OK, OK, I guess I should say I've postponed instead of quit. I'm not going to worry about the food or exercise until after the first of the year. I'm not doing well and I'm tired of feeling bad about it every night so I'm going to enjoy my holiday and jump back on track right afterwards!!!
Sherri ~ You and I can change your tracker together over Christmas. You all might know by know but Sherri & I are sisters living about 2 1/2 hours apart....hee he
Awesome job for those of you still doing well through the holidays!! Good for you!!
HI! everyone. Hope you all have a nice and safe holiday. I made my goal last wednesday. I'm really excited about it. Now to set a new goal.
Had a real hectic week, came home from work on Wednesday and had to take my oldest to Strong Memorial Hospital to be admitted. She has been sick since last week Thursday and her Dr. couldn't figure out what it is. They finally gave it a name Kikuchi's Necrotizing Lymphadenitis, somethng very rare and unsure how she got it and how long it will take to recover. She missed all her college finals and has to make up when feels better. We were able to bring her home last night, after they did a lymph node biopsy. They took a whole node from her neck, and used glue to put her back together. Really cool I think!!!!!!!!!!!! Just glad to have her home.
Right Sandi- you are not quiting, just postponing. You will get right back on it after the holidays. I'm not sure what my new goal will be or until when, you can help me later.
Sharri~I am sorry about you DD I will be praying for you and your family.
I did not do too badly I gained 1 lb but I have not been drinking my water so I am pretty sure it will all come off easily. I also am planning to exercise later today DH will be home to keep the kiddies out of my hair! Will drop in later HAve a great day!
HI Ladies,
I have been a 3fcer for a couple of years. I just posted in another thread and saw your group and my whole post is really about being a MOM.
I know UPS from another thread too, HI.
I gained my weight with pregnancy. I was never small but a very fit 180 lber.
I would love some feedback and thoughts on my struggles. I am looking at a fresh start( again).
Here's the Scoop...these are my thoughts for keeping all parts of my life in check.
Yesterday I chatted on the phone with a dear 3 fc friend. Weeheee. I am blessed!!!!!!!!!!
She asked some questions or brought up thoughts.
1) do I obsess about my relationship with my family of origin. Sometimes, but no. I do have thoughts and feelings and I let them out in my journal so they dont consume me. They have in the past( teens, 20’s). My parents are good people and I love them. They also did some damaging, hurtful things. We have also talked a lot out. Part of the healing , the journey. New stuff came up this year around my Grandma and there has been a big shift in all our realtionships and I am thrilled with it. An example of how I have always been devalued happened at my Sis’s. In the past I would have internalized it or believed it. But when you have 4 people who supposedly love you and are supposed to nuture you and support you telling you that you are wrong, confused, misguided, you are not entitled to your own feelings,ideas, beliefs.... and they discuss openly in front of you how wrong you are to be you, while enabling and validating each other.......... this has happened since I was a small child. It is hard to have personal value and I learned these things at the their knee. Do I forgive them, yes. Is a big part of my journey of well being, yes. As far as my weight goes, I need to believe that I deserve to be smart, successful, a good mom and wife and pretty and fit and thinner too. I have been told I would be unbearable too good to be true if I was thin.
If you have been told over and over since you were pre adolescent that , you were lucky to be smart, that you would have to work hard at a good job because know one would really love you or want to be with you, you would never be beautiful..........it took a long time for me to realize those were my Mom’s fears, issues, anxieties and not realy about me at all. These things are on my mind as a parent. I try to parent and live in my marriage with awareness and to grow. I am hardly perfect. I am sure my kids will have baggage. I do hope for them to have healthy esteem and know they are loved and valued and they are an important part of this world, community, family. I will nuture their skills, desires so they can follow dreams........ I take it very seriously.
2) Is your house really that messy? you are always cleaning. I have been spending time at flylady.com and following the prompts that come in emails. I have thought about sending for advice. My situation is unique.
a) we have a 2300 sq ft house, not incuding the basement( another 1000 sq ft), it is old and has been poorly maintained for 20 years before we moved in 6 years ago. We have done major renovations to the majority of the house inside and out ourselves. The 2 bathrooms are mid-reno as is the stairwell.Hence extra dust and dirt, never really gets clean. We have 9 kids and 2 adults here most days. I feed all the above 3 hot meals a day plus snacks or pack lunches for my 3. Both kids are in sports and activivities that have supplies. I run 3 businesses( babysitting , hubby's books, Avon) that generate paperwork, filing etc, plus household paperwork. The kids bring home tons of stuff from school. They are crafty and creative and there are ALWAYS projects on the go. We heat with wood, messy yet inexpensive. DS wets his bed most night, lots of laundry. I caregive for my Grandma by making frozen dinners for her every night, doing her laundry, and go to do her hair and nails every week.
I volunteer at the school and church, this takes time and have their own little piles on my desk.
I do crafts and activities with 9 kids in my home everyday.We sing and dance.I have playpens in 3 bedrooms for naps.
In the last few years, Mom, Sis and my deceased Grandma gave us a ton of furniute etc because of their moves, we had the space etc....this spring, I unloaded most of it. My kids save special treasures. I work at getting them to part with some.
Then there is regular laundry, dusting ,vacuuming...... oh, and 3-7 year old boys rarely pee in the toilet, ew.
I putter away most nights til 10pm, then I stop. I watch TV for an hour go to bed, read a bit and sleep like the dead and start all over. I get minimal help from hubby but he does do some. He also works 10 hours a day ,outside, in all weather, at hard labour, with a back injury.
I love my life. My choices work for me and us.
It is a messy often dirty existance.
Not sure what the answer is but the mess does get to me. The kids have been better at following thru on, “if you use it put it away.”
As far as weightloss goes, it does fall to the wayside. I have wondered if now is just not the time ot focus on it but then when would be a good time. I just have to do it. I need to put as much effort into myself as I do the kids, hubby and my volunteer work.
So, I suppose the last is my new goal for the new year!
Holly~I know with just my little family(Dh and three kiddo's) how fast the house work piles up if you don't keep up with it(speaking of it-I just remembered that I put laundry on this Morning) It is really too easy to say "I will do this tommorrow" then keep putting it off. When I lived with my parents we were constantly building (put on a 2nd floor) there was alwasy dust and crud. Keep up your hard work, but teach your children to help. They can do alot more than you think they can. (I have to work on not criticising-I tend to be a perfectionist) They will want to help if you cultivate it in them.
EX-my 5yo clears the table after dinner and "loads" the dishwasher. Usually I have to rearrange the dishes, but At least I did not hvae to move it all from the table.
Being a mom we tend to think of our families first, but how can we help our family if we are not healthy?? You have to put some of your needs first, inorder for you to keep up with your family. Make healthier meals and if DH doesn't like than he can make his own dinner I know that you get up early already~but you were able to shovel snow with the kids at your house< why can't you exercise at some point too?? girl you still make me tired.
Holly, first of all welcome to the board.....Your post was very eye opening. I think you may have some super human powers or something. I admire you already for all that you do. I have 2 chlidren 9 (will be 10 in Jan.) and a 14 year old son. I too volunteer at the school and church. I teach the 1-3 year old Sunday school class. I stay at home, and do some wedding flowers and catering once in a while. I keep a child after school and we have 4 girls next door that are friends with my daughter, so they are constantly running in and out of both houses. I love it though. Like you said, it works for us. Sometimes things don't get done the way I want around here, but for the most part we deal with it. I would love to have a spic and span house all the time, but it just doesn't happen, and that is ok. My focus for the new year has got to be on me and losing this weight. My mom and dads families have a huge list of health problems. Heart, diabetes, blood pressure (which I have already inherited), breast cancer, colon cancer, etc. You would think I would take better care of myself.....but I don't. I have got to focus. I would like to be around for a long time, so see my kids grown, and to love on my grandchildren like crazy. It scares me that if I don't make those lifestyle changes, I won't be around.
I would love for all of us here that are really serious to make a pact for 2006. TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES and GET OFF SOME POUNDS!!!!
I am tired of looking in my mirror and crying.......putting on clothes and crying. LETS DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!!!!
Here is to a new and thin year ladies.
NRSLDY ~ How is your daughter??? She has been in my thoughts and prayers. I hope she is doing ok. Please keep us updated!
o2b~ thanks for the welcome. Once I get back into the swing of life I may not be able to post but it is nice to get a fresh perspective and from those who have similar lives. My kids are DS age 7, DD age 5. I babysit 7 others that come and go ages 2-5.I have all 9 kids Tues and Thurs after school for 2 hours. I have a 15 yo neighbour come to help.
Just finished a scrambled egg, wth a 1/4 cup cottage cheese,a tbsp of parmesan and a roasted red pep. I do fine with breaky. I lose focus as the day goes on and gets busier. Sometimes I dont eat and then pigout or graze all day.
Okay , back to reality. Well almost reality. Hubby is at work. 2 kids are coming for babysitting and DS has a hockey tournament we leave for at 9:30. I have had a real holiday for 4 days. It has been since before DS was born.
I lounged and read and napped and watched movies, did minimal housework, aaaaah. I talked to an old GF on the phone last night and wasn’t interrupted once.
So today I will eat clean. Be accountable. I am starting out with at least 4 cups of veggies a day, for a few days. I would like to do SB phase1 next week.
DS played his first game of the tournament yesterday and had a shut out. His best friend scored their 3 goals. VERY exciting. Hubby said people from the stands we didn’t know were coming up congratulating DS!!!!
The weather stinks. 2C/34F and raining, all the snow has melted. ICK!!!! Not very wintery.
Holly, Good for you getting some R and R time. We all need that sometimes, especially when life is as hectic as yours is. I did South Beach diet for several months. It works and I really liked it. I think I will do Phase ! again for the new year as well. I am a sugar addict. South Beach is the only way I have ever been able to get off sugar and not crave it. It takes a week or so, but it works. We have had cookies, fudge, Peanut butter balls, peanut brittle, and Tiger butter around here since before the holidays. It is my downfall.
Hubby said he wants to get off the sugar too. He really hasn't gained much weight, but the sugar does make the belly pooch. I am like you, I do well for breakfast, then it is down hill the rest of the day. South Beach makes you eat, so It really did work for me. I could kick myself for getting off of it. I am trying desperately to get myself motivated for the new year. No motivation = no success. Been there and done that.
How exciting for your son and his big game! That is awesome for a 7 year old to know he did so well. That is great. I know you were a proud mom!!!
Well, I am going to get busy. Don't want to, but I must.
Have a great day!!!!
Kim
I have some news!!! I have always wanted to go to school and do something in the medical field. I have a friend that works at a technical school that will be offering limited scope x-ray tech in January! I called him and I have an appointment to go talk to him tomorrow!!!!!! Keep your fingers crossed!!! I am so excited!!!!!
Kim
Woohoo o2b!!!!
Hi ups!! Thanks for your feedback yesterday too.
I am being quite asloth this aft. Listening to the Beatles playing on here instead of puttering.Still in vacation mode.
Welcome Holly. Thanks guys for all your prayers. We received some bad news today, Heather's biopsy came back positive for lymphoma cancer. We go talk to a Dr from hematology at Strong Hospital in Rochester tomorrow. We are keeping our spirits up but it's really hard. We don't know what type yet, guess we will find out tomorrow. I will keep everyone posted on what we find out.
Haven't weighed myself yet this week will check on Saturday and let ya'll know.
It's official...I quit.
I know that you get up early already~but you were able to shovel snow with the kids at your house< why can't you exercise at some point too?? 
I am trying desperately to get myself motivated for the new year. No motivation = no success. Been there and done that. 
