My advice? Just go ahead and shoot him and bury him in the backyard, but remember when you dump the quick lime on him for fast decay, don't add water, for that will only preserve his remains.

Ok just kidding (except about the quick lime part, that's true).

I'm only 27 and married 10 years and I'm having a midlife crisis too. We should just build a commune, hire nanny's for those of us with kids, and sit by the pool drinking Long Island Ice Teas all day.

No wait that won't work either will it?

Just remember, if the grass looks greener on the other side, maybe it's time to water your lawn.

how bout we all meet up at a week long spa?

ahhhhhhhhhhhh spa!

I go every February to one in Kentucky, meet my best friend there, it's our half way mark. A day at the spa and hit the clubs at night. I am soooo looking forward to that trip this year!

Does anyone else take girl trips?
I usually take 4 or 5 a year, they keep me sane.

Does anyone else love nightlife, if so does your Dh go?
I love to dance and party and love people and the "night life". My DH is the opposite. So he never goes with me and it makes me soooo sad. I want to go dance with him (rather then my girlfriends) then take my sex charged self home with him. Ohhh if he only knew the mood dancing puts me in.....oh well.

Melissa - My DH is a club DJ (I think I mentioned that before) and we are into the dance club scene here in Charlotte. We are planning a big night out the first weekend in Oct at a club when he is not playing (some friends are) and we'll dance and get crazy and hot for one another and then go home in a frenzy. It sure keeps things exciting getting dressed up and going out like that together. He also spins at a club once a month at least and that's kinda hot too when I can go hang with him in the DJ booth after dancing to the music he's playing. It's been so good for our relationship esp during these trying years of dealing with infertility. It's a GREAT release.

I've not done the girl trips though. I have flown out to Hawaii to stay with my best friend twice (2 weeks each) in 8 years and she came to me once when I lived in FL. The spa sounds nice.

I would love that, I'm totally jealous!

I am so looking forward to this weekend at Nopi Nationals. We'll be together for 48 hours with no kids in a fun atmosphere. Hopefully that'll pull me outta my "marriage is over-rated" slump.

I do love nightlife but we very rarely venture out. First of all DH does not dance. And I don't blame him - he's TERRIBLE at it! But, mostly, it is just too expensive for us these days. We can afford to go out but paying a babysitter for three kids requires a home equity loan. So, if we go out it is usually seperately. He'll get a night out with the guys and I'll get a night out with the girls here and there.

Now, here is my awful little secret. I kind of like hitting the town without DH because I still like to flirt. My husband is the love of my life and I absolutely adore him but, I have to admit, I miss the "chase" of my single days. I suppose after being married for 10 years and having kids it is just fun to get back to "me" and prove that there is still a woman buried somewhere under the mom and wife. It is all perfectly innocent, of course, and I would never not be upfront about being married or anything like that. But, it is fun all the same.

We do like to entertain at home but that doesn't really create the same "charge" as getting dressed up and going out on the town. We have a regular date night each week too. We'll put the kids to bed and have a special late dinner complete with drinks or wine. Usually we rent a movie too. It is fun and gives us a chance to really focus on each other and just have some down time together.

Ivey-- Wow... I just don't have words for how frustrated you must feel everyday with your dh and situation. The only advice that comes to mind right now is that you have to find love and peace within yourself right now. It may be difficult but you need to just focus on yourself and the things that are in your immediate control -- like working on your depression (are meds an option? they really help me a lot) and your health. Feeling better about yourself can make a tremenous difference on how you handle other situations and how you view your role and power in them. There is no easy and quick fix but if you can take control of the small things in your life first then others will follow. We are here for you and I know we all offer our shoulders for your tears if you need us. When you do not believe in yourself we are here to believe in you and know that you have the power within yourself to make your life better. ((((Huge Hugs))))

Weekends with just the ladies???? I would kill for that opportunity right now. At best I get a few hours once a month for time alone with my best friend. Last Saturday we had about 3 hours together without the kids and it was divine. It really made me feel good and better able to handle the kids when I got back. The thought of a whole weekend to devote to doing something for me is staggering. Truthfully, I am in tears at the though of it right now. I feel so overwhelmed by this week with the kids that I just don't know how I am going to make it through the weekend. DH has to work all day tomorrow so I won't have his help at all. I am hoping that his mom will come down and take our oldest to stay sat night with her. I feel like I get no time for me other than the little bit I get to go on the computer in the mornings while the boys play. I really need to take my own advice sometimes and do something that focuses on me and makes me feel better.

Sorry for my griping -- just feeling pitiful today and need a huge hug.

On the weight loss front I am still holding steady and staying away from temptations. If I could have something it would be a bar of dark chocolate. Godiva has a sugar free line that is to die for so I may have to splurge this weekend if I actually get to go anywhere.

Reading now-- I still have not finished the last Harry Potter. It's sitting on the table still. Todya I am reading a newsweek bit by little bit and I have a copy of the Funny Times that I have not finished.

Hugs to you all!!! I will be back later today if time permits.

OMG, I could have typed that! I would by no means want him to go every time, but it would be nice for him to go occasionally so I don't leave the bar alone.


PS I've been married 10 years and have 3 kids too!

THAT IS SOOOOOOOOO TRUE!!!


Sara, big ole hugs honey! Do apologize for griping, we're here on the bad days just as much (if not more) as the good days.

i wanna pout cuz i miss my DBF, he went to work for the army corps for engineers and has been busy.... busy .... busy havent seen him for a month now

Awwwwww curlylocks, it's ok, I bet he's as lonely as you are.

Good morning all, I don't know if we ever get over that need to "flirt" just a little bit. Reminds us we are females. And doesn't it make your day just so much better? Who could object to that, especially when it's innocent. Just make sure it's innocent! Sometimes, when things are going bad, the grass looks a lot greener on the other side of the fense. It's usually not, of course. There are just as many weeds over there you just can't see them as well as you can the ones growing in your own yard.

Sarah, Big HUGS to you! It's rough raising kids. No matter how much you love them, it's hard work. And when they are young yoy don't see the end. But one day you will wake up and they will be grown and you will be alone to do all the things you think you want to do.

Have a wonderful day

I just saw this group.

I'm Sarah. I'm 25, born and raised near Birmingham.

I have a bacon and eggs question. Every once in a while, my dad will make bacon and eggs for supper. Now, I know we can't be the only people that do this.

Well, last night he made them. I made my eggs with just one whole egg, a big bowl of grits with spray butter, two small flaky biscuits (ya'll know which ones I'm talkin' about), and just ONE piece of bacon (a major miracle in and of itself). I completely avoided the Walmart frozen, almost-the-size-of-my-fist biscuits. Another miracle-I love biscuits.

So, my question is, what would y'all do to cut out the caleries in such a meal?

I can honestly say that for me it is all in good fun. DH and I still flirt which is fun too but in a different way. I mean he HAS to take me home whether he wants to or not!

I am lucky to have very few strains on our marriage so I don't usually feel like any other couple has it better. More than anything, we struggle in keeping our relationship somewhere above "roommate" status. We work hard at it by doing things like our date night. But suffice it to that being at all spontaneous is pretty much out of the question for the next severl years.
But, hey, that's where the flirting comes in!

Honestly, I DON'T try to cut out calories of good old Southern meals. Instead, I serve them infrequently and watch my portions when I do. When it comes to things like bacon, biscuits and gravy, etc. I find that I am much more satisfied by a small amount of the REAL thing than a bigger portion of an altered version. As long as I plan it into my overall calorie intake there is no damage done. I've made it a point not to make any foods off limits all together.