I'm torn. On the one hand I dont normally see a problem with socialization with the opposite sex. But there is something about this PARTICULAR situation that bothers me. (Ignoring the unequal workout time as I dont think that is the topic at hand)
What happened to the rest of the gym buddies? Why is he working out with only her? I'm in a gym social pack. There are both men and women in it. From time to time it will be just me and one of the guys. Not a problem. And dh wouldnt think it was. But it's not every day. Today it was me and "the hippie dude" (I havent learned his name yet - but he kinda sucks at spotting) alone. Tomorrow it will probably be me and the 2 girls I run with and probably 2-3 guys who usually go MWF. For about 6 weeks last fall all my girls were in some kind of funk and it was me and the guys. But not one guy.
It's one thing if the rest of the guys have left the gym, its another if he is cutting out from his old crowd to work out with just her. It's the exclusiveness that is suspect.
The topic of why he gets all the gym time is a totally separate topic (and seriously people "bring the kids?" I dont know of a single gym that has 4:30 am childcare and if they did no way in
would I be waking up my kids in time to get there. )
I didnt see that the OP said she never got gym time, just they never got it together. That isnt uncommon or problematic on its own. dh and I get to workout together maybe 3 times a year, when grandma visits. We arent even members of the same gym.
I workout at the buttcrack of dawn like OP's dh so I can be home in time for dh to leave for work, dh workouts at lunch and rides his bike to work, weather permitting. By the time dh gets home from work it's dinner/homework/bath and bed for kiddos (not to mention sports and the like), I'm not dragging them to the gym then.