Lots to read this morning! I'd been trying to pop in over the weekend and keep up, but I was under the gun time-wise from Friday night on. I'm still pushing it and will be all this week, I think.
Happy - I can kind of relate to how you're feeling about your Mom. That was one of the big reasons I didn't move out of Alaska till after my mom passed away, actually. I loved spending time with her, and I didn't want to be too far away. Now I'm so far away, and I wish I could spend more time with my dad. I think it's awesome you still have your mom, and that you two enjoy each other's company. I'm glad you had such a good weekend! And it sounds like you're getting yourself right back on track, and maybe even more on track than you were. I know the summertime heat is one of my big motivators - I can just imagine how your vacation would be a push for you!
Chachee - *big hug* Chickie .. it sounds like you and I have some things in common. My dad was an alcoholic and would get into huge fights with my mother. He was never physically abusive, but verbally he was terrible to my mom and us kids. The thing was, up till I was about 8 or 9, he wasn't like that at all. Then we moved into "the city" and his drinking got worse, and my daddy turned into this violent tempered, angry, hostile person. He was like that pretty much up till he retired, and I remember going through my teen years being told how fat and ugly and worthless I was. I suppose that's one of the reasons I am pushing so hard to have my ex in my kids' lives. He's a good dad to them, he loves them and tries to support them, and I don't want them to think anything otherwise. Even if I have to babysit him every step of the way on this move down here. I know they need a loving father in their lives. My dad changed a lot when mom passed away. He still drank.. he never stopped that. A lot of it was because of pain. But his attitudes towards us kids changed so much. He started treating us like people, and telling us he loved us, and how proud he was of us. *sigh* He was really just starting to be the dad I always wanted when he had this horrible accident. I feel very cheated sometimes. Of course, some things never change... one of his comments when he saw me up there this time was "You're Marian? Well.. by god, you grew up really pretty! you used to be such a fat ugly little thing..." I kid you not. I just laughed it off, because what else could I do? I can't tell you how much it means to me that you're calling me "your friend" and willing to share painful memories here with us, with me. It's cathartic to know I'm not alone, to be able to put this stuff out and know that there are people who have been through it, who understand, who care. I remember times in my life where my weight was so embarrassing to me, too. I hit a high of 245 right after I had my son.. I was in my 260s when I was full term with him. It was kind of humiliating to go to the OB, it was so embarassing to have to go through surgery at that weight. I didn't even fit on their stupid little table right, and my ex told me some of the things the operating room staff said after I was back in my room with my new baby, and I remember crying thinking to myself what a cow I'd become. I don't understand why I waited so long to do something about it, that's what amazes me. I think the thing we have to hold on to now is that we ARE doing something about it. Not just the weight, but about the headspace, too. We have a right to hold our heads up, to be proud of ourselves, to walk tall and smile. Ok, well, I'll walk short, but I'll still smile!
I'm rambling too.. I just think it's awesome how well you're doing, and how hard you're trying. Kathy - Actually my current challenge to myself is to be able to run 2 miles in 25 minutes. It's going to take me a while to get there, but slowly but surely I'm improving my speed. Some days are better than others...
but I'm seeing steady progress as long as I don't push it too hard. It sounds like your shop is having many of the same kinds of issues that ours is. Except over here it's not really the fab plant manager who is in error, it's our engineering department that keeps falling down on the job. We have one job here right now that has already gone WAY over budget, between labor overruns and penalties... it's ugly. With good luck and no more disasters, it should be done and gone in about three weeks. Till then I have to put up with people from engineering and corporate plus from contracting companies and the client's office crawling all over the plant. *shudder* It's making me crazy. I hope you all can get your manager trained in right!
Mornings used to be really hard for me, and still can be if I let them. Working out in the morning has really helped a lot. Lately I've been trying to get into work early, so the exercise has been taking a bit of a hit. And before anyone says "just get up earlier" I'm already doing the wake up at 4:30 thing.. any earlier and I might as well just not go to bed. This crap at the plant will end soon and I'll be back on my regular schedule, in the mean time I'll just catch my workouts as I can. Tonight is my riding lesson, so that will wear me out!Hippy - The ex is supposed to be moving down in the next couple months. Things are pretty flexible at this point, we'll see how it goes. So far he's still keeping on track! I really hope this program helps you kick the smoking. My ex smokes - he's quit so many times I've lost count, so I really understand how hard it must be. This time he's gone a month without one, I really hope he keeps it going! I worry that my daughter will pick up smoking if she's around it and has access to the evil things. I hope today is going well for you!
After being interrupted about 17 times trying to get this posted... good lord. I'm alright. I blew it this weekend bad on food and water - I didn't have much of either. I was well under 1000 calories each day, and my water intake totally stunk. I'm so dehydrated, and drinking water today on schedule. When I get really busy like this, I stop eating. It's a horrible habit. But rather than grab garbage food, I just won't eat. I'm going to run out to the store soon and grab a healthy lunch plus whatever I need for dinner tonight. Chicken quesadillas!
Ok .. I'll post more later I guess when I have time.. right now I'm just slammed in from every direction and I so need to get some work done. Have a great Monday everyone!

Sounds like your work is a bit stressful right now. I hope it calms down for you and he takes responsibility for his actions! And I do have a green scarf all done. Just need that address........
I met my guy online too, nearly 12 years ago now. He lived in GA and I lived in AK. Very long story, but about 9 years ago I ended up moving down here to be with him. I can relate to the "repercussions" from a move like that - though I imagine moving out of the country would have even more! I loved your post. Please feel free to ramble on. I think some of the best thoughts come out of just free association typing.
You're so right, and I hadn't thought about it that way, but it is all about what you CAN do now instead of what you can't. I remember when I stumbled onto 3FC a little over a year ago. It was amazing to me, and it seemed too good to be true. But I've met some wonderful chicks here, and I've gotten the support I never thought I'd find. I too can lose myself just reading posts and journals. (Become one with the sponge. 
ANYway.. lessons were last night, we're all doing pretty good. I managed the posting trot for what seemed like forever last night, so I think my leg muscles have improved dramatically. But I swear that two point will be the death of me. I have such horrid balance. I know that with practice it will improve but... *shudder cringe whine*
I guess I'd better get going.. need to walk the doglets, take a shower, do some laundry and get the kids out of bed so we can be off on our adventure!
But I can understand how you felt. I remember how I felt when one of my friends left at one of my jobs and I realized that I was the fattest girl in the department. I was both ashamed and angered at myself because in a way it pushed me towards the food even more. Twice in my life I have gotten dressed up fancy for a wedding or some event and left the house feeling pretty good only to find that some tall, skinny thing had the exact same dress that I had on. Them in their nice flowing size 6 of course and me in my billowing size 18. Talk about taking the wind out of your sails
I hope you are feeling a little better today. When I'm sick I tend to go the liquid route with soups, hot tea with lemon and maybe a bit of honey. If you're coughing, getting the water down helps clear out the chest congestion. Sometimes I would just chug a full glass down after the cough syrup just to get it in. 
It's so motivating! I also hope it takes away the hungries. I've been trying to exercise portion control again and I've left the table sort of hungry after a few meals. The hunger fades after a while but while I'm right there at the table I keep thinking, gee I'd like just a little bit more 
You GO GIRL!!!
with the weigh in and getting some stuff to get you "unstuffed". Have a good time with your friend. 
How funny you should say that... Back in the 80's I used to go to Atlanta on business quite a bit as we had an office we supported. Actually, we were in the town of Tucker. We stayed at a Holiday Inn right off the expressway and had to cross a simple little curvy street to get from the hotel to the office - wasn't worth driving just across the road. Well... you'd never think crossing a road could be so
The way those people zoomed across the road I swore they were aiming for me. That's when my buddy - a "native" Georgian told me that while other parts of the country joke about getting points for splattering pedestrians, 'round their parts they actually took it as a sport!
and we have to start attending to planning some things for that including the external quest for comfortable sneakers. I don't think much will get done at the house beyond just the usual cleaning. And we have SO MUCH work to do in the yard. But that can wait until May.
who would of thought!!! I really hope that you are able to kick your flu bug really quickly.
Hi Sassy great to see you posting I sure had a great chuckle with your sense of humor.
I am very proud of you for three days without smoking. My father has smoked since he was 13 and I know what a struggle it is for him. It's like my struggle with food. I saw a good commercial for quitting smoking. It said, "Quitting takes practice". I thought that was a wonderful phrase. Who would have thunk it? Keep up the excellent work!