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neurotictigg 02-28-2008 10:50 PM

Apparently you have to have at least 25 posts under your belt and have been a member for 30 days before you can add one. I want one too but alas I have to wait

neurotictigg 02-29-2008 09:52 PM

Well tomorrow is the big day..March 1st

March Goals

1. stop drinking pop
2. bring lunch to work each day
3. increase water intake

Not going to be easy but nothing worth it ever is

Persistent Pam 03-01-2008 02:05 PM

Oh...okay (about the weight loss chart) I guess Ihave to wait. That's okay.

Well counting calories is amazingly different way to diet. I'm being more careful with what I eat. Today I made an amazing soup:

1/4 Cup Chopped Chicken=67 Calories;
1 CupTomatoJuice=50 Calories;
1/2 Tlbs GrapeSeedOil=40 Calories;
1/2 cup Chopped Cauliflower=14 Calories;
1/2 cup Chopped Zucchini=15Calories;
1/4 cup Chopped Spinach = 7 Calories;
1/4 cup BrownRice=54 Calories
1/8 tsp chili powder
1/8 tsp cumin

I doubled the recipe so that I would have enough for dinner.
add everything in a pot (chicken raw) and bring to a boil and simmer for about 20 minutes. Before serving I added 1tlbsMargerine=70Calories;
All of it is only 310 Calories!!! I alsa added an Oatmeal Square (I need dessert)

Wow. It's the weirdest thing. I'm able to stop eating. It might be because I'm eating regular meals and lots of veggies.

I have a problem too. I'm weighing myself every day after my workout. I'd rather not but it's a bit addictive. So far it's only after my work out and no more. But I don't want to become fixated on the scale. Also if I don't lose weight I don't want to be depressed about it. (Of course you'll all hear about it if I don't lose.) Tues will be two weeks. So I will officially weigh and record that day. My goal is to lose my weight by July1, 2008. I have to find a way to be okay will slow weight loss. I don't want to become fixated or obcessed about this.

I've been on 3 interviews for this one job. So I might get it. So that will keep me busy then...anyway...enough rambling...

jenjen 03-01-2008 03:24 PM

Hey gang. Hope y'all are having a great weekend.

Pam, Try to not obsess too much over your scale weight---easier said than done, I know. I weigh daily, but only take an "official weight" on Wednesday each week. It's too hard for me not to weigh daily. I'd love to see some of the recipes. I love to bake & cook. It's actually my stress reliever. And good luck on the job hunt!

Wendy, Congrats on the loss. That's great! You should be proud of yourself.

Genny, Welcome to the group! I enjoy being single, most of the time. I like not having to answer to anyone...not worrying about having to rush home, because someone is depending on me. It gets lonely sometimes, but I have great friends...married & single. I've learned to do things on my own if I really want to do them. Good luck on your goals. I've cut out a lot of diet soda. I have maybe one a week, vs. one a day. I also take my lunch to work. Not only do I eat healthier that way, but I save $$$ too!

Dinner out Thursday night was fun. A group of us go out about once a month trying different restaurants. This time it was a Brazalian restaurant where they bring different meats, fruits, & veggies to the table & carve off what you want. I had a mojito & lots of water. The food was good, but I could tell by the time I got home I had way too much salt. I felt so dehydrated.

How are the rest of you doing?

Have a great rest of the weekend!

wennygrrl 03-01-2008 04:36 PM

Well the detox is over as of last night. :carrot: Tonight I am going out with a friend to have a cocktail to celebrate! I managed to lose 6lbs on the detox even with it being my TOM. :D

I went to water aerobics with a good friend of mine that is having a difficult time of late. She kind of drifted from her weight loss path and got stuck. Right now I am just trying to be as encouraging as possible. We had made plans to go to aqua class last night and she called me this morning and asked if I wanted to go to breakfast instead. I convinced her to go to aqua class and if she still wanted to go out to breakfast I would go with her afterwards. She agreed and by the time class was over she was feeling better and we each had some chocolate skim milk and went our separate ways.

If you're wondering about the chocolate milk, my trainer told me the best food to eat following a workout was an 8oz glass of chocolate milk. (Evidently it has the right ratio of carbs to protein for muscle synthesis.)

Pam, your obsession with the scale is a common one. Most people that I have chatted with weigh everyday, but only officially weigh-in once a week. At one time I had a great obsession with my scale, and it was so bad that I gave it to a friend of mine for safe keeping. I try to only weigh once a week. The only scales I can access are at my gym and they are in the trainers office. My trainer gives me **** if he sees me going in there on any day but weigh-in day, so to save myself a scolding I try to avoid the area. Once I reach my goal and go in to maintanence mode I will weigh more frequently so that I can keep a handle on everything, but for right now the weekly thing works really well.

Genny, welcome to the group. Your goals for March sound great. It is important to take things one step at a time so you don't get overwhelmed and just bag it all.

Jen, i am glad you had fun on Thursday. A group of my girlfriends get together every month as well and try a new restaurant. We call it GNO or Girl's Night Out. All of them, but me are either in a serious relationship, engaged or married. However, I think a number of them envy the fact that I am single and hearing some of their stories I don't blame them. Anyway, we went to a Sushi place on Thursday. I didn't drink, but had a lot of water and salmon and tuna sashimi (which translates to strips of raw salmon and yellowfin tuna). It was delicious, but like you I felt dehydrated due to the sodium in the soy sauce. I am trying to cut out the soy when I eat asian food, but it is difficult.

Anyway, it is finally a nice day out and I am thinking of going for a nice long walk. Have a great weekend ladies!!

Goldm00n 03-01-2008 11:38 PM

I dont think I can say I love this Forum enough! I just keep finding more and more groups to join! Pam your soup sounds great! Wennygrrl I love sushi! my favorite is the eel close second would be tuna i think. Genny your goals sound great! I just recently got MOSTLY off the soda myself, i am now drinking iced green tea and i can tell a huge difference in how i feel. I still have one diet coke a day because its just easier with my work enviroment but it was a major change for me!

Great group!

neurotictigg 03-01-2008 11:49 PM

Hello all

Pam: I completly simpathize with the whole " i cant stop myself bit" I have obsessive compulsive disorder (ocd) and although I dont get hooked on looking at the scale. I constatly mess with my hair trying tomake it "perfect"

Wenny: The chocolate milk tidbit was great I love chocolate milk and I am always wondering what to eat after a work out.
I did well today I didnt eat any donuts (there is a timmis downstairs from my work) and 1 diet pop. I drank about 3 glasses of water and ill drink one more before bed.

I want to get healthy for soooo many reasons. My mom just found out she had a mild heartattack and also I have crohns which mean that my food consumptions choices sometimes affect my being sick.

Thnks for the support ladies

Goldm00n 03-02-2008 12:36 AM

Neurotictigg - HEY! I must have gotten mixed up in names. I am bad with the scale myself.... I weight my lightest for the day 10 mins after i wake up in the morning.... dont ask me how i figured that out... I am better now but only because i have slowed down losing. Good for you for wanting to get healthy! I got out of a bad relationship in August and I quit smoking and went on a diet all in the same day.... here i am how many months later and i am still not smoking (thank god) and i am still losing even if its at a snails pace.. You should really try the iced Green tea! its great

wyoming 03-02-2008 02:17 AM

Speaking of Drinking...
I'm just writing to say hi! I'm 30 and I live in NYC, just starting my journey towards losing my weight permanently - no more yo yo!

I've been looking at the things I consume and I just had a big DUH moment - I never really thought about the cocktails I drink and the CRAZY calories they contain. Knowledge is power I guess.

Does anybody follow any rules or have any tips that have worked for them? I don't want to cut alcohol out completely - it's way too knit into the social time.

In other drink news, I've been off soda for about a month now. I started drinking fizzy mineral water instead - I found out it was the bubbles I was craving more than anything else!

neurotictigg 03-02-2008 04:35 PM

Try light beer instead of regular or if your a mixed drink girl mix with diet pop instead or soda water

wennygrrl 03-02-2008 07:15 PM

Hey ladies!!

I hope everyone had a good weekend! I had a FANTASTIC one!!:D I went out last night with a friend of mine to celebrate the end of my detox and the weight I had lost. We stopped in at my favorite local dive bar to have a cocktail and all of a sudden the men just came out of the woodwork. I am normally quite shy, but I just decided to keep myself open, happy and enjoyed all of the attention.

While in the bar I ran into my ex of about 2 years. We haven't seen each other since last summer. He knew that I was on this health kick, but not much else. We were trying to do the being friend thing, but we were too busy to keep it up, or at least he was. Anyway, I digress, I was coming out of the ladies room when I saw him. I totally wasn't expecting to run into him. He is a recovering alcoholic and so a bar was the last place I thought he'd be. (There was some goodbye party for a friend of his). Anyway as I passed him I waved. He glanced at me and then did a double take and looked very perplexed. He then approached me and told me that he almost didn't recognize me that I had changed so much! I can't tell you how elated that statement made me. One of my guilty little goals was to make such a positive change on the outside and inside that he would be shocked! :devil: I guess I succeeded!! Whoo Hooo!!! :carrot: :carrot: :carrot:

Besides my ex, a good friend of mine (yes, I've slept with him:flame:) was trying to get me to go home with him. (I think it bothered him that my ex was there. We kind of "got together" to each get over our exs.) Also his friend was hitting on me and asked for my number. There was also my girlfriend, who picked up this guy in the bar, and HIS friend asked for my number. Needless to say, my girlfriend and I didn't pay for a drink all night.

Wyoming, in response to your question about low cal choices for alcohol, neurotigg had some good suggestions. Depending on the drinks you prefer you could also try club soda, sparkling water, or diet tonic water. Personally I have started to just drink straight alcohol on the rocks. I find this way I slow down, savor my drink and the calories are much more controlable. My favorite is Grey Goose on the rocks with a twist of lime. 2 ounces of vodka only has 124 calories. So I am able to consume quite a bit without blowing my deficit. Last night I was quite toasted and I had less than 400 calories.

I hope everyone has a great week!! Stay positive!:D

wyoming 03-02-2008 08:03 PM

You go girl!
Rock on about your bar story! That is awesome!!

Your tip about on the rocks makes the most sense so far. I tend to go out for a long time and it won't be as easy to sling them back when I'm dealing with straight spirits. Thanks!

ViolinJenn 03-02-2008 09:34 PM

Hello Ladies:wave:

Well I've had a bit of a quite weekend, mainly because I'm broke, but I needed to give my apartment a good minor spring cleaning and cook some meals in advance. I made a new reciepe, Ginger Red Lentil Soup. It wasn't an exact recipe but I was able to use it as a guide. It came out quite tasty but I used to much water and the lentils mushed. Oh well! It's still a good dinner after one of my intense workouts. Full of protein and veggies!:hun::hun:

Well it was my first week counting calories and I have to say....making sure I eat enough is difficult! It did yield some great results! I lost 5pounds! Now all I need to do is keep losing and break thru this up and down cycle!

I still haven't heard from my online chemist guy!:shrug::shrug: But he did take about a week before to respond and you don't send a girl an email like he did and not check for a response. I think that he may be playing that "I am the man I am the hunter" thing!

But it's been uneventfull otherwise!

Welcome newbies!:wel3fc::welcome2::welcome::welcome3:

neurotictigg 03-04-2008 12:34 AM

Hey Girls

Well Im on day three of no Pop and its not as bad as i thought. The true test will be if and when i have pizza. I dont think ive told you all this be fore but i have crohns and although i usually dont have any major issues, the last few days have been yucky..i have a stitch in my side i cant get rid of and i feel bloated to all ****!!!!!

Wenny: Good to here you had a nice night out..we all need one of those every once in a while.

Well i am off to bed early. I have my first conselling appoinment tomorrow and i dont want to be half asleep for it.

Persistent Pam 03-04-2008 07:58 PM

Well today is my official day 15! I've lasted this long, which is huge for me. I weighed myself and have lost about 3 lbs. I'm down to 159.5 (I'm 5'4"). So I'm really glad I've been doing this. I already feel so much better. Its amazing how "powerful" or accomplished I feel just sticking to my diet for 2 weeks. I love it.

You know how they say "weight" is for a protection. Its been my choice in the past to eat instead of living (I think all my negative self talk was making my life more difficult than it should be). So every day that I am on my diet, I'm reminding myself that I am choosing to live over hiding in the food.

Its amazing, Since I'm counting the calories, I've been able to do this. Its very weird. I try to have about 4 meals of about 300-400 Calories. (I've only been doing that 1 week). But its working.

I'm meeting a friend tonight. Oh I broke up with my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago...that had caused a binge. Then:carrot: I met another guy last night and he's really interested in me. Right after talking to him I went and ate something...It was so automatic. It wasn't much. But I was glad that I was aware of it. I think its the fear of being like/success will set me off as well. I need to learn how to deal with that instead of running to food.

Persistent Pam 03-04-2008 08:13 PM

neurotictigg:Good for u for going off pop! I'm impressed. Also I'm not too familiar with Crohns...does dieting trigger symtoms or reactions?

ViolinJenn: I hear you about counting calories...I just started last week and it's amazing. I never realized how much I was eating b4. I thought I was dieting and I really wasn't.

wennygrrl: I love your "pick up" stories...don't go back to you ex! I think that sometimes overeating is an addiction. I've heard that if you are prone to eating disorders that it is something you have to pay attention to all your life. Sometimes like alcoholics. Two people prone to addictions could be scary if you're both not in a "safe" place. And I loovvve the choc milk Idea. I'm going to do that. I might heat it and make it hot choc! I love it! THanks!

wyoming: I was reading this book today and the woman in the book ordered a gin and tonic, because she didn't really like them. That way she could drink and she would drink it really slow? I'm not sure if that would help? I'm not a big drinker...so I just order a club soda and lime and tell everone it's something else...no one knows!

jenjen: yes, I have to just pay attention to the weekly one. I have made a graph and I am tracking each 1/2 lb. I do weigh daily. But really focus on the 1x a week one.

Goldm00n: Hear! Hear! I second you, this group has such great ideas! And that's amazing that you quit and didn't go back to smoking and the diet at the same time! good for u!:D

Goldm00n 03-04-2008 09:53 PM

well it wasn't easy Pam but WORTH IT!


wyoming 03-04-2008 10:27 PM

Thanks Pam! I actually love Gin and Tonics, but I do drink them slower than a Cosmo...maybe it's time to switch over! Right now I'm going to limit myself to only going out for cocktails once a week, which is a serious limit for me!!

I haven't started counting calories to the tee, but walking through the grocery and looking at all the impulsive things I used to buy...I mean WOW it's kind of gross how much I used to eat just aweful stuff for my body. Hopefully the EW factor will stick!

neurotictigg 03-05-2008 08:44 PM

The pop thing is not as bad i thought it would be. As for the crohns its a digestive inflamation problem. Its a diesease that effects everyone differently and the symptoms are not the same for everyone. Dieting isnt a problem just makes me take more care on what I should and should not be eating.

***UPDATE__ I went to see the doc today and finally have been put back on meds for the anxiety and ocd so things are looking up

Persistent Pam 03-06-2008 12:07 PM

Yesterday at dinner I just wanted to eat and eat and eat. Thankfully I was aware of it and I was able to realize what it was about. As soon as I put my finger on what was bothering me I was able to stop wanting to eat! I'm learning that it is hardly ever about the food.

Yesterday I had a meeting with someone, (about the cookbook) and the meeting went so well and she gave me huge ideas and contacts. I felt so good. Abruptly she had to leave though. Our meeting was at 2pm and at 3:07 she was very : I've got to go.

I was scared that I had said something wrong, even though she asked me to keep in touch and perhaps she was supposed to leave at 3:00pm...

I guess at dinner I hadn't processed this. I was so excited about the meeting. And so overwhelmed at moving forward. And scared that I offended her.

The key to stopping myself from continued eating was to be aware and express these fears. No solution was needed. Just allowing my self to feel did the trick. Also I know that part of me is very resistent to letting myself like myself and not being stuck in the "dieting and hating myself".

I give myself credit for being so aware yesterday and making it through another great day. The really big thing is letting go of the old self sabotage system. :cool:

wyoming 03-07-2008 07:26 AM

Pam Rocks!
Hey Pam,

Way to go! :grouphug:

That's so great that you're able to recognize the difference between your hunger...I have been noticing patterns of when I get hungry too...isn't it amazing how powerful our minds are??

Happy Friday everybody!:woohoo:

Persistent Pam 03-07-2008 08:57 PM

Hi Everone,
Since I've been doing the Beck Diet. I've started noticing how much negative talk goes on...I'm not really noticing the negative talk...more the all of a sudden I'm depressed. So now I know when I'm depressed to role back my "tape" and see what has been going on and usually its something like "l'll never get this or I'll never be that..." so now when ever that happens I just figure out what negative thing I'm telling myself...reverse it into the positive "I will get thiss.... I will be that'''' and just say it like a mantra over and over and over...It seams to work. So good for me!

wyoming: It is truly crazy what our minds have been doing to us...hopefully once we get it we'll never go back?:carrot:

In my own plan, I'm almost on day 21. Go me! I'm amazed. this is so beautiful. I'm mainly trying to stay between 1600 and 2000 calories and its working. I'm also running every day.

Anyway thats about it!

wennygrrl 03-08-2008 03:57 PM

Hi everybody!

I haven't checked in in awhile. I am glad to see that everyone is doing well. I have had a very "crazy" :dizzy: week and my regular routine has just fallen by the wayside. It makes me laugh to figure out how set in my ways I've become. When I wasn't on this "healthy" kick I was much more spontaneous, but now I still feel as if I need to "plan" for stuff. I really want to change that. I don't have a problem with having a plan, but I don't like feeling nailed down to it.

I have also been struggling with the fact that my entire life seems to be about my weight loss. Part of me really enjoys the attention I am getting, but part of me would like attention based on other things. I am not my weight or weight loss. I really can't blame it on others though as I am soooo focused on working out and eating right. When does it just become a part of your life and not the whole thing? I mean I go out, and friends ask me how I am and what I have been up to, and all I have to say is that I am doing good and my life really consists of work and working out. I don't have much time for anything else. I leave the house before 7:30 most mornings and don't get home until 9 pm. That doesn't leave a lot of time for a social life. :( I am getting out most weekends at least one day/evening and I guess that will have to do for now.

I am just beginning to become interested in dating again. I really wanted to take a break, heal from my last relationship, and figure out who I am and what I really want from a guy. Now, I am so set in my ways I am feeling really nervous and I am afraid to open myself up so I disregard most of the attention I do receive. For example, last night I went to a surprise party for a friend of mine who was turning 40. Anyway, I was talking to a lot of my guy friends and two of them were flirting with me (in a joking manner). This was easy to laugh off and even flirt back a little. There was no feeling of pressure because I saw it all as a joke. But whenever I talked to one of my friends he would just look at me so intently and hugged me really hard when I left that it made me feel a little nervous. Like I don't know what to do or how to respond to him, which is crazy because we have been close friends for a decade. :?: Do any of you ever feel like this? Does intensity freak you out like that? I am just trying to let it go, but it has been difficult and I want to really figure out what is wrong.

Whatever, sorry for the ramble, but I've had a lot on my mind of late and I am just trying to process.

Pam, I just wanted to let you know that I think that you have grasped the true path to lasting weight loss. :cool: For me my "heaviness" and "addiction to food and fat behavior" was about 90% mental and only 10% physical. CBT can be a lifesaver to many people dealing with very serious issues. (However, I may be biased as I work as a social worker/counselor in the mental health field and am diagnosed with depression for which I take meds and go to therapy. :^: )

Anyway, my post has gone on forever so I will close with healthy, happy wishes for all of you!! :hug:
Oh and by the by, WI was Friday and I am down 2 lbs. :smug:

julzchiki 03-10-2008 05:50 AM

I am thrilled to see this thread and would love to hop on the wagon. It seems like you have all connected well and being in our 30s I can related to so much of what has been discussed. I hope I can join your discussions.

I'm 35, single, never married, no kids, need to lose weight for my health (if not for cosmetic reasons). I've had only one serious relationship under my belt and only one handful of dates. The relationship lasted almost 2 years and that was about 3 1/2 years ago. I haven't had a date since. Mostly because I was so affected by the aftermath of the relationship, it's taken me this long to get back on my feet and feel like myself again. It amazes me that a man can affect ones life so deeply without the intention of doing so.

Wennygrrl, I can totally relate to your struggles. I feel like my weight and my weight loss efforts (or sometimes lack thereof) are totally life consuming and life inhibiting. I don't have the success to lean on so I'm not much help in terms of telling you that all the hardwork your putting in right now are leading you down the yellow brick road. Your an inspiration to me being dedicated to your health. It takes a gutsy and fabulous woman to love herself enough to take good care of her body. I need to learn from that.

For me, I"m at a place right that I haven't really been in my life. Since i was a teenager I have been chubby and once I got to college and on my own, the weight just piled on. Through it all I always kept up the desire to lose weight or watch what I eat. I was never very successful at it because I would just keep quitting the diets but at least I would try. I think I would go on the diets, though, for other people and never really for myself. I often did it to please my mother because if I didn't she would never let me hear the end of how fat I was. Now, I've reached a point where I just want to stop trying. I don't want to be overweight anymore. But, I feel like everything I've ever done has never worked for me (obviously) and I don't know how else to go about it. So, my current efforts are minimal and my health is suffering because of it. Yet it's as if I don't care. How do I get out of this place? I don't know how to move beyond and remotivate myself. Now, the obesity is affecting my sleep (hence the reason I'm wide awake in the middle of the night typing this) which then affects the rest of my day and ability to workout, etc. It's a vicious cycle.

Wow, I didn't mean to lay all that out in an introduction, but I guess you could say I need support from others who are in the same phase of life I am.

All that said, I'm really excited to meet all of you and hope to get to know you better in future messages. I think I'm getting sleepy enough to go back to bed now. Happy Monday.

neurotictigg 03-11-2008 04:33 PM

Hello girls...

Been a few days since I've posted but I have news and updates!!

First of all my doctor put me back on Paxil for the anxiety/ocd/depression and I'm on day two and feeling much calmer but a little queezy and shaky. I was on it before and its normal (sort of like having butterflies in yur belly)

I also had some blood work done and my glucose level was a 6.6 and the normal range is 3.0-6.0 so he cautioned me to make some changes or I risk becoming diebetic. Since I gave up pop Mar 1st its a good start now I have to cut down on bread even though I only eat rye and whole wheat I still want to cut it down some.

My problem is that I dont have enough food knowledge as to what foods are carbs and what contains fibre and so on and so forth so all this is pretty alien to me.

Have a good day everyone and keep smiling:dizzy::dizzy:

Persistent Pam 03-11-2008 10:51 PM


neurotictigg: have you tried just eating Low Glycemic Index Foods? You can buy books in the bookstore that tell you the Glycemic Index of Foods. Its a diet for diabetics. And if you eat that way you will lose weight. The foods will be foods that your body turns to sugar slowly so that your blood sugar doesn't spike. ITs really good cause you'll find substitutes for the foods you love and you'll find you won't have to cut out things like bread...just change the kinds...I think Sourdough is okay...

julzchiki: Welcome! I'm on the Beck Diet Solution. One of the first things we are supposed to do on this is write a list of reasons you want to lose weight and read it 2x's a day. Also start giving yourself a pat on the back every time you do somthing right. IE: ate what you planned for Breakfast? Say: Good for me for eating only what was planned. (I was really depressed to day and wanted to eat ice cream out side of my planned dessert food and thankfully I didn't. I immediately and all day gave myself credit for that).

wennygrrl: yes the "mental" aspect of the food is more than the excess pounds. I've been tracking my food in a food diary for about 7 weeks and recently I've realized I'm rarely hungry. I end up wanting to eat because I get depressed about something or my negative self talk. I've been using this sort of CBT in all aspects of my life. I think that's the reason I've always eating. Self hate and sort of this perpetual..."my life will never get better". So now I find my newest mantras are " my life will get better" and "I am good enough".

I hear you about "all my life is about losing weight" and I think its the mental addiction (for me) of avoiding life. Today I was obcessed/depressed about not working. then I was scared about a day out that I have planned on friday (photograpy for my book, garden show and 2 meals with a friend) and then I was obcessively worried about Sunday. I have a lunch date with 6 other friends. Who all have jobs and 3 are married and I'm not. As you can see I am addicted to making myself miserable and I need to let that go. the weight is also another way to make myself miss out /distract from living. Because I am so fearful. I think the only way out is to call myself on it. "There I go again...distracting myself from fully living" I have to talk about it with my food coach. (She is in Overeaters Annonymous). She reminded me of the fact that every day has it's worries. Just focus on today and pray that you can let go of obcessing and live in the moment.

Amazingly it has really worked for me, because I've been dieting for 3 weeks now. and lost 7lbs. Down to 156lbs

belleamiee 03-12-2008 05:34 PM

Hey Ladies--

I just wanted to say a quick hello. Sorry I haven't been on in awhile-- I have been really sick. I need to catch up! I hope everyone is doing well!

jenjen 03-13-2008 10:27 AM

Hey gang,

I've been around & reading. Just been in a rut, both personally & professionally, lately. I have maintained though, so that's good. Will write more later.

wyoming 03-15-2008 09:14 PM

Hey y'all -

So I broke my Lent promise a bit and partied last night. My first all-nighter since watching calories, etc....I was happy to find that Champagne only has 90 calories a glass (champagne glass that is) - so yay! I started off with Champagne and once we got to the club it was Absolut Peach and club soda - so the Vodka was the only thing that was giving me cals....

So, I totally went overboard, but calories wise - I probably drank around 600 calories. And with 2+ hours of dancing, I burned at least a chunk of that off last night!

So, I made it through the night without sucking down a ton of Cosmos and discovered that Champagne is a great alternative - packs a punch too!

ViolinJenn 03-23-2008 09:46 PM

Hello Ladies:wave:

So how's everyone doing? I've been so busy and stressed it just all got to me and I needed to some me time. Kind of a funny thing to say I know when you are a single girl, but you guys are the only ones who'll understand that.

I got things squared with the financial aid at school, I'm not getting any but my company pays a generous amount of tuition reimbursement so that's good. I'm not sure my job is safe at work, I'm so bored with very little to do it's starting to worry me. I'm trying to get my financials in order, consolidate my credit cards and pay off the store cards etc.

You remember that post where I was hoping to here from that Chemist? Well to date nothing. I have a feeling he never got the message. He pulled his profile with 2 days of emailing me via the service, the service did say that I can still email him. I pulled mine off several weeks later to rein in expenses and I just didn't have time for it and only really wanted to get to know that Chemist anyway.:(:( :cry: I have a strong belief that everything happens for reason in the way that it happens. There is a reason that our paths crossed when they did with the results (or lack of ) they did, but not knowing drives me crazy. LOL!:?::?:
But there is still the slim possility that he's just laid back, like all men are, about this. I can do a search without signing to the service so I figure if I see his profile pop up then I can rejoin and email him with a "hello again" email.

But I am keeping the budget tight and awaiting Spring and the warm dry weather! A good dose of sunshine and I'll be enjoying my freedom! But as much as I enjoy the freedom of not having children or a husband, I am lonely at times and would like to find that special someone.

So that's my sob story. LOL!

How are things with you!

nini808 03-24-2008 06:34 AM

Hello everyone!

I am new to this site, and I've never joined any other site like it. I really felt comfortable joining this one and grateful to learn that there are many other women out there like me...single, no kids, have never been married...33. *^_^*

I am at the heaviest I have ever been in my whole life, and it depresses me. I have always been on the 'plump' side growing up and have fought a constant battle with my weight over the years. The problem is, everytime I gain the weight I've lost, back, I gain like twice as much more than what was lost in the first place! This past year has been the most difficult of all! I was down to 209lbs in April of last year, but have managed to get my weight back up to 236lbs this past January!

I am trying to lose weight again, but I am having that usual problem of 'getting started' with exercising. If there is anyone who can give pointers or words of motivation to a 'beginner-again,' I'd really appreciate it. Thanks!

champagnesugar 03-27-2008 12:17 AM

Hi everyone!

This is my first time to this part of the site. I'm here in this part to mingle with other 30-somethings like me. Unfortunately, I haven't had any luck with men, hence no relationship as of yet. But my own religious belief tells me my God has a man prepared just for me, and when the time is right for us to meet, we'll do just that, so I'm waiting for my prince instead of dating.

nini, I feel your pain. I'm at a level where my diabetic doctor says I am "obese", and I used to think that was a slam or a curse. I used to be very depressed until I was on medication. But I made a commitment years ago ( with a little tough love I gave myself) to really work at becoming a happier person, and it was excruciating, painful work, but it was worth it, for now I'm happier than ever!

ViolinJenn 03-27-2008 08:36 AM

Welcome Nini and Champagnesugar! :welcome2::welcome2:

jenjen 03-27-2008 10:28 AM

Hey Gang,

Sorry I've been away so long. Life has just been crazy!

Welcome to all the newbies!

Jenn, Glad everything is working out w/school. I've been working on my budgeting too! Of course, I just had to pay my taxes. UGH! And, I was so close to getting a refund...And, I know what you mean about being lonely sometimes.

I've sort of had a stall. I'm right at losing my first 25 pounds, but I'm so stressed out, I really don't care. I've been throwing a lot of junk into my body. Luckily, I'm still working out so there's no serious damage. I'm just not focused.

Work has been so stressful. I'm so tired of having to fill in for people not wanting to do their jobs & I seem to be the "dependable one." Totally sucks. I wish I could just once be the person who could blow off something.

Okay, I've done enough rambling for the morning. I'll try to be better about posting.

Take care everyone!

kde80 03-27-2008 09:52 PM

First time here. I am currently nursing a broken ankle but when I am better I hope to be out and about working out. What are some of the workouts everyone else does?

wyoming 03-28-2008 01:06 AM

Hey peeps! I've been MIA too! Just caught in the hustle-bustle.

Nini- I'm a beginner again too and I'm having trouble sticking with a routine as well. I have been walking outside a lot though, it' really helps relieve my stress. Now I just need to get the in the gym thing going.

From the bits of walking that I have been doing, I've managed to lose 9 pounds, so I would say just start off with something simple like walking around - it doesn't take a gym membership and it will at least get you started. After feeling the difference that walking and eating right has made with my body, I'm no longer hesitant about going to the gym. However, I still have yet to consistently go. But I'm a terrible organizer. I'm hoping that I can just schedule it into my day like going to work and eventually going will be like clockwork.

Happy Friday Everyone!

wennygrrl 03-28-2008 07:18 PM

Hi everyone,

It sounds like everyone has been a bit busy lately. I'm glad to know that I am not the only one, and I guess it is nice to know that I am not the only one out there under so much stress that they have just kind of "given up" for a moment. However, unlike you Jen I haven't been working out like I am used to. I hurt my should a while ago and finally went to the doctor. It turns out I have tendonitis of the rotator cuff or shoulder bursitis. This translates into I can't raise my left arm over my head, use it to pull anything off (like my shirt or g*d forbid my bra). Anyhoo this has left me very frustrated with the whole working out thing and aside from some major walks (3-5 miles) I am not doing anything but my PT exercises. This is all going to change tomorrow. I am sick and tired of feeling sorry for myself and of being majorly stressed about work and life. I am recommiting to myself and my overall goals. I am starting a modified Fat Smash Diet coupled with Dr. Andrew Weil's Healthy Living 8-Week Plan and a interval walking/running routine coupled with water aerobics and some weight/resistance training for my back muscles. I will weigh myself for the first time in 3 weeks tomorrow morning and I am crossing my fingers that I don't have a seizure when I see the number. After that I am giving my scale to my next door neighbor for 8 weeks. I am not going to count calories, but just concentrate on eating good whole food. We'll see what happen. :^:

I am taking the next two months to really examine my life and the things I focus on. I have committed myself to no alcohol, no eating out (even good food) and no boys. Food, drink and men have been my focus for so long that I need to take a minute and figure out the other parts of my life that I have been overlooking. So I hope this program that I am going to follow will take the guess work out of my food and I don't have to think about it as much. I am sick of constantly thinking about what I can and can't eat, how many calories are in something, how many calories do I have left in my plan, how many calories am I burning. There is more to life. I am also tired of the whole bar scene and I was finding myself enjoying it a bit too much. I don't mind having fun and going out, but when it become the way I wind down from a hard day I am heading in a direction that only brings me pain. The boys thing hasn't been too much of an issue in the past, but it seems in the last few months (maybe this has coincided with my ever increasing libido :o) I have become more and more aware of the men in and around my life, and the impact that they are having. Right now I think that I would be best served to figure out what I want before looking, instead of taking what is available (like in the past).

So that is what is going on with me. I would love anybody's input. Thanks for listening and I will try to be more regular in my postings.


wennygrrl 03-28-2008 07:22 PM

I am so sorry I forgot....a warm :welcome: to nini, champagnesugar, and kde!!

jenjen 04-02-2008 12:26 AM

Hey gang! Hope everyone is doing well.

kde80, Welcome. I hope you're ankle is feeling better. When you are able to start working out, is there a pool you have access to? Water aerobics or swimming would put less pressure on your ankle. I usually walk on the treadmill. I keep telling myself I'm going to start weight training or swimming, but so far I haven't done it.

Wyoming, Congrats on the weight loss. You're off to a good start. I have trouble getting into a routine as well. I tend to work late & then when I go work out, I don't get home until 8:30 or 9:00 and I still have to eat dinner, shower, get ready for the next day. I'm trying to get out of work earlier, because I know the stuff will be there the next day!

Wendy, I'm sorry about your shoulder problems. I hope it's feeling better. Good luck with your re-evaluation. The alcohol & men aren't the problem for me. It's the eating out. Most weeks I only eat out one day a week, if even that. And, I've done really well most of the time in planning. There aren't any men & I can count on one hand the number of times I've had a drink since the new year. I don't really miss it. There are some nights I really want a glass of wine, but I don't keep it in the house. And the feeling passes soon. I had a beer for the first time in ages & it tasted so good. It was really a treat & I kept it to just one.

I'm heading to my parents this weekend so wish me luck! I did pretty well last time I went home. They are all very supportive of my efforts & try very hard not to sabatoge me. We're going to celebrate my parents' birthdays (their a week apart) so my sister & I will probably cook a nice dinner.

Work's been more stressful than usual. I'm just getting frustrated with some of my coworkers. I love my bosses & my job, but sometimes I have no idea what people are thinking & I get tired of having to do their jobs!

Have a great rest of the week everyone!

wyoming 04-02-2008 01:01 AM

Jenjen - I think you deal with people like I experience at work- grrrr!. I also tend to get home late. Which right now is sabotaging my will power to work out, as I'm usually exhausted. So many excuses!

Hey Wenny, I totally feel your post. You know, I observed Lent this year and forced myself to cut stuff out of my life that was frivolous. It really helped me get more focused and disciplined, so I think you're on the right track! I'm sorry you've had pain, that sucks. KDE I'm sorry you've had injury too!

My body is doing weird things right now. I had pain in my neck today for no reason. I'm retaining water like a camel. What gives? Work is weird too - someone walked off the job today...eeek.

Happy Wednesday!

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