Oh wanted to say something about fast food. Remember how I said I go online to find the place then write down the things I eat there and their cals and fat grms? Well just wanted to say that I have moments where I have cravings that won't give. And so the other nite, was going to get some prescriptions late and I had lots of cals left I hadn't used. I decided to get a whopper jr and a piece of Hershey pie from Burger King. I was well restrained tho. I ate half of each and drank ice water with it. I was hungry when I started eating too. But after what I ate, I was good. Didn't want to finish it. Was full, esp. after drinking my glass of ice water with it all. I ate slowly too, that helps me. B4 I would have eaten a chicken sandwich meal with onion rings and a Dr. Pepper, large and then the pie. About 1400+ cals. Instead, I'm now happy with about 400 cals. It just takes a little more thought to do it that way. Not so much willpower. Just numbers. At least I got some of a whopper and some pie. I'm happy.
What I'm saying is that I've found that if you do this long enough, having less is no big deal. You don't feel as driven to eat every last bite. Enough is what it is. Enough. It's when you are used to the old way that eating half just isn't enough. I'm on day 80 and I feel better than ever. I haven't stopped eating anything I like. I eat Reese cups 2 times a week at least, I just count them in. And I tell myself at least they have peanut butter, which is good for you. The worse thing I've ever done was tell myself certain foods were off limits. Just makes you want them more.
If any of you have ever read Stop the Insanity from 1993, Susan Powter, u will know what I am talking about.. Yes, today she's realllly unconventional but she had lots of good points back then. Read it if you can. It has helped me more than any other book ever on weight loss. She says yes, drink water, it's best. But you don't have to force it in all day. She says also to eat alot of food, mostly good fresh stuff. Don't get hungry then you'll hate this whole process. She's right.
One point she made in it or her next book was that if you tell someone they can't ever have another ball point pen what do u think happens? That person can't think of anything else. They want ball point pens. Now. As many as they can find. In their meetings at work, they stare at the other ppl's pens. They start to hoard them, steal them, not let anyone know they have that type pen!! Think about it. It's the truth.
She said ..Give these women with their eating disorders enough rest, some fresh air, a little less stress in their lives, good food every few hours each day so they don't get hungry, enough fluids and something every day to look forward to and you won't see these disorders anymore. It makes sense. Most of the time we who get depressed feed ourselves too often and with the wrong foods. If we have lots of good food in us all the time, we are less likely to go for bad ones. Never let yourself get too Hungry, Angry, Bored, Lonely, Tired or Anxious. (some of you helped with these from before. Can we think up any more to be on the lookout for??)
Just a little food for thought. Hope it helps. (Trying to distract myself from my other worries. )
Hmmmmmmm . . . *adding to list of things that make you get off track . . . . * . . . How 'bout:
Never let yourself get TOO DRUNK!
Got hit by the Beer Truck late Saturday and Football Sunday - definitely lowers the eating inhibitions gals!
Back OP tho' and feeling super . . . just gotta work in some "no matter what" exercising . . . taking my Standing Pilates book with me to work tonight GirlyG . . . hope to Post some Moon Miles tomorrow.
Have a Great Tuesday afternoon & evening Blue Teammers!
Selina...hope you have been feeling better today. you have been on quite an emotional rollercoaster! Thanks for the post from Susan Powter. I remember her from her "popular' days...never read her book though. Sounds like good advice!
Tina...talk about surprises! After having four of my own, I can't get my head around being pregnant, and not knowing! Your sister is a very lucky girl...which I am sure she knows! Having family surround you during trying times is something that some single moms just don't have. Kudos to you!
I am happy to be able to contribute 2 lbs to the blue team this week! Getting closer to that goal all the time! I'm not very confidant that I will get to 60 lbs by New Years, but at this rate, I will be happy with 'as close as possible'.
I am going away for the weekend...a scrapbooking weekend with about 30 other ladies. Everyone brings snacks to share, so I am going to be sure to bring some healthy snacks, a case of water, and all of the will-power I can muster! I am also going to have a really good week, so that I go away on a positive note and don't sabotage my efforts!
Have a great week ladies, and an early "Happy Thanksgiving" to my American friends!
Anyone have regular email contact with Chellez? I hope everything is okay. Please let me know if you've heard from her, not like her to not get here on results day. thanks!
Good morning, Blues! Michelle, you okay? Hope to hear from you soon.
Selina - I remember Susan Powter and her Stop the Insanity book. Wow, has it been that long since it came out? She was really popular for a while and then seemed to vanish. With this whole diet/lifestyle change, I've found that each of us may come up with a slightly different plan that works for us. For me, I have removed white potatoes, white bread, white pasta, and white rice from my diet. I don't miss these things as I've replaced them with whole grain alternatives. Also, I've removed all sugar from the house. It makes me feel yuck and my husband and children don't need it either. I don't allow any junk food in the house.....ie, cookies, chips, candy, sugary cereal. These are occasional planned treats only. If I allow this stuff in my house, I will eat it...and will not stop eating it until its gone! There is no "enough" point for me. When stress, depression, lack of sleep come along, my first action is to look for the sugary carbs to satisfy my needs. If the sugary carbs arent available, then I'm forced to look for alternative solutions....a hot bubble bath, watching TV, playing a game, etc. Of course, the downward movement of the scales is a great pay-off!
Dea - Congratulations on the 2 pound loss! Hope you enjoy your scrapbooking weekend. Sounds like you have a great plan for staying on-plan.
Aud - How was your pilates workout last night? I still haven't gotten my butt in gear and back on the treadmill.
Well, I have another packed day of work today. Tomorrow, I begin my "vacation." We leave for Disneyworld at midnight, travel all night until we get to the parks Friday morning, then spend the day at Magic Kingdom. Dea, I wish I was going scrapbooking with you! I haven't been doing so great with staying on-plan and I'm worried about being away for the weekend. I really need to come up with a great plan and stick with it.
This week is finals week and I had a huge final project due yesterday and today is the final exam in my marketing class. Needless to say I haven't been dieting well this week so I feel kind of crabby.
Other than that I'm still working on mortgage paperwork almost everyday now so that's in the process as well.
Just wanted to let you know I was ok... just kind of in a rut atm.
Sry u are feeling yukky this week, Chelle. Hope it gets better!
Thanks for telling us what you do that helps Rhonda. I also removed the candy. I do have a candy drawer but only keep things the kids like in there and usually they don't want it every day so it's not a problem. I am so glad I stopped drinking my sweet tea. Kept me wanting sugar!! And I did feel very bad when I had it all the time. I have since detoxed! LOL
Thanks Dea. I'm ok. Trying not to think about it all.
Hiya to Aud, and onthetee and Sara, and Nova and Utah and Fit and Denice, and Cat and Charity and Practice and Linds, and Tina, hope things are better ur way too, Hi to Soul and everyone else here!
Hope u all have a great day.
Selina
Oh! Is our loss for the week the right amount, Chelle? If mine was 2.5 shouldn't the total be more than the 1.7 on there? Just wondering. I might not know what I'm talking about! And Yay, I'm finally our biggest loser. Geez, took forever!
Make a list of the friends you spend a lot of time with, and put a check mark next to those who are positive thinkers. Deliberately make an effort to be with them more often. Don't abandon the negative thinkers you know. Instead, soak up positive attitudes from the positive thinkers; then go back among your negative friends and try and influence them. You can set their feet on the path to a positive tomorrow. Go Blue Team Bluezers!!!!
Sry u are feeling yukky this week, Chelle. Hope it gets better!
Oh! Is our loss for the week the right amount, Chelle? If mine was 2.5 shouldn't the total be more than the 1.7 on there? Just wondering. I might not know what I'm talking about! And Yay, I'm finally our biggest loser. Geez, took forever!
Because gains and maintains overpowered losses this week is why the number looks off.
Just remember that when using a freebie week, I'm not using the numbers you guys may or may not post beside them. So if you weighed 185 one week then the next you use a freebie its entered as 185. So when you go to post the next weight after that if you were 187 it shows as a 2 pound gain.
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Just checking in to say hello...I hope everyone has a better week! What's going on with the Blue Team? We used to be invincible!
For me personally its a combination of things. Finals this week of course, I'm in the process of trying to get approved for a mortgage, I may be changing jobs and just an overall blah feeling lately. I think its just holidays coming up and I'm falling into that winter rut again.
I was talking to Melissa the other day and we decided come next challenge.... there's going to be one big chat thread and no separate team threads. It may be confusing at first but it will help in the times that multiple people drop the challenge or just don't participate in chat like it always happens (no matter how many times we say you have to participate!)
I really think the next challenge is getting a big revamp. Thankfully I'll have Christmas to think about it!
Been Posting all over Blue-dom - but want to say it here too:
HURRAH for soontobefitchick!!!! WOW - what an accomplishment after all you've been thru lately! You are quite simply: MY HERO!
I'm happy to report that I've had some real drama at work to contend with since getting back on track . . . stressstressstress, right? Thought of you soontbfittiechickie and DRANK MORE WATER AND WENT TO BED EARLY!!!
PS: I DID find my Pilates Handbook, GirlyG - and got 20 minutes of standing & seated poses locked inside my office last nite! As always with Pilates . . . at the time I don't think it's "doing much good" - LO & BEHOLD - within an hour I felt motivated to take a 45 minute POWER WALK! Today I can really feel my "core" - so yep - pretty excited about that - plan to carry on any time I can.
PPS: Remember to keep getting your water in chellez!
PPPS: Great advice on the "negative thinkers" soontbfc . . . I would just add to be careful separating negative thinks from TOXIC people. Unfortunately there are just some folks that go way over the negative edge and actually POISON the people around them with their venom. I've identified only two such extreme people in my lifetime and with the help of a therapist have excluded them from my circle . . . no regrets.
Smart, Aud. So true. I am working on it. One problem is that they are family.
Anyhoo, thanks for the congrats. Finally! I actually thought maybe it was a mistake. Soul lost 3 lbs I think, congrats!!, and I was like, oh no, it's not me. Then remembered it's percentage. Right?? LOL. Anyway, I'm grateful to keep losing during all that's going on. Thanks so much to you all for listening. Means alot to me.
I need to vent again. If I vent to you all, I won't feel the need to act out in other ways, i.e. eat fooooood. My husband's parents don't want us to adopt any more. I don't think they have the right to tell us that, every time we see them. It's so upsetting to him, bc he's the one pushing for more. I will love them alot too but I'm not dead set on it. I'm ok either way. 2, 4 or 7 is ok with me. LOL. So we have to hear that all the time and it's getting old. So sad they can't just say.. "So sorry you can't have children. How awful to have to keep losing them when you want them so badly. If there is anything we can do, please let us know." That would NEVER happen. They also didn't go to our other two court adoptions. I'm happy my parents went tho. At least my kids know someone wants them. It's just so draining bc my MIL is very opinionated and pushy and can be very hateful to me when she KNOWS it's not me who is wanting more kids (she knows I am happy either way), she still tries to talk to me about it more than him. I swear the next time I hear anything about it I'm going to tell her off. I've put up with rudeness from her ever since we started dating 12 yrs ago, u know how long that is? She almost ruins every birthday party my kids have. She is so rude I can remember everything in detail from each party, not bc of my babies but her.
Anyway, she isn't just like this to me, it's the same to my 4 sil's. No respect. Just hateful, bossy, extremely rude. Sad too, bc I think all she wants is to be happy but she can't. I give her the benefit of the doubt that she doesn't know what she is doing but she does. I'm so tired of being nice and just still getting the same result. My other SILs except one have almost all their kids raised so they hardly have to see her. One, who is sweet and doesn't say bad things about anyone, been there 20 yrs longer than me told me 6 yrs ago when my MIL was being rude to me at my son's baby shower, a day that was supposed to be great, .. she said She's always like this, she has to be center of attention, just let it go in one ear and out the other. I have since seen it time and time again. And I'm serious about this next part... she is in competition with us DILs. She really is. She gets mad when I'm getting ready for a bday party or whatever we are having (notice we dont see her unless we have to, like those times).. she makes comments on my appearance, etc. Tries to find ways to waste my time so I won't have time to get ready, I.e. my hair, my face, even changing clothes. She is 71 yrs old!!!! It's so nerve wracking. I'm dreading Thanksgiving.. Now we have them over here for Thxgiving and she ridicules the way we do everything the whole time. No one else invites them for it and we all only get together for a few hours on Christmas eve at their house once a year. One of my BIL's said, "Well I guess we'll have to have 2 diff bday parties for (their son), to his wife bc my MIL causes such commotion and is sooo rude to his inlaws. Sad. She has answered my phone b4 and hung up on my mother, said she's too busy to talk. WHAT??? I couldn't believe it.My mom says, just let it go. She just has a problem. Don't lower yourself to behave that way too." Uggh. So here we go.. wonder how it's going to go when I don't have FOOD to lean on this time. LOL. I WON'T EAT OVER THIS EITHER. Don't worry.
Thanks for letting me vent. Oh, she called me twice since she was threatening my husband that if we adopt any more kids--- (we don't ask them for money, they have no right to say that. Also, she pushes to loan us money so she can tell us what to do, it's happened to my SIL and BIL. We have but have paid her right back.)---that if we do they will not help us at any point in the future. My husband said, OK that's fine. Then I expect you to not say another thing to us about our children again. Now we won't take her calls. So tired of it all. She thinks since she has like 2.2 million in savings that I care?!? I DO NOT CARE. And she knows it. I think she hates that it doesn't bother us. I wish she would write us out of the will and leave us the **** alone. Ok, I'm sorry again for rambling. Just that he doesn't want me talking about all this to any people around us, it's embarrassing to him. He can't believe they are acting this way. Oh and btw, they asked all their kids not to have any kids, and then when they did, not to have any more. Just awful. I may could see if they were poor and felt bad about not being able to help and then say, hey don't have too many, you can't do as much for each one. But no, they have made decent money by both working, neither with a formal education, married as teens, had 5 kids, etc. They have alot to be proud of. When she told me once that she didn't want me to adopt my first son, after we'd had him a year!!!!! I told her how ungrateful she is for her own kids. She didn't say a thing. She knows I'm right. But at least they could choose how many kids they could have!!!!! Geez. I know for a fact if someone had told her that she didn't need any more, she would have told them where to shove it. We may have to stop all contact b4 our kids are old enough to see how they are. There is also another thing I can explain later if anyone wants to hear, about my nephew who they are practically raising and she puts him ahead of my kids about everything. Just so sad.. for him and my kids. I won't let it happen for long, I can promise you that. The good thing is that my kids don't seem to notice or care bc they have so much fun together and we make sure to give them lots of attention when the MIL and FIL are here ignoring them.
Ok, going to stop yelling at you all, my teammates. You haven't done anything!! I should be yelling at her. But he asked me not to.. again.
Oh man, Selina! I have a lot that I'd like to say, but I'll just restrict it to this... your kids and your immediate family come first. Do what is best for them and the heck with everybody else. You can't choose your relatives, but you can choose whether or not you have a relationship with them. Nobody....nobody!!! deserves to be treated the way you and yours have been.
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I should be yelling at her. But he asked me not to.. again.