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jenjen 01-30-2008 10:53 AM

Hey Ladies, It's been sort of quiet the last few days. Hopefully, everyone is doing well.

Dreamgyrl, Welcome to our happy little group.

I'm down 2 more pounds for a total of 12 so far! I feel so much better when I exercise. It just amazes me. I actually miss it when I stay away too long...who knew?

Hope everyone has a great rest of the week.

belleamiee 01-31-2008 09:54 AM

Hey ladies
I have been completely off line the past few days--- the game was GREAT! We had an awesome time.

I have to admit though it was a difficult couple of days-- I went a little crazy eating wise-- over the weekend I had two bacon cheese burgers and fries-- Does it count at all in a positve way that they were from good restaurants?

And well then there were two sushi escapades! BUT

With that being said I am back on track with a vengence!!!!

How is everyone else? THAT IS SO GREAT JEN on the 2lbs and the exercising!!!! :carrot:

It is a boring day in the office ladies!!! Thank goodness tomorrow is Friday!


belleamiee 02-02-2008 12:27 PM

Hey Ladies---

Where is everyone LOL-- I hope you are all doing well and have a good weekend!


jenjen 02-03-2008 12:17 PM

I'm here!

Sort of a busy weekend. I cleaned my kitchen thoroughly yesterday. Eating is going okay but no exercise yet this weekend, unless you count walking through the mall! I was supposed to go to a Super Bowl party today, but am blowing it off.

I'm off tomorrow so I plan to get up early & go to the gym...we'll see how that works!

Have a great rest of the weekend. Off to do laundry.

ViolinJenn 02-05-2008 09:12 PM

Hi Ladies!

Sorry I've been away, I came down with a bad head cold that's going around my office! It's been two weeks and I'm now feeling like a human again! Because I wasn't exercising as much or as intensly as I normally do and had too much toast, I gained 5lbs!:cry: But just last week, I lost all five pounds!:goodscale:goodscale

I have more good news too! I've been accepted to TEMPLE UNIVERSITY in Philly!!!!!!!!!!!!!:cloud9::cloud9::cloud9: AND my GIANTS won the Superbowl!!!!:carrot::carrot::carrot::dancer:

I'm still doing the online dating thing. I only have a few more weeks left and I'm not renewing, but I've been emailing two guys. One I just don't think will work. We're the same age, but he doesn't seem to know what he wants in life, lacks direction and motivation. I, on the other hand, am going back to school and have a ton of other interests and a zest for life. I'm not afraid to do something on my own!
The other one, OMG do we have alot in common! I emailed him a few weeks ago and he emailed me back this past Friday. I'm hoping he wants to continue getting to know each other.:love::love: If not, well his loss. I'm being picky, but in a good way. I'm worth it!

That's pretty much about it round here! It's good to be back!

Welcome to the newbies!:wel3fc::welcome2::welcome3:

jenjen 02-05-2008 11:45 PM

Hey gang!

Jenn, Wow! You've had a busy couple of weeks. Glad you are feeling better. And :bravo:on getting into Temple! How awesome. I thought about you when I was watching the game & knew you'd be excited. I really didn't care who won, but was glad it was a close game & not a blow-out. Made it much more exciting!!

Okay ladies, I was a total slug this weekend. I ate horribly Sunday & yesterday...and didn't excise over the weekend. I will have probably gained a pound or two. I'm so aggravated with myself. I have no excuses except for being lazy.

So, I got back on the wagon today. I've eaten well & actually did 6 miles on the treadmill after work. I'm exhausted.

I've decided to set 25 pound goals & reward myself when I hit them. For the first 25, I'll get a pedicure. For the second, at least an hour massage (maybe a stone massage---I've always wanted to try that!)I haven't decided the 75 pound goal, but the 100 pound goal will definitely involve shopping.

I received very good news yesterday that my brother & his family will return to Texas this summer (he's military). He'll be about 3 hours away rather than 30!! So, I'll get to see much more of my nephews. I'm so excited! June can't come soon enough.

Hope everyone else is having a great week!

belleamiee 02-06-2008 12:40 AM


GREAT NEWS!!! I am so happy about Temple and the brother move!

I have really fallen off the wagon-- but with lent starting tomorrow I am getting myself back on track. I have been sick too-- it sucks.

WOOO HOOO Giants! But lol I ate too much crap on the superbowl!

I dont' know ladies this is rough! But I am keeping it going. I figured there is no rest for the weary.

belleamiee 02-06-2008 12:44 AM

Ohhh-- I love the reward idea. I had a stone massage one time on a cruise-- it was AWESOME.

I don't know I am in a funk. I think its a weather funk. Any ideas on getting rid of the funk? Plus lol in all honesty a little making out wouldn't be so bad either!

jenjen 02-06-2008 11:58 PM

UGH! I gained 1.5 pounds! I'm so angry with myself. I did another 4.25 miles on the treadmill today. I'm "punishing" myself by exercising. Okay, so it's not really punishment. I usually get to a point that I don't want to stop and I keep adding 10-15 minutes to my time.

It's easy for me to stay on plan during the week, but the weekends or when I'm not out of the apartment are awful.

Amy, I think the weather is a big part of it for me. It's been so foggy and just nasty here (not really cold). I have to make myself work out right now. I wish it would be nice & sunny so I'd want to walk outside on the weekends.

Between that, & being surrounded by lazy, stupid people at work. There are days I just want to walk out...I love my job & my bosses. I'm just sick of the "it's not my job" people and those who don't take even a little initiative. Sometimes I'm amazed that some of these people don't drown when it rains. I keep thinking Darwinism is going to kick in, but yet, it doesn't.

Oh, while I'm on a rant...I hate working out after work for several reasons. There are ALWAYS people on their cell phones while working out! HUH???? I just don't get it. It's the time I'm completely unavailable unless someone I know is in the gym, which rarely happens. The treadmills & elipticals all have small tvs (YAY!) BUT all of the commercials are food commercials. Arby's, Wendy's, Sonic, Dairy Queen, Chili's TGIFriday's, KFC. It's horrible. One reason I watch the Biggest Loser is that the only commercials are for Subway & a sandwich is not something I necessarily crave.

Okay, I've rambled long enough. Have a great rest of the week!

belleamiee 02-08-2008 01:23 AM

I am so impressed with your working out...KEEP it UP!!! I bet you are creating muscle which weighs a bit more. I know what you mean about the weekends. I still haven't started my exercise but thats it I am starting tomorrow. And the big thing for me too is the weather....I am out here in CT on the coast and its just cold and rainy and all around YUCKY!!! I think I am getting a bit of seasonal depression.

Where are all the ladies?? We get tons of views... I encourage people to post along too!!!

Ohh I have a mini achievment I would like to share. I was around baked goods all night tonight..didn't have one. Then went to the diner and really wanted a burger and fries but instead had an omlet with spinach tomato bacon no homefries and just slices of tomato on the side. It was a really a victory for me today.

I need to shed another 10lbs!!!!

Ok ladies I am pooped.!!!


NotTheCheat 02-08-2008 02:09 AM

I am a 30-something and have recently jumped back into the dating scene. I actually went out with someone last night for the first time in a LONG time - well, since my ex and we were together for over 5 years. I would love to talk to others who are going through the same stuff.

Amy - Where in CT are you? Isn't this weather weird? Where is the snow? Is it February or what?

jenjen 02-08-2008 03:13 PM

Hey Gang! HAPPY FRIDAY!!!! :cool: :cool: :cool:

Amy, Way to go by being strong. Those are great acheivements. You should be proud.

NotTheCheat, Welcome. Please jump right on in!

My friend & I went to Chili's yesterday. I ended up getting one of the burgers. But, the good news is I cut it in 1/2 put the other 1/2 in a to-go container. I ate about 1/2 the fries too. This morning I threw the other 1/2 of the burger away. A couple of months ago, I would have scarfed down the entire burger & fries & been looking for more!

As far as exercising, I have to talk myself into it daily. But, once I get into it, I'm so glad I did it. I'm hoping this weekend will be pretty so I can walk outside along the beach. I still haven't gotten into the weights. It's a bit intimidating. All these buff guys are in the mirrors watching themselves. I'm just a bit too self-conscious right now...

Any big weekend plans? I'm going to make marshmallows for nephews & maybe bake some cookies and freeze them for when I go to my parents next weekend...I love to bake, the hard part is staying strong. But honestly, the stuff I make doesn't taste nearly as good as the stuff someone else makes.

Have a great Friday & weekend!

jenjen 02-13-2008 12:27 AM

Where are all the singles???

It's been a decent week so far. I baked this weekend and only ate one cookie. I put the rest in the freezer & will take them to my parents, so the temptation will be gone.

Hopefully, I will have lost the 2 pounds I gained & a little more. I've really tried to focus hard on just eating better and continuing to work out.

I had a small goal today. The pants I wore to work today have fit well in the past...not tight, not loose--just right. Well, today when I was standing talking to someone, I noticed them slipping down just a bit. I was so excited!

Hope everyone is doing well!

Just had to add that I lost the 2 pounds I gained last week & another 2 pounds. So far, 14 pounds!

ViolinJenn 02-14-2008 08:40 AM

Good Morning Ladies!

Not much to report here execpt my weight loss fustrations lately. Since January I've put on 10pounds! :?::?:It is "that time of the month" for me this week and I think that is where 5 of it is! It's fustrating feeling my pants get tight when I'm doing everything humanly possible. So I figured I'll just focus on staying on my meal plan from the now defunked LAWL and getting to the gym 4 days a week/1.5 hours a day. Hopefully it'll all catch up next week. I'm trying to not get too down on myself because my mom was right this past weekend, I haven't hit a rough patch like this in a very long time. So I due. Maybe I need to add another protein bar to my day? I weight train 4 days a week for at least 30 minutes. LOL...I know there is muscle under all this fat somewhere! :lol: HA! I know....it's hibernating for the winter and waiting till spring to make an appearance!:lol: But I'll hold off on that for a few weeks and see how I do once this is all over with.


wennygrrl 02-14-2008 08:24 PM

I was so excited when I saw this thread. I just decided today to check out the 30 something forum, and I found a place I feel right at home. I can relate to so much that is being said. :grouphug:

I have only had one serious relationship in my life. I don't know if that was due to the fact that men had the problem with my weight or that I did/do. Confidence for me is key and it is the one thing I am concentrating on this year.

I have managed to lose 80lbs in the last 14 months, and my self-confidence has skyrocketed, but can still be a bit shaky when it comes to guys. I have always be the "friend". I can't tell you how many guys I have had a crush on ask me to find out if my girlfriend is interested in them. :frypan: Just recently I ran into a friend of mine and he did a huge double-take. He just couldn't stop starring and telling me how fantastic I looked. :D We've hung out a lot lately and we've been friends for 10 years and have a lot of history and catching up to do, but I think I am also really enjoying the harmless flirting and ego boost. Is that wrong of me? :rolleyes:

Anyway, I am rambling on. I can't wait to get to know you girls better. :flow1:



ViolinJenn 02-14-2008 09:12 PM

Welcome Wendy!:welcome2:

Congratulations on the weightloss!:cheer2::cheer2: I've lost 85 pounds myself. A bit stuck for now, but I'll get through it.

Enjoy the thread!

jenjen 02-14-2008 11:30 PM

Hey gang!

Jenn, Hang in there! You're done so well. Maybe try switching up your workouts or food intake. Are you eating enough? If you're working out that hard, maybe you need more food.

Welcome Wendy. Glad to have you with our group. And, no it's not wrong of you to shamelessly flirt & get a much needed ego boost! Your weight loss is amazing.

Well, I did pretty good today. My coworker brought in cookies--I had one, but stayed on plan other than that. Didn't work out tonight because I had to pack up to go out of town tomorrow. I have to leave early in the morning for a doctor's appt and then I'm heading to my parents'.

Wish me luck because my mom is a "feeder". She equates food with love--and I'm truly her daughter because I'm the exact same way. She has started to cook much healthier in recent years. My problem is her home cooking is just too dang good that it's more about portion control. But, I've packed up instant oatmeal & 100 calorie snack packs to keep me from eating the goodies (she always has baked stuff around!)

So, if I don't check in until Monday, have a great weekend!

belleamiee 02-15-2008 12:54 AM

Hey ladies-- wellcome newbies!!! So awesome you joined and I am looking forward to getting to know you too!

Jen-- I heard you on the period stuff-- it sucks!!! Stay strong!

Jenn-- So excited about your weight loss!!

I have been so out of it ladies..I am hitting that point..you know that point where you are teetering on stopping. I have been sick and that has been making it harder. But I have to be committed to this. I called a friend of mine whose best friend is a personal trainer. I just need to get someone to kick my *** because there is no way I am going to be in shape to do some of the stuff I need to do this summer.

I used to sail and I am getting back into it this year with a friend of mine. And there is no way I am going to be able to do some of this stuff in the shape I am in right now.

Sorry ladies I am just venting right now. I need to just kick it up like 10 notches. The weather is killing me..being sick and just unmotivated all together. I would rather just sit on the couch and watch tv and be a hermit for a few weeks.

With all that being said I have kept the weight off that I have lost and I think just maybe I might have lost one more pound. THANK GOD!

I am making a personal committment tonight to check in here once a day for accountability. So don't be surprised if you see a bunch of posts from me.

Man I just got to do this...I have been the fatchick-- the friend all my life. Man I am 31 years old I just can't do it anymore! Its gotta change! You know what I mean? LOL you know it would be so much easier if we never had to eat again. I think I wouldnt have a problem. Its like being a coke addict and having to have just a little bit every day. Insanity I tell you insanity.

Ok I am a little cranky because I haven't kissed anyone in a while. LOL Jeeish I am just all over the place tonight. But this is what is going on in my head.

I am thinking of going on a private retreat this weekend just to remove myself from distractions and get back my focus.

I will keep you all posted. Thank you ladies for letting me jsut vent!!!

belleamiee 02-15-2008 01:51 PM

hey ladies--

Checking in-- called the personal trainer working on setting up an initial appointment. Am on track for today!!! Sticking to the plan.

Hope you all have a good weekend-- Amy

wennygrrl 02-15-2008 08:26 PM

Hey everyone-

I just got back from the gym and I can't even begin to express how frustrated I am!!!!

Friday is my weigh-in day and once again I am up 1 pound. I don't understand how this is possible! I am averaging about 1900-2000 calories a day and burning approximately 2800-3100 calories a day. This gives me a daily calorie deficit of approximately 250-800 calories. I would have thought I lost at least a pound. Just in case I measured my fat to be sure it wasn't water weight, and well, no it isn't water. What the :censored:!!

I talked with my former personal trainer who has been helping me out now with workouts to do on my own and who I am still reporting to for accountability (just not paying:^:), and he said that he wasn't sure and asked me what I have been doing for my workouts?

I told him that I worked out 5 times this week for at least 1-1.5 hours, including both cardio and full body weight/functional training. He seemed very satisfied by this and proposed that I may want to do a detox. Have any of you guys ever done one? He has done one before and it worked great and is planning to do one next week. He told me he would research them and get me more info. Right now I will do just about anything.

I really just want to give up, but the leaner, meaner side of me is just bound and determined to figure this out. Anyway, I think he felt so sorry for me he decided to work me out for free today. I forgot how challenging his workouts can be. Today he made me do dips off the bench with my feet on a stability ball. Ouch! I had NO idea I could do those. Anyway I am rambling on. It is nice to have a place where I can vent and I thank you all for listening. Now in response to earlier posts...

Amy- Great idea to go with a trainer. They give you great accountability. I loved my personal trainer! I worked with him for a year and it made a world of difference. However, just like with relationships you have to find the one you click with. DON'T EVER SETTLE!! If they're good they'll kick your butt, but let you complain about it if you want. They may tell you if you have breath enough to complain you're not working hard enough though. My trainer said that a lot. I just learned to grin and bare it and found out that I could do much, much more than I ever thought I could (i.e. the dips with the ball). I switched to complaining before and after the workouts. :p

Jen- Good luck with the parents thing. My mom is also a great baker, and sweets are my downfall. The one thing I have going for me is that my mom is very respectful of my current journey and incredibly supportive. She doesn't hide the sweets when I come over, but they aren't sitting out on the table either. I also make a point of having those great 100 cal packs around for just such occasions. I hope you have a great weekend!

Jenn- I am feeling where you are coming from. Maybe it is common for those of us who have lost a lot of weight and our bodies just need to readjust, but it is totally frustrating. The sad thing for me is I can't blame any of it on my period. Who know's? Keep at it and I am sure it will all come off again! That is what I am telling myself on a hour by hour basis. You have done an incredible job and you are getting nearer and nearer to your goal. Have faith!

Well, I hope you all have a great weekend. I am planning on focusing on myself this weekend and plan to get back out there next week. However I don't think I will meet too many "quality" men where I tend to hang out. Maybe I need to find a new hang-out, huh? :)

Take care,


belleamiee 02-16-2008 12:10 AM

Hey Wendy--

Keep going!!!! You have come so far. You might just be hitting a plateau. I have done the detox stuff before and I LOVE IT. I did my first one a few years ago and I think probably do one at least once a year. They are a little difficult to stick with BUT you feel amazing afterwards. When you figure out if you are goin to do it or not the best thing is to start on Friday so you have the weekend. You will get sick especially if you have alot of caffeine in your diet. The first two days you will have headaches and just feel all around crappy thats all the junk coming out in your body. But then usually on the third day you will wake up feeling amazing. I always get angry with myself when I slip back into normal habits because the way you are after detox is just so great!

okay so today has been pretty good except for the fact that I had some mashed potatos with dinner and few glasses of wine. Other than that I have been 100% on plan today!!! woo hoo. And I am trying to meet with the personal trainer in the next 3 days so I can get that going ASAP.

Here we go with another day tomorrow-- my mini accomplishment today is that I haven't dipped into any Vday candy and because I have a slight buzz going on I have the munches but I am not going to entertain it!!! Woo hoo.

Talk to you later ladies!


jenjen 02-18-2008 08:58 PM

Hey gang! I survived the weekend w/the folks! Eating wasn't too bad. My mom's very supportive and the meals were always well balanced except for left-over fried chicken, but I pulled the skin off! And, I tried to fill up on veggies & fruit instead of meat & potatoes.

Amy, good for you for calling the trainer. You're on your way. I understand about not kissing for a while. There are times I really miss the companionship...just to have someone there...

Wendy, I did a juice fast for like 3 days about a year ago. It wasn't too hard...just lots of fruit & vegetable juices and water. I also did the detox phase of Fat Smash Diet. THAT was harder for me. For some reason, the cutting out caffeine almost killed me. I laughed about hanging out in places that do not provide quality men. Totally understand.

Jenn, Hope you're hanging in there.

Well ladies, I have something to admit. I saw my ex before I headed out of town on Friday. It was great to see him & so comfortable. We went to lunch & made out a bit...bad idea, because now I want to kiss him (or someone!) even more. He's a good guy & we've been friends forever & he's so supportive. We talk a lot, but this was the first time we've seen each other in 3 years (and we live about an hour apart!) I know it wasn't a good idea, but it was such an ego boost.

Hope y'all have a great week. I'll get back in the swing of the gym & working out tomorrow.

jenjen 02-20-2008 02:43 PM

Just a quick "pop in" to say I've lost 2 more pounds this week. I'm really surprised because I went and ate Mexican food yesterday & didn't hold back. But, I offset it with a long workout so I guess that helped.

Happy Hump Day everyone!

wennygrrl 02-20-2008 05:25 PM

Hi everyone,

Thanks for the feedback on the detox. I started one this past weekend and it is supposed to last for 2 weeks. So far so good. A lot of it has to do with consuming more fiber and LOTS of water and cutting out certain things like dairy, peanuts, red meat, caffeine, alcohol, etc... I have been OP all week with the exception of last night I had 2 slices of thin crust pizza :(, however I still stayed within my allotted calories :smug:, but the dairy and meat were not great for the detox. Anyway, today has been better. I am not feeling as hungry which has been my biggest issue. Maybe it is all the fiber? I hope everyone is having a great week! Congrats Jen on the weight loss! WTG!!! :cp:


ViolinJenn 02-21-2008 09:58 PM

Hello Ladies:wave:

Well I think I figured out why I keep gaining and losing the same 5 pounds. I gained all 5 back this past week and decided that I needed to start at step one. I know that I'm burning approximately 2000 calories a week. So I found a weight loss calculator online and it says that I need 1876 cals for fat loss and 1440 for rapid weight loss. I then wrote down everything that I ate today and added up the calories. Well it turns out I've been averaging about 1200 cals a day.:o So I changed my dinner plans and had a higher calorie dinner with a few extra carbs. But starting Sat when I get more Balance Bars, I'm going to add an extra one in. I eat one on days I go to the gym, so I figure that's an easy 210 cals that should bring me up to the rapid fat loss range.

While I'm glad I figured it out, it's a little scary how easily I can just eat so little! It does explain the tiredness, lightheadedness and dizzynes I've had lately.

I'm still doing the online dating thing. It's not really working that well for me. I refuse to settle though. I eat healthy and get my butt to the gym 6hours a week. I refuse to settle for someone who is inactive, eats fast food and doesn't take care of themselves! The results may not show as much on the outside, but internally I'm extremely healthy! There is one guys profile that I really like:love:, but I'm not expecting any kind of response. I emailed him and he did look at my profile, but that's about it. :shrug: His loss I say! Not to be arragent or cocky, but he's missing out on a great person(Me:D) by just judging on pictures and not looking at what we write about ourselves.

Other than that, I'm still a perment resident of cloud nine:cloud9::cloud9::cloud9::cloud9: about getting accepted to Temple University! Can't wait to start!

Congrats on the weight loss Jen!:cheer::cheer::cheer:
For the rest of us...Let's go ladies let'sexercise, eat healthy and let's look healthy, killer sexy and have our pic of intellegent, good hearted men!:coach::coach:

belleamiee 02-24-2008 12:43 AM


I loved the last few lines of your post. My week has not been productive. I need some help I am not doing well at all and have fallen back into my old eating patterns. My whole family was here for the weekend- birthday parties you name it! But I could have made better choices but I consciously chose not to. I have to really get back on plan. I dont' want to gain back the 10lbs I lost. Ugh.

jenjen 02-24-2008 06:05 PM

Hey gang,

Hope y'all are having a great weekend. Mine's been pretty productive. Went & worked out both yesterday & today so feel pretty good.

Jenn-I love your last couple of lines, too. You're exactly right, too. The guy doesn't know what he's missing just going by a picture! :D Glad you were able to figure out that you might not be eating enough. How's it going for you now that you've adjusted your eating?

Wendy-What sort of detox are you doing & how's that going? I think I could do a detox now depending on what it included. I've cut down a lot on the caffeine and I think that was my biggest problem before.

Amy-how are you doing? Don't give up! Just jump back on and get going. Trust me, I know how hard it is to break the habits. Did you meet with the trainer yet?

I hope everyone has a great week. I'll have a busy one, with lots of meetings this week. I'd love to have just one week without meetings!!!

Take care. Remember, we CAN do this!

belleamiee 02-25-2008 01:09 AM

I have totally fallen off...BUT I am not going to let it get me down. I am recommitting and I have a mini goal to stay on program this week.

I met with the trainer and I don't think this is the person I am going to go with. He isn't available the times that work for me. I have a very demanding schedule unfortunately and only have certain times that it can work. So I am looking for someone else but in the meantime I am going to do bkrum yoga. Have any of you done it? Its the yoga in the 100 degree room.

Thank you ladies for your support!!!!!!

ViolinJenn 02-25-2008 02:09 PM

Hello Ladies :wave:

Jen-I just started today with adding in an extra Balance Bar. So itíll be a few weeks before I see any changes on the scale and in my clothes. I was sick this weekend with yet another cold so I kind of fell off the wagon and ate what I wanted when or if I wanted.

Amy-I have little sayings that I keep telling myself. One being, that I need to focus on a healthy lifestyle rather than a diet, once I do that the pounds will fall off. The first three letters of the word DIET spell DIE, that is not an option to lose weight. Another is that life is not a structured eating plan, life gives variety and choices. It is hard and sometimes we donít have healthy options. Iíve learned that at holidays and other celebrations itís OKAY to indulge a little. Just get back on the next day and usually the pounds will fall off because it isnít my usual eating habit. Every day is new day that brings a clean slate. Iíve found that beating myself up isnít a help either.

To this day I stick to not keeping things in my house that I donít have control of. I keep mainly natural foods, veggies, fruit, whole grains, vegetarian protein and low fat dairy. Itís a daily fight Iíll have for the rest of my life, but it does get easier the longer you are away. Itís almost like an addiction. The longer a smoker is away from cigarettes the easier it gets to not smoke.

Donít give up!!! Keep at it, youíll find your grove and little tricks that work for you! It takes time and experimentation.

Good luck with your search for a trainer! After I lost both of mine back in January (sniffle I miss working with one of them! He was my favorite!), I recently started working with another trainer at the gym and heís great! He trains just like my favorite trainer did, but yet is different. You need to feel comfortable with them and their style of training.

Now for the juicy stuff! This online dating thing keeps getting interesting when I least expect it too.

Okay so back in the beginning of the New Year, I emailed this one guy on match. Heís a chemist and his profile didnít say much but it did say that he likes to keep life simple. We exchanged a few emails then I stopped emailing him because things at work got a bit crazy and overwhelming. When I get like that I need to take time for myself and just rest and slow down a bit. So I get to work and check my email account from there and see that I have an email from him! Out of the blue! I havenít heard from him since the SuperBowl! His email though completely took me by surprise! It was one line, three words! Iím trying to figure out how to respond. Hereís what he said:

ďHey good lookingĒ

LOL! Three words have never left me so speachless!

The dilemma is this. In the past Iíve had two psychic readings in which one mentioned that the right one for me will have a connection to the medical field. That one was from about 5 years ago or so. The other said that Iíll have one relationship that Iíll break off cause ďIím just not feeling itĒ and then meet someone right away whoíll Iíll marry. Look for something to do with law he says. I know that this most likely psychic crap even if they did hit on things that no one could know, but itís in the back of my mind. I donít want it to influence me, but its there. I think this guy, with his wanting to keep life simple, would be good for me (I like to take things at 100mph). Heís cute too. It seems at this point he likes me for me, which is a big deal to me. I donít want someone who will only like me for my body (when I do get a nice athletic toned one), but see the depth too.

My guts say, give him a chance. But I have NOOOOO idea how to respond to that email! LOL! I want it to be a nice one liner as well. I was thinking maybe as a response to his ďHey good lookingĒ a friend at work was thinking I should respond with "whaaaat ya got cookin! LOL


Persistent Pam 02-25-2008 02:32 PM

Introducing my self to the group
Hi Everyone!

My code name is Persisitent Pam. I live in Toronto Canada. I'm in the marketing industry and have been out of work for 4 months now and have gained 10 lbs. I've just started the beck diet and am on day 7. Its been a hard day. I haven't been motivated to do much. I got up and then went back to bed til 11. Yesterday was amazing. I'm not sure, maybe my body is detoxing from the sugar. For sure I'm going to do my 1/2 hour run at about 4 pm.

I weigh 160. I want to get down to 140. I like the beck diet so far. Cause I am starting to see how I feed my self all these negative thougths. and that just gets me down and I give up. I've been faithfully reading my ARC cards and doing all my tasks....eating mindfully is hard though.

I'm pretty certain I'm in the dumps today cause I've been feeding myself the "you'll never get a decent job", "you'll make the same mistakes" junk. So I'm going to try and do an hour of talking through these talks.

It was interesting cause on sat this was even worse and I got through sat very well and sunday was amazing so it was really good to see that, so that even though I'm in a fearful and negative mood, I know that this will pass.

wennygrrl 02-25-2008 03:21 PM

Hey Ladies!

Finally I have some good news. In addition to the temperature creeping above the freezing mark this weekend and the sun deciding to make an appearance, I lost 2 pounds at my weigh-in on Friday! I was so excited I did this little dance after getting off the scale only to notice two guys checking me out through the window. The old me would have blushed and looked away, but the newer more confident me blushed and smiled at them. They smiled back and moved on. I can't even tell you how happy I am this week. In the past this plateau and even gain of weight might have broke me, or at least caused me to give in to my cravings more often, but I stuck to my plan of the detox and it paid off!!

The detox itself is going well. I don't even know if it is a true detox. It isn't one of those just fruits, veggies, water and juice diets. What I am doing is I stopped all caffeine, alcohol, red meat, most dairy, all un-natural sugar, and processed food for two weeks. I am also taking a few supplements for the week to help in the cleansing process. I take several fiber supplements both am/pm, milk thistle (for liver cleansing) and a very mild and completely natural supplement that helps as a laxative. I believe this is to help because of all the fiber. I also have to drink almost double the amount of water (128 oz/daily). This is because it helps the fiber attach to toxins in the digestive tract and process it through. So far, so good. I am using the bathroom frequently, but aside from that no other complications. It is not something I am planning to do often, but I felt like I was at the end of my rope and this was something that I could do. For the most part I think it is just aiding my natural detoxers (liver & kidneys).

Amy, I thought what Jenn had to say about looking at this as a lifestyle change instead of a diet is a great idea. Whenever anyone asks me how the diet is going. I try to refrain from cringing and say that I am not on a diet, but that I am just trying to be a healthier person and that anybody could benefit from that. I find it makes me feel no different than any woman out there, no matter the size. :queen:

Jenn, the e-mail guy sounds interesting. I am not always good at those witty one liners so I'll refrain from giving my advice on that. I just wanted to say that I think you should go with your gut and see what happens. I had two psychics tell me that I would meet the man I was meant to marry, but that we would be friends for several years before becoming romantic. I could remember analyzing every friendship I had with a guy. I finally had to just realize whatever was meant to be would happen or it wouldn't. Don't put too much on it to start. Just have fun and enjoy the fact that this man finds you attractive and sexy because you are!! :D

Pam, :welcome: We hope to hear more from you!

Take care everyone and have a great week!


belleamiee 02-25-2008 07:13 PM


Totally agree with you on the new day comments. Thats the thing I am doing new this time because I know tis the only way its going to work and I do have good news to report-- so far I am on plan for today!! wooo hooo. My great oneliner is-- right back at yah babe! :P Hey if you are attracted to him go with it! As far as the pyschic stuff-- not a believer in that. God has a plan for you-- it will unfold right before your eyes. Keep yourself open to any and all possibilities. And yes you are hot! You have to believe that 100% Heck I know I am hot now! Its really important too because people will recieve you the way you feel about yourself. We are all hot.

Pam-- I can totally feel you. I went through a rough two years of my life in terms of jobs-- starting my own business and I also gained weight during it. One of the best pieces of advice I can give you is stay active. Try and get yourself on a schedule. Maybe volunteer in some places so while you are on your job search you have a "life" if that makes any sense. Its so hard to interview over and over again and have to give 100% when you aren't feeling 100%.

Wendy-- so cool about the detox! I am glad its going well for you. Have you gotten that engergy boost yet? If you haven't trust me you will know when it happens.

Keep it up ladies!!! And thank you for your support--


Ohh p.s.....I am always interested in the juicy stuff!! lol I have nothing to share right now but when I do-- ohh you will know :P

ViolinJenn 02-25-2008 10:03 PM

Well ladies,
I emailed him! I went with....

"Whaaat ya got cookin" LOL!

I also told him as a hint to think country music! Then I left my yahoo email address. I hope I wasn't too late as his profile was no longer available, but it did say that I can continue to communicate with him.:(:( The email's are connected to our private accounts so hopefully he'll get it!

Time will tell, but if that's what Life and the good Lord have for me, then it'll happen!

Keep your fingers crossed and send all the positive vibes you can!


jenjen 02-26-2008 03:26 PM

WOW. I've missed a lot!

Jenn-I love that you sent "What ya got cookin?" back to him. Honestly, it was the first thing I thought of. And, don't believe the psychics!!! :D Oh, and I love the thing about "diet". I think I remember a long time ago, there was a Garfield poster that said, "Diet is DIE with a T"

Pam-Welcome to the group! What is the Beck Diet? Positive self-talk does work. Sometimes, you may not believe it when you start, but after a while, it kicks in...sort of the "fake it, til you make it" rule.

Wendy, I'm glad the detox is going well. And I love the confidence you have!

Amy, Glad you were able to meet w/the trainer. I hope you'll be able to find another one who can meet your schedule. I haven't done yoga, but I hear hot yoga is great! My sis-in-law is actually a certified yoga instructor & she loves hot yoga (not sure if she teaches it or not). When they move back this summer, I think I'm going to try to get a few private lessons from her! I'm intimidated about just walking into a class because my flexibility sucks!

I've done pretty well eating & exercising. I know a group of us are going out Thursday night & I've given myself "permission" to eat & drink what I want. But, I also know the consequences if I don't eat healthy for the rest of the week & continue to work out.

Oh, I have a small victory. I haven't been able to wear my regular watch since I broke my wrist almost 3 years ago. Now, it fits. It's a little tight, but it fits!

Have a great rest of the week, gang.

Persistent Pam 02-27-2008 02:14 PM

Hello Everyone
Well, yesterday I was annoyed because I didn't exercise and at 2 desserts.
today I did my exercise (again ate too much dessert). I know both times I was eating in front of the tv. Its so hard to give that up.

I've decided that exercise must be a regular part of my life. I do 15 min of yoga a 30 minute run, 10 minute cool down walk and then 15 minutes of yoga to stretch. I feel good after I've done it. I'm doing the Beck Diet...(Judith Beck). Its really interesting cause it's all about changing the way you think. CBT (Cognitive Behaviorial Therapy). I like it. The first thing you have to do is write down on a card a few reasons why you want to lose weight (so I feel better, so I feel great when I put on my fav jeans, so I can make a difference in life instead of hiding behind food). Then you have to read this card at least 2x a day. I've been doing it 9 days now. I haven't weighed my self. I'm scared that might set me off if I haven't lost too much. oh well, small lossses are still great. In a year it won't matter if I've took 6 months to lose 23 lbs.

I've done alot so far today. and am feeling overwhelmed. I'm going to do some meditation. and later this aft b4 dinner, I'm going to go to starbucks, get a coffee and write 3 pages of journaling. Why. So I don't over eat at dinner. I want to feel good and this is why I have to pay attention to what I'm doing. (Can you tell I'm trying to convince myself. ) anyway. that's it for now...take care all. Persistent Pam

wennygrrl 02-27-2008 06:32 PM

Just popping in to say hey! My week so far has been pretty hectic, but I am still staying OP! Whoohoo! The detox will finish up this weekend and it looks like I dropped about 5.5 lbs in the last week and a half. :carrot:

Pam, I think that the CBT thing is one of the most important parts of the whole weight loss thing. If you really want to change your life you have to start with your thinking and motivation. I know that it will pay off for you even if the exercise/dessert thing has been difficult lately. That is all in the past. Our biggest blessing is that we get to start each day anew. I think the journaling, meditation and yoga will help you get in the right headspace. Good luck.

Jenn, I am sending positive connection vibes right now!!!

Amy, I have done bikrum yoga and I absolutely love it!!! However I do have this thing with loving to sweat a lot when I work out. I just don't feel like I pushed it hard enough if my hair and shirt and sometimes pants aren't drenched. :hot: Go figure?

Jen, congrats on the watch. We all have to celebrate the small stuff sometimes, and have fun on Thursday night. Have a drink for me. (Can't right now due to the detox :))

Take care everyone!


neurotictigg 02-27-2008 09:41 PM

My name is Genny and I m 36

Ive been divorced for what seems like forever..since it was so long ago sometimes I forget I was even married! Except for a year and half relationship I have been single ever since. It so easy to just stay at home and not get involved with life that I find it very hard to get out there. I have some anxiety issues that hinder this process so that doesnt make things easier. I for one HATE being single. I miss the closeness and the feeling of being loved.

I have a couple of good friends but there are times that friends just dont fill the whole gap. I look forward to chatting with you 30 somethings hopefull I can draw some courage from you all cause Im in pretty short supply.

neurotictigg 02-27-2008 09:50 PM

Keeping fingers and toes crossed...;)

neurotictigg 02-27-2008 09:51 PM

JENN--Keeping fingers and toes crossed...

Persistent Pam 02-28-2008 04:57 PM

Happy Thursday!!
Wendy...I love the fact that you responded in fun to the guys checking you out (on the weekend). That's so awesome. And wow. detoxes are hard. I did one a brown rice one for 10 days. b4. Nothing but brown rice...I don't think I can do that again.

JenJen...the beck diet. is by Judith Beck (The Beck Solution diet)...she's a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist and she gives a tip a day in her book and there are work books too. Day II of the diet I had to give my self credit for every good thing I did..(and each tip I learn I have to keep doing it every day). ie: Good for me I recorded my food today. Good for me I just finished exercising. Good for me I made that phone call I didn't want to make.

It's a 6 week program and I'm going to do it at least 2x or more until I just get used to doing all the do stuff automatically.

Welcome Genny...I hear you about wanting to be in a couple...I used to really want to be in a relationship and now I still do but not sure if I'm ready just now. I just broke up w/ a bf 2 weeks ago. One thing was for sure. I ate alot in the relationship cause I was scared of getting close. It's good that you are working on your health now until the right guy comes along. When you are sure you're ready you can meet tons of guys online. I read in Self or Cosmo or something like that that 50,000 + people have met online and gotten married (I forget if that is just North America, US or worlwided). I know 4 couples that have.

Anyway. I'm overwhelmed by my weight. I went to self.com You can record your weight every day and find the calories that you are eating. (I've never done that in my life b4) and I realized the reason I'm not losing weight is cause I was eating alot. Who knew. I'm thinking I'm eating "sensible diet food" and really I'm over eating...So I'm going to record my food online for a bit just to see the calories...I've heard anywhere from 1800 to 2200 a day. I've been having a lot more.

Plus the new business that I'm working on is a no sugar, no gluten cookbook which of course then gives me desserts that I have to try. Only now I have to set down limits. Dessert only at dinner. A month ago I was eating two huge pieces at dinner and lunch and snacks...of course I'd gain weight...oh well...I made some mistakes and now I have to get back on track.

Btw how do I get that lovely weight chart that you guys have at the bottom of your comments....

Take care everone...

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