Had a really rough afternoon today. I received an anniversary card from my former father-in-law. Last week would have been my 26th wedding anniversary, and he's never missed sending an anniversary card since I married his son.
It was pretty heart breaking to see that he hasn't been told about the divorce. We've been emailing this week as I'm making plans for my oldest's high school graduation. I suspected he didn't know anything when he started talking like this was going to be a great opportunity for a family reunion, something he really loves.
I've been crying off and on all afternoon. It was all I could do to keep myself from hitting the drive-thru for a little fast-food therapy, but I did manage to make it home with the boys after taekwando and I ate a healthy dinner. I'm going to check-out with some TV and then I hope I can go to sleep. I wish this wan't affecting me so deeply, but I am hurting for the moment when my former father-in-law is going to find out. He's a dear man and I'll always love him.
Oh, Georgia, that IS one of the downsides of ending relationships. Your ex sounds like a real "man", y'know? Couldn't even be honest with his own father. Not that it doesn't fit the behavioral pattern. They don't just start the lying with you - it's something they learned early on as a way not to have to deal with the unpleasant situations that they've created. You may be a little too raw still to hear this, but you are well rid of that man, and will eventually be happy that things worked out the way they did. There's nothing to prevent you from continuing to have a relationship with your father-in-law, and naturally he will still see his grandchildren just as often as he always did. Your EX is odd man out, not you, m'dear. And one more thing - your father-in-law is likely to be far more resilient than you give him credit for. You don't live to be old like he is without knowing that life is unpredictable and always changing; nothing stays the way it is forever, and we wouldn't want it to. In the meantime, I'm sending along a nig hug, as well.
Hey, PT, it's pouring out here! Danged weather can't make up its mind, either! Hope it's nice and sunny in Denver. (I know it's nice and sunny SOMEWHERE....)
Gotta run...I'm getting a late start this AM. BBL.
Z
Good Morning! Hugs from me too Georgia, good advice from Zoe...Your FIL sounds very nice. The question I had about Windows 7 was answered yesterday when I called my tech guy, he said it had too many bugs in it yet and to stay with my Vista. I only had a couple of bugs in my Vista when I first purchased it and not had any problems since. The only reason I was thinking of updating was because of the "No Crash" feature on it. My tech guy just laughed when I told him that. I guess the old says, "If its not broke, don't fix it" Hey Rosie...how's the exercising going? And the adkins plan? I can't remember but is this the plan you get to eat real bacon? Ah, real bacon, yummy. Freda...I find it too hard to exercise after supper, I'm just too tired and 10 minutes on the stepper seems like forever. The last stepper I purchased is sooooooo hard to push down, my knee hurts if I use it more than that. I do it only 2-3 times a week, the Lesie walking tapes work the best for me. I wish she had a daily program on tv to use so the walk doesn't get so repetitious.
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I know I will. My leg still hurts at night after I walk, but it does anyway, so I might as well walk!
Jess...wouldn't that be fun to all meet each other in person? Trouble with me is I'm such a home body and don't like straying too far from home. I've worked since the day I turned 16 and retirement was a long time in coming, now I'm so content to stay out here in the country and do whatever I feel like.
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I think it would be such fun to meet! Hey, come one, come all... and you'd all LOVE that salad!!
Lynn...sorry to hear about your knee, I figured that was why you weren't jumping into the challenge with your usual vigor.
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Cold and rainy here in FL. Having a nice time with my cousins. Knee is still achey.
Isabella...I purchased a laptop computer a couple of years ago, tried it once and put it back into the box. I was lost without the mouse, hated using my finger and the screen was so tiny. Hated it! My grandson crashed his computer so I gave it to him, he managed to crash that one too. These kids, what's with that? DD said she wasn't going to buy him another one unless he paid for some of it himself, which he did. (Maybe he'll take better care of it) Zoe...I did get right back to calorie counting and back to pre-Sunday's weight. I'm at the point where I'd feel uneasy and guilty if I carried the Sunday's junk food day over to Monday. Maybe it would help you if you just stopped and thought of the months and months of careful food planning and exercise to get where you're at now Zoe, it should make you think twice about continuing with bad choices. You really don't have that much more to lose do you? Time to get my booty shaking, you all have a great day. P.S. Karen, where are you? Get shaking, post your exericse, calories, whatever you're doing. You said you'd try to post them on Lynn's challenge, please try harder.Gayle has just joined us, Hi Gayle.
I'm not sure what it's supposed to do today, weather wise. And it looks like it doesn't know either. It rained yesterday, so it's damp and cool out still, but looks like the sun is trying to peak out. I'm rooting for the sun.
Lynn, glad to hear that you're having a good time.
Georgia, from me too. Puts you in a bad situtation. When is your husband (ex) going to tell his dad, on the day of the party. Like, surprise dad....I agree with Z, there is no reason you can't still have a wonderful relationship with him. You are the mother of his grandchildren. And by the way, you sound very "teckie" to me.
Gotta run, lots to do, but I'll check back later in the day.
Bobbie, we were posting at the same time. I don't do a lot of things with the computer either, I just heard that "7" was so much easier. And I wasn't walking at night. I walked at noon and my leg still hurts at night. I had no idea it took this long to totally heal. Chandler mentioned yesterday that his wrist still hurt a times too and he didn't have the same range of motion that he had. Just time, I think, will take care of it. I think Leslie has more than one walking tape. Check at the local library.
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Bobbi and Isabella, you two make me tired! What with your cooking and your exercising and all the other stuff you do, you just wear me out! I'm so amazed at your energy levels! I'm more of a "pace thyself" type, I guess!
PT, what you say is true, but those pictures ARE perfect! I love seeing them.
Rosey, how are you getting along? Lynn, be kind to the knee... and your eyes?? Are they okay?
Status quo here. No complaints again, still, or yet... Be warm and safe, everyone.
After I posted, I noticed I'd missed an entire page of postings! Georgia, my heart goes out to you... I know you don't want to hear more, but I think a lot of us could tell you that this, too, will pass and will get better. And maybe it'll be easier on your FIL to hear the news from someone who actually cares about him? PT, I admire your courage in taking the plunge again; I don't know if I could ever open myself up again. I remember Georgia's pain far too well.
Anyway, Rosey, glad to see your emoticons, hope you're doing okay!
Hi there gals. I'm taking it a bit easier today. Stayed in bed longer so that shortened the day. The sun is shining gloriously today but we've been promised a Spring storm tomorrow and that doesn't mean rain. It's the other stuff that will fall down on my head when I'm out walking tomorrow.
Zoe and Donna, I'm really not that energetic. If you wrote down everything you do in a day you'd probably outdo me.
Georgia, I have never experienced what you are going through but your pain is very obvious. I'm so sorry you have to have this happen to you. Your FIL sounds like a great man and a loving grandfather and I'm sure although he'll be shocked he'll still love you too.
Bobbi, I love my laptop, just not this tiny little notebook. It took a while to get used to the built in mouse but now it's just second nature. Friday I'll have my full sized laptop.
Lynn, hope your knee is not acting up today and that you are having a blast.
Hi everyone..im here..sore and hungry but sticking to it..my dh is exercising and eating the same as me so it helps tremendously..im exercising i hr in the morning and i hr in the evening..it includes walking,marching in palce in my walker,arm strength workouts with weights and bands,modifieds situps and stretching..the diet is mostly protien,im allowed 30grm of carbs aday,green vegies, etc..i find it hard to give up the carbs.. i ordered the newest atkins diet book and cookbook hoping it can help me..i just keep my eye on the prize..so far so good..its a sunny day here and i can see our deck snow free..maybe spring is coming.. i need to start setting up all the medical tests that need to be done..was waiting for payday as we live on ss and must budget things..its always money isnt it..anyways im feeling good about my agenda..talk soon rosey
Georgia- keeping your pain real will help heal in the long run. Congratulations on not stuffing your emotions with food. It seems that the above ladies are right on target with their words of comfort. I add a big
((((Georgia)))) hug to from FL
today was very frustrating. I had intended to finish up some dental work, but my poor old Corsica's engine was giving off burning rubber smells. I had it towed, and my favorite mechanic can not find the problem, yet. So I am without a car, and "Guido" as I have named the car, is on another sleep over.
I have not walked for the last two days. Not sure why, but will do some serious thinking about this as well as some heavy brush whacking in the garden tomorrow.
Morning, all. Bobbi, yep, you’re right on target, lady. I have no plans to go back to where I started (unless we’re talking high school and college; I was a twig, then, and wouldn’t mind having that old capacity to eat whatever I wanted and never gain an ounce!) But for now, I’m forging ahead, eating OP (which actually is beginning to feel like a lifetime commitment) and looking to lose this last bit of weight and then keep it off for good. I looked at a picture of myself taken with one of the little twinnies last Sunday, and there’s simply no denying that I am getting old(er). I can’t do much about that beyond accepting that it’s true. What I can control, though, is the shape I end up in, and I’d like to keep it healthy for as long as possible. This of course is a real challenge – just when I seem to have gotten my eating on an even keel, they come out with studies saying that you can LOSE weight when you’re….ahem…older, but you can’t MAINTAIN the loss without 60 minutes of exercise per day. This, as you can imagine, did not come as GOOD news to yours truly. Okay, yes, I’m going to get back to some bike riding once we have some consistently decent weather, but an hour a day, every day? Blah!
Oh Lord, Freda, you’re right about Leslie and the walking tapes. She must have a million out there. I’v only ever used the one, of course, because it’s just one mile, and for me, that’s a super-dooper accomplishment. But Bobbi’s right. The same one over and over does tend to get tedious. PT, believe me, “taking the plunge again” was not done without considerable trepidation and gnashing of teeth on my part. There were several times when I was close to calling the plans off – not because of anything DH had done, but simply because I wasn’t sure I wanted to give up my “come and go as I please” lifestyle. Luckily, being married hasn’t interfered with that very much in the long run, so all is well. And, being with (this) DH is like living in a totally different world than the one I was in when married to the ex. All’s well that ends well. Isabella, you are too kind. NO, what I do every day certainly doesn’t add up to your levels of activity and exercise. I admire you, girlfriend. And I’m well aware of my own (self-imposed) limitations.
Good going, Rosey!
Onward and downward, Coralee.
Hope today’s a better day for you, Georgia.
I got my exercise in yesterday, did my weights, ate well. took a bike ride with my DGD. I don't think "exercise" had to be the traditional exercise we consider exercise. Movement that we aren't used to doing counts. Like a bike ride, and playing soccer, and helping DGS practice baseball. it all counts. Just moving more.
Z, so I have to agree that we do have to move more. I think as we get older we just tend to get less active. And some formal exercise is a must. But taking the kiddies to the park and playing with them counts too. And bike riding. Got that bike out yet, or is it still too cold there?
Isabella, Did you get "that other stuff"? we are supposed to get rain today. I can only hope that they are wrong.
ChickPanda, good to see you here again. I hope "Guido" isn't too expensive to repair, and he's back home with you soon.
Rosey, It's good to see you so determined and doing so well.
Donna, How did the hair cut go?
Georgia, Hope you are doing well. Just know we are thinking of you.
Bobbi, I go over my calorie count some days too. I think we all do. The secret is to start right back. We're not perfect, just comitted!
Karen, where are you? Miss seeing you here.
Lynn, I know you're having too much fun to check in evey day, but you are missed. Hope you're having a great time!
Gayle, Hey girl. No excuse now that you're just working weekends. How are you?
Today is the first day knee is not throbbing. Yesterday we went to an old-fashioned drug store & I got some yucca tea. This morning I made a cup & so far, no knee aches! Wouldn't that be funny if it actually worked!
Beautiful day yesterday and today. We leave tomorrow for home. Probably be home on Saturday. I can get back to my regular routine of exercise and my regular way of eating! I am an ABSOLUTE failure at sticking to the program when on vacation!
These kids, what's with that? DD said she wasn't going to buy him another one unless he paid for some of it himself, which he did. (Maybe he'll take better care of it)
"HI" to everyone else today.
