That would make me PO'd enough to hit below the belt. I'd probably say something like "Huh, why don't you and your hubby start saving some of that fast food money so you can move out of Mommy's house?" And then I'd probably add "Karma's a b^&$^" as she storms out. You do realize, right, that even though she's not that big yet, that fast food is going to catch up with her. I know she is your sister and you wouldn't wish being fat on her, but once she is, she'll probably remember how cruel she was and really feel sorry about it.
Hugs for the awful way you were treated. Family does the darnest things.
As my dad used to say, "She only does it to annoy because she knows it will". In other words, she does it because it bugs you. I suggest that you keep mum on any fast food cravings have and take away her ammunition. If and when something like this happens again (a leopard cannot change her spots), curl up your nose and say "Eh, I don't really want any." (Even if you do.) Try to work up a good nauseous feeling and mean it.
If it happens again, I'd suggest saying something along the lines of, "I'm going to assume you're being a ***** because you're threatened by the fact that I've lost 40 pounds. You're welcome to keep eating that garbage...and I'll look forward to the day that you're fatter than I am."
My sister has never been obese, but she is not stick thin either. She came home with fast food. I cannot control what she chooses to eat. However, she walked straight into my bedroom, put the food over my nose, and laughed that I couldn't eat it. No one else in my household thinks that this is cruel. I am really trying to change the way I eat and my behaviors. I am hurt that she finds that funny. I am also hurt by her husband who was rude to me about it as well.
I have got to get this weight off and prove to everyone I am not some fat slob. No one thinks I can do it. I just want to be "normal" and healthy.
I got upset and cried about it. I was hoping posting here would make me feel a little better.
Any suggestions on how to deal with this if it arises again?
First, I'm looking at your stats and you have already proven that you can lose weight. That's a fact. You've done it and you are doing it.
Second, you're a grown woman. You can eat whatever you want. You are MAKING A CHOICE and that is different from "can't have" - maybe if you see it that way, it will take a little of the "power" out of her taunting. She's teasing you with something you've already decided you don't want? So what! If you can take on that attitude, you've sucked the fun out of it for her.
Third, don't react. You have every right, but she's doing it for a reaction and every time you get upset or seem to want what she has, she's getting exactly what she wants. Next time she does that, just say something like, "wow, again? Ok. Can you close the door on the way out? The smell is kind of turning my stomach. All I can smell is grease" in as neutral a tone as possible. Every smart remark, throwing it at her, is just feeding into it. It lowers you to her level, encourages her to keep it up, and gives her the reaction she is looking for. I say this as a fat kid who never got bullied - it's no fun to pick at someone who honestly does not care.
Living well really is the best revenge. Having no reaction is the best revenge. She no longer has something you want - food you choose not to eat, or a smaller size because you're getting there. Just sigh like you would at a small child who put yet another frog in your chair and go back to what you were doing.
I agree with NiteNicole, treat her like you would a small child who is trying to get under your skin. The retaliatory comments (although absolutely satisfying momentarily) will just make her do it more.
You are doing an incredible job, keep on keeping on! You have proven that you can lose weight and you are CHOOSING to make different choices than fast food. Good for you!
Oh man, that is horrible Sorry your sister is acting that way. As a child that is bad, but as a married adult that is even worse! Like previous posters have suggested, just ignore her and let her behavior spur you on. It will not be long before you are the "skinny" sister and you can go shopping, put on a killer dress and strut around in front of her. To take it one step further, once you are there, and she and hubby are getting ready to go out somewhere nice, you can offer her your new dress, and then say "oh sorry I just realized this won't fit"
Meanwhile, do not let her (or anyone else) take your accomplishment away from you.
Use it as an opportunity to build your "won't" power. You're always going to be tempted by fast food, especially as a college student but now you can use the "pissed at sister, not going to let her win" feeling to help you resist the siren call of french fries.
At least for me, the stubborn streak won't eat a donut a co-worker brings to the desk to tempt me, but if they're sitting in the break room all day then I'm just fighting my own sugar demon alone. Hope this makes sense.
She's being very childish. I suggest taking the approach that Gale mentioned, of treating her like a small child. In a very neutral voice, like a psychiatrist, dully say, "That's inappropriate behavior. Go to your room." Or something to that affect. Or just act like she isn't there.
I'm not childish with people outside of my family, but if that were my sister, I would walk past her while she's eating it and fart on it. I'm not recommending that, and it probably isn't a good choice, but there you have it, haha.
Sisters can either be your greatest supporters or your greatest tormentors.
As for your sister, while my better half agrees with the people who said don't react to her, my not-so-better half loves the idea of making her fast food unappetizing to her in some way.
Yea, I would slap my sister, but I don't think everybody reacts the same way I do to everything (and her husband? Girl, he can get cursed out with the quickness! But I digress) but what you can do is inform her that while she sits on her fat a** and eats all that junk, you're working your way to a healthier you and that she will see where you are in a few months...heffa. lol...okay, you don't have to call her a heffa.
And then I'd probably add "Karma's a b^&$^" as she storms out. You do realize, right, that even though she's not that big yet, that fast food is going to catch up with her. I know she is your sister and you wouldn't wish being fat on her, but once she is, she'll probably remember how cruel she was and really feel sorry about it.
for the awful way you were treated. Family does the darnest things.
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