OOPS, forgot to mention the social security issues I've been reading. My SIL just started drawing SS. She has been married 5 times. She was told that she had to draw her SS and a portion of 1 husband, the one that made the most. It was her first husband, that she really hates. At first she refused but her daughter (of the first husband) talked her into it. She didn't follow my advice to take it because he never gave her anything but grief while they were together and that would "get back at him".
One day down ~ 3 more to go. There was a giant bucket of salty type snacky stuff on the break room table. The words of wisdom of several of you came to mind ~ one that sticks out (sorry I can not remember which one of you said it) that unless it was going to be something awesome, it wasn't worth it. I was able to leave it alone. It looked like a bucket of junk. Funny ~ a lot of that stuff looks good and your mouth waters for it, then it is a disappointment. Hope I can be as strong if sweets appear ~ they are my downfall.
Gonna play one of those games ~ don't know if it will help. Gonna give myself one of these for every day that I succeed in leaving the junk alone.
I feel pretty good this morning. I am trying to think in my mind that eating that sugar and junk is maybe similar to a hangover. My daughter sometimes drinks too much and has one the next day. I think ~ why would a person do that to themselves, but that is probably similar to what I am doing to myself by eating that junk.
Ok, gotta get ready for work. Hope you all have a good day.
Freda ~ I'm glad your sister listened to her daughter and agreed to take the portion of #1 husband. To not take it would be like "cutting off her nose to spite her face" as my mom used to say. In these hard times, I'm glad she chose the option that would give her the most money ~ it might come in handy.
Location: Home of the Pirates, Steelers and Penguins
Posts: 13,430
S/C/G: 217/176/142
Height: 5'2
Freda - I can understand your SIL's reluctance to take the SS from the husband she hated, because her pride didn't want her to ever feel that she needed anything from him. I always said I would live in a homeless shelter before I would accept help from a family member I didn't get along with. Luckily I never had to eat those words.
Gayle - Good for you on passing up the salty snacks! Each time you do that you will get stronger. I always tell myself that it's not going to taste as good as it does in my imagination. Sometimes it works, sometimes not! I always think to myself, although I love bread, if I had a gluten allergy it would be unfair for me to expect my family to go without bread, so I try to apply that same attitude toward the snacks.
Isabella - Friends of our used to have a tent trailer when their kids were young. They would take it to a campground. It was more economical than an RV, but they didn't have to be on the ground. I don't really know what they had inside to sleep on, but it was probably air mattresses.
I have the same dilemma as you with the overgrown flower beds. I usually clean them up every spring and add mulch. They are all perienniels so I don't have to plant. Last year I had so many medical issues that I never got around to it and it looks like a jungle. Some of the weeds are larger than the flowers and DH doesn't know which are weeds and which are periennials. We bought red mulch, but before we put it down we have to dig up the whole flower beds and I will separate the weeds from the flowers and then replant the flowers. These things reseed themselves, so I have some growing where they're not supposed to be. Also, I want to get rid of the gladiolias because they get so high and top heavy they fall over and look terrible. Two years ago I dug them up and gave them to a woman at work, but they grew back anyway! LOL I guess I didn't get all the bulbs. They just don't want to go away. Maybe I will leave them there, and when they flower I will cut them and put them in a vase. Then I'll have to see how my allergies react to having them in the house.
Bobbi - We usually only plant tomatoes. Since I have been trying new foods, I am planting swiss chard and collard greens to see what they will do. I also wanted some summer yellow squash, but at the plant place I bought the wrong thing and I'm going to end up with scallopini squash. I look them up on the internet and they are green and yellow, sort of flat and star shaped. They look like gourds. But I did find a recipe for them that I will try if they grow. You slice them in half crosswise and stuff them with a mixture of cheese and breadcrumbs and bake them. I will try it. If not, I only wasted $2.49, nothing I've never done before. I would love to grow all kinds of things, but for the most part, dh wouldn't eat them so why bother. I'll never change him.
Hello Gals. I had great plans for the garden today and I did make it out there but not as early as I wanted. I fell back to sleep after DH got up and never woke up until 8 o'clock so it was around 9 before I made my appearance outside. I hung up a line of clothes first and then DH was home and helped dig up the peonies and transplant them in another area. I know it's almost too late or the wrong season but it had to be done. If they die I'll get more or maybe not. He mowed down the rest of the plants by the house as I didn't want them and tomorrow or sometime soon he's going to dig everything up and I'm going to put down landscape material and cover it over with crushed rock. I'll leave a narrow boarder to plant a few annuals. I have more to do by the fence. Oh my, what a tangle over there! I found my Irises and cleaned them out a bit but they need more work. I have other plants there that are completely covered in but I'll find them. We only worked for 1 1/2 hours as its hot today, over 30 degrees C (over 80 F). I think I burned my eyes as they were stinging for about 2 hours after we came in. I dug out my sunglasses and will wear them from now on. If we can get in an hour or so every fine day we'll have everything done by June. It's supposed to rain tomorrow but if it isn't in the morning I'll get more done. I hope removing the plants by the house will cut down on the earwig problem this year.
Cindy Gail, get rid of those treats! I can't have potato chips in the house or I'm like a maniac. They are my crack cocaine. The only way I'll bring them in the house is if we are having a large group of people who will eat them or occasionally I'll buy DH and myself each a small personal sized bag. I can't even buy a box or bag of the small sized chips to dole out because I'll sit down and open every bag and eat them all in one sitting. So clear out the cake and cookies and only bring them in the house when you know they will be eaten by more than you.
Rosey, lovely pictures of your GS's grad. You must have been very proud grandparents. And, yes as someone mentioned, your daughter is very much like you. Two pretty women.
Mary, 4-5 pounds in a month is really good. If we could do that every month we'd lose around 60 pounds in a year.
Freda, I must have been exhausted, for sure as I never have a nap. Hope you're having a good day and getting lots done.
Amarantha2, LOL about the sticky eggs. I don't like the Cadbury eggs but I know what you mean about messy, sticky chocolate.
Gayle, good for you not succumbing to that bucket of salty treats. I don't know if I'd have had as much will power because I'm all about the salty treats. I could leave the candy. I love the idea of for each day treat free.
Carol Sue, those tent trailers are quite comfortable. The sides that stick out hold the platform for a sponge mattress which is a sight bit more comfortable than an air mattress flat on the ground. They also have a kitchen table and a stove. Friends of ours had one, too.
How many of you remember pin curls? You know how you twist a strand of hair around your finger and then pin it in place with a couple of bobby pins. Ha, ha. I'm sitting here with my hair done up in pin curls just for the heck of it. I remember my mother and aunt doing their hair that way and they'd do mine too, but I was very young. I stumbled across pin curls on youtube a few days ago and thought I'd take a stab at it. As it's a nice hot breezy day and I'd just washed my hair I took the plunge and did the curls. I look just like I remember my mom looked with the pins in her hair.
Well, I'll catch you all later. Hugs to all of you. Hope your day is as pleasant as mine.
Last edited by retiredone; 05-23-2012 at 09:13 AM.
Hello may golden girls. I would love to join in your group. I'm 51 and started my dieting adventure on February 14. I have about 60 more lbs to lose. Maybe more. Just going to see when I get there.
Not much going on here. dh went to his Tai Chi class but I stayed home again. Wanted to get all the rest and healing in I can before our gs comes. Am going grocery shopping in a little bit and otherwise just puttering around doing this and that. I did well on calories and carbs yesterday and my weight was down a teensy bit today but my bs was up. If it's not one thing it's another. LOL
CajunLady - Welome!!
Retiredone - Sounds like you're hard at work at the gardening. We bought some more potting soil yesterday and dh plans to fill the pots on our patio. They looked so nice last year. Hope your eyes are ok now. I have chronic dry eye and boy that can hurt sometimes, esp at night. Yes I remember pin curls. I don't do anything to my hair anymore...so freeing...I remember working so hard at my hair in my younger years. Now I'm totally wash and wear!
Glynne- GFY in turning down the "junk"! It's just not worth it usually. I agree they can look good but then be disappointing and I try to remember that.
Slmn11/Glynne - I was the same way about my dh. He would buy sweets and I'd tell him it wasn't fair to eat in front of me. He'd try to sneak them for a while but then soon it'd be the same again. He'd say just say no or eat only a little, but it seemed like I couldn't do that. Then one day I realized he had a right to eat what he wanted in his own home and I would run into temptation every where so I was the one who had to change. I still ask him to please only buy one serving of most things but sometimes he doesn't and now that I know I'm in control and not food it doesn't bother me. For me it's been a change of mindset that's made the difference. Took me a long time to get where I am now and I just pray everyday to continue to be this way. I've messed up so many times on diets but I feel very good right now...I just take it one day at a time.
Dee - I'm sorry to hear about your dh...I hope things work out ok. I'm sure it must be difficult to go through esp since he's had problems before. We are here if you need to vent now and then.
Well, I am sitting here waiting for the dryer to call me so thought that I would share a couple pics from our weekend. There is one of my hubby and me and one of our son and his girlfriend. We hadn't met her before and she seems to be pretty nice. They seem happy and that is a good thing! Didn't do much except just visit and go to dinner both Saturday and Sunday. Playing catch up today with laundry and some housework-- how can furniture get so dusty even when no one is here!!!
Karen I was wondering..is this the son that used to drive you crazy? If so, perhaps he's finally gotten himself straightened out? It is good when we see our children happy and more settled.
Just some thoughts about the different comments about my DH and the snacking/sweets.
He tries to help as best he can and is open to suggestions. I don’t expect him to not eat any of those things just because I am trying to stay away from that stuff. He doesn’t eat in front of me. I have asked him to hide the stuff that is hard for me to resist. I also asked him to please not dispose of the empty wrappers in the trash in the kitchen where I would see it. (That makes me crave it.) He has done what I have asked. Unfortunatly, I accidentally came across the hiding place of the goodies one day. I wasn’t looking for it, I was looking for a plastic magazine rack and knew he had some empty ones stored in the compartment under the coffee table in his TV room. Mostly, I leave it alone, but on occasion when I am having one of those times where I am wanting something so bad it is like needing a “fix”, I have gotten into the stuff. I don’t know whether he realizes it or not. If he does, he hasn’t said anything. I probably should confess and ask him to find a better spot. I want to, but feel so stupid to have to admit that I have gotten into the stuff after he has tried to help me. Don’t want to risk getting an eye roll.
Two days down ~ two to go.
The day is close enough to being over ~ = two days of not eating junk
Glynne - just got notice of your posting and I wanted to say you are not alone..I have found my dh's stash before too. And I have also taken some a couple times. I did tell him, but I can understand your embarrassment too. These men just don't realize how much we see when we putter around the house. Maybe mine should keep it in the attic or even better his old shed in the backyard...even I wouldn't want to eat anything he kept in there! My dh keeps a can of peanuts on the floor beside his recliner and he thinks it's hidden! LOL Of course by now he knows I know. Funny the games we play isn't it?
ETA: To Everyone: I just discovered this website and have enjoyed readiing it Bookmarked it to read more later. My grandmother (on mom's side) was born in 1872 and died in 1976, so I focused on that time period. Interesting to see the changes in her lifetime!
Yes, Mary, he is the same one who drove us crazy.I would really liike to think that those days are gone and he has grown up and becoming more responsible but I think I really need to reserve that opinion for some time down the road. He really seems happy but I have thought this before. So I will pray for the best for the both of them.
I am feeling a little better but I am still fighting this darn cold bug. I have to do a training tomorrow that will involve me talking a lot for almost 3 hours and I am NOT looking forward to it. Oh well. It can't be changed.
I have been thinking about the issue of snacks around the house. As you know, my ds and dgs live with me. Obviously, a 5yo boy needs his treats. My ds is pretty good about it and doesn't bring my favorites into the house. (like reeses peanut butter cups). Too bad that it is little man's favorite so he gets them sometimes. Ds buys treats that aren't my favorite and it works ok. He always has ice cream in the fridge, etc. I also can't leave fritos alone. (Hello Freda )
I am not sure what the right answer is. I always have my treats around like super dark chocolate and skinny cow ice cream bars. I just can only have a serving if I need it. There must be a solution for all of this????
Karen, I think your approach with your son is just right. Hope is good, but they have to find their own way.
Hi Cajunlady! Welcome! Tell us more about you.
Isabella, what great memories I got from the pin curls. Thank you!
Sorry about everyone that I am missing. Time to hit the hay. Later.
The last time I was on here was Sept. of 2010. Since then I have lost 63lbs. and gained back 48. I'm now trying to take it back off and get to my goal of 160 lbs. I'm having problems with my knees and need to get the weight off of the poor things before they just plain quit working!! I need all the support I can get and gladly will give support back. It's so much easier with people to share.
Freda, that you’ll pray for rain while on vacation so you can listen to the rain on a tin roof. I love listening to the rain on a regular roof but I’d hate it on a tin roof. And my DH also would rather learn a whole new trade than pay anybody to fix anything. If he doesn’t know how to fix something, he will learn it.
Gayle, I’ve always thought the same thing about drinkers and the WHY? Until I really understood that an addiction is an addiction not matter how it makes us feel. I always feel better without the junk food but I succumb more than I’d like. The nose cutting off face was my mom’s favorite saying as well.
Carol Sue, I wish I could help you thin your perennial garden. I love taking the neighbors’ cast offs. Then bambi eats them from my yard but not theirs. And they don’t use any repellent so I don’t get it. I think Bambi like visiting my huskies.
Cindy Gail, I know everyone is saying to not bring the treats into the house. I’m the exact opposite. If they aren’t in the house, I will graze through the cupboards (including croutons DeeLee) and eat until something satisfies what I really want. And it never does. So I keep the goodies in my house and taught myself restraint. Other than right after my surgery when my brain thought I was the Cookie Monster, I have been successful with that strategy. Just thought I’d throw out the idea that not keeping it in the house doesn’t work for everyone.
Isabella, those pin curls look like way too much work. I’m the high pony tail if I’m working outside and it’s hot.
Welcome Cajun, LOOK at your weight loss progress. You’re doing fantastic!!!
KarenMO, you’ve grown your hair longer. I love the pics!
Welcome Taxi, let’s cheer the positive – you’re 15 pounds in the good so you’re on your way back down. You will get there. And you're right - it's easier with a group of chicks that have been down the same path.
I’m caught up even though I didn’t say hi to everyone personally – so HI!!! Work is crazy ridiculous and has no chance of slowing down. I will have to seriously consider working some on weekends or I might not make all my state deadlines and building the new website. Dilemmas. I’d rather play so for now, I’m going to be focused at work and that means less playing here. I didn’t think I’d be here tonight since I sat down for the results show of DWTS and they’re playing last night’s episode first. So I turned it off and had an hour free.
Marie
for every day that I succeed in leaving the junk alone.
I can't have potato chips in the house or I'm like a maniac. They are my crack cocaine. The only way I'll bring them in the house is if we are having a large group of people who will eat them or occasionally I'll buy DH and myself each a small personal sized bag. I can't even buy a box or bag of the small sized chips to dole out because I'll sit down and open every bag and eat them all in one sitting. So clear out the cake and cookies and only bring them in the house when you know they will be eaten by more than you.
) 
Hello
that you’ll pray for rain while on vacation so you can listen to the rain on a tin roof. I love listening to the rain on a regular roof but I’d hate it on a tin roof. And my DH also would rather learn a whole new trade than pay anybody to fix anything. If he doesn’t know how to fix something, he will learn it.
