It seems we all have at least one of those per family. I know that when a few people started in on how Odessa was chunky, I told them to stop immediately or we were leaving. She isn't chunky at all, she just has a different body type than her sister does. Amanda is very tall and lanky while Odessa is shorter and more squared (like her Nanna). I had decided when I got the girls to raise that there would be no way and no circumstances that I would EVER allow any of that critical garbage for them. I know from personal experience how devestating it is and it can cause a lifetime of weight problems, not to mention very low self esteem.
Melissa

Originally Posted by LauraB:
But I am feeling a bit depressed today. My DH is away for 4 days. I am alone. The business, which runs from the house is very slow right now, so I have nothing to do that takes a brain...but I am very lonely today. I will however stay OP.
Laura

Laura, I know how you feel because my hubby is a truck driver and when I had my daughter and couldn't go on the road with him as I always had, I went through this lonliness phase where I didn't know what to do with myself because I wasn't used to being home on my own. I got out of that when I got my own hobbies and things to do when he's gone.

Think of the things you have thought about doing but never have the time. Clean out the garage or storage unit? Clean out the junk drawers? Deep clean and scour the entire house? Write poetry? Read a good book? Take a long bubble bath by candleight? Just think of things that you have wanted to do, but never had the chance. This is your chance, girl! Get to it!

Theresa

Congrats on the 2 lbs. Cadwell! See, it doesn't matter what rude people say, you are getting better every day. You know that you're doing what's right for you, and that is what matters. Live up the happiness, you deserve it.

Melra, I had a couple days that I slipped some as well. One day I totally bombed big time with pizza. Get right back up and keep going. A new week, a new day, a new attitude. Thankfully the scale is the same for me, so I should at least be down 1 come Wed. When I went off plan, I pumped up the exercise to burn off some of the extra calories and that seems to have saved me.

In my family most people are big, except my mom and she is an angel and loves us anyway. My husband's grandma is the one who is rude. AT family functions when the dessert comes out she will make comments like "don't none of us need that, look how fat we are already!" and she will look in my direction. When I saw her last week she actually hugged me and asked if I'd lost some weight....that felt SO good!

My SIL used to be bigger than I am now, and she lost all the weight and is now a size 10. Everytime I see her I know that I can do this, since she has kept her weight off for years. She told me exactly how she lost it and how she keeps it off, but her program would never work for me. She's actually kind of shaped funny and I always think that one day I will be her size and look even better because of my shape lol catty woman thoughts, but it is motivation for me. I would absoultely never say anything to her on that note though, I actually tell her all the time how great she looks because really she has come a LONG way and loooks great.

Theresa

I was once asked "when is the baby due?" when I weighed 135, and was wearing a loose summer dress.
The other thing that is so sweet, is judgemental men who have big beer bellys sticking out and think they can look at us as if we're not good enough. Look at dr phil. He don't look too hot.
Laura

The other thing that is so sweet, is judgemental men who have big beer bellys sticking out and think they can look at us as if we're not good enough. Look at dr phil. He don't look too hot.

Don't I know that! All you have to do is look at personals that have pics online. Here these guys will drone on about weight/height appropriate and then you get to the bottom and they are HIDEOUS! That is one thing about men-no matter how icky they look or out of shape they are, they still think they are the cat's pajamas and have every right to excpect a super model to go out with them.

Theresa- thanks for the good advise. I already weeded a bit of the garden, did a wash, and got the ironing ready. I'll iron tonight when I can watch a movie as I iron. I am reading a great book, but I feel guilty sitting down in middle of the day reading. Silly huh?
I might go to the county fair tomorrow. Its the first day so maybe it will be easier to get thru traffic. The weekend is impossible. I'm not worried about the food, cause if I am alone I can avoid it.
I'll get a fat wedding picture onto my computer, and wait to put it up till I have a new me photo. Maybe we should all make sure we have a starting photo so we can show our new selves to each other in a few months. It will be exciting and so rewarding to see each other after we have all succeeded as I know we will.
Laura
Laura

I read the personnels hoping to catch someone for my sister. My favorite is guys who who are 70 and "financially secure" looking for a relationship with a beautiful slim in shape financially secure happy woman 35-45.
Laura

Yeah I will have Mom take one of me even though I have already lost 20lbs-still close enough for a very good general idea of the starting point. She has a digital camera so I can get it on my puter. I think that is a great idea. That personal is too funny! Chances are the guy doesn't even own his own teeth anymore but wants the super model! He should look up Anna Nicole-that is her speed. Poor guy isn't going to probably get a decent relationship-just a gold digger. Don't feel guilty sitting and reading for the day. One of your days should just be a YOU day. Read, nap, watch movies, do a hobby. Never feel guilty for doing something nice for you-you are worth it and deserve it.
Melissa

Thanks for the encouragement everyone-I'm having one of those days when I can't wait for it to end so I'll be done counting calories. I'm at 340 right now, which is not a lot, I know. I brought laughing cow cheese and whole grain wheat thins for snack and I have a ff yogurt and strawberries for about an hour before the gym today too. I still haven't decided what to have for dinner---not salad tonight, I know-I've had at least one salad everyday for a week!

macdeez~ For your insomnia, have you tried melatonin? It's an herbal supplement. I don't know if you have it up there or not, but it's helped a lot with my insomnia and it's not a prescription narcotic or anything. I just take one if I know I'm going to have a hard time getting to sleep or if I've already been in bed for awhile. The only thing I've noticed is that I have craaazzy dreams.

cadwell~ Good Luck on your job interview tomorrow!! :goodluck: :crossed: :goodvibes . How did it go with the outfit?

I'm glad to hear everyone is doing so good, me not so well I did great all week but weekend came and it all went to ****, but my baby turned5 so there was bd cake and all the rest and my pepsi. I have done good thow, consirering it could have been way worse. But today i havent been that bad, I just have to find more stuff to do on weekends, besides house work LOL. I can feel the Curves workin, my arms and shoulders are a little soar*. I have also walked 3 km for the last four nights tonight will make it 5, so I guess I really havnt screwed it to much if i still walked this weekend. The town where I live has a lake in the middle of town and its 3 km to walk around it so thats what i have been doing, plus my curves, monday to friday is my ultimate goal. 1st week was 2 work outs, 2nd weeks was3 work outs, this is my 3rd week so hopefully i will get in my 5, but its already 5:30 and havnt went yet so maybe 4 this week but i could do 5 if i go sunday. I should get off and go, you guys inpire me I'm going now. let you know how it was.

YAY icePrincess!!!! Glad we inspired you to get to Curves....so how did it go? Can't wait to hear.

I am nervous tonight because I have eaten all my calories but a few and can't eat anything else all night. My goal today was 1500 calories, no more than 30% from fat and I am just below that and need to stop now that dinner is over. It's just whenever I feel I cannot eat that I want to eat...it's a mental thing. I just bathed the kids and if I can just make it to their bedtime, then I can start my exercise and go to bed and should be okay. It's just right now I am thinking bad food thoughts :dizzy: and there's no reason for it other than I know I have no calories left.

Okay, going to fold laundry, read the little ones a book or two, maybe call my mom,she always has something to say and I don't eat while talking on the phone.

Theresa

You are doing the right thing-Keep busy and the time will fly by.

Theresa-It's just 6:00, and I have also eaten all my calories. I just made a vanilla tea with 2 sweetners so I can pretend I'm having a sweet. I absolutely must make it thru the night cause I know how awful I will feel tomorrow morning if I don't. I just took my bike out and rode thru the woods with my dog, thinking it would be good for him to have a run, but it's really for both of us.
Now I am going to pick up my grandson so I can take him to the fair tomorrow. There are no snacks in the house, and he is going to have to snack on fruit and crackers. I know if I buy all his favorites, it will just be too hard for me. So he can have a treat at the fair tomorrow. Then we can stop at the food store and buy apples and peanut butter. He loves it when I put pb on thin slices of apples or pears.
You know, I think when we all write our stuff down, especially plans, it makes it easier to stick to it.
I hope we all do fine tonight.
Laura

There must be something in the air tonight because I want to eat everything in the house.. first time in about 10 days I have had cravings..
I did have some SF/FF cherry jello and cool whip free as I wanted something sweet and almost (but didn't) go for the cookies my hubby brought home..
I am off to go exercise.. I so need to step up that aspect of my life..
Ice Princess and everyone..You inspired me to just get up and do it tonight! so here I go as soon as I make sure I spelled everything right :lol:

Saw on TV today curves has a 6 week program for 69.00 I guess it's the eating plan and exercising program.. thought about it and decided nooo- I don't want to follow someone's plan and I will just count calories/ points. I am trying this week to count calories starting with my evening meal until my next evening meal.. as I said before my one gf did this and lost 100 lbs and has now kept it off for a while.. i too find myself freaking out with no calories /points left ...I can deal with salad or veggies in the afternoon rather than be "hungry" at night..

Thanks again and night all :wl: