Oh just give me the peanut butter and I'll eat it for you ...NOT...but boy is that tempting...Susan...No NO NO put it away now....
Yesterdays deficit was only 484...I had to work over 2 hours and when i got home I was way to tired to workout but today should be really high cause I'm going to the gym tonight and I'm going to cut the grass and do some yard work today too..
No deficit yesterday..went over bigtime...[darn pms]...back on track today and looking at a probably great deficit today. I did 30 mins on the treadmill, some weights, a ton of crunches, massive housecleaning! yeah!
I am fighting the urge to binge today too. For me, I am definatly an emotional eater and when I'm depressed or upset, I tend to eat...especially sweets. My dh has been doing so good sticking to his diet...or so I thought. He goes way over every weekend...then I find out today, he hit up our savings account twice last week to get fast food. I"ve already taken away his credit cards as he charged up almost $200 in fast food over the past 3-4 months...I try not to give him much cash either. HE just has his debit card for gas in his card and anything of importance he may need while he's out. He apologizes everytime and tells me that it won't happen again..but it always does. The man is 27 years old and 338lbs....He has 2 small children...Don't you think that his family would matter enough to him to do something about his weight before it becomes a health issue? I worry about him constantly....I worry that he won't be able to interact with his kids the way he desires..and worst of all, I worry that he's going to eat himself into an early grave. I am so upset at him because it's obviously an addiction that he needs help with, but he won't do anything about it. I'm just so frustrated and stressed out. I feel like his food is more important to him than me and the kids...or he would change his lifestyle..or at least make a concerted effort to. Our sex life sucks because he's so fat and it's definatly not a turn on...I don't know what to do.
I'm sorry to burden you ladies with all this..I just need someone to talk to. I find that coming here keeps me away from food and it's nice to have some support. Any advice on what I should do? Should I just sit by and say nothing and let him do as he pleases? Am I just seriously overeacting??
aww Angie, I don't know what to say. I think you are in the right though. You are worried about his health and it is obvious he has a problem here. It is definitely one thing to overeat and binge, but he needs to come to terms with his need to sneak out and buy all this stuff when it is both unhealthy AND expensive. I don't know what you could do though, maybe just really talk to him...but men don't always get it with conversations. Maybe some kind of example, some show you could show him or something. However, don't be too hard on him or he will turn to eating. He needs you for his support so that he doesn't feel the need to eat and policing him hasn't worked so far and it probably won't work in the future. It is something he needs to realize for himself, but there must be some way you can show him without destroying his self confidence. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
Angie ... it's so hard to watch someone we love make hazardous mistakes. Please know that you can vent here any time. We'll listen. We'll hope and pray that he learns better habits from the fine example of the woman who loves him.
So yesterday .... I did my weights and I rowed and then got called to work. I do have a fancy deficit, 962 cals, but my legs and hips are weary!
Good afternoon, everyone! It's Wednesday, hump-day! Yay!
I struggled to squeak out a 1,000 deficit yesterday (1,047, whew!)... had to do an extra ten minutes on the treadmill (and re-do calorie counts on two new foods) to balance out calories in. Added benefit, I also managed to squeak out my 10K steps because of the added treaddy time, so it's all good!
Good grief, Donna, you were a dynamo yesterday! Can you package up some of that energy? I could use a bit!
Susan, I'm so impressed that you can have such wonderful deficits so close to goal! That shows true discipline! When (if? no, when) I get close to goal, I wonder if I'll be able to do that!
Good for you, Angie, for channelling your energy into a deficit rather than a food-fest! Good job, dear! Hooray for size 12 jeans!
I think what you said is so true, Miles, "It is something he needs to realize for himself". We all have to (had to) come to this ourselves.
Are we missing a few folks? I hope they're just busy and haven't just gone away...
Have a great one, folks!
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Well... I have posted a few messages around ..but would love to join you gals.. I have been calorie counting since beginning of February and I really love it. I think that I have a deficit of 981. Do you just take the calories that it takes to maintain your weight, and subtract exercise and foods? I am eating about 1700 calories per day and I have been exercising 30 min per day on my treadmill. I am at 245 right now and would like to get to 175..(Onderland!! ya know) . I really want to thank you gals for all of the ideas and motivation ..It's Fabulous!! Down 8 lbs so far!!
BlynC, welcome aboard!!! Glad to have you here! 8 pounds down so far -- you're doing great!
As far as calculating deficits, I just let FitdayPC do it. Lots of us use computer food journals, either Fitday or Nutridiary or the like. It calculates my daily caloric need (you know, to breathe and walk around and do typically daily life stuff). I add to that any extracurricular activities I might do in a day (exercise, etc). Then I try to stay 1,000 calories under that number (that's the deficit).
I cut myself slack on weekends. My activites are typically lower, so I just try to hit a 400 calorie deficit on Saturdays and Sundays.
The online versions of Nutridiary and Fitday are free, by the way.
Again, so glad you're here and keep up the good work! You're doing swell!
Susan - nice deficit! How's that exercise feeling? I have to admit I took 2 (and a half really) days off from it over the weekend and I really feel suddenly lazy and sluggish from the lack of it.
Donna - Wow! That's like 7 hours. I'll bet it feels great, at least mentally, what an accomplishment.
AngieLynne - nice deficit and congrats on the jeans, that is a NICE NSV.
Lena - congrats on getting over that deficit, I admire you so much that you can stay consistently over 1k.
Welcome BlynC! I calculate my deficit exactly as you described. I use Fitday, but use their "basal" number for how much I burn every day than add exercise and subtract food just like you said.
Deficit of 668 for me today. I am beginning to feel a little better with some good eating and some exercise. Have a lot on my mind though, moving soon, planning a wedding, review time at work, oh how do we do it all? Some of you ladies truly amaze me in what you find time for, and it's a relief to see you here every day doing just that.
The exercise feels good. But I admit that it's the first thing that gets cut back if I'm tired or just plain don't feel like it
My deficit for yesterday was 915 ... hey, that's better than I thought!
I'm off to work. Be good everyone!
Had a deficit yesterday of 880...I didn't get to do any cardio but did get in 1 1/2 hr of weights....we went to a class at the gym on myths/facts that last 2 hours so didn't have time but I will get in my cardio today..
My deficit yesterday was 1,269. Didn't plan it that way. I just wasn't very hungry, so calories in were a bit lower than usual. And I was trying to get to 10K steps, so I ended up on the treadmill for an hour, increasing calories burnt.
Part of me was tempted to "spend" the calories via a late night snack. But I wanted the bigger deficit more than I wanted the food, so here we are!
Donna, wow. 1-1/2 hours of weights! I'm jello after about 30-40 minutes.
Okay, I'm feeling a mite, bit guilty because I haven't checked in in a while! But, in my defense, we did AJ's b-day party Sunday and there was a lot of activity in getting it together.
We had a really great party for the little guy. He loves his slide. And, he got some train track stuff to go with his Thomas trains. Now, he won't leave his room (hmm, that isn't always a bad thing) and he doesn't want to go to bed for fear that "Thomas Track" won't be there when he wakes up! It's pretty funny! He's such a great little kid (if I do say so myself!).
Still preggers. I go to the doctor April 4. I'm still real excited. And, I'm still pretty tired!!! My eating hasn't been great - - okay, but not great. I need to make sure I don't get into the mentality of "I'm pregnant. I can eat whatever I want." That just ain't so!! I've been eating around 2000 calories/day. I could probably stand to back off on the calories a bit (not much, just a bit) b/c I do have so much "extra" to support a baby. And, I need to be more diligent about making sure they are quality calories.
DH and I are planning on taking a cruise at the end of April. He won a trip from his work for meeting sales goals. We haven't been able to take it b/c I didn't have vacation. I told him we should go ahead and take it b/c it will be many years before we can leave TWO kiddies and sneak off for a week. And, my work will suck up all my vacation for maternity leave. I told him I want to use my vacation for what I want. I'm really looking forward to it! Even though I can't drink much (I will have a glass of wine at dinner if the doctor okays it!), I know it will be fabulous!!
Well, I better get back to work! I'm so glad to see you guys are staying diligent and on track. Give me a year and I'll be back on the calorie cutting route. For now, it's about quality!!!
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aww Angie, I don't know what to say. I think you are in the right though. You are worried about his health and it is obvious he has a problem here. It is definitely one thing to overeat and binge, but he needs to come to terms with his need to sneak out and buy all this stuff when it is both unhealthy AND expensive. I don't know what you could do though, maybe just really talk to him...but men don't always get it with conversations. Maybe some kind of example, some show you could show him or something. However, don't be too hard on him or he will turn to eating. He needs you for his support so that he doesn't feel the need to eat and policing him hasn't worked so far and it probably won't work in the future. It is something he needs to realize for himself, but there must be some way you can show him without destroying his self confidence. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
Well... I have posted a few messages around ..but would love to join you gals.. I have been calorie counting since beginning of February and I really love it. I think that I have a deficit of 981. Do you just take the calories that it takes to maintain your weight, and subtract exercise and foods? I am eating about 1700 calories per day and I have been exercising 30 min per day on my treadmill. I am at 245 right now and would like to get to 175..(Onderland!! ya know) . I really want to thank you gals for all of the ideas and motivation ..It's Fabulous!!
Welcome BlynC! I calculate my deficit exactly as you described. I use Fitday, but use their "basal" number for how much I burn every day than add exercise and subtract food just like you said.
