I weighed in yesterday, but did not lose any this week. I confess that I have been working on a bit of a bad attitude lately.

I have been going to support group for three months. I have a good friend who has always weighed less than me. Every week after my meeting she would ask me how much I had lost. As I lost weight, she began commenting that she needed to get busy--she couldn't let me get smaller than she is.

Now she wants to start going with me to the meetings. As a friend, I should be happy. But truthfully I am not. Maybe it's because I feel that some of my success has been because it was my personal choice and decision that has nothing to do with her and now she wants to make it a competition.

I don't know quite how to turn my thinking around on this. I am afraid that this is the kind of little mental set-back that could totally get me off track. Does anyone understand this or am I completely out in left field with my attitude?

Lost 4 pounds; ONLY 6 TO GO. One by the end of the week...and then only 5 more by Halloween!!! I can't wait to look smoking in my schoolgirl costume. ;)

emileigh, I definitely understand where you're getting at. This is for you; not her. Sure, stay friends and stay close. But, maybe stop talking to her about weight loss if it's making you feel badly.... Certain friends are not always good for that. One of my close friends who has been naturally uber-thin her whole life despite everything flaunts her bad eating in front of me no matter how much I try to 'show' her that I'm serious about weight loss. Then, does a similar thing to your friend. Instead, we just don't talk about weight loss... since, it just makes me feel miserable.

Emileigh- NO!!!!! don't let your friend mess up all your hard work. This is for YOU don't listen to her. Shes not going to stick to it if her only goal is being smaller than you.Don't let ANYONE step in your way!!! If you get a little reward of being smaller than her then :yay: for you..... The most important thing is not giving up because of her.

Lori- I so love you girly :hug: I hope when you have reached your goal you do not leave us. So many of us would miss you so very badly:hug: hug:
SIZE ten is getting to small? Wow! The last time I could fit in a size ten I was 15...Once I had my daughter I don't even think of those sizes anymore..Just leaving the size 20's will be sweet enough :D I thought I looked pretty cute in a 16 but that just feels unreachable:^:

chubbyphotographer- WELCOME :) I was almost put on cholesterol meds. The thought scared me into not just losing weight but doing it healthier. I had two months to bring all my numbers down or I would be put on meds.My doctor didn't have much hope that I would do it ...she already order a liver test with the next cholesterol test to make sure it would handle the meds. I showed her..... I don't have to take anything and all my numbers are looking good. I do take fish oil with my multi-vitamin just for an extra boost...it helps keep the cholesterol in check.

babenwaiting- Come on girl :carrot: Lets fix our mess and get those vacation pounds back off and then some :dizzy:

I'm off to go eat the yummy looking salad I bought yesterday but didn't have time to enjoy....Time for lunch :cool:

misspriss78Thanks so much!!! I hope your cardio workout went well!!!:D

emileigh I would just totally put my foot down with the friend...First of all sounds like she was ok with you being the bigger one and now that your nearing her size she fears this...And That is sooooo wrong of her....Sounds like she is out to ruin your success or compete as you was thinking...Either is not good for you....Just tell her You have thought about it and do not wanna have the added pressures from her being involved and would perfer her not to join....If she is a truely good friend she will step down from the thought of joining you. Also maybe add That there is other progams & support groups that would be helpful to her If she is having a problem....And tell her you no longer care to share your weight with her.:hug:
ugggghhhhh I am so disturbed by her actions....Let me know how it goes....As a friend to you on here~I wanna say~I am proud of all your loss ~And All I want is for you to succeed....It May be time for new friends hun....:(
TAKE CARE & STAY STRONG!

loquaciousjogger Way to go on the 4 pounds!!! A school uniform~Like a britney spears type thing?~GOOD GOAL! Sounds sexy~Lord knows some sexy clothes from time to time boost the self esteem & is a super motivation during weight loss!!!:) GOOD LUCK!

Losing4another You will have to drag me from here!!! LOL~I am here to stay!! I think I am gonna go to 150 anyways then to 135 for my Permanant number. I have thought & thought & thought About it and figured I May be fine with 150 but 130's sounds dreamy~But no lower for me~I need some booty & Bazoombas left for the hubby ~So 150 was my start out goal but may not be my official goal...Just will see when I get there.
AND EVEN AFTER GOAL IS REACH I WILL BE HERE AS MUCH AS I ALWAYS AM~CAUSE I WANNA SUPPORT MY BUDDIES AND CELEBRATE WHEN THEY REACH THERE GOALS ALSO!!!!:hug:( by the way,I am eating a salad too~YUM YUM!)

I thought about it alot....IS It Ok Since Jam is unable to do the cc Holiday challenges if I continue to do them? Or does someone else wanna???? Thats ok to if so....But I am willing if theres no takers. Just let me know what y'all think about it.

I am down to 174.8 today So I have lost a grand total of 85 pounds! And I have 3.8 to go to reach my cc halloween challenge goal....Another day without exercise I really did a number on my shoulder ~DANG IT!

:carrot:I hope everyone has a super day!!!!:carrot:

Lori, it's more of a traditional sort of thing. I got a plaid jumper, knee highs and stilletos. It's pretty sexy regardless. I'm pretty pumped to look good in it. I already feel so good about the weight loss-- my pants look right in the right places for once! I feel the eyes on me. lol.

Good luck everyone!

LOL~SOUNDS COOL loquaciousjogger !!!!!

I am starting to like how certain clothing pieces fit me also...And look so much better! But I can not begin to imagine how nice I might look at your weight!!! I can not wait to be at your weight!
Enjoy those clothes fitting nice!!!!

I wrote my little message about my "competitive" friend before going to work yesterday. All day I didn't have a chance to drop back in here but I was afraid that what I had posted just made me sound negative and far too sensitive.

Instead, I got responses from people who understand my reaction and continue to encourage me to succeed.

:hug: back to all of you. I think this is just what I needed to hear. My focus needs to be on me, not on her. And I do need to try to avoid discussing my weight issues with her in the future because it just leaves me feeling that she thinks I am not supposed to be the thinner one --sort of like it's my place in life to be heavier than she is.

Anyway I am going to get over that and refocus. It is much more rewarding to come here for support and to see the AMAZING accomplishments of people who are taking this Halloween challenge and all of their wonderful reasons that have to do with health and self-esteem and future plans!

I personally may not make my Halloween challenge but I still have 15 days to go and I at least want to get 4 of my total October goal.

Hi everybody! I'm still here and losing although very very slowly (hence the snail on my ticker) i'm down 2 pounds for the challenge and want to get to 199. That's 4 more pounds as I was 203 this A.M.
Good luck everone!.

Lori-:lol: I need some booty & Bazoombas left for the hubby :lol: Your to funny. You know when I started my goals and trying to lose weight I never thought I would get to onderland. As I'm getting closer and closer I don't really know where to put another goal. I don't feel close to being DONE losing weight but I really don't have set goal in mind. I thought onderland was so out of reach that I never thought what would happen if I passed it :eek: Never let myself think that far ahead. Now I'm thinking maybe 170's...I believe that was a size 16...still over weight but didn't feel fat....If that makes sense at all. Glad to know your not going anywhere:hug: I'd be lost without ya :(

Emileigh- Good for you :hug: We all have people like that in our lives and can relate to a freind like that. Got to put yourself first and don't let anyone stand in your way to get to where you want to be. I probably will not make my halloween goal either but it's not going to stop me from getting as close as I can

Oh that reminds me...I don't know who Jam is but I think Lori doing another challenge we be a great idea with me :D

Starzmom- :yay: Slow is still getting closer to goal. One pound at a time :goodscale

emileigh~:carrot:AMEN GIRL AMEN!:carrot:

Starzmom Your doing so great!!!! Come on Onederland!!!!:)

Losing4another yep some booty & bazoombas for the hubby!!!:D (Although he may have been the reason my shoulder was Out and I missed a few days of exercise ;) HAHAHAHAHAHA!
Anyways....
Girl you will be to onederland before you know! Your getting sooooooo close!
If your comfortable with a size 16 then I would work for that~If you decide to go to a different size once you get there Thats cool too.....
It's whatever size or number we Are happy with.
We will all know when we reach That point.:hug:
I AMMMMMMMMMMMMMM SOOOOOOOOOOO SLEEPY SO IF I MISTYPE I BLAME IT ON THAT~I ALWAYS COME IN HERE LATE AT NIGHT AFTER THE KIDS AND HUBBY HAVE LET GO OF THE COMPUTER......So I Have errors alot
So Please pay no mind.

Oh nearly forgot....
As long as the rest of the gang doesn't care I will do the next cc challenge then.

EVERYONE HAVE A SAFE & SUPER WEEKEND!

Just stopping in to say hello to everyone. Tomorrow morning is my weigh in and measurements day. I will be back tomorrow with my results. Still have 9 more lbs to go to make my Halloween challenge. Anything is possible!!

Good Morning:coffee:

I weighed this morning, down 3.4lbs :cloud9:

Congrats to everyone still with us! Have a wonderful weekend!!! I plan on taking a rest day today and a fullbody workout tomorrow...:)

After weighing this morning, I'm down to 213. Now I have to remain focused this week to get away from my pattern of drop several pounds one week only to lose nothing the next. I've decided to reset my goal to 210.

I'm doing better with my exercise and I feel just as good about that as I do about the weight loss.

Keep up the good work, everyone! :D

Hello everybody! I hope everyone is having good weigh-ins this week.

I weighed in at 203.7 this morning, down 16.3 pounds for this challenge and 3.7 more pounds to goal weight. I can't wait to see Onederland!!!!!!

Good luck everyone!

The scale shows me at 222 today! :carrot: I have met my Halloween goal and will keep on going. :haphal: This marks 30 pounds lost for me. I am looking forward to saying goodbye to the 220s. Please know that the wonderful support I get here at 3FC is key to my success. :hug: