and...oh you Ellis! graphic indeed...all I said was genitals! and sleep with! enough to get me booted from anything that screens out porn but really girlfriend, I know that you want details, but, as i said to DP so many years ago...
(again, use that Scarlett O'Hara accent) I'm just not that kind of girl!!!!!
DH's brother in law is from the same town I'm from, in NJ. He joined the Air Force and was stationed in CA, where he met and married dh's sister. DH met his BILs sister and became smitten...so much that he moved 3000 miles to be near her. She worked at the same hpspital as I. He got a job there as a security guard and met ME! Started hanging around my desk a bit more than hers. We became friends but within a group that would hang out together and go to football games, parties, out drinking. (SHE did not join us...didn't like our "rowdy crowd!") DH and I discovered that we could talk and talk and talk for hours and hours about anything and everything under the sun...eventually he became engaged to that girl, but I believe it was more out of a sense of obligation to her. They were SO different! We remained friends but it was becoming apparent that we felt more than friendship for each other. When we finally acted on those feelings, I was wracked with guilt, didn't want to be "the other woman" and told him we couldn't see each other ever again...(so sad...so very sad)...It didn't last long. He finally broke thier engagement, but AGAIN I was racked with guilt and didn't want to be the cause so I pushed him away. I must say he was persistent and eventually got what he wanted! ME!
That was a L*O*N*G time ago...we will be married 20 years in July...and we still haven't run out of things to talk about!
Ruth-I'm confused. Are you the GRANDMOTHER of those puppies or the FATHER????!?
Well!! My actual engagement was far less romantic than Sojo's!!! We had been talking around it for a month already (this was 3 months after our first date!) and I knew that this was the person I wanted to spend my life with. We were lying in bed with DH on top of me....TALKING (We did this quite a bit), and out of the blue he asked me to marry him!!! I was so freaked out that I said, "NO!" He asked,"Why not?" in a very hurt tone. As I was trying to explain to him that I loved him but wasn't ready yet, this little voice inside me started screaming, "SAY YES YOU F@CKING IDIOT!!" So I said yes!! Then I went on to explain that I KNEW he was the one I wanted to spend my life with, but I hadn't expected us to decide that quickly. I also told him I wanted to finish college first. He wanted to get married right away!!! Funny though! BOTH of us started out thinking marriage was just a piece of paper and we'd live together with whoever, and yet we wound up doing the formal thing!!
As formal as we get anyway!! Nice non-religious ceremony in DH's Aunt's backyard!!! (The minister was a co-worker/friend of my Dad's who said he'd feel like a hypocrite marrying us in his church. We said, "That's okay, we'd feel LIKE hypocrites getting married in your church!!") It was great. Friends, family, a ceremony and then good food under a big tent. We had fun at our own wedding!!!
I love everyone's stories... but Soozie definitely wins for hottest relationship! I have to laugh because normally my previous relationships were MUCH different than my relationship with DH. Lets just say my nickname should have been "wild" up to that point. (yeah, ok, maybe I sort of was that kind of girl...) It was all so different with dh, I just knew he was the one.
Den, that's so much like us. About 3 months after we met, DH said, "I love you" (he wasn't on top of me at the time... you girls are just too graphic for delicate little moi), and my head just about flew off. LOVED ME!!?? After 3 months!? Naturally I lied and said I loved him, too. (****, when you find a guy as good as mine and he falls for you right away, you've gotta figure... "****, I'll fall in love with him LATER!"
As of course I did.
I met my DH at a record store in the late 80's. A mutual friend worked there and we had both dropped by to see her. He had long black hair tied in a pony tail and icy blue eyes.
She introduced us and we said "hi" then went our seperate ways. One Saturday night a few weeks later the same friend, another friend and I went to a local new wave/punk club and there he was there with two of his friends and we joined them for a drink. He had his hair all spiked up like Robert Smith and was wearing jeans and a black leather jacket (drool!)
DH and I started talking and discovered that we had the same sense sarcastic sense of humour. I went up to the bar to get a drink and when I came back he told me the zip was coming down a bit at the back of my mini skirt. I said " oh, checking out my *** were you?", he flushed and said yes and I just laughed.
His friends wanted to go to another club in another part of town and he asked where me and my friends where were goingto be later. I said that we would probably be there later since that's where we usually ended up at the end of the night anyway(me trying to play it cool )
Later on at the other club we talked more and danced (ah the "80's ) and at the end of the night he left with his friends and I left with mine.
The following Monday afternoon at work (I worked in a clothing/jewellry store), I had just finished serving a customer when I turned around and a white carnation was in front of my nose~he was on the other end of it!
He had remembered where I worked and came to see me on his lunch hour! We chatted a bit and then he asked if he could call me some time, I said yes. The dingbat thought that I was blowing him off and started to leave when I said "hey, if you are going to call me don't you need my number?"
We arranged to meet that day afterwork for coffee. That coffee date lasted 6 hours! I thought that he was just another pretty boy but he turned out to have a brain too-I was smitten.
We were both seeing other people but not in a serious way and so we went out on a few more dates. One night when we were walking home from a date he stopped dead in his tracks and turned to me and said "So what do you want?" I just looked at him blankly ~I didn't know what to say. "Do you want to make a go of this?" he said. "Sure, if you want to" was my reply.
So we broke off with the other people we were seeing and saw each other exclusively.
A year later he bought me promise ring, then a year after that we moved in together. The following year he proposed~total surprise to me and he picked out the ring himself!
We will have been married 10 years in May 2003.
Last edited by mauvaisroux; 12-03-2002 at 08:40 PM.
Oh, I so love everyone's stories! It feels so good to read about LOVE!!!!!
Sojo, you and I are like opposites...I was boring and then...and you were....well, ahhhh, let's say naughty and then wifely. (I'm sure you're not totally un-naughty now but don't respond to that because we're trying to shelter Ellis.)
Mauvais, can we ban Ruthless from this website...you see, those stories weren't written by me at all...in fact, my partner and I didn't even kiss until the sixth date...and like Ruth suggested we're not going to have sex until we're married...and who knows how long that will take. Well, that's the story that I wrote but somehow Ruthless got in here and edited in her obscene version of my very slow moving and tender love affair with my DP. That Ruthless is......ruthless!!!!!
I have a successful chatroom on-line romance story! I used to frequent a chat room that was on a small, indie music label's website (the website was Tweekitten and the chat room was called the Cutie Club, believe it or not!). My BF was one of the first people I chatted with there, but only as friends since we were both sort of occupied otherwise for quite a while... in fact I started going to the CC because the girl I was dating at the time frequented there, and it was cheaper than calling Canada!
Anyway, shortly after we first chatted, he sent me one of those pass-along questionnaires, and I remember thinking that he sounded like my perfect boy based on his answers! We continued to be friendly on-line, and he even called me a few times (the girlfriend was no longer after two months). He seemed really nice, and I liked his southern accent -- he's from Tennessee. But nothing happened romantically at all, except harmless flirting, for about two years!
I had gone through several boyfriends and girlfriends over the course of our friendship, and he had one person he was focused on (but not really dating). Eventually, there came a time when neither of us was involved, and we just clicked. It was like we just decided, OK, let's try this. About two weeks after that I had a crisis -- too much work, school, life -- and called into work and school and drove down to TN to meet him.
He was very shy at first, and we spent the evening that I arrived listening to music and talking... I didn't really know what he was thinking. I thought he was sweet and nice, but it wasn't fireworks initially. All I can say is, by the time I left a few days later, we were both very unhappy that I had to leave.
Almost three years later, we're still together, and he's lived here in upstate NY with me for most of that time! We bicker a lot (it's mostly me being a drama queen), but I can't imagine life without him, and he insists he's not going anywhere despite my moodiness! I love him soooo much. And he's since grown his hair really long and has a cool bushy beard! CUTE!
Yeah...long hair...My DH had shoulder length hair when I met him and grew it to almost waist length which he kept up until about 3 years ago. His hair was so thick and wavy that it looked like a rope when you braided it. He had the kind of hair a lot of women wish for- damn it was annoying! I was so envious.
When we were in Cuba women stared at him every where we went and kept coming up to him and touching his hair. Most of the Cuban men had short hair so this apparently was something very intriguing to these Cuban women. Good job I don't have an insanely jealous streak or I could have caused and international incident !
At its longest my DH's hair was down to the small of his back...and he has a Looong torso!! His used to be SUPER thick too, but he has been shedding. He still has a lot of hair, but it isn't as thick as it used to be. (When his hair was at its longest it would burn out motors in vacuum cleaners!!! Instead of breaking it would wrap around the roller in the vacuum cleaner, and BOOM!!
I lost 2 of them that way, and then got smart and went out and bought a canister vacuum!!!)
He ALSO has LONG THICK dark lashes!!!
Mauvais-You lucky thing you!!! I would LOVE to go to Cuba!!! Love the music, love the food, love the people, am going to put Castro on my sexiest people list........(Okay, the last one is a lie)
It should be on that cable channel...what's it called TLC - life stories? 
Started hanging around my desk a bit more than hers. We became friends but within a group that would hang out together and go to football games, parties, out drinking. (SHE did not join us...didn't like our "rowdy crowd!") DH and I discovered that we could talk and talk and talk for hours and hours about anything and everything under the sun...eventually he became engaged to that girl, but I believe it was more out of a sense of obligation to her. They were SO different! We remained friends but it was becoming apparent that we felt more than friendship for each other. When we finally acted on those feelings, I was wracked with guilt, didn't want to be "the other woman" and told him we couldn't see each other ever again...(so sad...so very sad)...It didn't last long. He finally broke thier engagement, but AGAIN I was racked with guilt and didn't want to be the cause so I pushed him away. I must say he was persistent and eventually got what he wanted! ME!
These are great...
(yeah, ok, maybe I sort of was that kind of girl...) It was all so different with dh, I just knew he was the one.
) and at the end of the night he left with his friends and I left with mine.
