I just want you to know to hang in there. Divorce is hard and it takes a while to move on. But wanted you to know that after 22 years of marriage I was divorced but have been remarried for 23 years. There is that perfect soul mate out there for each of us.
Have a Merry Christmas and hope your New Year is filled with happiness and love. Hugs
Do you have a sister =)
Kidding, Kinda.
I am doing well. I have moved into my new house and I love it. There is lots to do and learn about the new place. I have not yet figured out what all of the light switches run!
My kids love the new place and have been staying with me since I moved in last week. My SBX (soon to be Ex) broke her leg on New Years Eve in her driveway so she can not watch the kids right now. I am fine with it and would have them full time if I could.
Not doing well on my diet. Need to focus. Going to the Patriots game this Saturday. Very excited.
I am doing well. I have moved into my new house and I love it. There is lots to do and learn about the new place. I have not yet figured out what all of the light switches run!
My kids love the new place and have been staying with me since I moved in last week. My SBX (soon to be Ex) broke her leg on New Years Eve in her driveway so she can not watch the kids right now. I am fine with it and would have them full time if I could.
Not doing well on my diet. Need to focus. Going to the Patriots game this Saturday. Very excited.
Happy New Year to you and your boys!
Sorry, I don't have a sister - You're too sweet!
Good for you for getting your new home and spending time with your kids. Take baby steps and it will all fall into place.
I was 40 when I was divorced, 2 kids in college and a 14 year old still at home. Since my kids were older I didn't have to really see my x and my son decided to spend most of his time with me. I will say after 25 years divorced we can be together with our adult kids, grandkids, and our spouses and make it work. It takes time!
I do really believe there is that perfect soul mate for each of us and you might find her when you least expect it.
I did IP years ago and still have the plan to fall back on when I over do. You know it works so it will be there for you when you get a little more settled. Don't sell yourself short. It's important for you to take care of you!
Wishing you a blessed and happy New Year. Hugs all around ;-)
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Thanks. =) I still see the wife most days. We still talk by phone and text. I will find someone. I need to focus on myself right now and get back to a healthier weight.
Thanks. =) I still see the wife most days. We still talk by phone and text. I will find someone. I need to focus on myself right now and get back to a healthier weight.
I know this is a men's thread so please pardon my intrusion. I too went through i tough separation in 2012, we were together for 11 years and it happened right at the end of my first IP journey. I was finally happy, he wasn't anymore, go figure lol
I survived the initial shock by focusing on myself and my goals, maintaining my weight loss and being more social. Some days i had to try very hard "fake it till you make it" comes to mind. However before i knew it (about 3 or 4 months) i was involved many more things then i ever had been, traveling, bowling etc
I guess i am trying to say that sometimes these things are small blessings. Giving time to focus on and improve ones self and get us a little out of our comfort zones. Personal growth is never a waste of time and there will be a lot light in your life again when you are ready to let it in.
I know this is a men's thread so please pardon my intrusion. I too went through i tough separation in 2012, we were together for 11 years and it happened right at the end of my first IP journey. I was finally happy, he wasn't anymore, go figure lol
I survived the initial shock by focusing on myself and my goals, maintaining my weight loss and being more social. Some days i had to try very hard "fake it till you make it" comes to mind. However before i knew it (about 3 or 4 months) i was involved many more things then i ever had been, traveling, bowling etc
I guess i am trying to say that sometimes these things are small blessings. Giving time to focus on and improve ones self and get us a little out of our comfort zones. Personal growth is never a waste of time and there will be a lot light in your life again when you are ready to let it in.
The best is yet to come, i promise
It is a men's thread but we love you girls!
We started dating about twenty years ago and our 16th anniversary is in February. I am doing better now but I know it set me back. I need to get focused on what is important in my life and what I need to do to take care of myself and my kids.
We started dating about twenty years ago and our 16th anniversary is in February. I am doing better now but I know it set me back. I need to get focused on what is important in my life and what I need to do to take care of myself and my kids.
Thank you.
Hang in there brother! We all need time to get re-settled and re-focused at times. I know you can do what ever you put your mind to.
I'm back again! Gotta do it.. I lost 51 in the first crack but didn't keep going to P4. I let things slide for about a year and a half and gained it all back ..
I see some familiar faces which is great!! Nice to be back with the group.
I'm back again myself. I lost over 40lbs 3 years ago. Fast forward past my 5 year old son passing away, marital issues after that, and the depression that came along with that and I've gained everything back and added additional onto of that. Looking forward to starting IP again, only I cannot afford the packaged meals so I will be doing this off plan with protein powders. I am now in jeopardy of getting kicked out of the military again due to my weight gain.
Glad you are back on the plan!! As a father myself, I can't even imagine what you went/are going through with the passing of your child. Sticking to IP is about the last thing on your mind I'm sure.
It definitely puts everything into perspective.
I hope you do well back on IP (even though I despise the Yankees ) Go Jays!!
Another guy on IP.
I am reboot. Lost over 80# 4 years ago. 2.5 years of maintenance. last 18 months travesty.
need to drop about 70# but going to go by skin folds more than anything.
Doesn't seem like to many guys do IP.
Went back in my old papers from first time. 89# lost.
Kicked it today at first weigh in!! 6 days down 8lbs! All that peeing paid off I guess. The memories and what to do/not to do all came flooding back this week from my last time 2 years ago. What a great diet!! Already I feel so much better than a week ago. I've got lots of goals set and ready. I remember last time the big day was going into Old Navy and grabbing some "loose fitting" 38 waist jeans!! Looking forward to putting them back on...
My first time entering this thread, and I am glad I found it.
My story is that I am about 8 weeks OP and have lost around 40 lbs. This week I seem to be losing and gaining the same one pound, so a little frustrating.
I was divorced 8 years ago and gained about 60 lbs in that time frame. Until reading this thread I never got the idea that there may have been a connection between divorce and weight gain, and it's staring to make me wonder if there isn't.
I'm happy so far with IP, but not thrilled. My goal is to get to 180, which would be a full 100 lbs lost, with a desire to get to 200 by end of April.
I am re-motivated by seeing some of your photos and reading your stories, so thanks very much for that.
My first time entering this thread, and I am glad I found it.
My story is that I am about 8 weeks OP and have lost around 40 lbs. This week I seem to be losing and gaining the same one pound, so a little frustrating.
I was divorced 8 years ago and gained about 60 lbs in that time frame. Until reading this thread I never got the idea that there may have been a connection between divorce and weight gain, and it's staring to make me wonder if there isn't.
I'm happy so far with IP, but not thrilled. My goal is to get to 180, which would be a full 100 lbs lost, with a desire to get to 200 by end of April.
I am re-motivated by seeing some of your photos and reading your stories, so thanks very much for that.
Your results sound terrific! Speed of loss does slow somewhat as you get closer to goal.... Even for guys, I am sure. But that is true with every diet/weight loss program I have tried (and there are few I have not done over my 60 years...).
That 'up and down with same pound' thing is very frustrating.... For me that means it's time to look at what I am eating while I am on program...
Any new product you are embracing this week that was not a main item for you before? I love that IP double choc brownie, but given the carbs and calories in that bar, eating one every day is not the best move I can make...
Any reduction in water intake (getting all the extra you need to offset extra cups of coffee)?
All supplements , salt and oil included in your program each day?
Are you eye-balling portions instead of measuring and weighing?
I am not eating any wrong foods, but these little slip ups can alter the chemical function of IP for me. Your coach would probably help you review these same kind of points. Lots of folks here on 3FC IP will offer thoughts in this regard too - you can post daily intake on the 'What are you eating today IPeeps?' thread, and ask for some opinions.... Lots of IP experience on this forum!
I really like zach even-esh. He is a strength coach and general life coach. He puts out simple little motivation nearly daily on his instagram. http://instagram.com/zevenesh
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