Just want to say hi and introduce myself. Hope everyone is having a good day on all respects!

Thanks everybody for noticing! Being optimistic has been my goal for this month, last month (before I started chatting with the chicks at 3FC) I hardly even got out of bed and rarely did self care - so this month I am trying to really be grateful for what I have and be glad for the days when I get up, walk, shower, etc.... even if there are dishes in the sink, laundry everywhere and whatever else seems so overwhelming

hi taytay :)
and lost, well you certainly met your goal of being optimistic!!
momoffour - holy smokes :dizzy: how did you survive yesterday!
Leenie - best wishes to you!!

and best wishes to ALL of you!

Hello Ladies,

Marbear ~ Yeah right.. the bf doesn't do ****. He works and then comes home and sleeps. Plus I found out a few things today that I am not happy about.

Today has been a real crappy day. I am so depressed that I don't want to do anything except sleep. Took a 2 hour nap. I was so tired. Which of course I shouldn't have done because I have a presentation due tomorrow and I'm going to be up for hours trying to finish it.

Going to get some work done. Have a good night.

feeling tired today...I did good with the juice fast until I cooked supper and I wasnt even hungry..errr...
well really need to finish the mound of clothes tonight will i watch a movie to keep me going!!
night

marbear-what's your book about?

So much to respond to here but not enough time. Catch up tomorrow.

Good morning ladies

Mom - hope you got all of the laundry done! What movie did you end up watching.

Pure - :hug: Tell him if he doesn't cook dinner he's not eating! :D

Taytay - Hiya! Welcome.

Hope - Uh - it's kind of about me. Sort of. My grandfather died of a really rare disease when I was in middle school. Miss diagnosed as Alzhimers. I lived with my grandparents so it was an interesting experience, to say the least. Especially for a 6th grader. So It's kind of about that, with a bunch of fictional drama to round it off and make it a wee bit less depressing... Sarcastic humor is apparently my specialty :D


Everyone else :hug:

It's rainy here. I miss the sun.

Pure, sorry you're having a bad day, good luck with your presentation

hi taytay! leenie fingers are crossed for you

on a scary note, a friend's 4 year old is going in for an MRI tomorrow, brain tumor? we hope hope hope not... everybody cross fingers and send thoughts

I had a good day. The scale was kind to me this morning and I have now lost 27.5 pounds! That is a little over 1/3 lost of my total goal and a friend pointing out here that it also is over 10% of my total body weight lost. That makes me feel really good and the next time I see my doctor I will getting blood tests. I am curious to see if my cholesterol, triglycerides and sugar have gone down.

Hydra, that is great news, congratulations. Looks like you will make your Halloween goal. :bravo:

Lost, :crossed:

Marbear, that sounds very interesting. You should try to get it published, that would be very cool especially since it's based on part of your life.

Purefire, how was the presentation?

Momof4, vermontmom, leenie-how was your day?

Buddly, where are you?

I was off today but slept most of it. Seems to be a trend. We played pool tonight but didn't do very well. I really have a boring life b/c nothing interesting to tell comes to mind. See you girls later.

good morning chicks!

hopeforme, hey, sometimes nothing to tell about is 'good' instead of stuff that isn't good :D

Lost, I am hoping that little child is okay!

Marbear, that is impressive you are writing a book!

Hydra, congrats on that impressive loss! I hope blood tests do show an improvement andmake you and doctor happy.

Purefire, sorry you had a crappy day. and hope your presentation went wel.

Momof4, hope you got your clothes tackled.

leenie, any word about the business being bought? any word if it will affect you, more importantly?

well I can't remember if I told you all or not, but DH got terminated, over the phone on Tuesday (not cool, in my book) So we are on economic 'damage control' because it might be weeks before he can start to collect unemployment benefits. Of course he is already searching for a new job (at age 51 :?: ) but I am thankful for my winter job, and that I am physically able to get a part time job too.

hope everyone has a great day :)

VT Mom - Yeah, over the phone is not very cool. I went to alumni weekend this past weekend and found out my college has a new president. She apparently laid a bunch of people off, and told the newspaper before the people. So they got up in the morning and read the paper - only to find out they had lost thier jobs. Some people just don't have the tact to be in positions like that. I'm certain that your DH will find something else. I will keep my finges crossed for you.

Lost - I hope you're friends daughter is ok :( keep us posted.

Hope - In my opinion, boring is good. I'm kind of boring now - and I LOVE it. Drama free is the way to be!

Hydra - Congrats on the loss

Leenie, Mom, Pure - :hug:

Everyone else - where ya be?!? :( Come back!

As noted in my not to hope - I'm boring right now. Not too much. My friend read something I wrote yesterday and told me I was a "master writer." :( I feel that she is making fun of me, though she swears she isn't. I really wish I could take compliments without assuming people are making fun of me. Though in this case, I swear she totally is.

VT Mom, I agree with marbear, over the phone is not cool, but we know you'll be ok - hang in and come to us when yr down

no word yet on the little one's MRI, fingers still crossed

every one who needs them - hugs!

Mar-I watched "odd girl out" it was a good movie about teens...since im involved with teens alot i totally was into it...I didnt get much folded while it was on. I shoulda put a movie in i already seen so it wouldnt have distracted me

lost-I couldnt even imagine

hydra-that is awesome wish I could say that but i cant i suck at losing weight...LOL

hope-be thankful for your "boring" life....cause sometimes theres sooo much we cant handle it so be thankful...i really really stink at pool i dont even attempt to play it anymore...lol

Vermont-That is tough my dad is 54 and he was a manager for an airline and last year they pulled out of the terminal where he worked so he lost his job. He ended up helping my mom more with the foster kids they had and helped watch my kids if I needed sometime out. First time he did just sit around and watch tv!! But yeah he had a horse training job that she offered perm place thank God that it was there. So after his unemp. ran out he took that! You never know.

Nothing much going on other than the normal....lol...Trying to do some christmas shopping cause I want to look around and find stuff i wanted to get them and not just buy stuff that is cute and later wish I hadnt. Shopping for 5 kids is hard. We did a christmas club but I am thinking bout working for a month seasonal again??? Don't know yet my husband will probably say NO NO NO...cause with our schedules its very hard to work around them. Anyways im gonna go got some youth paper work to do!!

:wave:

I can't stay but wanted to send prayers for the little 4 year old :hug:

I will catch up in a few days (I did read all the post but can't respond to them all).. sorry.

:hug: to everyone.

Leenie

Thanks hope4me, vermontmom, marbear and momof4under5! I truly appreciate the encouragement. I really like celebrating these mini-goals. I plan to treat myself by using some beads I have to make myself a nice necklace this weekend.

hope4me - that is nice you played some pool.

vermontmom - sorry that happened to your hubby that is really s****y how they did that. Hang in there, you sound so positive and that will help you during this time.

momof4 - good luck with the christmas shopping!

down night dont really want to talk bout it..would rather just cry...talk to you all tomorrow

sounds like a blue day mom - hang in there, it will pass, talk when yr ready

:wave: Just poppin in.

Its a gloomy day outside so I tend not to look out the window to much here at work.. last thing I need is a downer lol.

:hug: to everyone needing a little extra today. It will pass.. press on !!

:cheer: to everyone with a little milestone to celebrate.

Gotta run ... lots of work to do and only one of me.

Leenie

Hi, there,
I'm new to the board and wanted to introduce myself. I'm turning 40 in a few weeks, my husband works overseas (bomb disposal) and is only home a few weeks a year so it's just me and the kids most of the time - boys 18 and 10. I have a career that I enjoy - and sometimes detest.

I've had clinical depression (very treatment resistant) for almost 20 years but (finally) I feel pretty stable...touch wood. Before my diagnosis (and after the year from **** ending up with moving to Canada - in FEBRUARY - I wondered how people lived here during the winter!) I just piled on the weight - 150lbs in a year. I've gone up and down ever since, and just need to start making the current mental stability (which is all relative, of course) help with the weight. I feel like such a blimp.

Marbear, I'm also writing a book - but mine's a thriller. Keep me posted on how yours is going. :) We budding writers need to support each other!

Ok - that's me. I hope to meet you all and chat and see if I can offer some support as I know I'll be on the receiving end of it. Rookie question - what is DH and DD? Saw them posted but don't know what they mean. :o

Long day tomorrow..still sick...babysat a 3 year old boy for my mom...cleaned my whole back yard..then watched my 11month old nephew for a lil while also..then had to run and get buns for the youth funraiser tonight..then came home an crashed for a little bit..then off to church to make the sandwiches, then came home and cleaned cleaned cleaned, scrubbed walls and floors...I am pooped gonna go crash cause its starts again early...soccer game at 10 with all the children but i have my new adopted sister to help with the kids, then drop off some sandwiches, then to my moms for a thing called hartslog day (craft thing that takes over the whole little town people come from all over for it!!), then have to leave there and be at church for drama at 6:15!!! I am pooped just writing it all out...anyone wanna switch places for a day??? ANY TAKERS??? LOL well atleast my nails look pretty a dark red with gold tips (painted by ME!!) and my legs are SHAVED!!! haha thats a big accomplishment for a mom with tons of kids...my showers are done in under two minutes most days so no time for shaving there..hm im even lucky i get a shower in!! I soaked in the bath last night to help me feel better!!

Ok enough of me Where has SASSY been she usually out talked me??

lata chicks!!

:welcome: Havisham

Glad you could join us, and you know it chickie, support is our middle name ;)

DH means dear husband, and DD is dear daughter... I like to call them darling husband and darling daughter lol ;)

Glad you can stay :hug:

Thanks, Leenie - it's a great place to be!

Mom - you make my 'single mother with a career and commute' life sound so easy. You deserve a medal!!!!

Having a day where I want to throttle my 18 year old, and the 10 year old is sick and wanted DQ burgers for dinner - I confess, I caved and had one myself. If I wasn't so frustrated I'd feel guilty, but I'm gonna go buy a load of fruit tonight so I'll make it up to myself!

Hope all are having a great day! Happy Thanksgiving to all the Canucks!

Havish- that is funny....single mothers work very hard too..I dont think I could do this all as a single mom..just wouldnt be able to make it and be sane when i was done

ok still not feeling well...finished lunch going to talk to youth then going to bed!

Just a quick update on my friends 4 year old! MRI results in NOT NOT NOT a brain tumor!!!!!! She's gonna be OK! Wonderful! Wonderful! - Thank you so much for all your kind words, thought and prayers!!!

Hello to everyone and welcome to Havish! :)

Been working alot but I am in good spirits, we found that we can move some retirement funds around so we have some cushion $ and that makes all the difference that we don't feel that the 'wolf is at the door'.

This must be one of those 'learning experiences' that makes one realize to be thankful for simple basic things . I am now thankful that I am healthy and strong enough to work extra hours, and thankful for the crappy winter job that I usually complain about so much but is steady :devil: And thankful that during the very stressful week, DH and I did not snipe at each other because of the stress; rather felt more bonded that it was 'us' against the adversary.

Okay I am done convincing myself that DH losing job was a good thing! :devil: Hope every one has a good day :hug:

momof4, you do SO much!! I applaud you!

Oh that is wonderful news!!! :carrot:

lost-that is awesome I am sure the parents are sooo happy!!

vermont-thanks but I still cant get everything right and there are days I feel like I suck at my job...If I could just get myself structured and in order everything would go sooo much smoother!!

Just a quick note, as I am using posting to avoid the avalanche of work that is falling on my head today

Am going to check out an apt that might be in my price range, if it is not scary dangerous I may have a place to live next month that is not on anybody's couch - that would make me VERY happy! fingers are crossed!!!

YEAH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God is Good :hug:

Holly :hug: keep it up darling, I just love reading your positive thoughts. To be humbled is a good thing... makes the heart smile at things you never thought it would. You go girl !!

LBST good luck with the apt .. I'll send out some prayers that everything is just what you need. Let us know.

Mom, I think everyone feels at one time or another that they stink at their jobs or could do it better.. I know I do. And then I get my review from my boss and its amazing, she see's in me things I can't even begin to imagine... When I read her review I was like... is she talking about ME? So.. don't be so hard on yourself... ok love :hug: we really are our own worst critics.

Havisham.. how are you today? Were you able to pass up DQ? We have one by me but it doesn't serve hot food (anymore). Good thing LOL.

Well chicks, off to get dinner ready for my hungry little bears.

Have a great week ahead.

Leenie

thanks leenie....it is still hard everyday knowing i coulda done more and the day has slipped away without me even knowing it!

Hi everybody,

Just wanted to stop in and say hi. I've been reading and keeping up but not posting much. I have a midterm this saturday and a regular test the following week. I have an 'A' average so just trying not to screw it up. All I've been doing is working, studying, and somehow managing to sleep too much inbetween. I have a headache I can't seem to get rid of from laying around too much when I'm home and not working out. :p

Lost-I'll keep my fingers crossed on the apartment. I so hope it works out for you. It's terrible to feel unsettled.

Buddly-where are you? You ok?

Mom- You always do TOO MUCH!

Vermont- I hope your hubby finds something quickly and this is just a small bump in the road. I'm glad you have some funds to fall back on.

Havisham, welcome and good luck on your book. That is so cool that you're writing.

Leenie, I'm not surprised you get good reviews at work. You seem like such a hard worker there and at home.

Hi everyone :wave:

Hope congrats on the A average!! You are doing wonderfully. How is you DH?

lbst that is wonderful news about your friends daughter. And I really hope the apt works out for you.

Vermont that is great that you were able to find a financial cushion. With the economy turning around here's hoping your hubby finds a better job.

Welcome Havish.

Leenie, mom, you both work to hard!!

I'm doing alright. My mom and I took a road trip back to her hometown and spent 10 days visiting old friends and not much else. It was so nice and relaxing. Something we both needed.
Last week I started a new group therapy course. I'm hoping it improves as the first two hours were so confusing and left me with a splitting headache. It goes until Dec 9th so lots of time yet. I pulled out my little "golite" as the days are getting shorter and the silly thing won't work. :( it has the blue light and I was considering getting a white light one as it didn't really seem to help as much as I had hoped, so now I have no excuse not to look into the new one.
Because my mom and I shared a room for 9 nights she gave me a running commentary on my poor sleeping (loud snoring, whistling, stopping breathing etc) so I'm thinking I should ask my doctor about getting my tonsils removed. I've had problems with them since I was an infant, but the doctor always maintained I'd "grow into them" Well I'm 43 now and the darn things still swell and touch the uvula. I've often wondered if I had sleep apnea and now I wonder if its obstructive sleep apnea and getting the tonsils removed could solve a whole host of problems. I've been doing some research and it sounds manageable. I've always been scared as my mom got her's removed at 19 and it was quite the horror story, but that was 1964. I have a prescription apt with my doc on Thurs, so I'm sort of hoping for a good infection or whatever it would take to convince him that 43 yrs of suffering is enough.

Well I should head off to sleep here. Take care everyone and have a wonderful week! :)
K

Hey all - so it feels like Monday, here in sunny Canada. I survived the weekend without killing my 18 year old, although that may come ....never say never.

Every time I speak to my husband (who works in Lebanon, and therefore has no daily interaction with the kids) he tries not to get mad but he always has to tell me that I'm too soft on them, and they wouldn't abuse me if I were firmer and on and on...And he's right. It's just so tough when he's never here and it's just me, all the time. My 18 year olds latest is that I should pay him for stuff he does around the house (down to putting out the garbage) and then I wouldn't be always lending him money and I'd get stuff done around the house. When I suggested that it was maybe not fair that I do everything when we all make the mess and I work full time, his response was 'but you're the mom - that's what you do'. Justifiable homicide, anyone?

Work is insane stressful, and I confess I just got a chocolate bar because if I didn't I was going to explode....I took an Oxazepam with it, which probably helps! :) As I write this, I'm procrastinating about all the things in my inbox, that I should be dealing with. I need to center myself and that's tough today.

anyway, thank you for listening...I'm heading home soon and I'm going to give the kids leftovers and just have fruit...it's the least stressful and makes up for the chocolate crime.

I hope everyone is having a good day....

Mom - hope you're feeling better!

Lost - that is AWESOME news!

Vermont - SO glad that you managed to find a buffer - that's some stress off...don't suppose your DH does bomb disposal? I could get him something with my husband if he did! :)

Hang in all!

Hey ladies - lots to catch up on!
Bud - glad you had fun on your vaca. If you have your tonsils out you get to eat ice cream for a week! That justification would be enough for me to do it! :)

Hope - goodluck on your midterm, congrats on the A!

LBST - I'm glad everything turned out OK with your friends child.

VT Mom - When one door cloases, another opens. In the long run DH's situation MAY be a good thing afterall. Keep your chin up.

Havisham - "Cool" with regards to writing a book. Mine is... well... mine is what I need to get out before I can write what I want to write, so it's kind of an accident, if you will. Apparently it's a godd accident, so we'll see where it goes :) I say you do have a case for justifiable homicide. I'd stop doing your son's laundry for a week or two adn see if he gets the hint that he needs to help out. 18 is old enough to be paying rent, and dude - rent is expensive! I wish I still lived with my mommy from a financial perspective!

Leenie, Mom - :hug:

Not much here. I need a concentration Tune up, seriously I can't pay attention to anything for more than 5 minutes lately. I downloaded Ella Enchanted yesterday, that made me very happy :D Uh - really kind of boring right now. Busy as all ****, but boring busy - I think that's the worst kind of busy there is!

today was exhausting! eating to much wasn't really a problem between stepped up packing schedule and DD being down with the flu. At this point I am really regretting not packing her room up first because there would have been less stuff for her to puke all over. wheew........ diet aid for sho' Still haven't heard back from apartment we applied from starting to really worry that its a bad sign and its back to the "living in my car" plan

so i have been crying a lot since yesterday. My 6 year old son told me he wished his family was killed except his bro and sis. I said so you want me and papa to be killed and he says not papa just you. Then he was like well i didnt mean it....it was to late it was said..he had just got home from being over night at my moms so i woulda figured he missed me. I was already feeling soo crappy about how sucky of a mom I am and how much I need to change... so I cried last night for like 40 mins. Ok so lets back up to sunday...those of you that are christians will understand those who arent you can skip this part. I have been really battling anger. So the message was just using our authority we have in christ. So I decided I am not going to let this anger rage in me it has to go because its not of God. Well since sunday I havent felt that anger. So today of course my 6 yr old was home and him and his brother just feed each other and they go until I flip out. I dont matter how many times I say stop that or pick that up or do that they dont listen until I get to that point I just scream.... Well they were doing it to me today and I went to put the sweeper in the shoe closet and just broke down cause the closet I took time to fix and organize and bought things to help it stay that way was just a big mound of junk. Nobody in this house cares...i clean it or even have them clean it and its trashed within seconds. NO BODY CARES.....yes yes i know thats part of being a mom...but these kids dont do this stuff at my moms house cause they know they cant get away with it so apparently they think they can here so I called my husband bawling we decided we need to sit down and find something that works when hes here and when hes not cause spanking all day long is not going to work. I believe in spanking but not for everything they do wrong. They need natural consequences so they learn life lessons and not just the lesson of dont get caught. so my 6 year old heard the conv. and come out crying and was like mom im sorry for doing this to you...and then went and cleaned out the shoe closet...He had asked me this morning to forgive him for saying that to me and that he asked God to forgive him last night....but its just been a long long day...
then at youth prayer one of the girls innocently said they wished my husband was there cause hes usually the one that does prayer...and i just lost it.. I had went early to play the piano to just destress and it really helped.
I have been listening to The climb its such a good song I love it
Ok well thats my day...gonna go catch you all later!! thanks for listening!

Mom - :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug: :hug:

Good Morning Ladies...

Good Morning Ladies...

Just a little tired this morning.

I had my finals for my law & ethics class. I believe I passed it but have to wait until next week to find out.
The presentation I had to do what just really funny. I got so nervous that I could barely talk which wasn't good. Waiting on that grade to... One more final to go tomorrow and I am done with the first term. Next one starts on Monday so as of 10am tomorrow I will be on a 4 day vacation. So can't wait.

Other than that I started eating right again, its getting cold out so I really don't feel like walking. I'll have to figure out something else...

Have a good day everyone