Roni~ I love the Good Morning graphic. That's the one I usually send to my friends on myspace. Great minds think alike . Ouch! It sounds like you did a number on yourself. Lower back pain is the worst! It's always the hardest to get rid of because one wrong move and your back to square one. I hope you can rest a while. Good luck with the party tomorrow, sounds like you gonna have your hands full
Melissa~ Thanks but I tossed and turned all night. I guess I have alot on my mind these days. What Vitamins are you taking? I was taking one a day womens for about a month then I switched to one a day weight loss. The problem with me is I'll take them faithfully everyday but after a couple of weeks I stop and I don't know why I do that! LOL!
Andi~ Glad to hear your foot's better
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Okay so I have a dliema and I need some advice. I used to be best friends with this girl when we were teenagers. We did everything together. We were like sisters. To make a very long story short I'll get to the point and say at the time she liked my boyfriend so much that they fooled around behind my back. We were best friends when she did this and she did it a couple of times to different guys that I was dating. Now we recently connected again (after all these years) on myspace. We've talked a few times through email. She's been calling me but I haven't answered the phone. I just keep thinking about what she did back then. She invited me to her daughters b day party tomorrow and I have to go because I told her I would. I feel really wierd about this and I might back out. What would you guys do in this situation? One of my other friends who also hung out with her back then told me that some people change but I don't know. She really hurt me back then. I'm confused
Lonnie - I'm not good with the advice stuff, but here are my thoughts. Did she ever apologize? Forgive & forget is all well and good, but I don't believe in forgiveness without repentance. Not that you would cut her completely off, but if it makes you uncomfortable, I certainly wouldn't spend a lot of time hanging around with her. Of course, if she has asked forgiveness, then that is quite a bit different, though I must say I would certainly keep her away from any SO I had.
Lonnie I'd be careful. I'd also make her talk about it sooner rather then later. We all change so much from HS but doesn't mean we don't have to repent for what we've done. Plus you need the air cleaned so to speak if you want to be friends again. Good Luck whatever you do!
Lonnie, I had a similar situation a couple of months back, and also wondered if I could be friends with my ex- bff. We were best friends since I was 13 and she 12, and even though we were seperated by miles, we still managed to write, talk on the phone and visit. We were also like sisters, but in 2000, she TOTALLY betrayed me. I won't get into details, but I left and never looked back. She contacted me a couple of years later because he middle child was killed/committed suicide...not sure...but I felt so bad for her I let her back in...for a while....but I just couldn't take it. I don't trust her at all and I just can't get past what she did, so I stopped all contact...again. Recently she's found me again, through myspace, and I told her I had no interest in being friends anymore and blocked her...then she contacted me again in a made up myspace for her dead son, so I finally just had it, and told her about her damn self and to leave me alone.
IMO, sometimes the past is better left in the past. BUT, if you think you can get past what she did to you, then it's totally up to you. All I know is EVERY TIME I have let this woman back into my life, it wasn't long after that MY life completely fell apart, because of her...so.....
Lonnie - I do the same thing with the vitamins....wonder why that is?...I need to start taking them again.
About the friend: I say proceed with caution. You need to do what's best for you. If the stress that this birthday party is going to cause is not good for you, then I say skip it! I, too, have had situations of friends betraying me similar to you and Roni. So with that said, I am skeptical in regards to situations like this. If I decided to let any of those people back in my life, I would be very guarded. Just because they were my bff before, doesn't mean they can or should have the same relationship with me after they have betrayed me.
Do I forgive these people from my past? I think so. Have I forgotten the pain? No...and I think to some extent I need to remember the pain so that I do not make the same mistakes again. I just need to make sure that the rememberance of the pain doesn't control me. I'm not dwelling on it....I've let the hate out of my heart.
The bottom line is that unfortunately some friendships aren't worth saving. If it is truly damaging to one person or the other then it may not be worth it. You need to do what's best for Lonnie...whether that is not re-newing the friendship or whether it's letting her back in a limited capacity. If you let her back in and she hasn't changed, then you are perfectly justified in ending it at that time. I guess you need to figure out what is best for you...what can you live with?
Jen - I swear if I don't do something while I'm thinking of it then it usually doesn't happen...anyway....WELCOME BACK. It sounds like you had an amazing time....you need to post a couple of your favorite pics for us to see! I bet it was amazing!
Hola Red team!! I'm in Texas now. I retained so much water yesterday sitting around the airport and on the plane. Our flight was delayed 2hrs because of a hydralic leak, we had already boarded and then they had us get off. I was glad that they let us off. I got in lots of water when I got to my parents and swam. This morning I'm better, my feet aren't swollen anymore, and they never swell, but my hands are still a bit puffy. And the heat here compared to Michigan, whoo boy!! It's going to be 99 today. I just wanted to check in quick. We're fixing to head up to the Walmart and get some of our groceries.
Oh is Armywife around? I've not caught up with the boards yet. Armywife if you read this could you do me a huge favor? Could you go to my team on Leslie's site, The Walking Wonders and let them know I don't have access to Leslie's site at the moment. I left my list of passwords at home and I'll need some time to remember what I put there. I can't have them email it as it will go to my comcast mail and I'm using my aol here at my parents. Thanks so much!!
Okay I better get. I will catch up later. Big hugs all around!!!
Lonnie - I do the same thing with the vitamins....wonder why that is?...I need to start taking them again.
About the friend: I say proceed with caution. You need to do what's best for you. If the stress that this birthday party is going to cause is not good for you, then I say skip it! I, too, have had situations of friends betraying me similar to you and Roni. So with that said, I am skeptical in regards to situations like this. If I decided to let any of those people back in my life, I would be very guarded. Just because they were my bff before, doesn't mean they can or should have the same relationship with me after they have betrayed me.
Do I forgive these people from my past? I think so. Have I forgotten the pain? No...and I think to some extent I need to remember the pain so that I do not make the same mistakes again. I just need to make sure that the rememberance of the pain doesn't control me. I'm not dwelling on it....I've let the hate out of my heart.
The bottom line is that unfortunately some friendships aren't worth saving. If it is truly damaging to one person or the other then it may not be worth it. You need to do what's best for Lonnie...whether that is not re-newing the friendship or whether it's letting her back in a limited capacity. If you let her back in and she hasn't changed, then you are perfectly justified in ending it at that time. I guess you need to figure out what is best for you...what can you live with?
Just my 2 cents!
You are very wise my friend. I WISH I could let go of all this anger & resentment, and I suppose a lot of this baggage I carry around is partly to blame for this obese condition I have found myself in. I have an Anger Workbook on my bookshelf that has gone unread. Maybe I should add that to the list of books I am reading? Come to think of it, I have quite a few "issues" that need to be worked through. Anger, resentment, hate, abandonment, guilt. I wonder if I can even do this myself with Bob's book and through journaling, or perhaps I need a bit of extra help...
Sounds like I am a mess doesn't it? lol. I am actually pretty silly and happy go lucky for the most part, but I do have these demons on my back.
Well work turned out to be horrendous last night. Finding out that you're the lowest paid person in the building at the moment, while at the very start of your shift is not a good idea. New hires getting paid more than I make and I am one p.o.'d lady today still! I'm thinking I may unemployed by the week's end as I just fume every time I think about it. I have the most experience in this position out of the 7 people on my team, and not only that, I have 14 yrs of management experience to boot, and STILL the lowest man on the totem pole. I'm so mad I could spit.
Lonnie, regarding the friend. I think you need to trust your instincts. You are having misgivings about going ahead w/ even a birthday party for her dd, I say you're better off to stay away. I have always had issues w/ having girls as friends, my entire life. I hated the way they backstabbed and manipulated so much that I pretty much always had boy friends, much to the dismay of my mother. lol In high school I tried desperately to have female friends, but it always turned into drama. Especially one girl, who always, ALWAYS went after the guys that I either knew as friends or that I was interested in as boyfriend material. ALWAYS. I would go and make friends with entire new groups of people and before I knew it there she'd be smoozing with them too. Still disgusts me to this day and I haven't laid eyes on her in almost 20 years! LOL Can you say BITTER? MY best advice is definitely trust your gut and go with it. If something's telling you caution, I say RUN!
Andi glad the foots feeling better!!
Oh how could I ever forget about all the damn jewlery I used to wear in the 80's! I also went thru that "Madonna" phase with the fishnet and drapey shirts with skirts and leggings together and lets not forget about 30 of those black plastic bracelets! And not to be forgetten either, the black eyeliner that went out to the ends of the eyes and big dangly hoopy earrings!!! Ahhhhhhh, those were the days! LOL
Ok, I'm headed to the gym. Gonna try and take my anger & frustration out there so maybe I can try and enjoy my day off instead of stewing about my situation and feeling bad.
i'm in the 139's the last two days...hope to keep this up. have been good on staying within my calories....have been trying to keep high calorie/fat stuff outta the house because hubby is leaving for school and trying to drop weight for his PT test there later this month, and for me to lose my weight. i got low calorie/high fiber snacks around the house for me......so i'm getting better on my food shopping. yippee...hope to keep this up
Lonnie..I just take the one a day womens. I tried the energy ones but they left a bad taste in my mouth all day long and I think I got a lil jittery. Looks like everyone has given you the same advice re: the so called friend that I would have.
Heather...I'm not sure exactly what flax seed meal is...is that just ground flax seed?
Cathy... good to see you!!
Danielle...do NOT let them get away with it!! Thats just wrong on so many levels!
Roni and Karen...hey girls!!
We need to set up a chat for tonight!
Okay I'm starved I need to get my lunch going before its time to go back!
Oh is Armywife around? I've not caught up with the boards yet. Armywife if you read this could you do me a huge favor? Could you go to my team on Leslie's site, The Walking Wonders and let them know I don't have access to Leslie's site at the moment. I left my list of passwords at home and I'll need some time to remember what I put there. I can't have them email it as it will go to my comcast mail and I'm using my aol here at my parents. Thanks so much!!
Ok, I havent been on there in so long....What's your username there? same as here? that way they know who when i post it.....
no prob, will help[ ya out lol what are friends for?! LOL :P
You are very wise my friend. I WISH I could let go of all this anger & resentment, and I suppose a lot of this baggage I carry around is partly to blame for this obese condition I have found myself in. I have an Anger Workbook on my bookshelf that has gone unread. Maybe I should add that to the list of books I am reading? Come to think of it, I have quite a few "issues" that need to be worked through. Anger, resentment, hate, abandonment, guilt. I wonder if I can even do this myself with Bob's book and through journaling, or perhaps I need a bit of extra help...
Sounds like I am a mess doesn't it? lol. I am actually pretty silly and happy go lucky for the most part, but I do have these demons on my back.
Anyho, nuff about me.
Ok...In all honesty, I haven't gotten over the hate (that's a strong word that I'm not sure is totally accurate. Maybe resentment?) for everyone....I still need to work on my feelings surrounding some of my past relationships. I think some of my weight problems are directly connected to my past issues too.....one step at a time I guess.
. Ouch! It sounds like you did a number on yourself. Lower back pain is the worst! It's always the hardest to get rid of because one wrong move and your back to square one. I hope you can rest a while. Good luck with the party tomorrow, sounds like you gonna have your hands full 
New hires getting paid more than I make and I am one p.o.'d lady today still! I'm thinking I may unemployed by the week's end as I just fume every time I think about it. I have the most experience in this position out of the 7 people on my team, and not only that, I have 14 yrs of management experience to boot, and STILL the lowest man on the totem pole. I'm so mad I could spit. 
