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jenjen 01-07-2008 10:24 PM

Welcome to everyone!

Jenn-Wow, you've accomplished a lot. Congrats! I have to agree with what Amy said. Keep on exercising. He should understand that exercising is important to you and be supportive. And, y'all will figure something out.

Jax-I don't think Amy started this thread to be "exclusive" of anyone and I think you fit the description of being single. But, being single & without children holds different struggles than being married and/or having kids.

Amy- How was your weekend?

My married friends/friends with kids are great, don't get me wrong. But, if I want to go out spur of the moment, I usually get, "Well, I have to check with my husband." or "I can't because of the kids." They also don't understand that right after work I go & work out and they want to spend an hour on the phone. If I call them after I work out, I get the "it's family time" deal. Our personal lives are completely different.

As for dating/meeting men, I can't give any advice. I suppose I don't go out enough or to the right places to meet men. The two times my friends have tried to set me up have been complete disasters. I still look at my friends and say, "What the heck were you thinking????" (Okay, the way I ask them is not that nice). Online dating hasn't worked for me.

I restocked my freezer, fridge, & cabinets with healthier foods so I think I'm set for the week.

Have a great week everyone!

belleamiee 01-07-2008 10:47 PM

Completely agree with what you said about the thread Jen!

My weekend wasn't too bad but night tonight UGH :(

I am going to vent for a few minutes so just bare with me ladies. You know when you are pmsing and things tend to be more emotional than usual then you hit an emotional situation and it feels like things have just been squared- grown exponentially? Thats how I am feeling right now.

I have a friend who I have known since kindergarten and the last few years of our lives things have gotten a little more complicated as we wound up crossing those friend boundaries...we didn't talk for awhile and then slowly found our way back to eachother. That boundary has been crossed again more three times in the last year and my feelings have just gottne really hurt.

When it comes to things like this our communication is not good and I kinda take one for the team alot and don't share my feelings-- also because I know they aren't going to be recieved well. We are working together on a non profit he started and we had dinner tonight and I have just been trying to be professional wtih him but he knows something is up and keeps pressing me for it. In my weakened state I actually had to leave at one point and fake a bathroom run just to pull myself together. Its a mess. I don't mean any disrespect but with this situation I so feel like the fatchick.

I FINALLY got my medifast shipped today. And so I am starting tomorrow...I did loose 3 lbs this week.

I gotta just do something about this situation. I am just feeling so whimpy at the moment.

ViolinJenn 01-08-2008 06:22 PM

I'm in a similar boat Amy!
I'm having a wicked case of PMS myself so I completely understand and please vent away! I find myself very emotional, slightly depressed, EXHAUSTED and the slightist thing could swing me anyway from pretty happy to crying! :cry:

I can identify with your "feeling like the fatchick" even with all the weight I've lost and all that I've accomplished I still feel this way. It's a New Year's resolution of mine to express myself to people! Tell them if I'm mad, don't let them walk all over me and let them know what is important to me. How about making an appointment with him and telling him straight forward what's on your mind? Or maybe put it in a letter if it's easier and end it with telling him you want to talk about it? Just a suggestion!

I hope you're week is going better.

belleamiee 01-09-2008 12:02 AM

Thank you...its just nice to know someone "gets it!"

And I have been doing that- being honest with my feelings and brave to show the world and not put other peoples needs always before my own especially when it comes to emotions.

I am doing SO much better today...I also started my medifast today. I really like it!

How is everyone doing? How was your Monday?

jenjen 01-09-2008 11:00 PM

Amy, I'm sorry you're having such a tough time, but I can relate. And, I didn't find you're comment about feeling like the fatchick offensive at all. Sometimes it's how I refer to myself. One time, when I was wearing a new pair of jeans a friend of mine commented that they were cute & wanted to know what brand it was & I said, "Tommy for fat chicks." (Tommy Hilfiger) She looked at me stunned & I just laughed.

I'm not one to talk about my emotions a lot. In my household crying was a sign of weakness. I've gotten a bit better about it.

I've been sick for the past few days, but I did go work out this evening. So far, I've lost 3 pounds, so I'm thankful. I'm drinking plenty of water, that's for sure. I've cut down on caffeine quite a bit, and so far it hasn't been a big problem.

We're on the downward slide for the week! YIPPEE!!!

belleamiee 01-11-2008 07:37 PM

Hey hey ladies--

Yeah thats the way things were in my house too Jen...its taken a long time to find a good balance but I think in my old age :P Its coming together.

I have been SUPER busy this week. Working and meetings till 9 30!

But even thought I think my medifast choice was a good one because I have been able to work it into my schedule pretty effortlessly.

But anyway..I the weight is going slow but I do have to work on the caffeine thing too.

What are you guys doing to loose the weight?


BabyNicole 01-11-2008 10:26 PM


Originally Posted by belleamiee (Post 1993896)
Hey hey ladies--

Yeah thats the way things were in my house too Jen...its taken a long time to find a good balance but I think in my old age :P Its coming together.

I have been SUPER busy this week. Working and meetings till 9 30!

But even thought I think my medifast choice was a good one because I have been able to work it into my schedule pretty effortlessly.

But anyway..I the weight is going slow but I do have to work on the caffeine thing too.

What are you guys doing to loose the weight?


I'm on Deliciously Yours. I also calorie count, eat less than 15g of fat per meal and am on Alli. I like everything so far!

jenjen 01-11-2008 10:39 PM

Hey Gang!

I hope you're having a great Friday night! I'm in for the night.

I'm counting calories. It's been the easiest way for me to lose weight. I try to stay between 1200 and 1500 cals a day. Some say it's not enough, but I have a BS in Dietitics, so I always go back to my nutrition books. My goal is to exercise 3 days a week & so far, I've stayed on task. It's been hard this week because I've been in the office until at least 7:00 and I really want to go home, but I just say to myself, "What are you going to do at home??? Sit in front of the computer of tv." So, I've dragged my butt to the gym.

I've been doing just cardio, but I think next week I'll start adding weight training. I'd also like to start swimming again. That was always great exercise & I love to be in the pool.

Nicole, I used Alli when it first came out as Xenical & it really helped me get a jump start. It kept me from eating high fat foods & I never had the horrid side effects. I've thought about buying Alli just to help me for the first couple of months.

Hope everyone has a great weekend. I'll try to check in.

belleamiee 01-12-2008 12:23 AM

How is that Alli stuff. I have thought about taking it too but I know that in the studies the people who took xenical wound up gaining more weight back after the study than the people who didn't take it.

Does it have caffeine are there any side effects?

jenjen 01-12-2008 01:02 AM

Alli & Xenical are "fat blockers" for lack of a better term. They keep you from abosorbing 25% (I think) of your fat intake. The only side effect that I know of is if you eat something high in fat, you will have some negative digestive reactions. It doesn't contain caffeine & seems to be one of the "safest" weight loss drugs out there because it doesn't effect your metabolism.

For me, it was great because it made me eat a lower fat diet because I didn't want the side effects (negative re-inforcement) I took it about 2 or 3 months when I first started dieting to get me into the habit of eating low fat. After I went off of it, I continued to lose weight. If you get the intro packet, it encourages changing your eating habits & including an exercise program.

I had friends who started it at the same time I did, but they didn't change the way they ate. One of them literally crapped her pants. (sorry, but I don't know a better way to say it)

If you're already eating a low-fat diet, it won't really have a major effect on your weight loss. I think there are some threads under "diets" that are for those taking Alli.

Off to bed for me...

belleamiee 01-12-2008 02:08 AM

LOL-- Being descret with my medifast packets is enough for me..I don't think I would be able to hide the crap in my pants!!! LOL I just couldn't help it.

Yeah I am on pretty much low fat with the medifast so I think for now I will pass on that for me.


jenjen 01-13-2008 11:48 AM

Hi gang! Hope you are having a great weekend. I spent time shopping & hung out with friends yesterday. I need to go work out this morning, but I really don't want to.

Oh, yesterday I bought a book called, "Better Single than Sorry" It was written by Jen Schefft (for anyone who watches the Bachelor or Bachelorette). As much as I sometime lament over not having a man, I thought I should give it a read. It's nothing deep but sort of funny & interesting. Yes, I admit that I can't walk into a bookstore without buying SOMETHING!

ViolinJenn 01-13-2008 02:52 PM

Hello Ladies!:wave:

Well so far I've lost a grand total of 85lbs. It took a while because I lost 80 gained about 45 back with meds then had trouble losing it due to tons of stress. I made the switch to being a strict vegetarian and used LA Weight Loss to get me going again in a healthy way. I parted ways with LAWL in September because they didn't agree with my wanting to weight train and build muscle. So since then I've taken the advice of my now former trainer, and I'm focusing on changing my body composition, not the scale. I would rather be heavier and full of muscle then thin and flabby. I struggled last week because I wasn't feeling well. Turned out I had all the warning signs of overtraining, so I took a few days off and I'm reducing my cardio time a bit, from 40min to 30min.:wl::lifter::woops:

Well that guy I was met for lunch Saturday...well I'll tell you this...NO NO NO NO NOOOOOOOOOO! :nono:It was that bad! I'd rather be single and free then miserable with a man! But on the whole, I learned some more about myself. Yes I want to date again and am ready to, BUT I'm going to be picky and stand firm on what is important to me. I believe that when the time is right for both of us we'll find each other.:love:

BTW-I'm with ya Jen! I can't go into the bookstore and walk out empty handed! I think I may have to treat myself to that book you mentioned!:book2:

AND I have exciting news! I received a letter and I got accepted to my #2 choice school!!!!!!! :cloud9:I got accepted to La Salle University in Philly!!!!!! I'm now just waiting to hear from Temple University my #1 pick!


Chelavon 01-13-2008 07:11 PM

That is GREAT, violinjenn!!!

jenjen 01-13-2008 07:30 PM

Hi again. I'm exhausted! I walked almost 4 miles, went to the store, came home put groceries away, got laundry started, fixed lunch and everything else & I am down right tired!

Jenn--sorry to hear about your date. One thing the book focuses on is not settling. Congrats on getting into your #2 choice. I'll keep my fingers crossed for the #1 school. What will you be studying?

I'm really surprised that they didn't want you to add weight training & firm up. That's insane! I know what you mean about not worrying about the scale. Once I get down close the where I think I want to be, I'll focus more on my size than weight. BTW, you are quite an inspiration for me!

I plan on adding in some weight training this week.

Well, back to watching the Cowboys game. Have a great evening everyone!

ViolinJenn 01-13-2008 09:40 PM


I'll be studing Accounting. I'm transfering my Associates Degree in Accounting to attain my Bachelors Degree in Accounting and then go after my CPA licence.:book2::book2:

Wow I've never been an inspiration for anyone! Thank you!:hug:

I've come to be more concerned about how I look in my clothes too not worrying so much about the size. If I can get to a comfortable size 10 I'll be happy!:cloud9::cloud9::cloud9:

So sorry about your Cowboys...LOL I'm a Giants Fan!!!!! Go G-MEN!!!!:D:D:D

You are right about settling. Thankfully I'm not one to do that. LOL I'm way to stubborn!!:lol::lol::lol: I know what I want and I go after it. I'll know when found "The One"

belleamiee 01-14-2008 02:57 AM

I am pooped ladies but I wanted to add-- that is so awesome about school. I did my graduate work in Philly and LOVED IT!!!

I had an interesting weekend but I will share tomorrow LOL. G'night y'all!

Natalia32 01-14-2008 11:15 AM

Good morning. I have joined 3FC a few days ago and i am really enjoying the support and great advice i have found to date.
I am a 30 something single (no kids, not engaged nor married) girl living in Montreal, Canada. However I am seeing a guy but he lives 6 hours away. Sometimes i find it hard to stick to my plan when he comes to town to see me. He always wants to go out to eat and i get really anxious around food that are not in my "plan" and get these urges to binge once i get off track. I am currently working on that. I feel that my relationship adds on to my stresses with food. Maybe its just me.
I hope we can support eacother!

belleamiee 01-15-2008 02:04 AM

hey hey
Great to see you Natalia!!

I hope everyone is doing well.

I think I am hitting that moment..you know when you just want to kinda give in LOL its that almost 7 day itch. I know if I stick with something for 7 days it has a tendancy to stick. So I am trying to get past the itch and stay motivated.

I want to thank you ladies...I don't know about you but this is really helping me. I hope that I am giving that same gift to you as well. I would have like to posted more in the past few days but haven't had a lot of time.

I have a date on Saturday !!!!!! ;) :dancer:

I am excited. I haven't gone out with anyone new in a long time. And I am worried to about how this is going to affect my plan and feeling the pressure as well.

Ladies I need to exercise but I just can't seem to start. I keep telling myself tomorrow-- tomorrow. I just can't get myself motivated to do it.

I hope everyone is doing well and just knowing I have some people to share all this with has really helped with my accountability. Thank you!!! :hug:

jenjen 01-15-2008 11:23 PM

Hey gang. I hope everyone is doing well.

Jenn, I think it's great that you are going back to school.

Natalia, Welcome. I know I find it difficult to eat out/go to a party when I'm trying to watch what I eat. If I know which restaurant we are going to, I usually try to find a menu online & try to select from the "healthier" things. For me, that takes some of the pressure off.

Amy, Congrats on the date. Is it the guy you've been talking to? As far as exercising, I know it's tough, but it gets so much easier once you start. Start out slow--even if it's a walk around the block.

I may be seeing an ex-boyfriend this weekend. We've remained great friends & we've been there for each other emotionally especially the last year, even though we haven't seen each other in almost 3 years. I'm excited & nervous at the same time...

I have to agree with Amy about the accountability & support. I feel like if I go off of my plan I have to report back & I don't want to fail so it's just better if I don't! But, I also know this is somewhere I can come when I've fallen off the wagon, & everyone will be supportive & encouraging.

Have a great evening & Wedenesday, everyone.

belleamiee 01-16-2008 01:28 AM

I completely agree with you Jen. About the falling off the wagon part.

Interesting news about the x-- my only two cents would be make sure you both aren't finding something thats not there because you are both wanting to have someone in your lives-- that "one" may not really be either one of you but just someone. If there was someone else would this still be happening? I know its really comfortable to be with x's. (personal experience :P) Just throwing it out there-- but hey you never know. Just guard your heart.

So the date on Saturday is not the same guy-- here's some updated info.

That guy I talked about I started chatting to because of that free weekend. Well there was another guy who I made it through the process with too.

Because I had been chatting it up so much with guy #1 I was just going to kinda let guy #2 go. But I had a good talk with one of my BFFs and she said hey you aren't dating anyone keep it going with both. THANK GOODNESS I did. I found out more about guy #1 and was just not feeling it AT ALL. Kinda surprised me but these internet things are always weird.

Anyway wound up talking to guy #2 on the phone this week-- he is awesome. And we both have so much in common-- honestly so far its like the commercial. We decided too that regardless of what happends we would really like to be friends because we just hit it off so well and there aren't many single 30 somethings here. Then he asked me out on Saturday. I kinda have a feeling that he is just as excited as I am...just to meet someone that is normal for a change--lol someone like me-- which I wouldn't really label as normal!

Anyway anyway...I will keep all you gals posted.

I am finding this diet to be an everyday almost every moment challenge. I have been tempted alot. I try my hardest to not open the refridgerator-- I don't live alone so that makes it more difficult.

I have allowed myself tiny things-- a little bit of crumbled cheese on a salad or a little more protein. The one thing I am doing is completely staying off any carbs. I am definetly noticing a difference. My energy level is up...my body feels oddly at rest like its not working a bazzillion times a minute.

But I keep choosing me in a bikini-- me in a bikini-- which would be a FIRST in my life!!!!!!!!!! :belly:

Hope everyone is well--

ViolinJenn 01-16-2008 02:24 PM

Have fun on your date Saturday Amy! I'm doing the internet dating thing and I'm just not finding anyone that I hit if off like that with. I'm independant and abitious so I think that scares guys off. Oh well, their loss! There is someone out that that will appreciate me just the way I am AND be able to keep up with me, hold a great conversation and not be intimadated or take advantage of of that amition.

I'll update what's going on with me more later tonight. My lunch half hour is quickly ending.

belleamiee 01-16-2008 08:02 PM


We are birds of a feather although I would change for me that I am an achiever rather than ambitous-- although people sometimes recieve it as ambitious.

Over the years I have found myself dating men mostly 5-10 years older than me because men my age were usually not as accomplished, focused or had the respect of their senior colleagues as I have had. Part of the reason my first engagment broke off was because of a fight in which my x said-- I am not going to another event with you-- I am not your wife. Nice huh!

LOL and the independent part....you have no idea...I don't even know...again its just another whole thing about me just being me.

But I am finding as I am getting older and men are maturing they are looking more for women of substance and aren't as intimidated.

Although the internet I think breeds insecurity. But regardless.. you're hot-- you should be able to find a guy anywhere!

Looking forward to the update--- (PS help! They are making stuffed shells down stairs...ohh I so want one!!!)

jenjen 01-16-2008 08:22 PM

Hey gang! Well, I'm down 5 more pounds today...WOOHOO! :D

Amy, I totally get what you're saying. He's one of my best friends, honestly. And, while I'm very emotionally attached to him, I definitely know he's not the "ONE". I went through some major health issues last year & he was the one I could really confide in & cry to. He's really an amazing guy, but makes a better friend than partner.

Jenn & Amy, I know exactly what you mean. I'm very independent and am rather sucessful. I work at a med school and I have worked my way up and have gotten to a place where I am well-respected (and somewhat known)---the CFO asked where I was when I didn't go to their Christmas party!!! The funny thing is, I'm usually attracted to "good ole boys"---he has to be motivated and love what he does, but I can date a mechanic, plumber, farmer, just as easily as I could a CEO, doctor, lawyer, etc. But, they have to be very secure with who they are and sometimes that's difficult to find.

Amy, go walk around the block!!! I'm heading out of the office & off to work out.

ViolinJenn 01-16-2008 10:39 PM

Okay my update.

So while I've pretty much determined that I'm not going to find my match via internet dating, it's given me a whole lot of confidence which is priceless. :) If I come out of it with a new friend or two even better. I'm going about my life doing what I want and enjoy. I joined the Philly chapter of a Vegetarian education group. Once a month they have a singles "outing" at a veg restaurant and general group events as well. I also voluntered to help staff a table at a health and Food Expo in March. It'll be fun!:carrot: I've gone to one of the singles restaurent outings already before the holidays and it was fun! Everyone was so nice and man oh man the randomness of the topics we discussed!LOL!:lol:

At the moment I am trying to not get the office respatory infection and stomach bug/flu that is going around.:barf: So far I'm winning!:D I'm reading a book that has me completely captivated right now. It's Becoming Jane Austen, the book that inspired the movie Becoming Jane out Feb 12th on DVD! I'll be at Wal-Mart after work that day buying it!:D

The sad news: I lost both of my trainers at the gym last week!:( One of them I was expecting to lose. He has just finished law school in Dec. and got a job. I knew it was a matter of time. I'm truely happy for him, but that just sucks for me!:( The other trainer, had to cut back his hours because he's going to school. He cut two days out completely and one of them was mine. I had to split my time between the two of them due to scheduling issues. I have an appointment with one of the female trainers tomorrow and an appointment next week with one of the other guy trainers. So we'll how that goes. I'm gonna miss those two!:cry::cry: They showed me how to weight train properly. I'm now very comfortable in the back with the free weights with all those yummy muscly meat heads!:lifter::wl::strong: :lol: I love lifting weights because of them. I even got a high compliment from him, he said he loves when he gets to work with "Female meat heads" :D:D :LOL: I'm so proud!

I say that I'm ambitious because when I go after something and do not let anyone or anything stand in my way. Okay so I'm doing things backwards, just now going back to school but I wasn't fully committed to Accounting back then in my 20's. I was lost in my 20s and didn't want to waste time or a heck of alot of money on school if I wasnt certain what I wanted to do.:?: Now it's full steam ahead! I've gotten a lot of support and respect from people about it. They've all told me that they couldn't do it as an adult. I say you can do anything you want if you want it bad enough.

I saw two profiles that caught my attention and they couldn't be more different. One is a Chemist the other does Labor/Construction type work. I do find that the guys on the internet are a bit....well conceited and have an ego and want the Victoria's Secret model type for a girlfriend. It's hard to describe, but I'll know when I have that connection with someone. Until then, have fun!;) A friend of mine put my independance into perfect words to make men understand it, she said(cause she's the same way) "it's not that I need him(whoever he may be) in my life, it's that I want him in my life"

Amy-The key to exercise is finding something you enjoy to do! I love the gym! I also started off by walking my dog 20min briskly, I moved on to Lesley Sansones Walk Away The Pounds workouts. Those were great cardio and light weights at the same time and you DON'T have to be as coordinated as a dancer!:belly: :belly: Maybe try renting some workout DVD's from the video store? See if you find a style you like and is fun for you.

Okay so now I've written a novel I'm going to sign off for now.


jenjen 01-18-2008 02:54 PM

Hey gang. I'll reply with more later, but just wanted to pop in & say "Hi!"

I've done well with eating except for last night when we went out & ate sushi. I ate as much as I wanted w/o regret. I know it's better than other binges I go on. At least this was somewhat healthy.

I haven't done well exercising. I've pretty much blown it off this week.

I don't think I'll be seeing the ex this weekend. I plan on just vegging out.

ViolinJenn 01-20-2008 03:19 PM

I got this in an email from a friend at work. It's really cute and seems to fit in with some of the previous posts! I thought I'd share with you ladies!

************************************************** ******

This is the fairy tale that should have been read to us when we were little:

Once upon a time


in a land far away,


a beautiful, independent,

self-assured princess


happened upon a frog as she sat

contemplating ecological issues

on the shores of an unpolluted pond

in a verdant meadow near her castle.


The frog hopped into the princess' lap

and said: " Elegant Lady,

I was once a handsome prince,

until an evil witch cast a spell upon me.


One kiss from you, however,

and I will turn back

into the dapper, young prince that I am


and then, my sweet, we can marry


and set up housekeeping in your castle


with my mother,


where you can prepare my meals,


clean my clothes, bear my children,


and forever feel

grateful and happy doing so. "


That night,


as the princess dined sumptuously


on lightly sauteed frog legs


seasoned in a white wine


and onion cream sauce,


she chuckled and thought to herself:


I don't f ***in think so

belleamiee 01-21-2008 08:30 PM

Hey Ladies
Just wanted to pop in and say hi--

I have been doing alright..down another 2 lbs! I have had my moments nothing too bad-- I have been staying no carb if I eat anything more..so I had a meatball moment the other night.

I have to update you on the date here's the preview-- :barf:

C'est la vie!!! And the last time I feel pressure to "eat normal" in front of a man. Screw it!


CT Cabo Girl 01-21-2008 10:41 PM

Hi Ladies,

Not sure I qualify as single, I live with my BF but since he refuses to get married, what the ****, call me single! I love him, but I don't want to spend the rest of my life being called his girlfriend. After living together for 3 years and owning a business together, the term is sort of insulting.

jenjen 01-22-2008 08:13 PM

Hey gang! Just thought I'd drop in.

Jenn-I love it!!! It's exactly how I feel most of the time.

Amy- Sorry to hear about your date. Congrats on the 2 pounds down though! That's awesome.

Cabo Girl - Welcome! What sort of business do you have?

Well, I was a slug all weekend. I had yesterday off as well. I haven't been eating too great either. Just sort of in a funk. I think part of it is because I didn't work out. So, as soon as I'm done here, I'm off to the gym. I can't wait for it to get warmer, because I want to get back into swimming.

Have a great evening & rest of the week.

belleamiee 01-22-2008 11:15 PM

Go JEN!!!! Get back in the game!

Can I tell you my clothes are all getting looser!!! I am loving it. But I do have to get the exercise part going I know I have been talking alot about it but I am starting this week! I will keep you posted.

The date-- there was no mutual attraction physically I think....well I can definetly speak for myself on that part. We had a good conversation and parted nicely and I had no thoughts of calling him back and then I accidentally called him today thinking it was another friends number-- my cell phonebook is all messed up and I am going off of incomming calls etc and accidentally called him!!!! LOL it was so awkward for both of us..but I don't know. Ahhhhhh dating-- gotta love it!

My energy levels are up so much and I am just feeling great. I keep thinking about six months from now-- I have a personal goal I want to reach and by just thinking about it keeps me really focused! Well and the cost involved! hahaha

Hope you are all doing well!!!!


hafowler 01-22-2008 11:19 PM

Hi all. This thread looks right up my alley, although... I'm kind of weird in that I'm purposefully single and totally not looking. ;) I figure I spent most of the best years of my youth doing everything and anything to find Mr. Right, until I figured out that I was wasting my time. I wasn't looking for a partner, I was looking for someone to complete me -- make me feel okay about myself. So I stopped looking for love and started to work on loving myself.

Heh. I didn't mean to start out with a sermon. :D But basically, I'm a Crazy Old Cat Lady in Training.

I'm Heather, I'm a writer from Upstate NY (like, almost Canada, not Albany. *G*). I've been struggling with some health problems for the last four or five years and I've REALLY packed on the pounds. I have Crohn's Colitis, and it took a while to get it under control. But now that things are more kopasetic, it's time to start addressing that weight! I'm doing the WW Flex Plan for simplicity's sake, but I don't want to pay them forever. I'm hoping to set up a support system here. I love these boards.

jenjen 01-23-2008 03:07 PM

Hey Amy. Thanks for the encouragement. I got back in the gym last night & must admit, it felt GREAT! I did 4 miles on the treadmill in just a little over an hour and I was sweating up a storm. I always feel like I've accomplished so much after I work out.

And, that's funny about accidently calling your date. Totally something I would do.

Welcome Heather. I don't think it's weird at all to be purposefully single. Sorry to hear about your health problems. I had a friend in college who had Crohn's & she had so many struggles getting it regulated.

Well, ladies, I'm down 2 more pounds. So that makes a total of ten. So far, I don't notice any real changes physically, but I feel so much better. I go to the doctor in mid-February, so I'm hoping to weigh 15-20 pounds less than I did the last time. (I was about 276 last time).

Have a great day. We're on the downward slide for the week! YIPPEE!!!

jenjen 01-24-2008 03:09 PM

Hi gang. Hope everyone is still hanging in there.

I just have to brag on myself a little. For the past two days, I've gone and worked out (and I feel so much better!) and will go again tonight.

When I got home last night I threw out the Oreos & Reese's Peanut Butter Cups I bought before Christmas to make cookies/candy with (and had a small binge on over the weekend). I almost poured bleach on them so I wouldn't be tempted to pull them out of the garbage!

Today we had a going away lunch for one of my coworkers complete with pizza & cookies, but I held strong. After the party I headed to my desk and heated up my frozen low-cal lunch & had a 100 cal snack pack.

I feel like I've really accomplished something over the past couple of days.

belleamiee 01-24-2008 06:13 PM

That is AWESOME Jen!!!

Ugh I need some encouragement LOL. I have been doing good but I am so tempted to blow it. And I have a bunch of stuff coming up over the next 3 days-- I am going to be at the Knicks game tomorrow night...LOL I will wave to all of you and then I have lunch meetings and movies-- ahhhh. I am going to need some definete strength to get through all this! My spelling is terrible.

Hafowler-- loved what you wrote!!!!

ohh and Jen I am still embarassed about the call-- seriously if someone tapped my life it would be a hysterical sitcom!

belleamiee 01-24-2008 06:14 PM

ohh yeah did I forget to mention I am pmsing-- and I get that bottomless pit hunger!!!! Do you know what I mean?


jenjen 01-24-2008 11:31 PM

Hi again!

Okay Amy, here's some encouragement (I HOPE!!!) Don't stress out over these events. Just make the best possible choices you can. To me, no food should be off limits, just enjoyed in moderation. Remember that just because you splurge for one meal, doesn't mean you've blown it. This isn't an "all or none" game. Plan for the off plan eating. Try to stay on plan as much as possible, but if you over do it, go right back to plan for the next meal if at all possible. Oh, and carry a BIG PURSE to the movies so you can take in healthier stuff to munch on---trust me, I know the buttery popcorn will be calling you. And drink plenty of water...that will help with the hunger somewhat.

You can do this. You can't beat yourself up over having off plan meals. No one is 100% on plan every day. It's getting over the off days or meals that makes you successful.

belleamiee 01-25-2008 02:44 PM

Thank you so much for your encouragement! Its amazing what a day makes. I feel pretty much on track today and focused! Wooo hooo! Weekend here I come.

How is everyone else doing? Any interesting plans for the weekend?

jenjen 01-26-2008 04:51 PM

Hey gang! I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend.

I just got back from lunch w/a friend. We had Thai food & I ate too much, but I'm okay with it. I got my hair cut this morning & spent way to much money on "beauty" products. I should NEVER walk into the Body Shop!!! Ah, well. I rarely do it.

Amy, hope you enjoyed the BB game last night. I'm glad you're also feeling better.

I'm probably going to veg out the rest of the weekend. It's Mardi Gras weekend here, so I'm better off staying in!

How is everyone else doing??

Dreamgyrl 01-27-2008 07:57 PM

Hi everyone!

I'm new to 3FC but I wanted to say hi to everyone. I'm 33 and single and I'm ok with that - HA! (*sticks tongue out at the world*).

I hope everyone had a great weekend. Mine was ok - I just got out and enjoyed the unseasonably warm weather. :~) Tomorrow will be cold and snowy again so I figure I'd better get some sun while I can!

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