Good morning :D

Salsa... to put it nicely.. SOSDD means same old stuff different day ;)

Hope everyone is having a wonderful day... I'll try to sneak back in later :s:

Leenie

hello, all,

Lost - ouch! Be careful! :)

marbear - thinking good thoughts for you today. No-one likes doing that stuff!

Leenie - how goes the job post-merger?

I'm on day three of rigidly sticking to the new diet plan ...feeling pretty good. I know it's only three days, but it's three more days than I've done in a long time! No cravings, no hunger, all in all pretty good. I want to thank you all, again, for being the motivator that made me start this. If all you guys can be this strong, I can too. So thank you!

yeah Havisham you rock!

Good Morning Ladies :wave:

All I want to do this morning is go back to bed. I only got about 3 hours sleep, but I have to be in class in about 2 hours so that is out of the question.

My back has been hurting really bad, so I haven't wanted to do anything. Walking or getting on my gazelle hurt so much. I have to call the insurance company to set up my PCP so I can get to the doctors. But for a little temporary relief, yesterday I went to walmart and bought a roll on pain/muscle reliever, some heat wraps and some icy hot. So hopefully that helps until I can get to the doctor.

I have been eating right, which is good. Now I just have to get the exercise in. I was thinking of doing some belly dancing as something different. It firms up your hips, and legs..

On the school front... I got my grades back for the 1st term. A in Business English and an A- in Medical Law and Ethics. Started the 2nd term on Monday and there is so much to learn its scary. My homework literally doubled and any free time I had Mon - Thurs went completely out the window. So I have to find a way to get things done.

I need to find a job, but I seriously don't want to yet. I might go look on Friday. Its the beginning of the Christmas season so I might get lucky. Then again I might wait until I start Term 3 and then go look.

On Friday I broke up with my boyfriend. Finally kicking him out. He has been such a drain on my emotions. I couldn't take it anymore.

Have to run. Going to try and do at least a 15 minute workout before school.

Have a good day ladies. :hug:

Wow, purefire, so many things to say "YAY" for....the grades - EXCELLENT! Kicking the boyfriend out, AND having the self awareness to realise that he's an emotional drain. Getting up after only three hours of sleep. I bow to you! :)

For your back, have you tried Yoga? It's really good for that stuff. I get horrendous sciatica and if I stick to the yoga it really helps. Just a suggestion. Also, the belly dancing is meant to be huge fun, as well as super good for you!

Hope your day goes well!

Good morning to all - hope everyone is having a great Wednesday.

good evening ladies :) Wow Purefire, you have ALOT going on. Good job on keeping it all together!

Havisham, congrats on being 3 days 'on program'!

and hello to everyone else :hug:

so yeah for the first week in a long time I feel in control in some areas of my life. I have been being more consistant with my children. I know that I cant change every thing all at once but being consistant with my children every day is a big thing..once they understand I mean what I say I think things will go easier. I havent felt stressed since I have been doing this...because I dont allow them to run my day anymore I run the day and thats how it should be... My boys put me to the test. I have been telling them to take care of their stuff...YES I KNOW THEY ARE KIDS..but they really have no appreciation or care for their things...so the new clothes dividers that hang in the closet I just bought they stood on and ripped them and everything was laying around there room...I am re washing clean clothes cause they just throw clothes outta there drawer and leave their dirty clothes lay on the floor...and I AM DONE...so we are going to start at step one...I clean out their room I mean everything but the bed and a dirty clothes basket is gone...i threw it outta the room and they bagged it up and to the attic it went. They kept their room clean so they got their radio back (they listen to it at night to go to sleep so its was logically the first thing) They dont put their shoes away so they get one pair of shoes and when they show they can take care of that one pair they can get another pair out of the attic. They lost their dressers even because they dont put the clothes in it any way. I gave them a plastic crate to put their pants undies and pjs in (shirts are hung) so if they can manage putting it away in there then they can get the dresser back!! If they keep their room clean every two days they can pick one item from the bags they took to the attic....I sat and expland to them cause the 6 year old was heart broken...but I am tired of empty threats and the money i spend on stuff for them is important to me and needs to be important enough for them to take care of things (yes accidents happen, but they throw there stuff, let it lay on the floor, let it out in the yard in dirt and rain....) They will learn now....Sorry if any of you feel I am to hard but I have given them time and time again...YES it is our fault cause we never properly taught them to take good care of stuff because when the boys were little and it was just them we bought and bought and bought stuff so it didnt matter if it broke...but now its a bigger family and money is important!! So the best way to learn is to start from scratch!! ITs working so far

Now my 2 year old tried me two days ago...shes my happy child and if she knows we are unhappy with her shes always like sorry mom...so i told her to get away from my school desk she told me no...so I said get away from mommys school desk or you will have a time out...she says NO and walks over and punches me (she never hits me) so to the corner she went...she screamed and turned around and walked away...back i put her...after she was done crying I told her its not ok to hit mommy and she needed to tell mommy sorry...YEAH....she was soo mad she wouldnt even look at me...so i put her back in the corner....4 times i did this till finally you could see she gave up and lost the power struggle and told me sorry then was smiling and off she went...I tell you it is tough to stick with it and not let them push me over...


ok i am rambling on about my kids when I am sure there aroe other things more important in you guys day!!!

lata

Good Morning Ladies. :wave:

Mom ~ Good for you. Its hard, but keep sticking to it and don't give in. Kids today think that they can do whatever they want and don't have to listen or do what we tell them. Hopefully they learn that you mean what you say.. Keep it up :hug:

Got 3 hours of sleep again last night. Oh well. Last day of classes for the week. running out the door.

Have a good day Ladies

:wave:

Good to see you all :hug: Nothing new, sosdd. Work is work.. lots of information being handed to us.. just not the info we need to make us feel more secure. We'll know in about a month or so which sites are going to close.. other than that.. sosdd (((( I like SOSDD )))) ;)

Have a great day chickies... remember, smile... you are loved !!

Leenie

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Pure :hug: that's a lot you have on your plate there lady! Good for you in all areas :) I'm excitedly waiting to see how you're doing without the emotional drain!

Mom - I think tha'ts the best way to go. My grandmother and mother use to take everything I left in the middle of my bedroom floor away if I didn't pick it up. Nothing pisses a teenage girl off like all of her brushes missing right before going out!

Everyone else :hug:

I'm tried and don't feel well. Many people around me have been getting the flu. I'm too busy to be sick! Argh! Saty away, you damn flu, stay away!!!!

Morning, Chickies,

Mom - you are amazing! I don't think you're being hard at all - I think you rock! In fact I'm going to go home tonight and take everything on my 10 year olds bedroom floor and put it away...that is an awesome idea! Think it'll work on my 19 year old??

Leenie - hang in...our thoughts are with you.

Lost - how's the packing going?

Marbear - hope you feel better soon.

Pure - get some sleep!!! :)

I'm having a frustrating week - you know the type where everyone you work with seems to be holding you back from moving on - like everyone has a decision disorder. And I seem to have been stuck behind a LOT of people who feel the need to go 10 under the speed limit on the way home. My commute is 50 minutes of mostly country roads, so if you get one slow poke and a couple of people won't go around them, we're all stuck. SO frustrating.

On the plus side I'm on day five of being 'on program' and going strong. Haven't had a chance to pick up my new scales yet, but I'll get them this weekend. This week I'm just staying on plan and seeing how I feel.

Thanks, again, to all of you for being here and posting support and such..YOU all gave me the strength to start this journey and I am eternally grateful!

happy Thursday to all!

Pure-I agree kids dont feel they have to listen...I was brought up that I had to listen to my elders and that was anyone adult didnt matter if they were related or not...man if even so much as talked back or used the wrong tone I was done for. Sometimes I hated it but I now see that it was a very respectful and I want my kids to be respectful but it has to start here with them being respectful at home. I cant expect them to do it to everyone else when I dont make them be respectful to me! My 3 yr old thinks its cute to tell me what I am going to do and yell at me to come in the bathroom if I dont move fast enough...Yes it is amazing/cute that she comes up with this stuff but in a year or two its not going to be...so therefore I have to HAVE to stop it now! Hopefully you get more sleep because I used to do those 2 or 3 hour nights and I was ok on it but they wear you down quickly and this time of year wears your immune system down!!

Leenie-I guess what comes to mind is God is in control. My husband always says that his company is NOT his provider but God is his provider..God just uses that company...We know that God will supply all our needs and if your time there is done he is faithful and will open the next door...if hes not ready for you to be done there!!

mar- that is awesome well it prob wasnt at the time but that is too funny!!!
Rock on Gramma!!

Havish-It is hard and its a killer to do and to stick with it but so far day three WITHOUT me telling them they take their shoes up to there room when they are done and have kept it clean every day (mostly just keeping their clothes picked up) SOOO its working and I think if they are in the habit of taking care of it and adding one thing every few days there wont be any problem keeping it clean! I dont know bout the 19yr old...it might just depends on if she cares bout what your taking away!!! I have threatened to do this for a while but I had to come to the breaking point almost angry over it and I felt bad at the time but now I am very glad that I did it now!!!

Done with boys school, lunch is over, kids been out playing, husband off to work, NAPPP time then whatever we decide to do tonight......catch you lata

Hi everyone:wave:
Sorry about not posting, I try, but then get overwhelmed.

Mom good for you for taking a stand. Flylady has sent out some testimonials about other parents doing that and they find that the kids are actually happier with less "stuff" to overwhelm them and everyone is happier with a tidy and peaceful space. I wish someone would come in here and whisk all the "stuff" away. I have to get consistant with flylady's 15 minutes a day thing.

Not to much new with me. In a new therapy group that lasts until mid Dec. Its different, but I'm trying to keep an open mind.
Haven't been doing my walks and I sure can tell. I really miss them, I think I better start taking the flashlight and my mitts for when DdC is in judo. Right now I'm suppose to be working on a halloween costume. I was hoping to find something to just revamp from the thrift store, but no such luck. Thankfully I have some appropriate material and a pattern I can mess with.

:hug:s to everyone. And as others have said I'm so glad to have all of you and this board to come to.:hug:

Take care,
K

buddly thanks for reminding me I need to go on and read some more stuff on flylady i got kinda busy didnt get to read stuff!!

buddly, sounds like you`re down...if there therapy isn`t really cutting it, feel free to PM - I`m happy to listen. :hug:

Hello ladies - I must say I was really impressed with 'mom' and your plan of action! I hope it continues to work!

Havisham, I also get sooo irritated at people who drive under the speed limit, when I'm trying to get to work on time. I should just make it a habit to leave even 10 minutes earlier to cut down on my irritation :D

My DH had a favorable impression after his phone interview with the UI investigator, hopefully they will decide in his favor and he will start receiving his UI benefits soon, I miss his pay :devil:

I did get to ride my motorcycle today, it was 67 and sunny which is great!

well hang in there friends, we're all in this together aren't we :dizzy:

vermont- I also agree with the aggrivation even though its me that should leave early so those slow drivers wouldnt even affect me...I still dont...i leave at the last possible minute!!


gonna go watch a movie have a good night all!!

Havisham thank you so much for the offer.:hug:

I actually managed to do somethings tonight. Cooked a proper dinner and made some seitan (gluten "chicken" actually) and got it in the fridge for tomorrow then got all the dishes washed and scrubbed the tub and toilet.
Anyway I should go and get to sleep I have work tomorrow.

Take care everyone,
K

buddly-you cook some dinners for me and send them my way??? lol I know if i did that and planned ahead i would dooo so much better!!


one of those days where I am totally unmotivated and dont want to get out of bed...but thinking bout it I missed my meds a lot this week so that is probably why I feel this way...I have to resist the urge to just lay on the couch and do nothing...its hard very hard....ughhh

wow where is everyone??? boring in here!

R U KIDDING ME...NOT ONE PERSON POSTED...this is what I hated before was at times it was like a ghost forum...there was no support if no one showed up...lol...but I am good right now just checking in to see how everyone else is doing!! talk to you all tomorrow!!

some Momof 4 how are you doing today?

I am doing great thanks for asking hows things going for you???

two whole days and nobody post ARE YOU GUYS SLEEPING... I know depression cause you to sleep but COME ON.....ok for real I am going to bed I had just looked back and seen I was the only post for the 23rd too (except buddly early in the morning) night

good morning, I'm sorry you felt alone momof4 :hug: work kinda gets in the way of my free time :D So, momof4, how are you today?

VermontMom – fingers are crossed on UI, it would be a big help

Momof4 – enjoy your movie, you could use the break! Sorry I wasn't there to post, I was out of town doing Girl Scout stuff with DD

Buddly – what is “gluten” chicken? Is that a vegetarian substitute?

For me, TOM is finally gone and am starting to cheer up, am glad! Poor DH just hurt his back lifting a really light box (it was one of those weird things) so I am suddenly very worried about my ability to get packed and moved!

Oh well, what happens, happens! Diet front wise – I ate s'mores last night and I am OK with that... some days you just have to roll with it (and I've got plenty of rolls!)

Good Morning,

Busy weekend :D

I'm going to try to plan better eating wise this week.. I just can't get in the groove. I do good for a few days and lose concentration. Also I am cleaning off my treadmill... :D

Have a great day ladies !!

Love Yah !!

Mom - I'm so sorry - I kept looking for the thread and didn't see it....and I confess I was worried that if I posted on it everyone would think "OMG, she has nothing else to do and she's always got something to say" ...or "oh, not her again"...what can I say, self esteem issues! :s

Having said that your post to yourself made me laugh out loud!

Good morning chickies - I have to go have family pics taken today (even though my DH is still overseas so it's me and his family - yay!). I really only agreed as I'm hoping it'll be a bit of motivation. Maybe in a few months I can have some 'after' pics done.

Anyway, hope all are well...just heading in to TOM which will be problematic as I crave chocolate for like three days straight. Thank God for the Reward Meal. :)

Happy Healthy to all. :)

Mom - I'm not normally a weekend person, sorry. :( I need to be though, as panic mode has set in. Will elaborate on Monday. For now - major planning is needed.

Originally Posted by Havisham:
.and I confess I was worried that if I posted on it everyone would think "OMG, she has nothing else to do and she's always got something to say" ...or "oh, not her again"...what can I say, self esteem issues!

Oh darlin, look how many posts I have :o and 1/2 of them were deleted at one time LOL. I don't sit in here 24/7 but I do love to be here. Don't worry about what others have to say ok :hug: post away.

Originally Posted by Leenie:
Oh darlin, look how many posts I have :o and 1/2 of them were deleted at one time LOL. I don't sit in here 24/7 but I do love to be here. Don't worry about what others have to say ok :hug: post away.

Thanks, Leenie, you have no idea how much that means! :hug:

Hey thanks guys...Havish that is funny thats probably what your saying about me right?? ok well my teenager needs the puter for homework so i need to get off here type more later!!!

Originally Posted by momof4under5:
Hey thanks guys...Havish that is funny thats probably what your saying about me right?? ok well my teenager needs the puter for homework so i need to get off here type more later!!!

Oh, dear Lord, no! I have so much admiration for you - you have all that other stuff going on, and you still find time to not only offer support and concern to others, but to be totally honest with yourself and us. Do you know how many people can't do that?

I've only been here a few weeks, but I already miss you guys when you don't post...I like to hear how Lost's move is going, and how Vermont's DH's job stuff is going. And how Leenie's company buy out is working out. It reminds me that I'm not alone in this, and that everyone else has problems and that we're all struggling. And coming here makes me feel like with all of you behind me, I can't fail.

So, mom, keep posting....we'd miss you if you weren't around! :) :hug:

Sorry I have been MIA too. I have been reading every day but sometimes posting feel overwhelming to me. Why? Don't know. Just feel boring I guess.

Marbear, looking forward to your post. Sorry you are feeling panicked. When I have a regular mon-fri job I begin to freak a little, or a lot on sunday night. I hope it's nothing more serious than the pre-week jitters. :hug:

Havisham, I'm really glad when you post daily. Please don't hold back. I have felt that way before, especially when I was out of work and posting a few times a day but I think we are all excited when we log on and see lots of posts to read. :yes:

Leenie, while you're at it, can you clear off my elipticle? It has plenty of clothes on it now. I need to eat at least a little better this week. I've been eating 90% junk and I'm starting to feel really icky from it. It really just zaps your energy and endorphins it seems.

Momof4, sorry I didn't get up the energy to join you the last couple of days. I did read like I said but just couldn't seem to get anything out. Oh, and don't forget your meds this week! :nono:

Vermont, did you get any riding in this weekend? My fiance has been riding some this week. Some days have been warmer than others. :moped:

Lost, aahh s'mores. Yummy. :drool: If you're going to splurge a little that's a good way to do it. I hope your dh's back heals quickly. It is a really bad time for that to happen but it will work out. It always does. I'm just so happy that you have a new place of your own.

Better get to bed girls, good night.

hope- i so love you....reminding me to take my meds..I really miss your post back before i stopped posting i always enjoyed your post cause you pretty much posted ALL the time...but its ok atleast your still reading..it happens..ive been there...youll come out of it I know you will!!

havish-thanks i dont really feel like I get everything right and do what I need to but I guess cause im in the middle of it.

SO GUESS WHAT EVERYONE...I EXCERCISED TONIGHT...lol...my teenager is going thru this stage the last few days since in health class she realized she is in the obese catagory. She is not over eating and tonight is the first night she excercised so I went down with her so she wasnt by herself....I felt good after I was done and came upstairs and it was like i wanted to go out for a run but it was dark and running in the city is cool when its dark or very safe!

so anyways...who knows...right now I am working on getting things organized and schedules straight so I think those things are important in order to eat properly and excercise I have to have a solid schedule!!

Ok well gonna go try and sleep even though im NOT tired...night

good morning chicks :) sunny and beautiful here but chilly, 30 degrees.

At least for now I am feeling good! And that is big for me, for this time of year (well, from now until almost April!) Using my Happy Light every day, taking my Wellbutrin XL every night, exercising almost every day.

hope4me, I havent been on the bike since ...hmm I forget which day it was, it was at least 3 or 4 days ago. But I do have to wean myself away from it. The inevitable *now is coming!

Havisham, can't remember if I posted it, but DH got ruled in his favor and yes he can collect UI while he is looking for something else. He has kicked around some ... radical :devil: ideas and I am trying to be supportive and understanding while still being scared :dizzy: about some of his ideas.

hello to everyone else! :hug:

Happy Monday all! I am surrounded by boxes that are calling to me to pack them, and I must get to it.... I have all those s'mores to work off (ummmm.... plus a lot of cheese lasagna :) ) so I will just jot off a quick note to say Have a really positive NSV and SV day!

Good morning, chickies, also sunny and cool here, but to be honest that's how I like it. I'm one of those strange depressives who LOVES fall. I don't know if it's a fat thing, but I hate being hot - I just find it drains me. So I love fall with it's cool sunny days and cold nights when I can light the fire.

Vermont - that is awesome news! I can relate on the 'ideas' - my DH has that habit, too...after 20 years I've learned the art of appearing interested and still reading my book! :)

Mom - EXCELLENT news! I bow before you as the thought of exercising is still horror provoking to me right now. I need to find a pool nearby that has actual lane swims - my nearest one gives us three lane widths, but only half lengths - it's ridiculous, you're barely in swing and you have to stop and turn around. I'm also going to start back in to the yoga - I know I always feel better when i do it, and my oldest son has said he'll start with me. Who knows how long that will last, but it's worth a shot! :)

Hope - thanks for the boost...is it pathetic that I feel all warm and fuzzy! :dizzy:

FINALLY going to get my scales tonight - fingers crossed I'm not waaaay more than i think I am! :?:

So Marbear = lazy. I don't feel like retyping everything - so I'm going to copy and paste from my blog. Well, I shouldn't say I'm lazy. I just have homework and work work to do and too much! Ahh!

Here's my blog drama. Will do personals tomorrow. Promise :(
:hugs: to all! Sorry I suck!


There are two things that really have just freaked me out this weekend. The first I feel is a valid reason, and the second is… well… because I’m crazy. Friday night we were doing errands and the hubby got a text from his brother. His brother was scheduled to be married in May. Hubby is the best man, I’m the photographer - so, you know, we both have significant roles to play in this process. My goal date to loose 75 lbs was May because I didn’t want to be the fat family member at the wedding. 75lbs from August - May = doable. Well, not so much anymore. The text was informing us that they’re going to have 2 weddings since my future SIL has a brother over seas who can’t make it to the one in May. When will the “new” date be? THE BEGINNING OF JANUARY!!! That removes 5 months from my timeline. There is NO WAY I can loose … what do I have left?… 60Lbs by January!!!! Very not doable! Oh, plus it may be two different dates in January. But they don’t really know which one yet. Nor do they know what will exactly be happening on the first date, but we get to drive to and from Philly (8 hours w/ no traffic) two weekends in a row (Christmas visit & Wedding). If we’re lucky, it will be two weeks apart! Plus, uh - does hubby need to rent two tuxes? One for Jan and one for May? Am I shooting two weddings? I was going to wait until the Christmas visit was over to order any more equipment, so I didn’t spend money I didn’t need to. (We were going to visit the venue and check out if the flash capacity on the pop up was adequate, what the lighting situations are so I could see if I needed a lens with a larger aperture, etc…) But I can’ leave 1 week to order and acclimate myself to new equipment - so I guess I just need to buy it and hope I need it!!! CAN SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT THE **** IS GOING ON?? Plus - who has two weddings to the same person without a divorce or 30 years between them?!

Oh. And then the “I’m crazy” part. You know that “guy” everyone has in their past. The only one who still has the ability to totally crawl under your skin and drive you INSANE. You know, the one you’ve always acted like a third grader around, kicking them in the shins and running away from them when they try to talk to you? Yeah. That guy. Well, apparently my friends cousin is friends with him now! And this is the cousin who normally throws the New Years parties we go to! Super! So the chances of me seeing this guy are pretty high now, and thats around the same time as my BIL’s wedding. Great. So if the wedding wasn’t a diet panic attack this is! I’d still love to know why this kid bothers me so much. Hello? Married! Very Happy! Very much do not want this guy seeing me looking less than perfect! Esp with his stupid little fiancee, who so better not me prettier than me.

Why the **** do I care!? I’d really love to know this. I really don’t like him anymore, and I am truly happily married. What the ****??

As for the diet - Yes. I know I’m doing this for me, and progress is progress, and I shouldn’t let it derail me, yada yada. But realistically, I’m not going off plan. I’m just going to go f’ing crazy to see if I can loose at LEAST 22lbs by the end of the year. This is going to get - well - insane to say the least. Here are the changes I’m making, and I’m extending/ revamping my challenge until the end of December.

Old Challenge (until Thanksgiving): Under 1650 calories/ day, 10 days where I can eat calories back, 150 min exercise a week.

New challenge (until the end of December): Under 1600/ day, 3 days where I can eat calories back, 4 days of lifting a week (at least 180 minutes) and at least 210 minutes of cardio a week. And I’m switching my “weekly start date” to Monday.

I’m going to ask my PT to get me back into a running program today. (I’ll ask today, I don’t expect to be back into a program by today Though, that WOULD be nice…) I was debating starting like P90 or ChaLEAn Extreme - but I don’t have 3 months before the wedding, so that would be setting myself to not finish it. I’m thinking that I can do one of those at the start of the new year as a “change up” as I feel I’m going to be a little burned from my current plan by then.

DAH!

On that note, we did have a nice weekend. Dim Sum was fun and we spent the night at hubby’s sister’s house in CT.

Weigh in today: 213 (water from sodium. Dim Sum = a wee bit high in sodium.)

Dude, I’m so going to kcik a$$ for the next two months.

Marbear, you can totally, totally do at least 22lbs by the end of the year. You've already done so well, and I know you can do this, too. We are all rooting for you!!!!! :hug: