Thanks so much, EagleRiverDee and Rosebud! I woke up this morning feeling soooooooooooooooooooooo beat up and down over this... and then I remembered... GOD is in control and I am totally in His hands. I remembered the wonderful people who are praying for me.. and just decided to be happy, happy, happy!
I just want to tell everyone how appreciative I am of everyone here. I appreciate your prayers, and I also appreciate the opportunity to pray for you. I pray the Lord blesses every one of you today, and your families, and provides for all of your concerns.
Just wanted to share a bit of Christmas Cheer! These are some branches off the Holly Berry tree out front that we got before the birds did! They stripped it clean in about 3 hours and the tree is about 40' tall! Have a good day!
My brother is detoxing again, at home this time. He is there by himself. His wife and kids are at her mom's. He's been home since Sun night by himself. He has had some drinks this week, but now he can't go get anything, so he is severely detoxing. He won't stop calling me or my SIL, crying on the phone for someone to come get him, or come sit with him.
He's being manipulative. I know that if something were really wrong with him besides detoxing, he could call 911. I know that if I go over there, he will not do from himself what he needs to do which is find out what he wants, hit bottom, learn what he has inside, seek help. But, the big sister and nurturer part of me wants to go over there, hold him, help him through it, make sure he's ok (eating, drinking water, etc.) and so he doesn't feel alone.
I talked to him today and I could barely understand anything because of his sobbing. It's manipulation. He knows I love him, and I have to do the tough love thing and just leave him be right now. It's so hard, and I question if I'm doing the right thing.
Please pray for him, for his healing, that he's safe even though he's suffering, and for me that I don't cave and can stick this out and I follow God's plan and do the right thing and not try to control this myself.
Prayers, too, being sent for all here still. God is in control. I have asked him to hold my brother and keep him safe while he goes through this. I ask him to provide for everyone's needs here, too. Thank you all. This is a great support group
Ursula, stay strong, do not be an enabler that will not help him. I am praying for you as you go through this rough period that you will trust God, he is able to do miracles.
I am praying for your brother that he will come to realize that is as far down as he needs to go and that he will seek help. Being alone this week and not having people rush to help him will force him to face his alcoholism and my prayer is that he get the desire to get sober for once and all.
URSULA ~ people are so afraid of crying or tears, but in actuality they are a healing tool of GOD to help your brother release all his sadness and grief. Let him cry; it's good for him. That's the mother/nuturer in you; i.e. to run to a crying baby, but he is a man and needs to tough this out! You can encourage him on the phone to eat & drink, and sleep (which will help him a lot too); sleeping is another inborn healing tool that will help him get through the detox time. ^Prayers^ continue for you all ...
KAREN ~ yes, they are really nice; we had red berries all over our front flowering bush in the fall, and the birdies ate them too.
Last edited by Justwant2Bhealthy; 12-09-2011 at 10:12 PM.
God, this is a roller coaster. Somehow he got liquor!!! Was drunk the last two days and pretending he was detoxing. He's in the hospital vomiting blood, muscle breakdown, elevated liver enzymes, dehydration. Ridiculous. The house is a mess. He has bottles stashed in the side panels of the whirlpool tub. Toilet seat ripped off the toilet. He's fallen so much he has bruises everywhere. Vomit stains on the carpet. I have never seen someone so sick. Prayers please that this will wake him up! PLEASE, GOD! I pray this is a turning point for my Brother.
And what's sad, is all this is alcohol. My Brother is a great person! He's not a liar, he's not lazy, he's not all these things that I'm posting on here. Please don't think he's a bad person. He isn't. And that's part of why it's so hard.
The fact is he will never get sober until he wants to. I do not mean this in a frivolous way, I mean he must want to get sober more than he wants to drink. This is difficult for an alcoholic as alcohol clouds the judgement. That is why drunks do such stupid things, they have no judgement. I pray that he will get enough clarity to realize he needs, desperately needs, to get sober. Stop drinking once and for all. I pray that the last few days are a wake up call for him.I am praying for him and praying for you and your SIL, I know it is difficult for you but as they say in Alanon........
I didn't cause it
I can't control it
I can't cure it.
Trust that God is in control. Many have gotten sober that were as bad as he is and worse.
And what's sad, is all this is alcohol. My Brother is a great person! He's not a liar, he's not lazy, he's not all these things that I'm posting on here. Please don't think he's a bad person. He isn't. And that's part of why it's so hard.
Ursula, I don't think for one minute that your brother is bad. I don't think when he took his first drink that he thought this going to cause me to totally screw up my life and break my sisters heart and cause my wife who loves me to leave me out of desperation.
I think this is a good man who is an alcoholic and needs treatment as he would for any disease.
I will continue to hold him up in prayer.
