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Originally Posted by Jinksie
no religion. Im agnostic. He's atheist. We have a a whole bunch more of problems too. This isnt the only one =p
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There is a possibility of free or cheap counseling services in your area depending on where you are and how hard you look/how far you're willing to go.
But beyond that, if you really aren't going to go for counseling, then there are only a few things to do.
1) Stick with him/Put up with him. Don't attempt to change the issues and have them keep coming up like clockwork.
The above could work in a situation where he's just more annoying than detrimental. Sometimes people we love do stupid things and there are a number of ways to handle it. If there are no -major- issues at hand, then it can certainly be good to ignore the dumb and focus on the positive.
2) Attempt to have a serious discussion with him about the direction of your marriage. Or find ways to show him how much his actions harm you and your relationship.
You might say that he won't sit down and shut up long enough for a discussion, but I promise you if you mention the D-word almost everyone shuts up long enough to listen. I caution that a person should only bring up that they're considering a divorce if they are
actually considering a divorce. Otherwise it might feel like crying wolf, and that just adds problems.
3) Leave him.
This is usually the last resort of most couples. If the problems you're having are so severe that your life would truly be better without him, then this is certainly an option. Though... I'd have to cycle back around and say that counseling first is best to determine if divorcing him is the right move.
You might find that if your problems with him are severe enough...and you do wish or have been thinking about divorce... that he and you might find the money for counseling.
These are all if the situation is out of control. If it comes down to a few little things that you guys disagree on, and you can find ways to overlook or work around it, then clearly a divorce isn't going to be at the top of the list.
No matter what happens, I really do wish you and your family the best. And in the meantime...
you are still in control of what you put into your body.
You are in control of how you react. Can't always control others, but we can control ourselves.