Hi all :dancer:
I am AWOL for 2 days and I miss everything :(
Yesterday I ended up working for 5 hours even though I only went in to do an hour and ended up there for 4 more... I was NOT happy, Then we lost power for 4 hours last night.it was so hot we ended up at walmart just walking around - didn't get home till 11. Needless to say i never was able to install my new hard drive :(

So as not to make this 6 pages long:
Congrats to all who lost inches and pounds! YAY! :cp:
And good job all who may have nibbled :cookie: but dusted off and got right back OP :bravo:

I was pretty good this weekend- Did have a boneless rib tonight but it was lean and I had sweet potato instead of potato salad. need to keep up on water and exercise over the weekends

I am glad to know the potty thing with so much water drinking gets better. Some days I am ok - other days every 10 minutes ;)

well I will echo the same feelings as everyone else. I haven't told too many people that I am doing a lifestyle change and trying to lose weight .I have failed so many times in the past because I didn't do it for the right reasons and I had no support group. I really feel this group really cares for everyone involved and the support,kindness, tips and laughs makes this journey a whole lot easier. :goodvibes - my hubby doesn't think this will last either.. although he does admit that this is the longest he's seen me "behave"..and my friends are all either super skinny and don't need to lose or they are really overweight and don't care.
weigh in for me is Wednesday...I did buy a scale this weekend and hubby says it's on target so.... I am nervous and scared and worried all at one time.. I don't think I will go a month before WI again.. maybe every two weeks.. my next goal will be just to keep eating heathier and and exercise. I am not sure about setting a date for my next 10 pounds.. maybe I should just set a goal to lose it --but then ... arrgh.. decisions to be made...My next dr. appointment is Sept. 6 and we'll see then around sept. 9-10 about blood test results.. I do know I need to get off my butt and exercise more. :wl:
Thanks all for everything! :grouphug:

and unless someone else said it too- I put richard on mute .. love his videos just not his voice.. :lol:

omg!!!!!
 

i cannot believe it! i was at my last day of insurance school today and while i was on a break i was chatting with this woman in the class. all of a sudden she asks, "are you pregnant?" (rude, but it happens to all of us). THEN she pats her stomach and says "you should get on an exercise program... well, me too" (the me too was totally an afterthought, the way she said it). i was flabbergasted! the nerve of some people!!!

ha ha, i am too. i really have to make sure that the correct amount of food is on my plate before i start eating or else i eat whatever is there. i don't have that "i'm full" gadget in my body to tell me to stop.

I am so sorry that happened to you-I have had it happen to me so many times it isn't funny. I think the last time it happened I just looked them straight in the eye and said, "No, I am fat." and walked away.

For those working outside the home as well as inside, there are massive crockpot recipes in the WW recipe section. It has the calories listed as well as points-none are vegetarian though. They do have a section that is strickly vegetarian in there too though and also has the calories as well as the points.

Well, the good is I made it through a restaurant dinner for my mom's 88th birthday. (I can't beleive she is 88). We shared appetizers and I did have a few fried calamari, but no bread, wine etc. Then I ordered a big salad with broiled shrimp on top,dressing on the side. I took most of it home. For dessert I ate the icing off a very small piece of cake so I did good. I didn't go over my calories.
Then my newlywed son and DIL and I stopped off at the photographers and picked up the wedding proofs. I was shocked at the fat woman in the photos. - a really nice 16w dress, covering so much fat. First I felt awful. Then I realized that I have been doing something to change it for almost 4 weeks. (I didn't weigh in the first week) So they will have a fat me in the photo album, but the real me won't look like that much longer. So I am not in despair as I would have been if I had not been OP for nearly 4 weeks. The photos could have caused a huge binge. But thanks to all of you and the great support I get here I was able to face this with hope.
Laura
PS my son and DIL are absolutely gorgeous, as are my other kids

Congratulations! Those can be really hard to do. When my last brother got married, I wound up being in the photos even though I didn't want to and wasn't part of the wedding party. Guess there will come a time in the not so distant future when people will see that and go "No way is that you!" I will look forward to that. You keep looking forward to that real you person cause she is on her way and here to stay!
Melissa

Thanks Melissa
I keep thinking that in 6 months, there should be a real visible change. That will be the most miserable part of the year here in NY, endless February, but maybe I can look forward to it this year cause I won't be hauling around all this excess, and I will be able to buy nice jeans and see the real me in the mirror.
I just did my calories for today on fitday and I am under 1300, so I did ok.
Laura

Laura, keep one of those wedding pictures of you as motivation. Use it as your "before" photo and maybe take a new picture each month or something...just looking at the change that way could be a serious motivation. I might do that myself, I was appalled at how I looked in pics from my daughter's 3rd birthday party in Feb. I didn't want to be in the pics, but I have a friend who is trigger happy and doesn't listen very well.

Cadwell, **BIG HUG** That is one question I think no one should EVER ask! I know I never will, because I would never want to make someone feel this way. But, this is another thing you can use as motivation. Guess there's always a positive.

StillTrying, my scale also showed another lb. gone this AM, even though I was WAY OP yesterday. I did get in 8 miles though, so I think that is making a difference. Two days in a row with 8 miles, then just 1 mile today :( I wanted to do more, but there was just too much going on and I was being lazy in the afternoon...napped instead. But, tomorrow it's back to getting up early since the preK girl is back home, so I will be back on schedule. Seems when I get off the sleep schedule, I get lazy.

Melissa, sounds like the bike is a good thing for your son. He needs something to counter the meds. Tough situation, keep us updated on his progress. If you can find some fresh fruit and veggies that he likes, he will get used to not having the other stuff. I'm glad you could get through to his father, maybe you can drop off fresh chopped veggies to his house when your son is there lol

IcePrincess, I also have worked on this for years. I've tried about every way of eating and exercise and water drinking possible, and now know what works for me. I've stopped looking at what others do and have found what works for ME. That's what is great about this group, we all are doing different things yet there are no sassy comments or catty comments that others are doing it "wrong." I was on another weight loss group once, and they had this attitude like if you did it different from them, you were "wrong" and must be talked down to. Part of this being permanant is that each person find what works for them, fit it to their own lifestyle, and it's going to be different for each of us. I am so happy that people are supportive and not catty like that. One might need 1800 calories, another might not calories at all, but we are doing what works for us and that is what we need to do!

Night all...up early to get back on workout schedule. Starting tomorrow, I'm going to do strength training while the kids sleep, cardio in the AM and PM while they are sleeping. Of course, I get tons of exrcise chasing them around all day but that's just extra!

Theresa

Oh, I forgot something...I am in charge of throwing a Valentine's party for DD's preK class in Feb, along with a few other parents, so I want to look much better by then. I am aiming to be under 200 by then...which will be basically 50 lbs. in almost 6 months. I hope I can make that...pumps me up to get MOVING!!

Has anyone tried those strip tease workout videos? I am thinking of ordering them not just to shake up the workout routine, but to give my hubby a big surprise ;) Are they worth the money?

Theresa

either way those videos will be fun :lol: for you and your dh!
thanks melissa and theresa for the support. i was pretty mad about that lady's insensitivity but, well.. i will lose the weight in a few more months, and she'll have bad manners the rest of her life :devil: that sort of way of making faux pas will do her no good in selling insurance. i feel sorry for her more than anything.
"you need a life insurance policy, you know, for the 'baby'." i can already *see* it! :lol:
i guess i am in a good mood because i lost two more lbs and now i am back in 160s. my lowest point from my last diet effort! yay!

cadwell- that lady needed to be smacked.. I hate when people are ..well, I was going to say rude - but that's not quite the word I was looking for..and congrats on the 2 lbs down!!!

what I really don't like is hearing people say- oh you used to look so nice
(when viewing older pics we have hanging in the house) or how could you let yourself gain so much.. or how come you don't look that "THAT" anymore.. sometimes it makes me wanna scream.. and I keep telling myself a perk of eating healthy and exercising is that maybe I'll look better one day- I know I will never be a size 4 again but gee I would like to fit into a 14 one day.
At work we were just told that we are doing a new pictorial at the end of Feb - beginning of March 06 so maybe by then I will look a bit different. I despise having my pic taken.. My MIL has all these fancy cameras and I hate to go to her house on holidays- maybe this year will be better for me. I don't hate the way I look -not anymore because of knowing that I am me and even though I may look slimmer in the days ahead I will always still be me.

Theresa- well those videos can't hurt?? ;) and I agree with the above post.. you'd have fun!! :o

Melissa- thanks for the WW info on recipes..

and to all I have gotten good "diet" and exercise stuff off ebay.. I Just need to use the exercise stuff

Laura- I am so glad you didn't binge.. that's awesome..
and as stated before- I am so glad everyone here is supportive and kind..
I had an experience like Theresa's and was afraid to post here for the longest time.. But I am so glad I jumped in.. Thanks all !

Well one more pound and I have undone the damage I caused myself! That felt good and I may just be able to move that ticker down one on weigh in day. I can so understand the picture thing! Amanda has a birthday next month and I know other Grandma takes alot of pictures and I am not looking forward to it even though by then I should be around at least 30-35lbs total gone (hopefully more). I guess until I am safely under 200lbs I just don't like to have my picture taken. I can remember going to visit my grandparents when I was in my 20's and they were so cruel during our visit. How can you expect to get a husband when you are so heavy? You were so pretty. On and on it went. I finally looked at them and said, "Why don't I just go into the bathroom now and slash my wrists so you don't have to see me anymore?" It didn't even phase them. Even my mother got on them about it. "Do we stop loving her because she is heavy? Does she lose all her value because she is heavy?" I loved mom especially when she stood up for me like that. Regardless of rude people, I think it is even more painful when it comes from someone we love and who is supposed to love us too.
Melissa

Melissa, there is no doubt that people think that if you are fat there is something wrong with you inside. And for me there is, but it is not their business. It is definately how I handle stress and unhappiness. I eat to stuff down whatever the bad feelings that I can't or won't deal with. Some of these skinnys deal with their unresolved issues differently. I have a friend who is now a size 2, dhr lodt 70 lbs, and thinks she has everything to do with weight under control, but now she has headaches that send her into her dark bedroom for 2 days at a time every few weeks.
So I guess for me, I have to deal with my emotional life in a healthier way so I don't find another negative outlet when I don't use food. So far so good. But I am feeling a bit depressed today. My DH is away for 4 days. I am alone. The business, which runs from the house is very slow right now, so I have nothing to do that takes a brain. So I will clean garden shop cook and maybe go to the movies tonight. I know that sound heavenly to everyone whose lives are so busy with jobs and children, but I am very lonely today. I will however stay OP.
Laura

hi all~ sounds like everyone had a good weekend, despite temptations. I did not-I bombed. My daughter had a friend spend the night Saturday and of course made treats. I had treats Sat night AND Sunday and thankfully they're gone now. We spent all day cleaning Sunday-it was long and boring and my husband picked up a pizza for dinner. I had 2 slices of Papa John's pepperoni pizza, which I looked up on nutritiondata.com and saw it had 320/slice! So I think my total calorie consumption was 1900-2000 for the day. No exercise. I even took a nap with my husband and daughter--we all fell asleep on the couch after lunch!

I just couldn't keep it together this weekend. I've got a pretty intense workout schedule for the next 8 weeks. I've got 40 min of cardio and then strength training tonight, then 45-60 min of cardio tomorrow. Hopefully I'll see some scale movement.

You are on the right track Laura-keep busy. During my marriage I was alone more than not and plus I had Joshua to deal with everyday who at that point was alot like Helen Keller before she met Annie Sullivan. You are also on point about eating! My brother isn't overweight at all but he hits the bottle to cope. We all have our ways that we cope with the sadness or stresses in life, it just happens that our particular way shows faster than others. The trick is to substitute our current methods with more healthy ways which is what we are all doing here. You have the right attitude and I know you will do great!
Melissa

I had a great aunt who was tact challenged.. She always used to say "My goodness, How can you wear that?? You too fat to wear that..."
Understand at this time I was a size 5 -I weighed all of 98 pounds and the only reason I was a 5 was because I have a large bust and 3-4 didn't fit up top.. my hubby said I looked like a famine victim of a 3 world country cause I was so skinny- (that was when I was with my ex and was 20 years old -22 years and no kids ago) My DH likes a "little meat" on his womans bones :lol: and has made me promise NOT to ever look like that again.
for some reason never had good luck with Great aunts.. had another one who made me clothes that were always 2 sizes too big....
Have a good day all
I AM going to exercise today....
Sandi