fine. But she isn’t on AIM for the second day in a row, interesting. This is actually a welcome break. My T. thinks I need to set boundaries with how much she contacts me … she gave me an example of what to say and I said “OMG! MBFF would go into a total panic attack if I said that!” LOL which is true! Sigh. Whatever.
12 days till vacation!!!!!!!!! Holly - I think it was you who had asked - it is Turks and Caicos. Beautiful!
Have a great day ladies! Off to fight more with the furniture store soon!
Boy’s furniture scheduled to be delivered between 9:33 am and 12:33 pm … lol … and it is exactly 11:33 am and I am sitting here waiting. In the meantime, here is a pic of DD’s room so far. There is STILL work to be done … her blinds aren’t up (wrong size) and I am making her a pink TV stand which isn’t done, so that isn’t in the room. And some pictures and shelving still needs to be hung, but you can get the idea …
The black off to the side is DS’s pillows piled up so they would be out of his room/the way for the furniture guys. The dresser is on the opposite wall, and her pink flat screen TV (so cute) which is temporarily on a folding stand until I can do her pink tv stand.
So .. yesterday. Ah. Food was good, soup was very disappointing (Harvest Zesty Tomato Bisque, yuck, I would have rather had old fashioned condensed tomato soup! lol). I did a Firm Bootcamp DVD for exercise. Played Monopoly Jr. with kids.
Today is therapy at 5:20 pm. I’d like to make a 7:30 Centergy class, but I have mixed feelings about being away from the kids for BOTH of those things tonight. We will see. If I stay home, I will do a workout at home.
Food
Exercise: Centergy or Pilates DVD/treadmill at home
Oh, I think MBFF is mad at me. Not sure. I actually think is is humorous. Yesterday we were talking via IM around 12:30, and she leave at 1 pm for the day (her summer hours) so I said “oh, woo hoo 2 weeks till vacation! Just to let you know, I am going away … not up for discussion, just an FYI so you aren’t wondering where I am, lol” (not verbatim, but you get the idea) and she never responded. Then she was idle 20 minutes later, so I am not sure if she even read it … but last night her aim was logged off and she never came on today (HIGHLY unusual) and hasn’t called me. And I am okay with that. She doesn’t even know what I am doing, where I am going, who I am going with. She is just very selfish. She knows it isn’t with her, and that is all that matters to her. It’s possible that she didn’t even read that and this is all a coincidence, but I highly doubt it. She is constantly in touch with me - too much.
I’m also a little annoyed from Sunday … went to her son’s “birthday party” which didn’t end up to be a party at all, 12 - 2, no food, no cake (?? cake was for her family only in the evening). We met them to play at an indoor play area place, gave her 5 yo DS his gift in the parking lot, and didn’t get a thank you later on. I mean, he took it home to open it … I guess I thought a phone call was in order. It was just weird. We are just different, I guess.
Hmmmm getting antsy now … I hope they don’t reschedule or something. We are EXCITED! I am sure it will be fine.
Will check in later!
And it is. Or was.
First, I was up from 2 am - 4:30 am. Apparently even when I have HAPPY thoughts, these invade my sleep, lol. I spent 45 minutes day-dreaming (but at night, so, awake-night-dreaming?) of vacation. (14 DAYS until Grace Bay Club!!) Finally gave up trying to sleep and turned on the TV and watched Kendra and Hank get married, and actually got teary eyed over that despite that I cannot take her, lmao. Her laugh kills me! Then watched Bridezillas (it’s either infomercials or wedding shows overnight) and was horrified. I used to like that show, it was funny, it was entertaining - but in the end, everyone was happy. I don’t know if the show has changed, or if it is myself who has changed, or both … but the two on last night (this morning’s) show were beyond words. On one, the groom-to-be was supposed to be home at 12:30 for a cake tasting, and he got there at 12:35. She left without him at exactly 12:30. She went to the bakery, saw that they had strawberry and pineapple filling - both his most hated flavors - and ordered it. She actually SAID to the baker, “I think he might even be allergic to one of these, so I am hoping he will eat it and choke and die.” Uhhh .. seriously? This woman needs help. He was FIVE minutes late! And okay, perhaps there are other issues we aren’t aware of, so do you really think she should be marrying him (or vice versa)?!?!?! And the baker was horrified and trying to say no, you don’t mean that, what would he like, it is his wedding too, etc etc. and she wouldn’t budge. She ordered that cake. I just can’t believe it. During another fight she kicked him out and said something about him dying and she doesn’t care, she’d be marrying his corpse. What crazy, unhealthy relationships. The other one too. I am still shaking my head.
Anyway, last time I looked at the clock was 4:30 and then I finally fell back asleep. Was JOLTED out of bed by the alarm at 7. Then of course, hit snooze, ended up running late and didn’t get breakfast, so I stopped at Starbucks this morning and got my fave reduced fat turkey bacon egg white sandwich, yummmm.
Oh, and WI 147.6 this AM, down another pound. Happy day.
Get to work, and my boss is on vacation this week, but who is pulling into the parking lot the same exact time as me? Yup, boss. Wife has a meeting today and they decided not to head up to the summer home until tomorrow. So far, he is staying out of my hair though.
Food
Exercise: DVD or Gym
Other: No therapy tonight because she was booked, going tomorrow instead. Steam cleaning middle of DD’s carpet that I couldn’t get to over the weekend (furniture in the way), last minute room preparations.
* This is a new soup, and I tried to find it online to link to it but it’s not even on the Campbell’s website. I will let you know how it is. While I was on the Campbell’s website, however, I found they are making 100 calorie packs of Milano cookies! I *HEART* Milanos! Yippee!
The lavender room looks beauuuuuuuutiful. I love it. 1 problem I ran into - I threw away the blinds and then bought the wrong size over the weekend, oops, and now will not be able to go again until Saturday probably! Yikes. Working at home tomorrow because boys furniture is coming. I am so excited!
Okay .. going to finish my coffee and dive into today. Hugs!
My head is pounding, my stomach is nauseous, my eye is itchy, and I am non-stop sneezing. What I thought all week was me sneezing due to extra dust from moving around the rooms, apparently may really be me getting sick. It is 9:17 and the painter guy will be here around 11, and I wanted to do my workout beforehand. I am sitting here fighting with myself: Kelly, look at yourself. You feel like crap, your head is killing you, what kind of energy are you going to use on this workout when you are like this? BUT Kelly, you only did the treadmill yesterday, you NEED to workout today, if you save it “for later” it may never happen, so get off your big butt and do it!
Ouch.
I just had an english muffin so the tummy is feeling a little better. I haven’t taken anything for the headache because the only thing I have involves PM in the name .. lol .. DEFINITELY don’t want to take that! OH WAIT! I just remembered I recently bought some Excedrin Tension Headache. BRB!
Ok, med taken, fresh coffee poured. Maybe this will kick in soon and I can get a workout in at 10 am … Get Chiseled is 40 minutes. 40 grueling minutes. Except that my legs just hurt walking back up the stairs.
I didn’t sleep very well again last night. DD slept over, her room won’t be ready until tomorrow the earliest and being that the boys had a friend sleeping over in their room, I had her in mine. She is such a wiggle worm all night! I can’t take it! lol
Yesterday we did a few more things around the house in the AM, then I sat out in the backyard for about 45 minutes. We had lunch, I walked on the treadmill for half an hour, then showered and went school shopping. Never. Again. I thought it would be “fun” to involve the little ones and allow them to pick out some things. Well, first of all … my little 6 yo son - ALL the kid wanted was a down vest from Old Navy, that he WORE around the whole store … In August. And wanted to wear through the mall, but I had to put my foot down there. And a Bakugan shirt (some weird character thing) that we had to negotiate the color of. DD6 though … lol. Oh boy, I can’t wait to see what she will be like in 8 or 10 years. This is too sparkly, she doesn’t like stripes, nothing plaid, HAD to have a denim skirt with a ruffle on it. But the focus of her shopping trip was going into Claires to get bracelets for her outfits. We found the cutest purple belted trench coat at ON, and first she wouldn’t even think about it because it was corduroy (lmao) but then she tried it on and loved it, was posing in front of the mirror and I had to tear it off of her. (It really is adorable though)
DS12 was the least picky! All that and the boys only got two outfits each and a couple extra things, sneakers, etc. and DD didn’t even get one FULL matching outfit. Sigh. I did order the a lot of things online though, and I will have to go back out by myself. She was too much. Then I spent another small fortune in Target on more room stuff - I swear, I am so done. Let this be over. They had a pink chandelier nightlight. How could I resist?
The kids had Wendys at the mall for dinner and I had one slice of veggie pizza. We didn’t get home until after 9, and by the time we put everything away it was already late. I watched Knowing … it was okay. I thought it would be better.
So today is get the painter situated at 11, then like 11:45 I have to leave to head to MBFF’s youngest son’s birthday party. Only 1 kid RSVP’d so she canceled the place she was having it at, and is just doing it at the pool. It is overcast and drizzly right now, that could change. The painter is actually MBFF’s employee, so I trust that he will be fine here alone. R told me to lock up my valuables, and I laughed … what valuables? Okay, I will take my Louis Vuittons with me in the car. He wouldn’t know what they are anyway. I’m just teasing, I am not worried about it.
So anyway I want to be back here around 4-5. I am not sure how long this room will take him because there is also a corner that he needs to fix, retape/compound. I guess I *could* workout tonight if I had to, but I really wanted to get it done this morning. Tonight I need to mop the floors and get the kids allllll ready for a new week at camp. OH, and I need to get to the supermarket at some point! Sigh.
Okay, I am going to go nose around here. I may put on my workout clothes just to see how I feel. Oh, I did buy myself something yesterday - a cute new yoga outfit!
Sometime today, I am determined to get some sort of physical activity in!