Phew! Well it wasn't as bad as I thought. She seemed ok and kept the conversation light. She even gave me some space. I could actually breathe. Maybe this was for the better. I'm glad it went ok though. I didn't want it to be uncomfortable for either one of us. Just needed her to let up. Hopefully she stay like this and not fall back into old habits. So yes, I did get back on track today. I'll get on the scale tomorrow and hopefully won't have done too much damage.
How was everyone elses day? Any plans for Easter. All my relatives live out of state, so it's usually quiet around here on holidays, which actually is nice. We make phone calls and then have a no pressure meal and relax. Sweats and a T-shirt.
Donna, I am also very relieved that it wasn't awful for you! I HOPE she continues to give you space, and not bug you!
Our Easter plans - we used to go to my Mom's house (about 1/2 hour from here); my older brother lives with her; so it's them, my husband and our two boys; my 1/2 brother and his fiance; my sister, and our cousin. Now that my sis has a large farmhouse (just her and her cat rattle around in it ) she has family gatherings there. Which is nice for the space, but my sister is terrible at organization and planning. If she is making scalloped potatoes, she won't even have enough potatoes on hand, and she starts to make them AFTER we get there. So dinner is always two hours later than planned. She also will forget about things like providing drinks (especially sugar-free, diet drinks) so we always have a 2-liter of Diet Coke handy
I'm always responsible for bringing dessert. I usually bring something fruity and then something chocolately. Last year was lemon tarts with fresh strawberries and a chocolate cake. This year will be lemon bars and maybe some decorated sugar cookies.
I married a former Catholic, but he's even more irreverent about religion than I am, unbaptized sinner that I am I will get our boys just a couple of small chocolates, that's it for the candy! If it's in the house, I WILL eat it, so it's a matter of just keeping it out of the house!
We had some nice sun today, but the air temp just didn't get over 42 or so.
Yesterday, I picked up my bike from the shop...to pass inspection, it needed front brake pads and a new front tire. But now it's inspected, has had a pre-season check-up, new front shoe and it, at least, is ready for our road trip!
You did the right thing! I too worked in several offices with a lot of women, fortunatly none were my supervisor, but had the same kind of problems. You have to be just as your were, professional, firm, and remind her others exist in the world. Doesn't sound like she has any friends outside of work or she would have gotten all of that off her chest, but like you say, she may be a chronic winer, sorry her problems caused you to go off for a while, but that is behind you and now you made a new start! Move on past it, and remember this.
When you look back at this 6 months or a year from now, will it matter? If not, furgetaboutit!
Hi Maggie,
You are so right. I won't matter 6mos from now. And you were right about no friends. She has no female friends. None! It's unbelievable. She's quite the odd cookie, but this wonderful world of ours is made up of so many people, I can't believe she has no friends. She has actually told me before I started 5 yrs ago, she never really spoke with anyone other than business. She's been there 13 years! I felt so bad, I couldn't help but form a relationship. I put up with this hoping it would help but when she started interacting with others they were able to keep there distance and told me straight out they can only take her in small doses. It's really kind of sad. But I had to do what I had to do. It was her or me. I didn't feel guilty. It had to be done. I just felt bad for hurting her feelings. But it probably won't matter to her in 6 mos either. So I'm over and will ramble no longer about it. Thanks
Holly, Maybe everyone should use your sisters for the space but every bring the sides and beverages and just leave the main entree to her. But as long as you all enjoy your time together that's all that really matters.
Aunt Flo is due for a visit tues and is hasseling me already. Can't sleep, back hurts I'm swollen. I know she's a part of life, but I really wouldn't hate to see her go away and never come back. But my luck her sister the "hor- Mona" would still be around causing trouble. But I told the dh we were going to the Outback for Easter dinner and he's just fine with that. The guys in the house know, when Aunt Flo is coming, I take on extra strength and personalities and they just "Sure Hon" and "ok Mom" me to death. Bless there souls. If not I kill them
Well, I hope everyone has a wonderful Easter and enjoys whatever it is you do. ttyl
... The guys in the house know, when Aunt Flo is coming, I take on extra strength and personalities and they just "Sure Hon" and "ok Mom" me to death. Bless there souls. If not I kill them
DonnaD, again, I think we would have fun in person together!
I would love to buddy up, I am 39 years old have a 7 yr old son and a 8 month old daughter and I too am struggling trying to lose my weight. Everyone said breastfeeding would help, not for me in fact I gained 10lbs since having her. I joined Jenny Craig and start on Wednesday, I lost 30lbs after my son and it's a no brainer. I have struggled with food all of my life highest being 304 and losest being an unhealthy 98lbs, I am back up to 210 and want to get back to 185 before seting my next goal, I have to think small otherwise it is overwelming.
I am in a constant state of depression cuz nothing seems to be working for me, any help would really be appreciated. All of the ladies who have posted regarding your message should be proud they are all doing great.
Anyway if you want to buddy, I would love to have a friend to diet with.
Let me know and God Bless
You got the good attidude going now. I have learned, the hard way, that you can't help your co-workers personal lives and you can't change their attidudes. They have probably had them since childhood. I think I would have done the same thing about forming a relationship with her, because I too would have felt sorry for her. Lucky for her though, cause I would have interjected some of my mouth earlier, in as tactful a manner as I could, but she would have heard from me!
I was laughing when you started talking about your Aunt, got a couple of those too! The blank, blank, .... Aunt Helen is the worst. Been a pain all my life, lives to stir up trouble in the family and get folks against each other. My mom, now deceased, loved her though so I play nice when I can, but don't get too involved. Have others that I love dearly though even though they can be such a pain too! Very demaning for attention and gets worse as they have gotten older. Keep up the good work girl!
Well you have come to the right place, this group will help you stay focused and on track, try and check in everyday for the instant feedback and morale support. Remember you can do it! Stay healthy with your goals, time frame, and eating and all will go well, maybe slowly but remember the healthy way is more important than the speed of loss. I try and look on each day, week, month as a on-the-job training plan for the rest of my life. I want to get it off, but more importantly I want to keep it off.
Hi everyone,
I'm sitting here attempting to get my mind off of food. It's 4pm and I have to wait until atleast 5:30 to eat my dinner or I'll be starving all night. It's only my 2nd day dieting and I'm already beginning to break down. I feel so discouraged. I think I'll drink some water to fill myself. It is always hard for me to keep up good eating habbits on the weekends. Atleast during the week I'm so busy that I don't have time to think about food. Any suggestions for getting over the first week of dieting without getting off track.
Welcome kaliu2fan and sassysweet25! It sure helped me, in my plan, to come to 3FC for support, sympathy, and the occasional kick in the pants Sassysweet, I totally understand...good for you to try to fill up with water. Can you distract yourself with an activity, either something fun with your hands like knitting, scrapbooking, or a chore that needs to be done, like tackling a messy closet...? or outside work, gardening? even just getting the vacuum cleaner out. sometimes we just need a 10 minute distraction to help us STOP thinking about snacking. Good luck to you!
Husband and I had a NICE ride on the 'cycles today, went to Queechee Gorge, in southern Vt. It was in the low 60's here, but mostly overcast. Still nice to be out of the 30's and 40's!
MY distraction, as I talked above, is the motorcycling. It works also, in that when I'm not on the bike, I'm thinking about what I can do to improve, which is increase muscle mass. And I ride better when I'm not full of food, so I can't recommend it for everyone, but it's working for me!
Yeah the forum is back up, I missed you guys while I was on vacation, can't read to hear how you guys have been doing. I lost 1.5 lbs while vacation. worried alot about that before we left and really didn't want to go more than I want to lose this weight, but I succeeded in going on vacation and staying on diet, big shocker! The vacation was great got sooooo relaxed and actually started sleeping to a decent hour.
Maggi, wow, you LOST weight on vacation! Good for you!
How is everyone else doing?
I've had some bad eating days in the past week, but the past two days I've been too distracted to eat much 'cause of my COUNTDOWNS...only two more days of the winter job I've griped about....and then...next Wednesday, we leave for our motorcycle road trip! Myrtle Beach, here we come!!!
I'm a little nervous about the riding in the more populated areas, as I am used to country riding. But I did it last year to St. Louis; I can do it again.
I have lots of things to do in the next week, but I'll try to pop in often!
Holly, you must be so excited about the trip. I've never been to Mytle Beach.
I am sure you will be fine with the riding. How long have you been at it? I never even asked what your're riding. How many miles a day are you guys planning on doing a day? I look forward to hearing about when you guys get back.
Well, I must admit I am suprised at how well I've been doing with the exercise. I've been doing a 45 min WATP video or going out and walking 45 min in the morning 6 days a week and then I've been going to the gym and working out on the weight machine curcuit or going for another 45 min walk in the afternoon about 5 days a week. I'm down about 9 lbs since Easter It was 10 yesterday, but I can't stay away from the scale. My eating has been good, I don't know why I went up. Maybe too many salty selections. But have not picked or had any chips or cookies or cake and when I crave it I do something to take my mind off it. I'm getting nervous that I won't be able to keep it up or that if the scale goes up again that I'll freak and binge. Its not time for Aunt Flow, so it's not that. I don't believe the weights I am using are heavy enough to cause and increased muscle. I am just hoping to tone a little while I lose. I am going to try to stay off the scale for a couple of days. I don't know why that is so hard for me. scale
Well, this has been a long week at work. I am being trained to underwrite and it's something I've never done before. I hate not knowing what I'm doing. And of course my other work is still there and waiting for me when I get out of training, so it's been a little stressful. I'm trying not to freak. I can do this. I just think I should learn overnite and I'm afraid they will think I'm not picking it up fast enough. Thank God I'm exercising. This would normally sent me into such a binge. But I actually think about how hard I work before I eat.
Well sorry I rambled on about my issues for so long. I hope everyone has a great thursday. Yeah, the weekend is almost here.
Hope everyone is well, ttyl
hi everyone! you girls won't mind if i join right in? i hope so this seems a very active and happy thread, with fun stories and posts that sure inspire anyone who reads them. including me. i've been visiting 3fatchicks for sometime now, but haven't had much time the past month. i've also kinda got sidetracked on the losing weight department, due mainly to workload.
anyway, i am 22 and have always been a big girl. i've never really been depressed about being overweight, and i am quite proud of myself for that. but, i know i don't have to stay overweight, and that if i truly really love myself, that i should make healthier choices. for one, i had hormone problems about two to three years ago. my cycle has just never been normal since then. and since i really do want to have kids sometime in the future, i know that to lose weight is something i must do way before planning a pregnancy.
i also do not like how i look in photographs, so HUGE!
and most of all, it is so hard to buy big clothes where i live. there are not so many stores who sell plus size clothes, and those who have are either too expensive for me, or not for my age range.
so, since january, i have been more active and i do eat less. for a time, i even went without softdrinks, that was really hard for me to do. i even took up a sport or two. but the past 3 weeks or so have been quite busy at work, and though it's really no excuse, i have neglected tennis and swimming. and then yesterday, i had "too much" soda: a large coke at lunch, and a regular mountain dew at dinner. there was even sundae in between.
so i've decided once again to get back on track. to eat right, and to choose foods without GMOs for at least a period of two weeks (and then i'll see after that). and to exercise everyday, with a choice whether to walk, play tennis, or swim laps.
i am looking forward to finding inspiration from all of you just from reading all your posts. ooohh, and biking is something i really enjoyed growing up, i just might add that to my list. too bad i can't bike to work though, too much pollution in the air. anyway, thanks for the opportunity to post and to be read!
Hello Everyone! I'm a newbie. This thread is so happy and uplifting I dont really want to depress anyone, but here I go. I'm a 25 yr old mother of 2. I've always been skinny..that is until I had kids. With my son I was 150 so I only had to lose 20 pounds. I say "only" like it's easy, but It was THAT time. After I had my daughter I was 185. WHOA!! I lost 25 pounds in about 7 months and then I gained it back. I was exercising 4 times a week at the YMCA but eating all the wrong things. Now I've lost 15 pounds again... but I've been having **** keeping it off. Everyone says Eat healthy and exercise and you'll lose weight... yeah right. I've cut down to 1200-1500 calories exercise once or twice a day, low fat, low sugar, wheat bread. I almost killed myself and all i lost was 15 pounds in two months. I thought I was looking good until I saw a picture of myself and wanted to cry. This 165 pounds looks much fatter than the last one. For the last two weeks I've resorted to being very depressed, not exercising and (i'm very ashamed to say) bingeing on chips and donuts and taking a laxative to get it out. I'm on the verge of an eating disorder. I know better than that but I dont know what to do.... Some one help me, if you have any tips on any extra things I can do to lose weight, please reply.. Thanks for hearing my problems.
tomorrow and hopefully won't have done too much damage. 
) she has family gatherings there. Which is nice for the space, but my sister is terrible at organization and planning. If she is making scalloped potatoes, she won't even have enough potatoes on hand, and she starts to make them AFTER we get there. So dinner is always two hours later than planned. She also will forget about things like providing drinks (especially sugar-free, diet drinks) so we always have a 2-liter of Diet Coke handy 
and it, at least, is ready for our road trip! 
I think we would have fun in person together! 
this seems a very active and happy thread, with fun stories and posts that sure inspire anyone who reads them. including me. i've been visiting 3fatchicks for sometime now, but haven't had much time the past month. i've also kinda got sidetracked on the losing weight department, due mainly to workload.
