2. What would help?
Getting to a computer more often, and keeping up with the challenge...and Im sure if i sat down and planned meals for the week would be very helpful.
Lets do this Red team!
Not planning my meals ahead of time has been an area that has contributed to my struggles lately. When I plan the week's meals at the beginning of the week, I do so much better. I think one thing that has me struggling this time is that I don't want to cook in the summer and I want to eat something light and easy. Since I had my cholesterol checked this spring and found out I have really high cholesterol levels, I have cut back on red meat. I would normally cook burgers on the grill and eat them all week, and I haven't been doing that this year.
First I want to say, when I first signed up for this challenge I was so excited to be a part of something. I was going to get support and give support. I was going to meet new people who is going through the same thing as me and better yet I was going to make some new friends. When it started I felt so out of place and I thought it was because I was new. I think that I'm pretty darn good when it comes to doing personals. I may skip a day or two but I always catch up. I mean, some people on here haven't done a personal for me ever. But that's okay because I just return the favor . I'm hearing some people talk about past teams and what it was like compared to this time around. My OP is maybe if you get to know the new people on this team and stop focusing on past challenges and team mates then you wouldn't feel that disconnection. Another thing I want to bring up. There's also a lack of connection because half the team doesn't post! The rules of the game were you have to be active on the threads to give and get support. Support holds a team together. I understand things come up. There are times when I didn't post for a day or two but dayssss or a week??!! I mean come on! Weight loss is really hard and EVERYONE on this team needs the support and my OP is if you can't give it then why are you here . It's just my OP. Like many others on this team I also speak my mind and tell it like it is, so here ya go
I don't mean to hurt anyone's feelings or step on toes. That's not what I set out to do. I think the people on this team are fantastic! I just wanted to give my OP on the topic.
Lonnie - I really appreciate all of the work you put into personals! I do have to say that this isn't my first challenge, but I felt out of place when this one started (actually I felt out of place when the last one started also). When we first started this challenge, there were so many of us posting that I couldn't even get them all read let alone keep everyone straight.
I will fully admit that a large factor of my disconnection this time is with me. I almost feel disconnected with myself and I've not had luck yet figuring out why. I'm really gonna work on getting that connection back through some reading (need to take Bob's book seriously) and self reflection (an area I struggle with). I see with others and a lot with myself that when I'm struggling, I don't post as much which is the wrong thing to do. That's when I should be posting the most and I encourage the rest of you to do the same....as difficult as it is. It helps me to know that I'm not the only one struggling. I find it easier for me to connect when I can get a feeling of how another is struggling or succeeding. (I'm a very emotional person by nature and can really relate with other's feelings.)
Good morning red!
Happy 4 of July!
Thanks to everyone giving me support with my hubby...we are starting to talk now, still a lot of anger there, but at least we are talking! (and theres less tension for our family...
Its still raining here a LOT (rivers going down the street) So It is nice to just be in town and relax! Started my day with a healthy breakfast, and am gonna have some downtime with my boys today.
My goal today is to get back on track...drink my water and get to the gym!
Im hoping tomorrows weigh in will be good!
Diva-I like that hairstyle! Ive been waiting 3 months to go get mine done...only 5 days to go! I'm thankful you are on our team, I am sorry if i havent been supportive for you, I have enjoyed reading your posts and getting to know you and your flamboyant personality! On feeling invisible....I know that at times I have felt that way too, and probably others have too...but Im pretty sure (imo) that it is never done on purpose....just happens....so keep your chin up girl, and stay with us! Lonnie-Way to go girl on your loss!! and congrats at excelling on control over food! that is definitely half the battle! (for me anyway) Karen-Have you ever checked out the veggie burgeres to grill on your bbq? some of them are pretty yummy? Or what about wild meat? Thats almost all I eat and I know its very low in fat compared to most red meat.. Kelly-3 to 6 books a week? wow!do you use the library or just own shares in a bookstore? Huneb-have fun at the lake! the bugs are really bad up here this year too.....ive even bought a tent for over my babys bed and they still get in! Danielle-ooooh, night shifts...I used to do 12 hour ones at the mill, they are pretty rough on the body, and the worst is when you are so tired, but just can't sleep when you are 'supposed to'! Hang in there! heather-mmmm black bean burgers? those sound good! do you grill them? Tina-Thanks girl......I do love him but there are so many issues this time around....but we will manage somehow....congrats on walking for 2 days! You can do it! Get back on track!(heres your kick....lol) Shelby-You go girl! You can do it with those goals...and lol I know what you mean about'fudging the numbers' Stacylynn-I like taking pictures too....do you take more scenery ones or just of everything? Countingdown-30 years of marriage! woohoo! maybe you can send some tips my way?? Montecrisco-Those pacman games are fun! My son and hubby have already worn out one of them... Hello to all our other teamies that i may have missed-have a great day!
Lonnie, you should be proud, control over food is the hardest part of weight loss and you're doing it!!! The exercise will come consistantly when you're ready. My thinking is is that the whole eating right and working out has to be something that you can live with for forever anyways, so might as well take it slow and make sure you can do this stuff for life, KWIM? You're doing great, don't ever give up!
Diva, I'm sorry that you've felt unsupported here. To say that you're only here for Mel sorta hurts my feelings because I feel like I've done my best when it comes to acknowledging your trials & tribulations, as have some others here. It's your own personal feelings, and for sure I cannot begrudge you that, but just like you, I'm telling you how that makes me feel. On a lighter note: I had to laugh, I got all excited when i saw you'd posted links to pictures of the hair. Silly me, I thought oh cool, I'm gonna get to see HER new do. As in.... YOU with the do! :LOL:
Tina, I REALLY hope you enjoy your time with family today and that everyone behaves themselves. I know how much you just want to go and spend time with your grandmother without there being any drama, so hopefully that's what'll happen! BTW, your new avi picture is beautiful!! You look so tan! And yes, definitely get a discount at Kohl's! Why do you think I work there??? My whole family loves this store!
Melissa, I hope the day at the lake is relaxing and fun. After the week you've had I'd say its just what the doctor ordered! Enjoy your time with your girls, the peacefulness of that beautiful landscape surrounding you up there!
Karla, yes you can do this! Get your butt back to the gym this instant! LOL Did that sound harsh enough? Working nights are ok, and pretty soon it wont be really graveyard-y, they're switching our hours to like a 7pm to 2am kinda deal so almost like a regular day for me....even better! Hang in there hon, I know things w/ dh are rocky, but keep workin it, you'll be glad you did!
Karen, I hope that you do get the chance to get into Bob's book this weekend. I think it's a nice gift to give yourself. You have had such wonderful progress up until this lil speedbump and I know you'll get past it. Doing the work in this book will help you tie everything together for you so that you can start having great weeks with food & exercise together again. You can do it!!
Hubby is home for a while for now and is leaving for school in maryland for two months later this month...so been busy with him and the kids and havent had as much time to stay online all the time. plus needing to get ready for school to start (i need to register still) and get school supplies for our daughter, who starts kindergarten next month....busy busy summer. just glad hubby is home for most of this summer (he hasnt been home for a summer since 2006 after having our son)....so making the best of things here....
i have a hard time keeping ppl straight so doing personals isnt always practical. i loving reading them but would feel bad if i got someone mixed up....somehow i am always getting roni and melissa mixed up, maybe since they post so much still woking on getting you two straight LOL
I have been doing really well on my food (calorie wise)....but slacking on the fitness..i think some of it bc school is out (we always worked out just after getting kids to school before starting the rest of our day, without school, we wanna sleep in and be slackers) and this TX heat....hope to find my mojo soon on that front....i did make it to 141 lbs yesterday though, so finally outta my bumber number (142-143)....so maybe things are looking up for me yet...just gonna keep watching the food intake and end my days OP and trying to move more even if i dont intentionally exercise....any movements outside causes sweat due to the heat and little to no breeze......so i'm sweating off some of this 100 oz of water i intake each day have to focus on staying hydrated in this heat
well need to fix lunch for the kids and me and let them get a nap to get ready for the day's events we';re gonna go see fireworks later tonight lol
Happy 4th everyone!!
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Diva, I'm sorry that you've felt unsupported here. To say that you're only here for Mel sorta hurts my feelings because I feel like I've done my best when it comes to acknowledging your trials & tribulations, as have some others here. It's your own personal feelings, and for sure I cannot begrudge you that, but just like you, I'm telling you how that makes me feel. On a lighter note: I had to laugh, I got all excited when i saw you'd posted links to pictures of the hair. Silly me, I thought oh cool, I'm gonna get to see HER new do. As in.... YOU with the do! :LOL:
AS if, lol! I can't stand having my pic took. Jess did take one so I could show my bf, but I just ended up deleting it. Sorry. I am also sorry for hurting yours and anyones elses feelers. I didn't mean it as, Mel is the ONLY one I care about on here because that's not true. I care about a lot of you. YOU included. I just meant I haven't just dropped out because I know Mel would be very disappointed, and I don't wanna disappoint her, yanno?
I do appreciate ALL the support I have gotten and y'all crack me up sometimes. it amazes me how much I have in common with some of you. I think I have some of the same issues with things and peoples as Lonnie & Tina a lot.
I have to say that the only newbies I have gotten to know about is Karen (she's my girl!), Lonnie, wkgirl, Danielle, I know you're not new, but you are to me, lol. I'd love to bond and get to know a lot more of you, and there are a few that are on the team from last challenge, when I was on Black, that I was looking forward to getting to know, but rarely post, and I wonder if they are even on the team anymore. :
Karen, I have Bob's book, and I thought we was gonna work on it together as a team this challenge, but I've put it on the back burner because of the emotional stuff I have seen other peeps say about it. I'm a skeeeered.
Oh, and I didn't know I have a flamboyant personality. Is that good? lol
BTW, Tina, I hope you have a nice 4th and not get into any family dramas with your Moma. LOL! Okay, that made me giggle, because of the save the dramam for your moma thing....heheh Also, I LOVE your new avi too. You are so cute. I am gonna have to work on not being jealous of your cuteness!(
Well the day at my moms went great!!! I walked in and she gave me a big hug and said Happy Birthday I have to say I was very happy that we got over whatever, and had a great day. The weather was beautiful! I"ll try to post some pics for you guys. We take a 5 generation picture everytime we get together...kinda cool! We played some v-ball and the kids swam almost all day long. I ate way too much, but I worked at least some of it off with all the v-ball we played. My arms are killing me!!
Thanks everyone for the compliments on my new pic...ya'll are making me blush! That was taken in Vegas, so I was all dolled up and nice and tan! I don't usually look like that!LOL! I was with my man, away from kids, and ready to get my drink on so I was one happy gal!LOL! Thanks though for all the nice words! Diva...I don't know what you have to be jealous about girlie...your one hot chickie!!!
Danielle- I haven't met on person yet who doesn't like Kohl's...I would go crazy with a discount!!!
Mandey- Congrats on making 141 Keep up the hard work~
Karla- Thanks for the kick girl...just keep them coming! I think I may need a few to get me going again!LOL!
Karen- I'm super emotional also...sometimes thats good and sometimes I'll be honest I hate it. I don't hide what I'm feeling well at all and sometimes that gets me into trouble!LOL!
Sugar-N-Spice~ Thank You! Your right. It's best to do this slowly because it is a life change.
wkgirl~ Thanks and I'm glad that you and your Husband are working things out. I bet there's a weight lifted off your shoulders. I know the feeling!
ksk571~ Posting here really does help when your down. I know it's helped me. That's it! I really have to get this book by Bob. Everyone is talking about it. What's it called?
Tina~ I hope everything went good with your mom today
Roni & Melissa~ I hope you guys had a great 4th!
Hello to the rest of the team . I hope everyone is enjoying their Holiday weekend! I had a busy day today. We just got back a little while ago. We went to the beach and watched the firework show that they put on every year. So that was really fun. Tomorrow I have my Nieces birthday party to go to so I better hit the hay! Have a great night
Tina, you'll have to pm me your address. Several times a year we have friends & family discount, it will save ya some extra.
Lonnie, so glad you guys had a great night out! The name of Bob's book is "Are You Ready!". It's AMAZING! Saved my life, no lie. It hits to the heart in the first half of the book, working on all the dysfunction in your life to help you build up emotionally to lose weight. Simply fantastic and I could not recommend it enough. I won't lie, it took me weeks to get thru those first chapters because what he was wanting me to work thru was extremely difficult and emotionally devastating. But I learned to dig down deep trust the process and went for it. I am SO glad I did. Can ya tell I love me some Bob! LOL
Hey everyone Sorry I've not been around. I just wanted to pop and say hi and that I've been staying OP with everything. I'll be back later to catch up on all the posts. Hope everyone is doing well and had a great 4th. Talk to you later.
Tina, you'll have to pm me your address. Several times a year we have friends & family discount, it will save ya some extra.
Lonnie, so glad you guys had a great night out! The name of Bob's book is "Are You Ready!". It's AMAZING! Saved my life, no lie. It hits to the heart in the first half of the book, working on all the dysfunction in your life to help you build up emotionally to lose weight. Simply fantastic and I could not recommend it enough. I won't lie, it took me weeks to get thru those first chapters because what he was wanting me to work thru was extremely difficult and emotionally devastating. But I learned to dig down deep trust the process and went for it. I am SO glad I did. Can ya tell I love me some Bob! LOL
♥danielle
UGH, girl, now you are making me wanna dig back into the book. I just don't wanna cry and get all sad. I mean how deep does that cutie patootie dig? I have some serious mother & abandonment issues that I'd rather not go back to.
I had a great 4th. I did eat WAY too much though and the scale says "you're up!" lol. Better hit the GYM today and get my 3fc 5k done.
We were getting all the fireworks ready to go last night on the front porch, and in the front field, we saw 3 deer! OMG, they were SO beautiful! They saw us sitting there and they just kept coming closer and closer. Then they started playing and running around in circles. it was so cute! I've never seen them that close before, much less playing! I almost cried, lol. Then after they took back off into the woods we started our annual show for the neighbors. It's so funny, because I think they look forward to it. We saw them all setting up their chairs on their front porches, lol! They are legal in TN, so the tents start setting up mid June here, plus we have yr round firework stores. I'm telling ya, it's like Christmas. We do the cooking, and have the togetherness, and do the show. Only difference is it's fireworks instead of presents, and it's hot. :P Fun times...Fun times!
I have a Birthday party to go to in a little while. I wanted to say Hi to our team first .
Danielle~ Wow! That sounds pretty deep. After the party I'm gonna try and get to the book store and pick it up. If I can't get there today then definitely tomorrow. I'll let ya know
Catsgetnhealthy~ Glad to hear that you've been on plan
Roni~ He is a cutie patootie isn't he ?! He's always so well dressed (even if it is workout clothes) and put together. I'm glad you had a nice 4th! It sounds like a really nice neighborhood. I wish we could do that with our neighbors. Our neighbors are to worried about being better then everyones else. Your lucky! Fireworks over here are illegal . People do them anyway but I don't feel like going to jail...LOL! It was a nice day for me and the family. We went to breakfast/lunch then we went home for about and hour or two so the baby could nap. When she woke up we went down the the beach and watched the firework show.
Tina~ I'm really glad you patched things up with your mom and had a great time!
Roni, the whole point of this book IS to confront your emotional baggage. Getting as deep as necessary is what it's going to take to help make you successful in your weight loss endeavors. Personally for me I found the journey Bob takes you on extremely enlightening and empowering and I could not be more grateful for his knowledge and his honesty. Did you know that he was abandoned by his dad too?? He has no relationship with him and that is something that he deals with to this day. I honestly believe that going thru this book and doing the work can be as powerful and wonderful as you are willing to make it. I think by getting down 'n' dirty with it only allows you to heal that much quicker to move on with what's important in your life. I have hung on to alot of past issues to where they were blocking me from reaching success. I have mentioned before, it was not easy, it took me some time to confront it but I did, and yanno, once I started doing it, the more I did not want to stop. The release emotionally is so uplifting and gratifying that you just want to find the key to unlock the rest of it as soon as possible. It's been almost a couple months since I completed his book but I still go thru it and glance almost everyday, reading passages or glancing at notes I've made. I am trying to practice daily all the tools he's given me to succeed. It has truly made a difference in my life, and not only with weight loss! So Roni, it's up to you, do you want to confront your past so you can heal or do you want to keep on with the same ole same ole and have things stay as they are?? The choice is totally up to you.
Lonnie, I think you will love Bob's book. Good luck to you!
Cathy, good to see ya hon!
Alrighty, well I'm off to get my hair whacked off & then grocery shopping. Hope everyone had a wonderful 4th!
I didn't do much, just lazed about the house and tried not to eat everything in sight. For some reason yesterday was a hungry day (probably due to getting up at 5:30, and having nothing to occupy me). But I made it in just under the wire, so it's all good. I did the July 4 5K today, and was able to finish in 47:45, which was a lot better than I did the day before (60 mins).
I was really dreading my official weigh-in today, as the scale has been showing that 2lb increase from vacation everyday, but I was determined that this week I would put it down no matter what it said. I jumped on the scale, closed my eyes, and waited for the beep. When I looked down at the number, not only had I lost that vacation weight, but I had dropped another 2lbs!!! I'm so thrilled!!
to all our other teamies that i may have missed-have a great day!
Sorry. I am also sorry for hurting yours and anyones elses feelers. I didn't mean it as, Mel is the ONLY one I care about on here because that's not true. I care about a lot of you. YOU included. I just meant I haven't just dropped out because I know Mel would be very disappointed, and I don't wanna disappoint her, yanno?
