I know this isn't food related advice, but I study communication...and you are right- online communication is 90% read with a negative tone and misinterpreted. I would encourage your hubby to take a deep breath and reach out (not over FB, email or text) but to call these people. Don't talk it out over the phone either. They should all meet (at a public place so it doesn't get out of hand in anger) and talk about it. Chances are, your husband can explain he was being extreme for a joke, and apologize that it was taken wrong. He doesn't have to be sorry for what he said. He is allowed to think and believe however he wants. But he should apologize to his friends for being offensive with those thoughts and beliefs.
Hopefully, everyone can act like adults (instead of saying "I won't play with you") and look past this one random event in terms of their friendship.
As for you, drink lots of water and keep on that gum. You will feel worse if you eat on top of this stress!
I agree with Britt as well. If they are unwilling to meet with him I would maybe suggest a letter mailed to each individual. I think clearing the air as soon as possible will help. Maybe not right away, but if he is willing to be the adult and show his fault then they should be willing to forgive. Good luck.
Try to not stress about it. It will work itself out. Mayeb something better will come out of the situation.
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Teacherlady, so sorry -- it is so amazing that these sort of circumstances can cause to much confusion, misinterpretation, and hurt. All I can do is offer my prayers as I know that God can help get it all worked out. Don't allow it to throw off your focus! It will pass and perhaps when the air is cleared, you will all find yourselves even closer than before -- at least I hope so!
So, I went for my 1st wi today since being on pre-conditioning and am down 4lbs! Yay! I was put on the Meta-Slim menu that starts with the "yellow" menu. Anyone have any tips on how to eat so much food? I was previously on Meta-Slim, but the 2 meal plan....so I am sure this is going to take some getting used to.
I stuck it out yesterday and didn't graze or binge, and then I made myself go to yoga class last night (even though it was cold and I was tired and just wanted to curl up on the couch with a movie). I'm so glad I did all that, too! I weighed in this morning, and I"m -3.5lbs, so I've lost what I had gained the last couple weeks, plus some.
I made hubby go see his counselor yesterday afternoon (he hadn't been in a couple months--he has anxiety and PTSD issues, but had been doing considerably better until recently) to talk out his social blunder so he can figure out for himself what he needs to do. He ended up doing exactly what you suggested, razorbackbritt-- he sent an email to the folks he offended, apologizing and asking to meet up sometime. I chatted with my friend, and she's fine and thinks her husband really isn't upset or anything (he can get along with anyone--he has so many friends who have radically different views from him, yet he still gets along with them. I think he's the most patient person in the world, lol), so we're ok on that front.
Funny story: At yoga last night, we were in a weird bendy pose, kind of like a lunge, but all bent over funky, and I looked under my armpit to the mirror on the wall behind me (I like to make sure I'm positioned correctly, and even though we're not supposed to do it, I secretly check to see how everyone else is doing and/or whether I'm the only one struggling, etc). Anyway, I looked behind me, and saw the gal that was behind and to the side of me in the mirror, and then I saw someone else's rear end. I thought, "Huh, I thought we were the only two girls in the class tonight. Who is that?" Then I looked more closely at the yoga pants and realized IT WAS ME! My rear and legs have gotten skinny enough that I didn't even recognize my own butt!
Quick question Teacherlady, I know I asked this before and I think you said Diet direct was the site to go to but what are the protein drinks called that you buy online? I don't want to mess up and get the wrong ones.
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I weighed in Friday and stayed the same.The center is starting on me again and I reminded them again, the reason I bought an additional 10 weeks,is my goal would not be met . I asked them to do something with my menu as for first time since I started I feel starved.I take 5 HNS a day, 4 if I take a creamy,but they wanted me to buy Phenatrim,and I reminded them I bought it and am stuck with it as I am allergic to it. Said up exercise, drink more than 72oz of water a day, and that was it. I am hungry all the time.They would not change the menu ,so will have to do something before I go on a binge,which I feel like doing and have not. I tried the Meta Balance, and gained 3 pounds I think,so if anyone has any suggestions,I am more than willing to listen, as right now,I am struggling not to eat what is not OP, and have not done so as of yet.I was thinking maybe adding more protein.
Shadden A,I know you asked Teacher Lady, but I also order from Diet Direct.
The clear drinks are by Proti Diet and it says Concentrated Drink,Aspertine Free.
The powdered drinks are by Bari Wise,and my box says Bari WISE Variety Pack fruit drink.You have the option to by the drink in single flavors,I buy
them in the Variety box.
I emailed Diet Direct told them what Diet program I was on,and they told me the replacement drinks to buy.
Patzi
Quick question Teacherlady, I know I asked this before and I think you said Diet direct was the site to go to but what are the protein drinks called that you buy online? I don't want to mess up and get the wrong ones.
The Protidiet cocoa is also the one that MRC uses. If you want any bars, get the Bariwise ones--they are the ones that MRC uses (just in different packaging).
I have not found the meal replacement shake mix that is the same as the MRC one. I'll let you know when I figure that one out.
Hi...
I weighed in Friday and stayed the same.The center is starting on me again and I reminded them again, the reason I bought an additional 10 weeks,is my goal would not be met . I asked them to do something with my menu as for first time since I started I feel starved.I take 5 HNS a day, 4 if I take a creamy,but they wanted me to buy Phenatrim,and I reminded them I bought it and am stuck with it as I am allergic to it. Said up exercise, drink more than 72oz of water a day, and that was it. I am hungry all the time.They would not change the menu ,so will have to do something before I go on a binge,which I feel like doing and have not. I tried the Meta Balance, and gained 3 pounds I think,so if anyone has any suggestions,I am more than willing to listen, as right now,I am struggling not to eat what is not OP, and have not done so as of yet.I was thinking maybe adding more protein.
Patzi
Wow, Patzi. I don't know what to tell you. I think that this is one of the downfalls of MRC--it's only personalized to a certain point, and the people who work there aren't doctors or nutritionists and have been instructed not to modify the program menus. I hate to say it, but maybe it would be better for you to go see a dietitian or nutritionist and go over the menu with them to see what modifications they would recommend.
When I was trying to lose weight a while back ago, my personal trainer at the gym told me to eat 2 days super-low-calorie, then eat higher calorie the third day, and repeat that pattern. She said it allows you to eat really low calorie without your body going into starvation mode because you are "shocking" it with high calories that third day. I have also noticed, when I chart my weight loss and calories on livestrong.com, that sometimes I will actually see a bigger drop when I stick to the plan 100%, but have one day where I eat quite a few more calories (not going crazy, just a little off-plan, and healthy calories).
I'm not really sure what other advice to give you. Maybe Debi has some more insight?
I stuck it out yesterday and didn't graze or binge, and then I made myself go to yoga class last night (even though it was cold and I was tired and just wanted to curl up on the couch with a movie). I'm so glad I did all that, too! I weighed in this morning, and I"m -3.5lbs, so I've lost what I had gained the last couple weeks, plus some.
I made hubby go see his counselor yesterday afternoon (he hadn't been in a couple months--he has anxiety and PTSD issues, but had been doing considerably better until recently) to talk out his social blunder so he can figure out for himself what he needs to do. He ended up doing exactly what you suggested, razorbackbritt-- he sent an email to the folks he offended, apologizing and asking to meet up sometime. I chatted with my friend, and she's fine and thinks her husband really isn't upset or anything (he can get along with anyone--he has so many friends who have radically different views from him, yet he still gets along with them. I think he's the most patient person in the world, lol), so we're ok on that front.
Funny story: At yoga last night, we were in a weird bendy pose, kind of like a lunge, but all bent over funky, and I looked under my armpit to the mirror on the wall behind me (I like to make sure I'm positioned correctly, and even though we're not supposed to do it, I secretly check to see how everyone else is doing and/or whether I'm the only one struggling, etc). Anyway, I looked behind me, and saw the gal that was behind and to the side of me in the mirror, and then I saw someone else's rear end. I thought, "Huh, I thought we were the only two girls in the class tonight. Who is that?" Then I looked more closely at the yoga pants and realized IT WAS ME! My rear and legs have gotten skinny enough that I didn't even recognize my own butt!
That is awesome! Congrats on the 3.5 loss. PS not recognizing your own tuckus haha
Hi...
I weighed in Friday and stayed the same.The center is starting on me again and I reminded them again, the reason I bought an additional 10 weeks,is my goal would not be met . I asked them to do something with my menu as for first time since I started I feel starved.I take 5 HNS a day, 4 if I take a creamy,but they wanted me to buy Phenatrim,and I reminded them I bought it and am stuck with it as I am allergic to it. Said up exercise, drink more than 72oz of water a day, and that was it. I am hungry all the time.They would not change the menu ,so will have to do something before I go on a binge,which I feel like doing and have not. I tried the Meta Balance, and gained 3 pounds I think,so if anyone has any suggestions,I am more than willing to listen, as right now,I am struggling not to eat what is not OP, and have not done so as of yet.I was thinking maybe adding more protein.
Shadden A,I know you asked Teacher Lady, but I also order from Diet Direct.
The clear drinks are by Proti Diet and it says Concentrated Drink,Aspertine Free.
The powdered drinks are by Bari Wise,and my box says Bari WISE Variety Pack fruit drink.You have the option to by the drink in single flavors,I buy
them in the Variety box.
I emailed Diet Direct told them what Diet program I was on,and they told me the replacement drinks to buy.
Patzi
Well I have stayed on track this weekend with the exception of some rice cakes. I will go WI tomorrow and see how I do, but I'm not holding my breath for a miracle or anything. At this point I am really hoping I haven't gained any more than I did on Thursday.
I propose an HNS toast to being accountable! *clink*clink*
I stuck it out yesterday and didn't graze or binge, and then I made myself go to yoga class last night (even though it was cold and I was tired and just wanted to curl up on the couch with a movie). I'm so glad I did all that, too! I weighed in this morning, and I"m -3.5lbs, so I've lost what I had gained the last couple weeks, plus some.
I made hubby go see his counselor yesterday afternoon (he hadn't been in a couple months--he has anxiety and PTSD issues, but had been doing considerably better until recently) to talk out his social blunder so he can figure out for himself what he needs to do. He ended up doing exactly what you suggested, razorbackbritt-- he sent an email to the folks he offended, apologizing and asking to meet up sometime. I chatted with my friend, and she's fine and thinks her husband really isn't upset or anything (he can get along with anyone--he has so many friends who have radically different views from him, yet he still gets along with them. I think he's the most patient person in the world, lol), so we're ok on that front.
Funny story: At yoga last night, we were in a weird bendy pose, kind of like a lunge, but all bent over funky, and I looked under my armpit to the mirror on the wall behind me (I like to make sure I'm positioned correctly, and even though we're not supposed to do it, I secretly check to see how everyone else is doing and/or whether I'm the only one struggling, etc). Anyway, I looked behind me, and saw the gal that was behind and to the side of me in the mirror, and then I saw someone else's rear end. I thought, "Huh, I thought we were the only two girls in the class tonight. Who is that?" Then I looked more closely at the yoga pants and realized IT WAS ME! My rear and legs have gotten skinny enough that I didn't even recognize my own butt!
LOVE your funny story, that must have made you feel great!!!!
Had a pretty good weekend. We ate out Friday night and I wasn't 100% OP
(shared an appetizer) because we were celebrating. I know its not a good excuse, but I did it.
I ate OP while my parents were in town and took us out....and while I made everyone waffles for breakfast this morning, I ate my usually eggs/cheese and oatmeal. Proud of that! We went to the movies and I took the choc mini crips to snack on and they were great movie food!
Maybe Debi has some more insight?
