Have just joined and am really looking forward to getting some great tips on weight loss. :dizzy:

I'm afraid that no matter how much weight I lose, I'll always look in the mirror and think FAT. And I don't want to live the rest of my life that way.

I'm constantly worried about how I look compared to other women, especially if my husband is around. It's stupid--we've been married for 10 years and have 3 kids together--but I'm still afraid he'll look at me and think, "I wish my wife looked like HER."

* I hope that by losing weight my brother will stop tormenting me. He has called me names and beat me up a lot since I was little (always been chubby and he has always been fit and active). I think I have suffered psychologically from his abuse and it just made me eat more and get fatter.

* I hope that by losing weight I will "cure" my PCOS and actually have a period. I'd love to be able to have children naturally.

My confession: I lie to my parents/family whenever they call me up to inquire about my eating habits and weight loss habits. They always ask if I've lost any weight, if I've been to the gym that day, and if I'm eating "good" foods instead of "bad" foods.

I feel like (okay, I KNOW) that I'm not doing enough when it comes to truely cleaning up my diet and exercising more. I don't have the heart to tell my parents that I'm not doing as much as I can because I hate the fact that I'm letting them down by not being a "pretty daughter".

I write a reply to this thread sometimes, but never hit post

Confession: I really want to lose weight just because I will be lighter than my boyfriends ex. Even though he has no feelings for her I still want to be better than her at everything.

*I am doing it for me though too. I think of looking better than her as an *added bonus*

I have a lot of anxiety. Esp performance anxiety at work, which combined with low self esteem, makes me a very emotionally vulnerable person.

I like to eat by myself, partially because I just like having me time, and cause I like to eat messy and because my food is so strange sometimes because I try out new things to eat as low cal but high volume as possible. I used to get comments on how healthy my food was and I find it hard to enjoy food when I do, whether I say something or ignore it.

I am trying to think about the positives, and accepting that every situation has its ups and downs. I get stressed out at work, but I remember what it was like to be jobless. I am unhappy with my slow progress but then I remember that this is the closest that I have been to goal.

I avoided mirrors for a few months at my heaviest. But I am curious to see what I looked like now.

Even after I lose weight, I don't think that I will dress that much nicer in general, but when I go out (which is like never now) I will put in effort-thats about the only difference. Nice clothes, hair and makeup make me feel uncomfortable and fidgety.

Being born with a pretty face always felt more like a burden than anything else, like it was extra bad that I was fat because if I COULD be super pretty than I was wasting my face. I also felt at odds with this pressure because I was pretty in asian standards but at school I was made fun of for that. So I was always really back and forth on how I look, but I guess its all based on social context.

I think that I am paranoid about "sabatogue" and negativity in general because I am unsure of my own strength and ability to maintain my self esteem.

No romantic experience. Ever. I think that I could try and put in some effort, but weight loss takes up so much time and its such a big imp part of my life that I don't care to share yet-esp not with a stranger, that I am not bothering for now.

These are amazing. Thanks all for sharing.

- I am afraid that life is passing me by while I wait for it to start.
- I hate that "starting my life" means "being thin" to me.
- I am afraid that nothing will ever give me as much pleasure as a bag of chips and a container of queso has.
- I am ashamed to be overweight, and I am ashamed to tell people that my goal is to lose weight.
- I am afraid to go on dates because of my weight, and I am afraid that I won't find anyone when I am thin.
- I have been in denial about how I look, how much I move, and how much I eat for such a long time.

Thank you everyone for sharing. So many of these confessions echo my own thoughts, its scary.

I too, had a tumultuous (for lack of a better term) relationship with my brother growing up, and I think my relationship with him somewhat set the tone for my relationship with men and my self esteem.

Knowing that now, I have to stop myself from being discouraged because I don't see the progress that I've made, I'm scared that I will become obsessive about losing weight.

Its startling to think my last relationship was 10 years ago, and I wasn't happy then. I don't like opening up to people. I fear that will not change when I lose weight.

Scared to think that even if I reach my goal weight, I won't find someone to spend my life with, and therefore will have lost my chance at having children.

I'm angry that I let what someone else thought of me control me to the point of hiding food, binging, and all that began this nasty cycle. It feels weak to think I wasn't strong enough at the time to stand up for me.

I feel like I missed so much of my life by hiding behind my weight, and I wonder daily at how my life would've been different if instead of eating, I'd expressed my feelings differently.

I looked at "skinny" women I knew and reasoned that if I had to be as crazy as they were in order to be skinny, I'd rather be fat and happy. You can be fat and satisfied, but you're never fat and happy.

I'm scared that a year from now, I will have gotten within inches of my goal, and I will go spiraling out of control, and this will all be for naught.

I just once want to draw someone's eye by walking by. Just once.

I confess that I was reading this thread when it started and I just reread the first 10 pages.
I am terrified that I will not be part of the small percentage that meet their goal weight. I'm hoping that the people with abandoned tickers and no posts since 2010 are weight loss successes, just on another forum but statistically I know it's not true.

I confess that I used work as an excuse to make horrible choices and gained back 20 (that's about 50%) of my initial weight loss.

I confess that now that I'm not working I can't seem to get my head back in the game.

I confess I often wish my boyfriend was harder on me when it comes to pushing myself with fitness, but I understand his position and I'd rather have his affection and care rather than a personal drill sergeant.

I confess that even worse than the weight gain was the loss of all tone on my body from sitting in a chair for 11 hours a day 4 days a week. My stomach and thighs disgust me.

I confess that I´m afraid I´ll never be able to lose these last 20 pounds. It´s been 6 years and they´re still here... I always wonder what I´m so afraid of?

I confess that because of my weight sometimes I think I´m not good enough for my boyfriend

I confess that sometimes the exercise of not hiding behind my weight is overwhelming and I get tired of it

I also confess that despite all that, I love that I´ve come this far... I love seeing the change in me, and the life I have now. I love that although sometimes is more painful, I´m not in denial anymore...

I am so thankfull to have this forum- for years i have felt alone in this battle and although i have no lack of great friends and family, i never felt like i could talk to anyone about my weight struggles. hearing your confessions is so therapeutic for me-

I confess that I have not had motivation to lose weight for 4 years even though i know that i should

I have not printed my wedding photos because i am not happy with how i looked in them. i did look stylish and cute but since i was not the size 2 bride in the magazines i do not want to face the photos.

i avoided having full length mirrors in my house for years.

sometimes i think i look nice in the mirror but then i will see a picture of myself from that day and i look gross- then i wonder, am i delusional when i look in the mirror?

i cannot wait for the day when my thighs don't touch- i think i will throw myself a party!

i think my best friend is happy that she is skinny and i am not.

i avoid having sex with my husband because i am embarrased. i wish i could talk to him about my weight concerns but feel that he just won't get it since he has never had a weight problem.


I kind of resent my mother for not setting a better example for us. She practically starved hereslf to be thin when we were kids then freaked out, left us and gained over 100 lbs. now she consistently eats way way way too much with no regard for her weight. when i talk to her about wanting to lose weight she says eat nothing but chicken and salad. that is the worst advice in the world as far as i am concerned but i don't get mad because i know she has an unhealthy relationship with food herself. whew i didn't even intend to write that but it feels good.

i loved being pregnant because for once it was socially ok to be overweight.

a year and a half ago i quit smoking- why was that so much easier than losing weight? you would think it would be the opposite...

i have so much more but think i wil stop here for now... feel much better :)

I'm one of the few people who have lost and not gained weight since high school, and I am proud of this (I was 195 when I graduated)...

I sometimes get nervous if I'm buying fast food at a food court or chocolate from the store...I feel like people are watching me thinking "so that's why she's overweight"

I took up smoking at one point to try and keep myself from overeating...it worked...but I stopped about a year ago.

Weightloss gods, forgive me for I have sinned... This confession is long over due.

-I'm OP because I want my ex to eat his heart out when I'm better looking than the girl he "didn't leave me for" (the one he was with two weeks later... who just happens to be NINE years younger than me...)

-I've stayed home, not due to lack of money but because the only things I could think of doing involved food and I was nearly out of calories.

-I think about quitting while I'm ahead... I'm afraid of what my stomach and thighs are going to look like at goal.. I've been overweight since grade school... I already have crepy skin and stretch marks...

-I weigh every single day. If I forget, it messes with my head.

-I didn't want to go out for my birthday because I knew it would set me back by at least a week.

- I play it really cool about the weight I've lost, but I'm secretly dying for people to notice and comment

SOMETIMES I JUST WANT TO GO TO TACO BELL AND ORDER A DOUBLE DECKER WITH A LARGE SODA AND SAY SCREW YOU.

Sometimes, I want to post my picture to get opinions on how I am doing but, I am afraid.

When I get depressed I stop eating even though I am hungry.

I have stopped drinking soda, eating sweets and fast food and my belly is still there. I have worked my butt off and nothing seems to be working quite like I want it to and it ticks me off lol

I get confused when people say you have to burn more than your calorie intake...but then it says to lose weight my calorie intake needs to be 2100 calories..OMG how am I going to burn that much in a work out when I work 2 jobs and only have an hour to work out most days.