Hi Christi, I am a SAHM of 4 . My kids are 6,4,2, and 9 mo. I know exactly how you feel. It is hard to make time for yourself. All I can say is try to make a little time for working out even if it is only 20-30 min. a day. I know I'm lucky if I even get a shower! anyway hang in there. sometimes you have to trade one thing for another. workout or dishes. workout or store etc. Its hard but sometimes one thing has to wait a day. good luck in your efforts.Danielle
Hi ladies, I want to thank everyone for all your prayers for Heather. She is back in the hospital as Sandi said. She won't be able to come home for another couple days. Her numbers are going up, but they just want to be thorough. she will most likely get her next chemo while she is an inpatient. I'm sorry I haven't written sooner but had a feew things on my mind. We are very positive about this and all your prayers help, keep it up.
On another note, I haven't lost any since Christmas but haven't gained either. I guess thet is good. Probably all the walking in the parking garage to the room. Twice daily. Welcome to all the newbies. Hope everyone starts feeling better. This time of really stinks (keeping it clean). going back to the hospital after hubby gets home, Sandi or I will keep you updated, again thank-you for all your prayers.
Welcome Christi, Danielle and Mom of 3~
You'll definitely get a lot of support here for your weight loss, exercise and life in general.
I made it to the gym today...woo hoo, 2 days in a row this week. I'm planning on going tomorrow and Friday as well so wish me luck. Now I just have to get this eating thing under control. ugh
Good morning ladies ~
I've decided I'm going to make myself a calendar to track my progress. I'll give myself a sticker for each day I workout and record my weight on Friday mornings each week so I can look back at it periodically. I'm a visual person so I think this will help.
I need some input from you guys though. I was thinking about putting a different sticker on for the days I eat healthy as well. The problem is I'm afraid if I don't eat so well (which I'm struggling with) that when I look at the calendar, the fact that all the "eat good" stickers are missing will upset me so I won't even be happy about all the "exercise" stickers. I don't want to belittle my exercising cuz that's tough, too. OR maybe I'll eat better knowing I'm gonna look at the damn thing with no stickers if I don't. If this made any sense to you guys I'd like some input.
Thank you all so much for the warm welcome!!! So far I have been doing pretty good...sticking to the plan...working out. I can't wait to get to know you all! Thanks again!
As for the calendar (onelasttime) I think it's a wonderful idea! I say try it for a month and see how well it works for you!! I think having a visual reminder to eat right and exercise is a wonderful tool!! Best of luck to you!!
Thank you Sandra for your concern about me. I am still here. Just beeen extremly busy lately. I have gained 5lbs back. I changed my ticker so to be real with myself. A lot has been going on with me so thats why I am not into the weight loss. I have started cooking more for my family and the food is so good. not exactly low fat or no fat but not fried or anything like that. I have been snacking way too much and too late at night. My first goal is going to be change the late night snacking.
Anyway for my son, I have been trying not to yell and it has cut down some. I try to stop myself especially when its something that not too bad. I remember DR PHIL saying once that you don't want them to fear you and if you are disaplinning them with fear thats not the answer. My issues lately with him are bedtime. I put him in at 8 and he keeps coming out or plays with his toys in his bed and its frustating. 3 hours to go to bed. it was never this bad before. This morning he peed on his bedroom floor. Mind you I was in the shower but the doors are always open so there is no excuse. He pulled down his pants and peed right there on his laminate floor and car playijng rug. I freaked. I did yell and then I calmed down and talked to him about it. he said he didn't want to wash his hands. I explained him thats not a good reason and that we don't od that. then i took away all video games for today. This is not the first time he has done this either. I am claming down but I still do yell. I am working on it.
We have been under a tremdous amount of stress. My hubbys new job strait time will not pay all our bills (thank god for overtime) anyway our lawyer said we can claim bankruptcy and not loose our house becuae we already have 3 mortgages on it and the equity won't be worth it. I don't know. I am still scared. I lvoe my house and if i can keep it i would live here forever. we always talked aobut a bigger house but right now i would make do with what we got. I am so depressed lately. I can't wait to be able to have my phone ring and be able to answer it... its horrible the phone rings all day long from creditors. i hope you ladies never have to experience it~!
WE have all been sick. last week i was suppose to have my sons bday party and after i bought food he got pink eye. so we had to reschedule for sunday. saturday night we got an ice storm and the roads were not too good sunday. My sister & her girls, & my best friends came over to help us eat it. now this saturday we are having our family over again but we are only doing coffee and cake. i can't afford to do the hole food thing again. its nuts.
anyway i got to go get my son from school now. Thanks ladies for thinking about me and welcome back mom of 3.
I just needed to talk to someone and you ladies are always here for me. thanks. I know that i can always come back to you ladies and not be judged and i hope everyone else feels that way too.
Would you ladies beleive me if I told you my son pee'd behind the coach tonight. Weeks ago we thougth it was the cat peeing there until i found my son doing it tonight. I lost it and we sent him directly to be about 7:15. I doubt he is even a sleep yet but we were livid. Any advise on dealing with this?
his reason for doing it when i asked this morning is that he didn't want to wash his hands. I told him that we have to wash our hands anyway and my living room or his bedroom is not an appriopate place to go. Being that he was sent to his bed right away with out any rituals or anything maybe he got it. i hope so. i read up on some websites on dealing with his behavior so maybe i canwork with this and get a handle on him. any suggestions would be helpful. he talks back, is rude and unappreciative, doesn't pick up his toys and is just downright defiant, when in a store when i tell him no to something i add we don't have any money for that and he says yes you do and argues with me, neededless to say i walk out without what he wants as he is screaming his head off.. which is expected from a 2 almost 3 year old but he is 4 a month ago.
Karyn~I am sorry to hear you are having a hard time with your son. It can be very difficult. I will be thinking of you. I really don't have any suggestions, but remember that we are all with you.
Ladies. I am getting a little discouraged. I got on the scale today and I have gained 3#. I know I shouldn't let it affect me, but I didn't think I was doing that badly. I stopped writting down what I ate becausse I ran out of time. with the extra kids I just did not have the time to get it all in. I still have them for 8 more days (Not counting Sat and Sun) Well, have to get mo ving this morning. Have a great day all!
Karyn ~
First of all good morning!! OK...with your son...Don't let him get away with those behaviors. You and your husband have to be on the same page with him and be consistent in your discipline. Consistency will really help. If he knows that every time he does behavior A (pee on the floor), he will get result A(sit in the timeout chair), every time he does behavior B (pee in the potty), he will get result B(a sticker). The key is to do it every single time no matter what. It's exhausting and frustrating but it really, really works in the long run. If he gets away with something even one time he'll know that if he pushes hard enough or long enough you'll cave and he'll get what he wants. It's really important to decide the punishment ahead of time so you aren't thinking things up randomly when angry because he's just done it AGAIN and you can't believe it!! We used time outs for my daughter when she was little. She had to sit on the couch with no entertainment around her (no books, tv, toys). We didn't debate it with her, she was placed on the couch and there she stayed for about 3-4 minutes. There's no way your son will sit there, you say? There were times I had to sit next to her and keep putting her back on the couch when she tried to climb off over and over but eventually she got it. She's 10 now and she is a wonderful young lady, very well rounded, polite and compassionate towards others!!! Good luck.
~ Sandra
My mom went to Austraila for 4 weeks. SO I have my youngest three siblings here with me along with my own three. I have 11yo boy, 8yo boy, 6yo girl (My siblings) 5yo boy, 3yo girl and a 2yo girl(my kids). They are not bad apart, but when you put them all together, it makes them all go nuts. My dad will be getting them for the weekend though. I will bring them home tonight and at least they all get a break form each other for a couple of days.
I am recommitting today. I will be extra carefull about what I put in my mouth, and I have started writing it all down again.
Sandra, my son doesn't get away with it. He gets time outs. He used to sit near the wall in his little chair until that became a game and now I will sit him in a chair in the middle of the kitchen so he can't touch anything. He stays. Its bedtime I have a hard time getting him to stay. So far for peeing on his bedroom floor he got a time out and lost all video games for yesterday. For peeing on the rug last night he got sent to bed early and no video games for today. (he plays my husbands playstation, his vsmile and lmax leapster) i took them all away. My problem with him is a yell at him and talk in a nasty voice when he is miss behaving where i was reading last night not to do that and tell him to talk nicer to me and i did that this morning. it worked that time. I also caught him in my closet again. (my cats climb in there to get away from the dog and nicky) and as he was walking out i said to him are you in my closet and he lyed and we talked about lying and that i saw him and its not acceptable. so i have to work on that. I guess the nanny shows are right. As parents we need to change our behaviors before we can change our kids. I am working on me and him. He can be sweet as pie one minute and the devil the next. when people meet him they love him to death but if they only knew behind closed doors right? Anyway, thank you for helping me thorugh this. I know I have a long road ahead and with you ladies here by me I know everything will be okay.
Upswife, god bless you. I would loose my mind with so many kids in the house at once. I can't handle one never mind 5? You are entitled to slip a bit. thats a big differnece. I could imageine what your house must look like after a week of that...ugg.. I give you a bravo.
I had a Avon district meeting last night. When we introduced oursleves we were asked to say what we were thankful for. I said choices. I had the choice of being home with my kids for 7 years, I have the choice to building a home based business and so on. I am deeply thankful for these things.
My hubby was disgruntled with me last night right before bed and I dont know why. He refused to talk about it. I sat and told him I would listen...no deal. So I said I love you and walked away.
It’s going up to +8C/46F, all the snow is melting again.
DS is playing hockey at the big arena in the city tonight for 5:30 then we stay and watch our local Juniors. Very excited little boy.
Today I will pay bills, clear the darned diningroon table, finish up Avon client lists.
DD is still home sick, She has a deep chest cold.
I made tabouli yesterday enough for 2 meals. I had 1 serving for lunch and the rest for a snack. sigh
I am going up to hubby's home town tomorrow to sign up a new rep on my team. I will visit dearSIL and a dear friend!!!!!
Wow Karyn, do I know what you are going through!!!! I have a three year old and last night he threw a doozie of a fit at the store because I wouldn't get him candy. It was awful, I was mortified, everyone was staring. so I completely understand what you are dealing with. It sounds to me like you have a good plan in place for dealing with it. Just keep at it, I know it's tiring and you get overwhelmed and down in the dumps. But know that every mom goes through a phase where they just don't know what to do or want to throw their hands up and walk away. Just make sure you stick to your punishments and make sure you really praise him when he does good (not that you don't do that already..I'm sure you do! Just a friendly reminder LOL)
As for the financial stuff, it'll all be ok...trust me. DH and I are just now starting to climb out of the hole he dug for us (gotta love those men huh?) And for a loooong time it was just horrible. Bill collectors calling constantly, not having money for this or that or groceries or anything. but it will and does get better!!! (((hugs))) to you!!!
On the subject of this weight loss thing....can any of you suggest a good bathroom scale??? I need to pick one up this weekend and I want to get a good one that I know will be acurate. (I know my ticker says I weigh 200, but that is just an educated guess...I may be MUCH heavier LOL)
I have been doing pretty good so far, eating right isn't much of a challenge right now, but I'm sure there will come a time when I struggle. Well, I'm off to do my yoga workout. Hope everyone has a fantastic day!!!!!
