October 2009 Chick Chat - Come Join Us
 

Good Morning,

Happy October 1st. Its a beautiful crisp fall day, hope everyone is smiling.

Nothing much new here, sosdd.. I'm still playing catch up at home with the house work, etc... from being away for a few days. Amazing how fast dirt sneaks up on you lol.

How is everyone?


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Good morning! It is October and focusing on looking up in spite of problems,

A happy, drop lots of pounds month to all!

(PS - in my house the dirt has not only snuck up on on me it formed cooperative units and is plotting a coup!)

:welcome: Lostbutstilltrying

I'm glad your joining in...the chicks here are sweeter than honey ;)

I think with my selective hearing, I have selective seeing... I really only see dirt when company is coming, and its usually 10 minutes before they show up :D

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:dizzy: It's definetly a brain fart day ladies.

howdy to lostbutstilltrying!

Leenie - hope you enjoyed vaca, welcome back!

Mom - are you having allergy issues? The weather does that to my allergies too.

Hope - how are you doing. Dh doing well?

Hydra - hope you enjoyed the day with your granddaughter.

Today is my Friday, which rocks. Tomorrow I leave for NY. I'm doing lunch with my parents, then heading to Alumni Weekend. Temptation will be abound, but I'm determined to stick to the plan! I volunteered to be DD, so I can't drink. Of course that prompted everyone to assume I'm pregnant. Seriously not pregnant - just fat - but thanks! ;)

I hope to report back on Sunday or MOnday that I was a very good girl, but we shall see!

:hug:s to all the ladies!

Marbear have a wonderful, safe trip... don't stress about your weight, I'm sure you look fantastic :hug: where abouts in NY are you heading to? I had a lovely mini vacation, thank you for asking ;)

Hope.. girl !! how is your DH?

Mom... allergies... lordy I'm getting hit hard with mine too, my head is spinning. My dd too, poor thing can't breath at night and she's taking Alavert... I think I'm going to switch her b/c she is vedddddddddy cranky and frustrated.

:wave: Toodles Again

Dh is doing very well, thanks everybody for asking. He is actually out of the house right now running a couple of errands. He still tires very quickly but feels good when he is moving. I don't know if I said but he threw his back out tuesday. Good grief, what next? He is working through that pain too.

I'm off today and tomorrow but I have to study for a test on saturday. I really wish I didn't have one so I could just hang out with him but oh well. I still have lots to be thankful for. Especially you chicks! Gonna go study a while. Check in later. :)

Hope-that is good he is feeling better....I am glad hes up an around.

Taking meds to help my head....arguing with my teenager over her mental meds!!!! of course now she thinks she dont need it...UGHHHHHHHH

Hello ladies :) I would like to join in and I'll do my best to be here daily. I am getting scared at the thought of winter coming, it is my very hard time, and it's selfish but I want lots of friends around to help me rally and I'll try to help anyone else :hug:

I have doing ok with my mood. October is generally an up month for me. Lots of family birthdays and Halloween is my favorite holiday. I worry too about staying motivated to exercise and continue to eat healthy through the winter. I have rediscovered my love of fruit and it bums me out that the produce section at the grocery will be getting sparse. I have thought that I will doing a lot of frozen items this winter, not so much fresh.

Hi everyone! I just joined -- actually rejoined -- as I am trying to get back on the wagon after a year off. I'm taking a new approach to my relationship with food and exercise this time, addressing underlying issues including my depression, so I thought this would be a great group to join.

Anyway, October is my favorite month, Halloween my favorite holiday, so it's usually a fairly up month. This year has been tough all around, however, and I'm a little afraid of what the change of seasons is doing to me right now. I look forward to getting to know you ladies better and having the best month I can possibly have!

Thanks to everyone for making me feel welcome! special shout out to Leenie and marbear24, everyone being so nice has cheered me up on kind of a rough day, so thanks!

TGIF !!! WHOOT :cheer:

Hi Ladies,

Welcome Holly, Ducky and :hug: to Lostbutstilltrying.

SAD usually hits me around February, I think because all the holidays are past and its still dang cold out... I'm mad by March LOL. I've read that because we don't get a lot of sun during the winter months, its good to make sure you get enough vitaman D. Some chicks are having good luck with a SAD Light (Lux 10,000+ I believe). We had a really cool thread on the lights, if you want I can dig it up.

Fridays are looooong days, I don't get home until 9 PM (I leave the house at 7:15 AM) because DD has a few activities after I get out of work, but she loves it so its worth it.

Hope everyone is having a great day :hug:

Toodles

Hi Everyone,

I am new and enjoy reading your posts....thanks for the great pick me up..nice to know others are in the same "boat" and inspiring to hear how ya'll r doin....

:welcome: Justdoit66.. your avitar is sooo cute.


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Ladies! I'm just doooooown this morning, nobody else but you guys get that - there is so much crashing in on me right now I just want to go back to bed and stay there forever... I don't want today to be a dark day! I need to pull myself out of this before I get down so far I can't manage.... gonna focus on the altitude of my attitude with a little me time...

Morning Ladies

I still can't believe its October.

Week 4 of school starts Monday. I have so much homework to do this weekend and its already Saturday and I've barely started it. Going to do some cleaning this morning. We're remodeling our kitchen and have a huge dumpster sitting in the back yard so I decided to clean out all the crap in the house. SO cleaning the attic and my room out this morning. Then going shopping for my son's birthday presents this afternoon and when I get home going to concentrate on homework.

I've been sick for 2 weeks now. If I am not better I'm going to call the doctor since I finally have insurance. I have to call my doctor for my meds on Monday to. I need to be seen.

Still can't get back into exercising. Its either I'm to tired from being at school 6 hours a day or I don't feel good or my moods are just plain crappy and I don't want to do anything. Plus the emotional and bored eating isn't helping.

I think I've let school take first priority and I haven't been making time to do anything else.

I have to get a schedule going where I have time for other things....

Its rainy and blah today so have to get motivated and get moving.

Have a good Saturday all...

HI everyone....

Leenie how old is your dd now? I sent my oldest off to post secondary in the fall and my little one is in grade 6. Work is much more settled these days and I am loving the unusually warm fall in these parts.

Been doing the stairs at work and packing a lunch....need to work on the water.

Have missed you all

lostbutstilltrying, how did your day end? :hug: I had a dark day last Tuesday, and I was so lucky it was only one day. I hope yours was only today and that you wake up better tomorrow :)

hello to everyone else too! :)

I feel hopeful that I'm starting with my Happy Light already.

Hi ladies,

:hug: to all that need them. Looks like there's a few that do.

Sorry I'm not posting much or doing personals. I'm just exhausted from school, work, dh's surgery, and the stress with our pets. We still have both of them but they are separted. I think I did ok on my test this morning then I had to close at work tonight. I'm just ready for bed. Hope you all have a great sunday. I'll check back after work tomorrow.

Liz- good job on taking steps in the right direction, and good to see you again. You were still posting off and on when I joined the group.

good morning chicks :) hopeforme, I hope you got a good nights rest.

I am so encouraged that even though the mornings are SO dark, I can get up and not be grumpy and bad-natured as I think I usually am from October to April :D I hope this good streak continues nonstop! In my favor I always always take my med (Wellbutrin) I have been using my light box for a couple weeks now, and I try to do at least 4 workouts a week, even better if I can get to 6 a week.

I hope everyone has a good day :hug:

Morning Ladies, :wave:

Hope everyone is having a good Sunday.

Hope ~ At some point it will get easier. At least that's what I keep telling myself. I'm sure you did good on your test. It is stressful and exhausting with all that going on.

Finally got a walk in although it was only 30 minutes. Now I just have to focus on eating right. But I do feel a little better and a little motivated to do the things I have to today.

I also write myself a to do list... for everything I want to do today. Hopefully it helps. If it works I might make it an everyday thing.

Good morning,

What a lovely fall day :D

Hope hang in there sweetems ;)

Holly sounds like your plan is a good one... keep it up chickie :hug:

Purefire boy I hear ya on the exercise... tired is my middle name.

Liz.. wow, the kids are getting big. DD is in 3rd grade and doing great (ty). Good for you for taking stairs and packing lunch.. I am also doing the same. Even the salad bar at work was killing me. They give you one low fat dressing that was so gross it made you gag. So now (duh me) I'm bringing my own.

Well I'd love to spend all day here but I can't, laundry, lunch, cleaning is calling and I'll kick myself if I don't get it done today.

Toodles.

thanks for the hugs and thoughts, I cherish them!
 

thanks for hugs and thoughts from everyone! I really, really mean it!!!!

I stayed down most of the day yesterday, it was weird because I did everything I usually do to fight the blues, I got up, put on nice clothes, got out of the house, got around nice people and talked to them, I walked the dog even though I really didn't want to, treated myself to a healthy and yummy lunch, but all day long I could hardly even look up from the ground, and make eye contact and I felt numb, joyless and like I was in a dark room

- it finally passed when I was at party with DH, even though I hardly knew anyone there - and they were all younger, thinner, and way more professionally successful than me ( and a couple were down right rude to me!) it was a sitch that would normally drive me down down down!....... but around 9pm, the "blues" just sort of popped like a balloon, and it was over..... it just goes to show that you can't really control the downs.... they come and they last for as long as they last, - you can give in and get them to stay, or you can just try your best to go on with your life and eventually they will pass

Wow, I'm so impressed with everyone's effort to fight this depression thing! Good for you guys not just curling up in bed and hiding which I know is tempting. Very inspiring. Going to a party, getting out of the house, and all the exercising, again I'm impressed.

Purefire, how did the to-do list workout? I need to do the same and work in studying daily.

See you guys tomorrow.

Welcome to all the newbies hopefully there will be more action in here. I either check it constantly or I dont check for weeks. It bums me out where theres no action when I check time again...SOOO its nice to see action!!

I am still sick. I just found this site FlyLady and she talks about how to take care of your house and not live on a guilt trip. It is actually really good. She says keeping a shinny sink to wake up to starts the day out better. She also says to do babysteps in routines start with the shinny sink and getting dressed every morning WITH SHOES...says it will make you feel better about yourself. So I am willing to give it a shot....
This weather is killing me even though I did take the kids down to the park friday to play before nap time then to a soccer game sat. I have found if I keep the kids busy and give them things to do constantly it keeps them outta stuff and I am less aggrivated when my dh comes home. My 2 and 3 yr old love to get into EVERYTHING when I am trying to teach the boys school. SO I am trying to use the computer and movies to occupy them...we will see!!

thats bout it Im tired going to bed NIGHT!!

WOW! A lot has been going on here since I left on Thursday! Ok... I had to take noteson what everyone wrote so I could remember what to say... haha. Let's see if I get it all...

VermontMom, DuckyChick, & Justdoit66 - WELCOME! This is a great place, if I do say so myself! Hopefully you can find what you need to keep you happy and on the wagon.

Hope - Glad everyone is doing well. I say again, I think when things settle down you need a "you" day or two.

Pure - Glad school is going well, but you do need to make you tim e- otherwise you'll burn out. (Haha, do as I say not as I do! I'm not very good at this myself, and boy does it show!) Even short walks help.

Mom - Living on a guilt trip? Sounds familiar! I want to go home adn sleep after PT tonight, but I'll be cleaning the kitchen instead...

Lost - glad to see you're starting to feel better.

Leenie, liz :hug:

Heather & Bud - Where'd ya go? :(

As for me I'm tried and far too stressed. I pretty much had a panic attack yesterday over NOTHING. I so wanted to call out today, but everyone knew I was going to Alumni weekend this weekend. Hmmm... I wonder what it would have looked like if I called out. Oh well. My door is shut and I have the sound track to Stardust on. Hopefully that will keep me calm.

mar-yeah guilt trips suck....

having such a crappy day already...wanting to go to bed and sleep...Whats really sad is I havent taken my meds and I know the up and down is from that but i dont know what my problem is....Ughhh...ok write more later....thanks guys!!

Hi everyone,

beginning of a new month - can't believe nine months of the year are gone already! Bah.

My uncle died over the weekend and I'm dealing with the grief. I can't go to his funeral (he lived on the other side of the world), so I'm having to mourn in a different way. It's hard. Still, I'm trying to keep doing what I do each day (though I took today off work), even though I don't feel like it. I figure he wouldn't want me to crumple up and become disfunctional again. Besides, since I started really working on myself in July, I've come so far and I don't want to undo that.

That's really what's uppermost in my mind right now, along with thinking of and praying for my aunt. I spoke to her earlier today and she's so upset. They were so much in love - if I get married I hope my marriage will be even a tenth of theirs.

I hope everyone here is keeping on keeping on too...

Good Afternoon,

This forum surly has its ups and downs... but thats the way it goes. I'm just glad everyone comes back when they are feeling up to it :hug:

Salsa I'm so sorry to hear about your uncle :hug: Just remember there are lots of grieving places/churches you can go to if the feeling gets overwhelming. I agree, your uncle wouldn't want you to fall apart, so take advantage of those places if you need to... and of course we are here for you too.

LBST - wow girl, your incredible. It takes so much strength to do what you did and then to realize when that feeling ended takes a lot.. yeah you !!! I'm sorry those people at the party were mean to you wth? I only go to parties with my family or for my DD when she's invited to a class party (which I've been snubbed at those parties as well because I don't fit in with the stay a home mom's I guess). Its not easy but you know who's the better person at these things :D

Mom.. guilt hmmmmmmmmm yep :yes: I think I live it 24/7.

Marbear how was your weekend? I know you were worried sick about going.

Hope :wave: see you tomorrow.

Pure, Holly, Liz hope you chickies are having a great Monday.

Roll call ;) we miss you chickies Buddly, Judo, Heather, Hydra, Ravengirl, Ambrosia, Ryanne, Oogi, Noel, Mary, Claudia.... hope I didn't miss anyone :(

Leenie - Trip was good thanks :) I gave myself 1 "bad" as part of my pre-trip plan, and that's what I stuck to. I had pizza, and voila! Scale is up 2lbs! I realize it's water from all the salt (hard to monitor sodium when eating out for 2 days straight), but still discouraging, as I REALLY had to hold my ground not to eat yummy poasta, ice cream, and wine. Oh Wine. I love wine.

Salsa - :hug: I'm very sorry for your loss.

Mom - GO TAKE YOUR MEDS... and have a better day! :yes:

Just catching up to say, hang in there everybody!

Hello to everybody this afternoon :hug: -

lost, I am sooo impessed by your huge effort!!! That you did all those things and then, in the evening, you felt it just pop and go away, that is so great! :carrot: like you said, it shows that we can never be sure when a depressive time is going to come over us, but they do end eventually...and you were doing the 'fake it til you make it' thing so well.

I hate to be a newbie with a big load to unload - but last night DH got an email and it appears he is being fired tomorrow - or call it 'let go' or 'downsized' or whatever doesn't sound as harsh as 'fired'. He is not seeming as upset about it as I would be, but as we know men can hide their emotions much better than us. He makes about twice what I do so this is not good economically of course.

we will just have to see what happens in his meeting with boss tomorrow and on Wednesday take steps for him to file for unemployment (which he has never collected) and he has already started on an updated resume.

Hello Ladies

Today was a little iffy but I basically followed my to do list. Its working out pretty well. The only issues I had was I slept through my alarm and didn't get a walk in. I've been tired all day but still have about 3 hours worth of homework

Hope everyone had a good day

Salsa :hug: very sorry to hear about your uncle. It's never easy to lose somebody you love. Glad to see you back here.

Vermontmom- also sorry to hear about dh's job. It would scare me too but something will work out for you both. Let us know if he finds out for sure.

Gotta hit the bed girls. night night

hope-have a good sleep!!!

purefire-thats a lot of stinking homework!!!

vermont-yeah thats not good and it is hard to not worry over that but worrying wont change the situation..i have to remind myself of that all the time!

So yeah had a break down today. I realized with my med in a month I only took 13.5 days worth all sparatically. No wonder my moods are so all over the place!!!

Tuna helper sent me of the cliff!! heres my monday
*my boys were being all loud at the crack of dawn because it was sunny...wouldnt listen when I told them to quiet down
*so i got up aggrivated to start with then find my 2 yr old flipping out in her room...she tried crawling under her toddler bed to get her baby and couldnt get back out
* I actually MADE my bed and got the girls dressed nagged at the boys to clean their room a hundred times.
*while i jump in a quick shower (didnt even wash my hair) the girls managed to get nail polish out try painting their nails and managed to get it allllll over the carpet.
*spent almost and hour scrubbing it to get it out
*Had to take a phone call and by the time I was done the kids had managed to trash my living room:tear my cushions off the couch, push the couch to the middle of the room, move my end table, take the lap off the table, then sat there eating choc chip cookies and bannanas watching monsters vs alien (thanks to their 6 yr old brother feeding them..) they couldnt wait for me to get breakfast!
*then i go to cook them tuna helper for lunch and find that a plastic tote is pushed against the furnace downstairs and is melting from the heat. When I get everything out to cook I realize theres no milk
*i knew i was in NO mood to get them all striaghtened up and deal with them in the store in a nice manner...lol so they got sandwiches
*then i sent them to bed and they got highlighter ALLL over my bed, unplugged the alarm clocks and light and when I walked in the boys were tormentin their 3 yr old sister and shes like I am going to tell mommy
my 6 yr old had a pillow over held over his head ready to hit her and hes like i was just going to lay my head on it...i was like in the AIR???
*my six year old tried to sweep stuffing from a couch in my sweeper and managed to clog it.

I eventually just went and took a nap cause I couldnt deal with it and needed to lay with my 3 year old so shed sleep!

Now i just got back from a late shopping trip and have to go to my room to fold clothes because they have taken over my room!!

Ive left out A LOT of details but I would cause you guys to go into a panic attack if I typed out my whole day...LOL

My kids are not bad just overly active and if I dont keep them on track and switch activities ever half hour or so then I end up with a rearranged living room and my walls painted with nail polish!!!

SO MONDAY IS OVER THANK GOD....Tuesday will be better..Got some fruit for a juice fast so that should go good!!!

Night all have a great day!!!

Mom- Your post made ME want to take a nap! Shesh! Hopefully today is calmer for you. Iand I suggest stocking up on clear nail polish ;)

Pure - homework can be fun. Espeically when you can use it to guilt your significant other to do housework because you're too busy ;) Try it, it's way more fun then the dishes or laundry!

VT Mom - Sorry about DH's job. Everything happens for a reason, so something better is around the corner.

I dropped the 2.2 lbs I gained b/c of water over the weekend. back to where I started on Friday which makes me happy. I'm having an idiot day. Seriously, I'm jsut stupid today... which is very annoying.

I've been writing a story/book thing. I'm not sure what to call it at this point. I finished the 1st draft and it's 182 pgs long. Hmm. it made my hubby cry when he read it. I gave a really good friend a copy it it almost made her cry to. Haha, oye. Perhaps I can polish it up and send it to a publisher?

Sigh, we shall see.

Love to my ladies.

Hi all! good morning!
 

VT Mom - as a person who is person who is out of a job (and has been since March) I will say, there may be tough times ahead - counting pennies, cutting back on fun things, maybe even moving somewhere cheaper - but the main thing is to focus on what you have while you have, your family is together and strong and in the end that is what matters- treat yourself to some extra time with DH, and ride the hard times out - this to shall pass!

Mom - wow your kids have energy! that's great! Send me some of it! If I keep dragging my butt so slow walking the dog that I will hardly finish one walk and its already the next day and time to do it again! sheesh

To all! keep up the good work, things get overwhelming - stay positive!

For me: cross your fingers, maybe I can find an apt we can afford next week so I don't have to live in my car in November - that would be nice! AND I have an apt this week with MO state health insurance - I really really hope we can qualify for it, at least my daughter! I'm always worried something is going to happen..... OK :) happy face again - Today is going to be a good day for all, I just know it!

Lost - I must say, I adore your optimism :). Thank you for sharing it with us!

marbear- i was thinking the same thing...lost is very optimistic!! Yes the day is going better soo far!!

I just plain decided I was going to conqueror my world today...LOL... I am washing couch cushions since my 6 year old slept on the couch and had an accident...YIPEE...was messing with bills and money trying to balance the check book which didnt look so hot!! I did buy me some running shoes last night because that is the reason I stopped running because my feet hurt really bad cause I was just wearing airwalks with no support.. I am determined to excercise and I started my juice fast today so far so good!! My issue is getting the proper amount of water...I dont always get the right amount.
I have a montain of clothes still in my room but its ok not going to stress over it cause that wont get them folded it will just make me want to sleep. AND I TOOK MY MEDS LAST NIGHT AND THIS MORNING!!!! YAYAAYAYAYA

my juice is acctually good.. i put an orange & apple thru the juicer then put that in the blender with a bannana & 4 strawberries and ice chips. With the juicer you dont get much out of the nanna and I feel its wasteful so I found a thing online about putting it in the blender!!

ok so if i spend more time on here thats more time im not getting stuff done!!

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Work is crazy..... can't stay and chat. :hug: to you all. Holly we are hanging on to our jobs as we speak... a huge company is buying us out any day and we're all on edge. I feel for you and your DH.

Will catch up soon.. ;)

Toodles.