Mercy, I'm so very sorry to hear that. Wish I could say something to lessen the pain. So sorry for you and yours.
Thank you all for the sweet kind thoughts, as always. You all are so caring. We are trying to forget about the boys. Most likely we won't get them. We are going to focus on positive thoughts about our next newborn. We are holding out for a boy. Can't wait. They are so gentle and tiny and smell so good. I love babies, can you tell? Our baby is probably still in his oven.
I have to go but take care everyone, big bear squeezy hugs to each of you.
Selina - It sounds like that place has dragged y'all through teh mud. I'm sick at what they have done to not only you, but those boys. I may be pushing it here, but after people have lost NINE chilren because they can't take care of them, they should be steralized. That makes me so ill I can't even being to tell you.
I pray those little boys do get a home one day, but I dont' wish it be their bio-parents. They sounds like people that need help. Many to you. I know you've been through so much. I just hope you get a new little one soon.
Mercy, I am so sorry. Please know that you are in my thoughts.
Selina, the foster care system is so very difficult to deal with. I give you a lot of credit for the efforts you have gone through already. They say all things happen for a reason, although we may not know or understand what that reason may be. Stay strong, good things are on the horizon.
To the rest of the blue team...it's finally Friday! Have a great day and an even better weekend!
hey blue team, nice to see everyone still going strong. great job ladies!
Sunni hope the job applications are going well! i have to fill in my application form for a voluntary counselling job, i keep procrastinating on it! i must do it tommorow!
Bigmid, thanks for your message and way to go on breaking through the 100s. that is AWESOME!
Mercy , i totally sympathesise, whenever i reach 155, i do a party and gain again ! gah! i'm with you, going to resolve not to RELAX when i hit 155 again. i looked at my numbers for this challenge, and i've been maintaining for the past 3 months lol.
today i went for a run in the park which was really nice. i've done that twice this week. i am getting back into exercising regularly now
feels good to have that achy body feeling again after a workout hehe.
a big hello to everyone else on the team!
Isabella, i TOTALLY hear ya on losing and gaining the same 3 pounds, thats what i've been doing for the past 3 months!
babygrant, i like your idea of no more excuses!! i'm gonna do the same!
this morning, i was thinking as i usually do, oh i will have breakfast and THEN i will workout, but what usually happens, is i will have breakfast, and then i get lazy and dont want to exercise. so this morning, after i got up, i got dressed in my workout clothes and i went for a run in the park and it was fine! i didnt keel over from hunger. i actually prefered running on an empty stomach.
so i'm gonna do that from now on, exercise as soon as i've gotten up whether i want to or not. besides its nice to get it out of the way.
funny thing was, i was listening to the podcast, and they said that just try working out on an empty stomach and see how you feel personally. so i did!
wow Angela, down 2lbs already. GOOD JOB!
LOL Mercy your beer comment made me laugh
Oh Mercy, i am so sorry to hear about your sister my condolences to you and your family, may she rest in peace.
Selina so sorry to hear how much trouble you're going through. you and your family sound so amazing that any kid would be lucky to be in your family. its ridiculous how hard they are making it for you!
Thank y'all. Trying very very hard to stay hopeful about the next baby who comes. It's time for things to change. And yes, after even 2 children that someone isn't caring for, they should have their tubes tied. Then if/when they get straight, fine. They can have them untied but I'm yet to see that happen and we've had 28 or maybe more foster kids and babies. One bio mom was 21 and had 5 kids and would sometimes not show up to visits with them and when she did she'd have a diff guy with her every time til they finally told her the new men couldn't enter the visit. Her husband was in jail and she'd date whoever and always come to visits with her nails and hair all done up and never bring all the kids anything. I heard her be rude to the oldest, a 6 yr old who cared for the babies for days at a time while the mother partied, trying to make diapers out of old shirts, mush old bananas for making baby food, I heard her tell this little girl, Well, your dad is gonna be SOOO mad y'all are in care! Like it was HER fault. So ridiculous. She would be hateful if the kids were wearing new clothes. They came with what was on their backs because the mother wouldn't let them take their things. What did she THINK they were going to wear??? And they had lice so bad the doctors we took them to said we must shave their heads. I would NOT do it. No way. I'd do everything in my power not to send little girls to school bald. So my husband and I sat for 8 hours a day for 3 days straight (plus more because they reoccurred), with only short breaks to change out the movies they were watching during it or bathroom breaks. Kids were so tired of sitting still they were crying. It was very very hard but we succeeded and removed them all and all the nits. Our hands were so sore. There seemed to be thousands. Makes me itch thinking about it. I never got it tho, thankfully. She didn't care that her kids had missed almost half a year of school before they were removed from her. Mostly because of lice. Those poor babies had had lice for so many years, I'd never seen anything like it before or since. I still can't believe she let her kids live that way. Some people do not care. I would have thought so much of her if she had just TRIED to do anything at all for them. But nothing. But she did plenty for herself though.
And she wasn't affectionate with them and they were hurting. They missed the grandparents mostly. They felt like they had to take care of their mother though, she didn't care for them. Sad sad. They all five got adopted by a family in Michigan who already had 9 kids. Just hope they are ok.
We have been behind bios getting them back. And some did because they did what the judge said. They deserved them back. But most people don't do anything and just lose the child and let the child go into adoption but some never get adopted. How can they let their child just flail about like that? Not knowing if anyone loves them? How can they stand not knowing where their child is or how they are doing??? I know people have different circumstances. It's hard for me to see the bios sides though because so many have had so many chances to get their kids back and they don't do it. They come to visits high and they ignore the kids or ignore one or two at the visits, you can see favoritism in most groups of sibs. Very sad. I just hate it for the kids in care. Breaks my heart.
I'm sorry, I know their are other boards for this subject. I just can't get my mind on weight loss lately. I come back though because coming here keeps me from overeating when I'm stressed. Sorry!!
Selina, those stories break my heart. DH and I want to adopt when his kids are grown and I would love to foster as well. There are so many kids that need homes, and you have one of the biggest hearts I've ever "seen." People like you and your husband make me believe there is good in this world. Bless you and your family.
Thank you so much for the love and support. I certainly made the right choice in choosing this forum and especially the blue team.
This unexpected death of my sister has been trying for me and my family, but especially my 83yr old mother.My sisters death is a coroners case so we haven't been able to make plans for her funeral, so it's been a little bit hard not knowing when we can finally put her to rest. Your kindness in words has made it easier for me and wish to tell all of you that I appreciate and never can express my true feelings for all the kind words.
Thank you all for being such a loving and supportive group.
Echo - Nice to see you again, chica!! Good job on the run in the park! I also love that post-workout soreness. Makes me feel like I'm actually doing something, hehe. I'm so procrastinating on these two apps that I need to get out soon. I get the feeling that the peeps who are interested in me don't want to spend a lot of money to have me fly up so they're asking if I have other interviews so they can share the cost. *eyeroll* Anyway, we planned on going up to Boston to look at apts and decided I should tell these guys I'm going to be in the area and be in their face about how talented and wonderful and perfect I am for the job . We'll see how that approach works...
Selina - Reading your post just made my blood boil against irresponsible bio parents. Really, they need a good reaming out and LOTS of training classes in how to be a parent. It just amazes me that some people have to be taught to care for their child(ren). Really? Then don't have kids. Those who have one kid, and know they're crappy parents, should give the child up to fit parents and sterilize themselves. Sounds harsh, but it's true. It would prevent having children deprived of childhoods. I really feel for the kids you mentioned in your post. Those poor things... I hope it works out for them. to you.
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So I'm annoyed and really angry. Why? Well, yesterday I had naan and curries for lunch (all homemade). Then Mr. Sunni wanted to go out to eat, which isn't a problem for me, seeing as I was on plan and figured a dinner wouldn't do too much damage. WRONG. We went out for Thai. I ate some noodle thingie with tofu and lettuce and Mr. Sunni got some brothy noodle type dish. We always share our dishes, but this time I ate only a little of his and maybe a little more than half of mine. This morning, I'm up 2 lbs. What the HECK!!?? I have to watch what I eat like a hawk even when I exercise? The teeniest bit of sodium and up I go. The worst part is, I'm not even in healthy BMI yet. I'm 1 pt away. If I was in the 24s, I would chill up on myself and get back into it, but I'm not. This is so annoying. I need to lose ~20 lbs and it just feels overwhelming at this point. GAH. Sorry for the rant. I'm going to get a workout in before we go to pick up my parents from the airport. I'm just so upset. All that hard work from these past two weeks to drop TWO measly lbs and here they are again. Ok, I'll stop.
Enjoy your weekend ladies! I'll be away so I'll check back in on Monday.
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Selina, that story of that mother and her kids and the lice. is horrfyling, makes me wonder why did she have the kids in the first place, better birth control needs to be in order!!!!
that was so sweet of you not to shave the girl's heads, bless you and your hubby for saving their hair and getting rid of that lice through all that hard work.
aww Mercy, you're so sweet, i'm glad too that you are here with us. rest in peace Karen Cruz.
Thanks Sunni for your message and that sounds like a great approach, being proactive is a good thing!
Aww I can understand your frustration Sunni, but its probably just water weight cause of the salt, so its not a true weight gain. i'm sure you will be down those two pounds in a day or two again.
i just did p90x core synergistics, which is a great workout. i hope my abs feel achy tommorow so i know i worked them out right. burned 307 calories during the 57 minute workout and so i MUST NOT go over my allocated calories!
Mercy03 - I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family at this diffcult time
Sunnigummi - I hope you have a great weekend with you parents, the cashew dessert sounds really good, your flip a coin story is very funny - online do I or don't I...lol, don't feel bad about being the same weight as hubby we all carry it differently I wish I was 152 I would be way past my goal for myself. Don't worry about the 2lbs it's water and you'll walk it off this weekend away.
retiredone- wow sounds like a couple great days of working out. Thanks for the receipe it sounds good I will have to try it soon.
Echo - I hope you get the applications filled out sometime they can be a daunting task as they ask such strange questions. I love to work out on an empty stomach...I only do this on my days off as I am to lazy to workout in the mornings that I work. But on the weekends I always work out in the morning and on an empty stomach. I feel so good afterwards and don't get hungry for about an hour after. WOW a 307 calorie burn in 57min...that's hard core. How are the driving lessons going? still enjoying them?
Nella - Isn't it nice to go for a walk outside. I love spring it makes you feel so good.
babygrant - I love your NO MORE EXCUSES motto. Have you talked to your dentist or oral surgan (sp)? I have TMJ and they won't cover a night splint but if your dentist puts down a different reason (say grinding in my case) it is totally covered....stupid but maybe there is a work around. Good luck. I don't have anyother offerings for soft foods but the ones already given.
dayoneagain - WTG on you 2mile walk....don't say only 2 miles say WOW I just did 2 miles Where are you going for your holiday in a week? I know what you mean for wanting to be on the loser list...it is my motivation. I haven't seen it as much this time but I keep hoping I'm on it
weebleswobble - WOW great find a suit for $6.00 and a size 12 woohoo!!
capebretonchick - How do you like the c25k so far? I had wanted to start it soon if I can walk again.
soon2befitchick - that is quite the story and kudos to you and your husband for doing so much for those kids. That is incrediable. I hope you get your baby soon.
ars - WTG for being OP good luck for the next 2 weeks of classes.
Well as for me I am still down the 2.4 but I am affraid that won't last. I wasn't able to exercise yesterday and not sure about today either. I had heel spurs in my left foot for the first time last year and when it flared up last time I could not walk way to painful. The last 2 weeks I have been doubling up my workouts and finally seeing results......guess what......heel spur in my right foot now.... I thought exercise was supposed to be good for you. I have been working out anyway while the pain was not to bad but as of yesterday I was having trouble walking and the pain is worse this morning. I have done my stretches and icing so I hope to be able to do some exercise later today. This sucks I was finally seeing some progress and had hope to get to 195 by tomorrow. Oh well keep on slugging.
Thanks Bigmid, very nice of you to say! I appreciate it. and thanks for asking about my driving, so sweet of you to remember bless.
finally did my application form. yeh! been procrastinating on it for weeks. it wasnt as bad as i thought it would be. but you're right about those pesky questions.
i also had to write a one page personal statement as why i want to do it and what qualities i have that make me suitable , i wrote it and sent it to my cousin and friend to check through. once i hear back from them, will mail it off.
driving lessons are going good. thanks for asking my original instructer left so i have a new one. he kinda throws me in the deep end, and i really miss my previous instructer i was so comfortable with her and really enjoyed our driving sessions. but she had to leave as she has a new baby etc. the new instructer isnt so bad, just gotta get used to his style of teaching i suppose. my test date is end of may, so i gotta get ready!
i do enjoy driving though
didnt do so well on the big multi lane roundabouts though! lol
hope to improve though.
thanks for your information about how you feel working out on an empty stomach, its good to know! im glad to hear it , its good to find out what works personally for you, and not be so strict with so called "rules". but what works for you personally
thanks for saying that 307 calories burned in strength training for almost an hour is good. i thought it wasnt so good. hehe i guess i am too hard on myself!
good job on losing those 2.4lbs Bigmid, that's really great. sorry to hear about your left foot though. wow impressive on doing double workouts! i barely have motivation to do one workout. thats so great !
its a good idea for you to take time out and for it to heal. you never know you might still lose weight even when you're resting, just pound that water!
good luck everyone for the weigh in tommorow, im afraid i might be showing a gain , ooooops, although have been eating my allocated calories. but saw a 2lbs gain this morning from yesterday - for no reason, even though i burned 500 calories and ate within my allotted calories. and ate homecooked food. so cant be salt. but might actual be food weight. oh well will see what the scale says tommorow.
Echo, I think I am going to be showing a gain too, I have traveled every day this week...skipped meals, ate out, while I haven't gorged or had too much to eat at all, I haven't eaten my normal foods. I'm retaining water like MAD.
Echo, I think I am going to be showing a gain too, I have traveled every day this week...skipped meals, ate out, while I haven't gorged or had too much to eat at all, I haven't eaten my normal foods. I'm retaining water like MAD.
sigh.
aww don't worry you got company we'll be in the same boat
i just hope the gain wont be too much. feeling abit hungry now, but have eaten all my calories for today. so gonna go to bed before i get too hungry and want to eat!
And Mercy, I know you are really blue I'm with you. It's so unfathomable . . . they're here, then . . . they're gone, forever. I'm still
having problems dealing with it. I've had dreams of him, write to him and just have bawl-my-eyes out days of grief for him. But, why not? I loved him. I honestly can feel for you dear dear Mercy
And sorry for you too Selina with your problems with the boys, all too common I'm afraid. As a community support nurse - I see it all and it aint pretty. Bless you for your heart for these little angels.
Babygrant - So sorry to hear about your jaw. I'm still having a lot of problems with my knee but I am determined to do some walking now that the weather is coming around to my way of thinking. Hope you can appeal like others have said.
My health has not been good, found out some of it was very low thyroid and true anemia. Doc has ordered all the "stuff" I need and maybe I'll be feeling more like me soon. I've also ordered a hypnosis plan which I just finished downloading to my ipod. I've only done one track, but I honestly don't feel like eating and this is usually my bad time, after dinner. I ate some rice cakes anyway, out of habit, but stopped much sooner than I normally would. I'm very hopeful this hypnosis will really help. I'll keep you posted.
So that's me, sad, sick, limping . . . but never, ever giving up Huh-uh.
Hang in there team, we've still got each other. Til next time . . . .
Our baby is probably still in his oven. 
I also love that post-workout soreness. Makes me feel like I'm actually doing something, hehe. I'm so procrastinating on these two apps that I need to get out soon. I get the feeling that the peeps who are interested in me don't want to spend a lot of money to have me fly up so they're asking if I have other interviews so they can share the cost. *eyeroll* Anyway, we planned on going up to Boston to look at apts and decided I should tell these guys I'm going to be in the area and be in their face about how talented and wonderful and perfect I am for the job 
. We'll see how that approach works... 
What the HECK!!?? I have to watch what I eat like a hawk even when I exercise? The teeniest bit of sodium and up I go. The worst part is, I'm not even in healthy BMI yet. I'm 1 pt away. If I was in the 24s, I would chill up on myself and get back into it, but I'm not. This is so annoying. I need to lose ~20 lbs and it just feels overwhelming at this point. GAH. Sorry for the rant. I'm going to get a workout in before we go to pick up my parents from the airport. I'm just so upset. All that hard work from these past two weeks to drop TWO measly lbs and here they are again. Ok, I'll stop. 
I'm with you
now that the weather is coming around to my way of thinking. Hope you can appeal like others have said.
plan which I just finished downloading to my ipod. I've only done one track, but I honestly don't feel like eating and this is usually my bad time, after dinner. I ate some rice cakes anyway, out of habit, but stopped much sooner than I normally would. I'm very hopeful
this hypnosis will really help. I'll keep you posted.
Huh-uh.
Til next time . . . .