5aday: unwanted attention is always awkward. I consider myself a really nice, kind person. But at the moment I have a guy who wants to see me all the time. I'm just not feeling it, so I keep putting him off. But he just doesn't seem to get it! I fear I'm going to have to be more straightforward and unkind at some stage. And then yesterday I had to go to a work meeting at a coffee shop in a mall. This guy that I've seen twice at a wine tasting saw me, came over and sat down. He is the drippiest guy you've ever met and I have absolutely no interest in him! I told him I have a meeting and he just kept sitting there! Guys are dense! :-)

Curiosity: I think one of the reasons why we have such bad parents in the world is because society has this idea that everyone should want to be a mother. I don't think it's true! We won't judge you for not wanting kids as long as you don't judge us for wanting them

PrairieGirl: Alas, I feel like my time is running out too. I've actually considered freezing my eggs, and I've done some research into adoption. I'm 32 already.

Speedy: I love that quote about being the only naked girl in the room! But I'm super conscious of my wobbly bits. I don't know what's worse: to own up to them and point them out in which case I might make them more of an issue, or to ignore them in which case the guy might think that I don't know that I'm fat!

Ok, so I went on a date on Friday night, girls. Nice guy, says all the right things, but I think he's a "one night stand looker" in disguise! In other words, he speaks long term, but I think that's what he's looking for. I'm so hoping I'm wrong because I think he's a nice guy. But don't you think it's better when guys just come right out and say that's all they're interested in? I mean, then you can make an informed decision and feel okay about it. If the promise of something more is there and it's a false promise....well I just don't have enough *&^%$'s for those guys!!!! :-) Will keep you posted on the development.

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momwannabe Ive reached a critical age when it comes to haveing a child, decided not to wait and am trying ai now.
Reference other posts on male attention, I sympathize. Seems the guys who find me attractive are not appealing to me. I really HATE when some think they're doing you a favor by paying you attention.
Don't know if its self esteem issues that are keeping me from finding a long term relationship or not. (certainly doesn't help!) I need to work on me first.
Came to the decision that I need to live my life for me. Work for what I want and not try to wait for something that might not happen.

I know what you mean by having guys interested in you that you are not into. I have a guy friend who seems okay with just being friends. I'm okay with it as long as he doesn't try to make the moves on me.

Many guys are one night stand lookers imo. Hopefully you find out that is not what he is looking for. I think guys should come right out and tell you what they are looking for. I find it hard to find guys who want more than just sex. I think guys want to start something that way but don't let on they are looking for anything more than that. Does that make sense girls? I mean I wonder how come most of my friends have found someone nice. I've become so focused on myself that I don't have time for any crap that many guys seem to dish out. lol. I also am more upfront about what I'm thinking so they can decide up front that they want to see me again or not.

Ladies I have a new question heading into the weekend. I often work on the weekend or have family obligations or go out with friends. This weekend I am looking forward to staying in a recharging my batteries. I plan to sleep late and read a few trashy novels and watch lots of football. Do you all have any ideas of how I might work some physical activity into the weekend? I am thinking maybe a walk if the weather holds up or even a drop in class if I can get myself together enough to make it out of the house in time.

Also any ideas for healthy snacks or meals that will be easy and maybe even a treat but not my old favorites (ribs, wings, burgers, ice cream, chocolate). I am thinking a trip to the farmers market to get lots of fruit, maybe stuff for a complicated salad, lean protein and ?????? My plan or diet is basically to eat clean whole foods. Any suggestions would be helpful this weekend and during the coming holiday break.

5aday my sister makes a pepper steak that I'm going to try this week. sirloin or leaner cut of steak cut into thin strips, bell peppers, onions, can of mushrooms a little soy sauce and worcsetshire. more soy than worcestshire. brown steak strips off add other ingredients and cook covered. She usually serves with rice. ( which I have to skip now!). Also thought about using half of the steak, peppers, onions and seasoning with fajita seasoning to make a large salad.

speedy- that sounds good and I am going to give it a try. I ended up making steel cut oatmeal with apple cider instead of water, mango chunks, and ginger. It was yummy but usually I do not have time to cook it. I did sweet potatoes and peas and sausage for lunch. I had kale, broccoli, brown rice and stew for dinner. I always try to get at least 5 fruits and veggies in a day. I managed to pass on the brownie and had yogurt and a peach for a snack... I hope you all are having a great weekend.

Hells yes ! I'm 29, single, amazing job, no kids and no relationship. My weight is totally dependant on my current mental state, If I'm stressed - I eat, If I'm happy - eat...etc etc. I've stopped drinking as well, and that is having a major effect on my moods and social life. I am pretty determined to just finally lead a heathy life and not contstantly start a new diet every Monday. That behaviour only leads to perseved failures, which leads me to binge.

I WILL NOT LET THIS BEAT ME !!

Sophie- I love your attitude!

I'm joining the party late, but another career focused single girl here! I've been single for well over a year now and my attempt at dating was awful! I tried match and eharmony this year and it was just terrible. I really believe that guys just don't want long term relationships these days. I know so many great women that just can't meet the right guys. Last January I decided that 2011 was the year I'd meet my future husband!!! Here we are at the end of December, and I've given up! Fortunately I've been able to maintain my weight for a couple years now so I'm focusing on my TWO jobs (one of them being a fitness instructor, YAY!) and getting my own hard core workouts done at least a few times a week.

Hi Tiffany! Don't give up on finding Mr. Right...but maybe try a different approach. I am all about enjoying the journey. When dating is a chore I take a break, relax and recharge then get back out there. I like online dating but I know it is not for everybody. On the other hand I hate parties and clubs. I do not know where you live but I am in a big city and I have started attending meetups. If you are not familiar with them it is a website of interest groups organized around anything from art to beer to sports. they set up events were like minded people can meet. Some groups are singles oriented but it is not a dating site. maybe you have already tried this stuff but I thought I would give my 2 cents just in case. Dating as an adult is a challenge... I would love to hear what others have tried and like or hated.

5aday - I'm in New York City. Most people think that it would be easier to meet someone here (a boyfriend or even just friends), and I used to think so too. But it's not! My theory is that there are too many people and I'm just another face in the crowd. Men have a lot to choose from here. I've tried meetup but I've found that a lot of them fizzle out pretty quickly. I'm just doing my best to be friendly and do what makes me happy. Hopefully that will attract the right kind of attention someday! They say love finds you when you're not looking, right??

Have you gone to any fitness meetups? I've gone to a few but it usually turns out to be Beachbody coaches trying to get me to sign up for something. Grr.

Tiffany- I understand the feeling of being alone in a crowd. I grew up in the country were we knew not only our neighbors but everyone in the community. I am a member of a few meetups that do active things like hiking, biking and kayaking but none of them are exclusively fitness focused. I plan to join an adventure group when I increase my fitness level. I am not currently confident in my ability to keep up with the group at my current size.

I agree with your idea of doing what makes you happy and creating a full life is the best way to live whether you are in a relationship or not.

I have the week off between Christmas and New Years... I do not have any big plans but the weather is gorgeous so I am trying to get outside and active everyday. Today I washed my car. I am ashamed to admit that is a big deal because my poor car is not washed very often.

How are you surviving this holiday season? Any big plans for New Years Eve?

Actually, along the lines of this thread, I do NOT have any plans for New Years Eve and of course it's depressing me!! There are a handful of days throughout the year that are more painful for me to be single, and this is one of them.

My vague plans are to stay home, make myself a yummy dinner and enjoy some wine. I probably won't be able to stay up til 12. LOL!

All my friends are married and with kids. The last of my non married non kid friends.. Is married and is expecting in a few months. I am unwed, no children, no relationship for like 10 years, no job. Pretty pathetic life lol. But I guess I got used to it, much as I can anyway. No plans for new years, never have plans for holidays unless it consists of a lot of booze, which is actually quite rare. Gives me migraine strength hangovers. I generally hate holidays, makes me feel lonely.