I'm very sorry, Sakai. I don't know your job situation at all, but I really hope it gets better for you!

And yeah, I still have crappy family stuff going on, but I'm choosing to ignore it and just relax. So far, I'm handling it okay.

I'm really afraid I'll get lectures for "offending" this or that person (by my grandma). I haven't seen my aunt who lives in Hawaill for over 5 years or talked to her, so I don't feel any need to personally call her up and have a heart to heart. But apparently, I should. But I"m just going to do what I feel is best and what falls to the wayside, does. I'm not wrong in that thinking, am I? I just don't want to deal with family crap AT ALL.

Anyway, rest, protect yourself from sick people and take care!

I'm in the same boat, Keller. My husband's sister (who is supposedly planning the shower) is the only one who has showed any interest, and even then it's only if that interest doesn't interfere with HER little life and husband. Nobody in my family even bothers to ask how I'm doing or how the baby is doing.

And I SWEAR in the name of ALL THAT IS HOLY that if my husband tells me one more time how he's barely able to put up with me and my "emotions" now that I'm pregnant I might end up a single mother. I mean REALLY? I'm not that bad. I've seen PLENTY of women worse not pregnant than I am right now. Last night he, HE, was acting weird - didn't even speak to me when I got home - and I asked what was wrong. All he'd say is that it was hard dealing with me pregnant, much less pregnant and sick. ??? I'd been home like five minutes.

Mindi- Weird! DF and I had this same "argument" last night because he told me i'm to much to handle and he can't wait til i'm not so emotional, irrational and *****y. He gets so mad because I ask him to do twice as much more now, especially because i'm in pain. I told him it only seems like he's doing so much because before I was pregnant I never really made him clean, do dishes, wash the laundry, bring me home food, etc. It's so annoying that this frustrates him. He always points out "that's my son!" except when he gets annoyed and i'm like this is caused because i'm carrying your son!

Sakai- Just a thought but if possible, Is there a different department you could work in possibly that isn't so demanding, especially knowing it's going to continue to get harder until your child is born?

For the first time today- I couldn't button my jeans. Not because they are too tight, but because he's head down still and as he gets bigger, the pressure is just to much. I guess thats another pregnancy milestone? I don't know but I felt humongous! Everyday I wake up and I feel bigger. Just this month i've gained 8 pounds and none is water weight- and it's not from overeating because I rarely consume suggested calorie amount as it is and the only thing I drink is water so no extra calories there either.

Heck I lost buttons a month or so ago Keller!! :) I miss my buttons!!!

My DH is kind of disconnected from this whole thing. We're supposed to go register for shower stuff tomorrow, but I'm going to sit him down later tonight and tell him I'll go alone if he's not into it. I'd rather not go by myself, but it will be easier for me to just go and do it rather than have him pouting along behind me, telling me it's taking too long and to just make a decision.

So, I had quite the experience the past two days. I had an awful migraine all day yesterday and terrible nausea. I couldn't eat or even drink water without throwing it up. Dehydrated and still in terrible pain at night, I went to the ER with my boyfriend. There, they gave me an IV drip, morphine, benadryl and zofran ( think that's how you spell it; it's for nausea). Anyway, that spelled relief, but they gave me a prescription for vicodin and zofran because I was still in pain.

They told me migraines are really common in this stage of pregnancy. I took one vicodin pill this afternoon because I was hurting so bad, but I'm scared to take another one. Is it okay to take during pregnancy? I am so worried for the baby, especially of how many drugs I took in the last day.

Anyway, I'm glad the worst is over for now. Did anyone else have this experience? I'm so afraid for the baby.

Racrane- I had horrible migraines for the first 18 week and nausea and sickness until about 22. Never had any problems with dehydration though. My doctor has refused to give me anything but tylenol since day one but unless you over do them, early on there isn't the chance of your baby becoming addicted in-utero. If you're worried, take a visit to your own doctor. You and him will know what's best for you.

We moved our middle kiddo (Eli) into his new space tonight (a crib in our sunroom/office) so that new baby will be able to take over the alcove in our room when he gets here. Sheesh, it's hard finding space for 3 small children in a 2 bedroom house!!

I now know that there is one manager who I think is trying to get rid of me because I'm pregnant. I've been told by other workers to bring it up to higher managment (because our store manager will listen to you but won't really do anything, so I've been told) I'm just sick and tired of getting picked on for stupid little things that didn't matter until a few weeks ago. (or the five years I've been there not pregnant)
I have been thinking of changing departments. One because I am in a very heavily shopped area that needs to be finished every night and I am slowing down...but mostly because I just want to get out from under their radar and left the heck alone.
I'm not gonna be pregnant that much longer! Arg!! what's the problem!?!

Racrane- I didn't get headaches until m 4th month, and they only lasted a few weeks. I did here that they are pretty common in the late first trimester and early second. I only took tylenol for them though and it helped some

Sakai- I've found that people don't know how to adapt there ways. Before I quit my job, my manager complained and got me in trouble for taking to many breaks. I was like If I have to pee, i'm gonna go. Hang in there and it'll be over soon enough!

11 Weeks left til my due date. Holy crap! The time has gone by pretty fast. Soo over being pregnant and ready for baby boy to be here.

ALL of our monkey decorations for the nursery came in the mail today. I'm so excited to move and put it all together in a few weeks. I hope the time flies by. We have so much stuff for him, it's a bit ridiculous.

We also got a new couch, entertainment center and big screen tv today that we ordered awhile ago. It was like christmas morning around here =]

Thank you Keller and Sakai. And yeah, people don't understand new changes for sure.

Sounds like everyone is still having quite an adventure around here. I've had a bit of braxton hicks contractions... It startled me at first, but once I stretched out and rested it went away-thankfully. So.. I'm just planning on resting the rest of this holiday weekend and taking it as easy as possible.

Hope you all are enjoying your weekend.

Well.... what started out as a great day didn't end so well.

My car's suspension and two rods went out this evening- and we're looking at more money than I have to put into it. So i'm gonna have to junk it out and find a dealership who will get me a loan or share DF's vehicle with him for a couple months until u can afford to buy a reasonably priced car outright. UGH! I'm so frustrated!

A however has been kicking all day and that alone brings a big smile to my face :)

I hope all you ladies are doing well!

I'm just dead tired today, and I slept better last night than i have in forever. I think this kid is taking it aaaaallll out of me today

Having major braxton hicks today. A whole lot of pressure, with a bit of pain but they are so random and don't get closer together. I see my doctor tomorrow so i'm gonna ask him about it. I thought they shouldn't hurt at all? But A is still kicking all day so i'm not super worried.

Wow - hit the third trimester and it was like a switch flipped. Suddenly I'm tired, forgetful, headachey, and generally uncomfortable again.

First childbirth class was yesterday. Had a little mishap (read: my pregnant brain registered the class as starting 2 hours later than it really did), so we were late and the whole thing was sort of a mess. On the plus side, we did get to see the birth center, and it's as good as I thought it was based on my research.

We also got the nursery painted this weekend, so that made me feel pretty accomplished (although I couldn't help with the actual painting, just walking into the room made me lightheaded, but I did provide snacks and music for the people who were painting...that counts for something, right?)

If I could just get this headache to go away, I'd be much more alert. There's a knot from my shoulder injury shooting up into my head, so normal headache measures won't fix it. I need to spend some quality time trying to work that knot out today.

Oh what a day. What a week. I was sick last week and through the weekend, but it’s mostly gone today. Thank goodness. That’s the only thing that’s good.

Grab some popcorn and a drink. This might be long, but this is the only place I have to vent.

My niece (just turned 17) - She came and stayed the weekend of the 10th with us, without her 4 month old baby, after her BF/baby daddy said he "needed space." She's been living with his family since the end of 2010, when her father (my brother) kicked her OUT OF THE HOUSE. She got pregnant in January 2011, just before her 16th birthday, and had the baby in October last year. The BF made it through the weekend being civil, then called last Saturday night while she was at our house and he broke up with her on the 11th. She went back there but it’s been nothing but drama.

Why did she go back there? Because that's where her baby was. And her sister and mother are on drugs so she doesn't feel comfortable taking the baby to her parents' house. And her now ex-boyfriend threatens to call CPS and the cops if she takes the baby there. So she literally has nowhere else to stay close to the friends she has, baby's doctor, etc. She can come here, but she is TERRIFIED to be alone with the baby. She's started meds for post partum depression, but it's not working fast enough.

He’s treating her horribly and forcing her into agreements regarding custody that just aren’t right. And he’s already got a new girlfriend. She’s been calling me upset at night and I'm trying to help her over the phone, but she won’t do ANYTHING. She’s depressed and afraid to be alone with the baby, and won’t go home because she sees it as a huge drug den regardless of whether it is or not. I don’t know if it is. I know there was a bong once in my older niece’s room and a pipe once...but that’s all I’ve ever seen. But her ex is holding that over her head, saying if she goes there she’ll lose the baby. And if she talks back to him she'll get kicked out of his mom's house and won't be able to see her baby 'til they go to court. But she won’t go home and won’t come here. She’s determined to stay there even though it won’t work out.

My Dad - His best friend, who’s been about two steps from death for years, had another heart attack. The man has a quarter of a kidney left and has stents in his heart to keep it functional. I doubt he’ll be getting out of the hospital this time. He hasn’t even been able to stand up on his own to shower for weeks and has given up. My dad won’t go see him; he’s in denial and thinks he’s getting out of the hospital. He NEEDS to go see the man, or else he'll end up just like he did with my mom when she died - full of regrets forever that he wasn't there to see him one last time.

My sister - She’s at college for the 15th year, at 33, having the time of her life. Living in the dorms again. No responsibilities, no worries. Relying on my dad, on a fixed income, to pay her car insurance and gas to get back and forth home to DO HER LAUNDRY every week. And stuck my dad with paying for the care of her big stupid dog. And he calls me daily to vent for an hour over it.

My baby shower - No planning has begun, and a total spaz is helping my sister in law do it. I’m hoping my good friend, who really wanted to do it before this other one got under way, will pitch in, still, just to make sure things are progressing. Shooting for April 14. Looking for baby bedding and a crib. I hate to pay more than $100 for baby bedding. It’s just crazy! And I can't find anything I like. I love a ladybug theme, but all the ladybug patterns are really bright. I'm more into pastels. May have to forgo the bugs for pastels....it's frustrating! I've about decided screw it all and just get a crib and sheets.

DH's family - Found out his uncle has prostate cancer that likely spread to the bone. And his granny needs hip replacement surgery and will have to go to a nursing home to recover. My husband is in denial about his granny not being in the best shape, and his uncle was/is the only positive male influence he’s ever had in his life. He loves that guy. So he’s not taking this well. DH's mom (sister of the uncle) has been a nurse for more than 25 years. They haven't told my husband, but she saw the blood count numbers, and KNOWS how bad it is. She says he won’t make it without a miracle, and that if it hasn’t already spread to the bone it will BE a miracle. She’s preparing to lose him.

And I’m just here in the middle of it all, pregnant and stressed out. My second trimester is over on Saturday. Don't even get me started about my weight or how unprepared I feel. I thought I was supposed to be able to enjoy pregnancy?
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*waves at everyone* Hiiii :) I have been lurking lately. My goofy family and goofy roommates are being... well, goofy. >< My brain has been in overdrive lately and I'm so glad I started going back to church. I need SOMEONE to vent to and God listens pretty well ;-)

Mindi - *HUGS* So sorry that everyone life is in crisis mode and they look to you for help/b*tch to you/put their denial claim out to you. I think being pregnant is supposed to be fun, but I'm pretty sure the people in ALL of our lives don't remember that sometimes... *MORE BIG HUGS!!!!!*

Amanda - So sorry pregnancy brain is wreaking havok on you! At least you still got to do some of the class and seeing the place where your little one will eventually be born is pretty neat!

Keller - Sharing a car can suck, but my DH(technically DF? LOL I've been calling him DH this whole time) and I have been sharing a car for a really long time. There are days where it would be nice to have two cars, but we manage by balancing rides with friends/public transit/schedule adjustment. If you're having pains that you don't feel comfortable about it's always better to talk to your doctor or go to an urgent care center than to wait it out. Hope you and your body get to feeling better! *hug*

Racrane - love the ultrasound pic :-)

Sakai - I think it's illegal to fire someone because of their "pregnancy status". You should definitely talk to hire ups about it, also do some searching about pregnancy status laws in your state.

Wow Mindi that is a lot on your plate :hug: I wish you some stress free days.

As far as baby bedding honestly baby can't even use that stuff till they are toddlers. All they need is a sheet in the crib. I know it looks cute but don't feel you need to get something right away. I loved using sleep sacks for the baby when there were cool nights. I also made the crib sheets for my DS they are super easy to make if you can use a sewing machine.

DH finally got to feel baby moving on Valentines day :)

Hi Bianca! :) Nice to meet you! And thanks :) I actually took it with my phone and uploaded it that way, lol.

Racrane- Yay! it's crazy seeing that little figure on the screen and realizing it's inside you.

Weight status time. 16 pounds gained. which the Dr's are happy with, but want me to hold my weight as it is right now (251) Gotta take another sugar test next month. I'm pretty sure it'll be negative, but I still worry.

Thanks for the advice on the crib stuff!! I've decided all we need are the blankets we'll use for swaddling, etc., and sheets for now. Like you said, the rest of it isn't necessary for a long time yet. That took some weird stress off for sure.

Sakai: I'm worried about my weight, too. However, I don't think my doctor wants to worry about it too much in front of me because of my past history with bulimia. But, I just want to know what's right and what's wrong. They won't tell me yet. And yes, it was surreal seeing the baby bounce around and kick. It made me happy though. :)

I always figure that if I just eat healthy. lots of fruit and veggies and whole grains.. not like bread but like brown rice, millet, oatmeal, ect that any weight gain is what is needed for the baby.
WAY harder to do, i found out. When morning sickness hit veggies made me gag, and carbs were the only thing i could stomach, lots of weight gain my 4th month(like 10 pounds). but now I'm stable only 2 pounds last month. I hope to keep stable and hold this weight for a while. lots of veggies and fruit for me.

I didn't want to be one of those ladies who use their pregnacy to eat whatever and however much they wanted for 9 months.

Sakai: I don't want to be one of those ladies, either. I'm still having nausea, even though I'm 12 weeks. Carbs are most comfortable for me, too.

I really don't want to gain too much. I already have work to do without gaining 50 lbs.

Mindi and I can both tell you that, beyond eating a healthy diet and getting regular exercise, there's nothing you can really do.

I am on track to gain about 45 lbs during this pregnancy. The entire time, I've eaten 1800-2000 cals a day of good, healthy, nutritious food, with limited carbs, lots of veggies, etc. I get 75 min on my treadmill 5x a week, walk the dog 3 miles 5x a week, and strength train for an hour 2x a week, plus do yoga and spend at least one weekend day on a cleaning spree. My midwives made me hide my scale, because it was stressing me out so much, and they knew I was doing everything right. She said that, in her experience, you gain what you're going to gain, and getting stressed about it makes it worse.

Had to take a 2 hour glucose tolerance this morning - yuck. I was STARVING and I honestly can't remember the last time I had 75grams/300 calories of PURE SUGAR in a single sitting. It was nasty and made me feel so gross. BUT it's done now - hopefully I pass, but if I don't, I typically follow a diabetic diet anyway, so it won't make much difference.

We're planning a little "babymoon" on St. Patrick's day weekend - cashing in all kinds of gift certificates, credit card points/miles, etc so that we can do it inexpensively. We're going to take an Irish cooking class for St. Patrick's day, get really fancy spa mani/pedis, and best, I'm getting an 80 min prenatal massage. Thank goodness, because my shoulder is REALLY, really unhappy with me.

Monkey nursery is slowly coming together. We have so many cute accessories, and the most adorable wall sticker my sister found on Etsy.

Sorry that everyone is having such stress. We have it here, too, in lots of ways, but I had to make a mental decision to check out of it as much as I can. I just can't manage this level of tired AND that kind of stress.

I'm sooooo forgetful for the past three weeks now. I can't remember for the life of me what I learn in math and I forget which classes I even get homework in. I forgot to write a ten page rough draft this week!

I'm just so overwhelmed with everything coming up. I feel like I have soo much to do and not enough time. With moving and now looking for a new car, piled on top of ten page papers, math and criminal justice courses (which I HAVE to watch the news for at least 5 times a week or read online) each week, I just don't even know where to start with anything! I seem to have lost all of my organizational skills.

And on top of the forgetful me coming out, i'm ALWAYS so exhausted now. Even if i don't do anything! No matter how well or long I sleep anymore- i'm always tired and needing a nap by noon.

Third trimester blues have hit. I'm really hoping he's born soon, just not too soon. Blah!

Keller, I feel you on the forgetfulness and being overwhelmed. My brain has just been non-functional these days!! It's horrible.

As for being overwhelmed...it hit me when I registered online with Target over the weekend. There's a counter on there that tells you how many days are left, and on Saturday it was like 92. Wow. That's really not that long. And we don't even have a crib yet. We have ONE pack of diapers. And so much to do!!

The tiredness hit me this week too and I'm not even in my third trimester JUST yet. I think it's a mixture of stress and feeling totally unprepared.

Yes, Amanda and I can BOTH attest that you can do everything you're supposed to and gain weight. I'm so envious of those of you who have gained little and are still healthy. On another message board I'm a member of, all the ladies due in May have gained like 10 or 15 pounds. And I'm at 28. Hoping to keep it below 40-50, just like Amanda. But we'll see.

None of my previous stress has gone away, and now I'm stressing out about my JOB! They STILL don't have anyone to cover for me while I'm out. They're not even looking or making any sort of plan. I'm trying to just chill out about it, but I don't want it to be a train wreck while I'm gone with people calling me 24/7 when I'm supposed to be on maternity leave.

Just for fun...here's me at 27 weeks, 2 days....sorry it's so huge

http://i149.photobucket.com/albums/s...2daysFeb22.jpg

Yesterday DF and I went to a wellness/toys/gift store in our town. Really nice place (just a bit costly) anyways, i'm looking around, wanting to get going when I spot a stuffed 2 foot caterpillar on top of a shelf. I instantly go for it. Both DF and I are all "aww, so cute!" because one of our first toys as a baby were caterpillars. (kinda cool that we had the same sort of toy as babies.) so DF wanders away and I'm stuck suddenly having a complete meltdown right in the middle of the store.
I still struggle with the thought of keeping the baby even though I know we can't. I suddenly had this feeling of wanting to keep her and bringing her up like we were as kids and giving her all the things we never had and the toys and books that brought us such joy and suddenly fearful that her new family won't know anything about what we want her to have, which is just weird and crazy thoughts to have.
All this over a silly stuffed caterpillar. @.@
DF returned to find me a mess , clutching this toy and felt horrible, even though I didn't tell him any of the feelings i was having, he understood about wanting to pass down traditions. I was able to calm down enough to leave and sit in the car for a bit of a breather.

DF bought the caterpillar for me. This is why I love him. ^.^

MindiV- Cute baby bump! you look so good...I'm just a blob @.@

Mindi, I love your bump!

And Sakai: I completely understand your feelings. You have a great DF. :)

Awww, Sakai!! Your DF sounds wonderful!! I get upset and my husband just gets mad at me.

Sakai - struggling with this choice is natural. I'm glad you have such a supportive DF who bought you the caterpillar. Maybe you can send it, along with the book you're making, with your little one when she goes to her home?

I've been feeling so negative and cranky lately, so I'm making a rule - I can only complain here about something if I post something positive to go with it.

SO - good thing - passed my glucose tolerance with serious flying colors! Hooray for that! My risk factors for GD were through the roof, so much that I really had just resigned myself to failing, so it was a pleasant surprise.

The bad - I am starting to ACHE. I haven't had the energy to strength train in almost a week, and my back is starting to hurt. NOT a huge fan of the 3rd trimester, to be honest.

Sakai- DF sounds super supportive and awesome! Like manda said, it is completely normal to struggle with this decision and you could send it with her. I've read about birth parents also having the same thing as they send with their baby to their home. So maybe you could but another one to send with her and you keep one as a way of a bond if that's something you feel comfortable doing.

Mindi- I feel HUGE compared to you(but baby boy also stays at the edge of my belly at almost all times)! You have such a cute bump! It sucks that dh still isn't being supportive and coming around. I hope he does soon. And i feel you with the overwhelmed about stuff to do. I can't even begin to paint his nursery until i'm at least 33 weeks depending on when we get the key to our new place, nonetheless set anything up. The only thing i feel ahead of you is that we have what we need, we just can't do anything with it except look at it sit in the dining room. I hope you can start buying stuff you need soon!

Manda- I'm right with you on the third trimester. It seems that everything has gone downhill since hitting it. Blah!

I think I have food poisoning:( We ate at this new restaraunt around one today and ever since four, TMI but i've had diarrhea, vomiting, cramps and a fever. I called an on-call doctor at my office around dinner. He said take tylenol and get some sleep and to keep a close kick count. He said as long as he's moving and it goes away within 36 hours, not to worry about going in unless I feel dehydrated or have that instinct that something just isn't right. A is still kicking like crazy so i'm not worried as it's the typical symptoms of food poisoning. Really, I just wish I could eat something because i'm hungry but can't even look at food without throwing up. And I have yet to fall asleep- four hours later. DF went to work but he wasn't feeling well either and was starting to run a fever. I'm not expecting him to make it through the night without coming home early.

I'm soo exhausted and my body needs a break! I hope I feel better by morning so I can make it to class.

Amanda - Yay for passing the test!!! Also having some aches here, and I'm not even into my third trimester yet. Not 'til Saturday or Sunday. But this past weekend it was like a light switch went off on my energy and I can't get it back on!!!

Keller - That's another one of my stresses - the nursery!! I HATE that we don't have a whole room for the baby. I know she won't need one for months...but I just really want her to have one! :(

Ordered a crib yesterday!! Got a convertible crib in cherry wood with a changing table and little dresser for pretty cheap at Walmart. The crib design wasn't my favorite, but for the price and ALL the furniture it couldn't be beaten.

http://www.walmart.com/ip/BSF-Baby-S...Box-1/16440408

Here's some info that those of you concerned about weight gain will make you weep. My about to be DIL is due March 28. She has gained 10 pounds, 10 pounds ! She now weighs 97 pounds at 8 months pregnant....and yes she does look pregnant.

Wow!! I usually hear of really little people gaining a TON during pregnancy!! My little niece started at like 97 pounds and weighed 155 before she gave birth. Some of the ladies in my other Due Date Club were a little underweight when they started and they're right on target with me at close to 30.

I'll be good if I can keep it below 40. That's my goal.

10 pounds...Dang! Is she really small? (short)
Speaking of, a coworker friend of mine told me today that I should expect to gain 90-100 pounds like she did....@.@ wtf?? and she was normal sized when she got pregnant too.
she brought it up because I was saying that my belly really dosn't look like i've gained 16 pounds...but my butt/hips/thighs do. and DF says he can't tell so I was asking her.

Sakai, I've been told that a lot, too. My co-workers here swear I'll gain 80 pounds just like they did and if I don't then I'm not eating enough.

My 28 or 29 so far is all in my belly I guess. I bought my maternity pants before I started showing a lot at all, and they're still fitting through the butt, hips and thighs.

I had a history teacher like that, too, when I was in high school. She was very petite and short and because we are friends, she told me later that she gained about 15 lbs. And her baby boy was 8 lbs. And she brought in McDonalds to eat every day for breakfast... it just doesn't make sense at times.

I'm starting to exercise most days. I walk 30 minutes on the treadmill and use a pregnancy strength dvd 2-3 times a week. It's not as much as I did before the pregnancy but considering I didn't work out much during the 1st trimester due to nausea, I'm doing okay. I feel more energy working out, which is always great. :D

How is everyone else feeling?

Yes, she is tiny, very short . She doesn't look 30 years old which she is.
I think your coworker is wrong in saying you will gain 90-100 pounds ! I don't think many doctors would approve of that. In years past there was the thinking "I"m eating for two" and used that as an excuse to eat anything is sight. Of couse you will gain and it will vary by the individual , follow your doctor's advice.