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biancasimone 05-13-2012 04:09 AM

:hug::hug::hug:

Yay Keller!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What a gorgeous little one :)

keller237 05-13-2012 02:10 PM

Thanks ladies and i'd like to say happy mothers day to each and every one of the ladies on this forum!!

Sakai- *HUGS* I agree with the other women, sit down and talk to your significant other. Make sure it's the best choice for all three of you. I would have the decision made before birth if I was in your position. If you want to do it and put your mind to it, know that you can do whatever you want. There's lots of help out there financially as well that you could look into before making a final decision. Either way, the decision you make it the right decision for you.

Manda- That really sucks! Any luck at all since your last post?

Mindi- How are you doing?

As for me, my staples get taken out tomorrow and I should be returning to school on Wednesday. My milk is just now starting to come in, as i've had to supplement him with formula due to weight loss, so we will really start the full effect of breastfeeding soon.

Hope all is well with you ladies!!!

MindiV 05-13-2012 03:42 PM

Thanks, Keller! Happy Mother's Day to you, too! Good luck returning to school AND with breastfeeding! I hope I'm able to do it myself. With me it will probably be more of a mental block than anything.

Amanda....how are things? Is your baby boy here yet????!!!!


You know, DH is the ONLY person who hasn't told me Happy Mother's Day today. He doesn't see me as a mom yet. I wasn't expecting breakfast in bed or to be showered with gifts or anything. But a simple recognition of the fact that I've been carrying his CHILD for more than 9 months now would have been wonderful. What makes it worse is that I KNOW he got me a card the other day, but plainly said I won't be getting it if our little girl isn't here yet. Well, she's not. I'm so mad at him.

Other than that, things are still going. I go in to the hospital tomorrow at noon for an NST and the doctor will come up there at the end to check for dilation. Then we wait. I'm 39 weeks tomorrow. At my appointment this past Monday he told me he doesn't induce in uncomplicated pregnancies until 41 weeks, and 42 is his cut-off since some mom's prefer to wait for labor to begin naturally as long as they can (and I'd be one of those).

Well, my MIL works at the clinic where he practices, and I've already heard through the grapevine that they talked on Friday. Turns out "Dr. I Won't Induce Before 41 Weeks" wants to go out of town with his family for a long Memorial Day weekend, which would end at my 41st week. And he wants to induce now at 40 weeks so he can go and not have to worry about me going into labor.

So that means my options will be A) Refuse to be induced at 40 weeks and if I go into labor while he's gone have my baby delivered by a doctor who I cannot STAND as a doctor OR a person; or B) See if a doctor in the city to the north will take me this late in the game and have her delivered in a strange town, away from everyone, by someone I don't know.

I'm not against induction at ALL. It's just that this may be our one and only child, and I want to have that "This is IT!" moment when I actually go into labor and go to the hospital all on my own, you know?

mandalinn82 05-13-2012 03:47 PM

Still no baby. Contractions are a little picked up today, so we'll see. This is officially "prodromal labor", and wow, it is not that awesome.

That stinks about your doctor, Mindi. It seems like the doctor who delivers you isn't usually very involved anyway - they come in at the end to catch the baby, or come into play more if you need interventions, but usually it's your nurse you interact with more. So it may not be a big deal to be delivered by the doctor you don't like.

MindiV 05-13-2012 05:04 PM

Awww...that stinks, Amanda! Maybe today. Fingers crossed for you.

This secondary doctor though....I don't trust him. He tends to have a major "God Complex" and doesn't listen to anybody. Just recently he wouldn't listen to one of the nurses who told him something didn't sound right with the baby's heart. He had the attitude of "I'm the doctor. I am RIGHT." 24 hours later the baby was flown to a bigger hospital via helicopter with a major heart issue. I'd go 40 miles away before I'd go to him.

Sakai 05-13-2012 08:37 PM

Happy Mother's day everyone!

MindiV- Jezz that sucks. If this Dr. REALLY bothers you enough to want to head off into a different town then that's up to you. I know it would bother me to be delivered by a Dr. I don't know or dislike, just because you've spent all this time building up with trust with one. (or in my case, 3)

Manda- So close!!!!

Ladies: Thanks for the advice. We've pretty much made up our minds to go ahead with the adoption. I sat and talked with DF. He also agrees that while he knows he'll regret giving her up, he never wants to regret keeping her and forcing us all to struggle.
Cousin and his wife called me this morning after I told them the hoop-la going on down here through facebook. My cousin grew up with my grandmother and know's how overbearing and controling of the family she is. She raised me from the time i was 2 and it's really hard for me to go against her even though I'm almost 28. So he really knows what it is I have to deal with. (plus people not of the family giving me pressure.)

I know everyone means well but sometimes I just want to me like." Hey....butt out."
But Cousin said, I can listen to all the opinions I want from people for and against this adoption, in the end it's up to me and DF.
My Cousin always stressed there was no pressure for us to pick them. But it never really sank in until he said that. Even this close to delivery, when you expect people to have a firm set choice made, they know and understand that I can change my mind at any moment.
Even though I'm sure I won't change my mind, it's just nice to not have that pressure from them.

In other news. My carpel tunnle had gotten sooo bad. I even woke in the middle of my sleep because my right hand and arm were killing me. i nearly cried. I couldn't move it or touch it, even letting it sit just made the pain pulse so badly. Something simple like a painkiller will help. Though I got into the habbit of not taking anything at every sign of pain 2 years ago. I've decided it's time to treat this pain if I'm going to make it though another night.
More strange pains in the belly. I'm still not sure if it's Contractions. (real or fake) bloating, or just soreness from the baby really pounding me in there.

Speaking off, she's suddenly stopped moving as much. No more tumbling around and around, and more little taps and streching. Maybe she's finally started to settle down. I've been using a exercise ball as a birthing ball to help.

racrane 05-14-2012 12:43 PM

Mindi: I understand about not wanting a doctor you don't like. I don't know what decision you'll go with but trust your gut, definitely.

Sakai: I am glad you are feeling better about your decision.

My boyfriend and I celebrated our three year anniversary yesterday. All we did was go out to dinner with his mom for Mother's Day and then we saw a movie. It was simple, but nice. I don't think the baby liked the noise in the movie, though. He kept kicking really hard and punching me, too.

As for me, it's finals week. I probably won't be on here until the weekend because of studying. I'm so stressed but it will be over soon!

I hope everyone is okay! Have a good week!

MindiV 05-14-2012 05:52 PM

Had a non-stress test today. Heart rate was good and steady for the 20 minute test, and the machine showed I had 2 contractions about 9 minutes apart. I didn't feel them at all....doctor appointment on Thursday morning to FINALLY get checked for dilation.

mandalinn82 05-14-2012 05:59 PM

Still here. Still contracting like crazy.

Seriously - this is not fun. I would just like to make some progress!!

sprklemajik 05-14-2012 06:44 PM

Hello Ladies!! So I've been scarce, but I've got a good reason. Last week we finally closed on our house, and now we're all moved in. :) Thank goodness - it's been a terribly busy week and several weeks up to this week. My parents came up this weekend and decorated the nursery - so I am finally feeling like everything is all worked out.

Keller - what a beautiful baby!

Amanda - I hope your baby gets here soon - I know you've got to be getting impatient now.

Mindi - Glad your baby is healthy, looks like it won't be too much longer for you :)

Sakai - I'm praying for you (I hope that doesn't offend any here), and what a challenging situation you're currently in. I'm sorry that you're feeling pressure from your family, and I hope that you have several close friends and family members that you can go to for emotional support through everything.

Keep on keeping on - I know we'll all be in a new phase soon.

MindiV 05-15-2012 07:39 AM

Congrats on the house!!! That's exciting! And just in time! :)

Sakai 05-16-2012 04:14 PM

Yay for moving in! and not a moment too soon. ^.^

Dr's appointment today. Went well. Heartbeat at 145 which is down, she normally in the 150's but i guess it's normal. Dr. didn't say anything about it. Head is down !! which is awsome because I could of sworn she was sideways because I could feel her moving on both sides of my belly this morning. But I think I was feeling her butt on one side and her feet on the other. She was sideways last week. I guess all that time I spent bouncing and rocking on my exerscise ball this week did something. ^.^

Down side, hips are starting to open up and I can really tell. it feels like a muscle cramp that starts at the pelvic floor and then shoots around one hip and down the butt. mostly on the left side. otherwise all is good.

MindiV 05-16-2012 05:03 PM

Sakai, isn't it weird how the baby can feel like she's everywhere all at once?? I still get that from time to time. Her body mostly stays on the right side, and she is head down...but sometimes I think she stretches her legs out to the left! It's a weird feeling...

Doctor's appointment at 9:30 am Thursday. He's supposed to check for dilation (FINALLY). Though at my appointment a few weeks ago he said he'd do it at my appointment last week and didn't. Then last week he said he'd do it at my NST on Monday and didn't. On Monday he said he'd do it Thursday. So we'll see.

racrane 05-16-2012 07:50 PM

I am finished with exams! So happy about that. :) Now on to my summer which includes working my summer job, 3 summer classes, pregnancy related classes and moving in with my boyfriend. I'm not busy at all!

I hope everyone is hanging in there! :)

keller237 05-17-2012 01:07 PM

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Mindi- How did the appointment go this morning?? Any good news??

Racrane- Awesome for tests being done. You're gonna be super busy but remember to take it easy as well!!

Manda- Baby yet? Or still just annoying contractions? I hope he comes soon!!

Sprkle- Congrats on the house! And awesome for getting it done! Perfect timing :]

Sakai- Glad to hear she turned head down. Drece stayed sideways up until my water was broken.

Been busy here. My milk is not coming in like I expected so i'm a bit frustrated as we have to stick with formula still. I can maybe get 4 ounces a day total no matter how much I try to feed him or pump. His two week check-up is next week. I had my first post-partum check up this week as well and got the staples out. Stitches are still in but the pain is gone for the most part. I'm attaching another picture if you ladies would like to see!

Hope all is well with everybody and hope to hear of some babies being born VERY soon =]

mandalinn82 05-17-2012 07:58 PM

Spencer is here!

Started having stronger contractions around 1am on Wednesday night, and we called the doula to come to the house around 9. Our goal was to labor at home as long as possible (more comfortable that way for us). Went into really good active labor at 11am or so, and we left our house when I started feeling like I needed to push. Made the drive to the hospital, and I was 9.5 cm with just a tiny lip of cervix that they quickly moved stretched him through. Pushed standing up while they filled the tub, got in, and pushed maybe 15 min in the tub before he was out.

We had a couple issues (cord was really tight on his neck, his shoulders got stuck for about a minute and a half, and I tore when they were trying to resolve that, then I hemorrhaged after he was out), so he is bruised up but beautiful.

Official stats: born 5/16 at 5:36pm, 8 lbs 4 oz, 21 inches long, big head circumference at 15.5 inches, and one full head of hair!

I can't post a pic from my phone, but we should be released tomorrow.

racrane 05-17-2012 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by mandalinn82 (Post 4337402)
Spencer is here!

Started having stronger contractions around 1am on Wednesday night, and we called the doula to come to the house around 9. Our goal was to labor at home as long as possible (more comfortable that way for us). Went into really good active labor at 11am or so, and we left our house when I started feeling like I needed to push. Made the drive to the hospital, and I was 9.5 cm with just a tiny lip of cervix that they quickly moved stretched him through. Pushed standing up while they filled the tub, got in, and pushed maybe 15 min in the tub before he was out.

We had a couple issues (cord was really tight on his neck, his shoulders got stuck for about a minute and a half, and I tore when they were trying to resolve that, then I hemorrhaged after he was out), so he is bruised up but beautiful.

Official stats: born 5/16 at 5:36pm, 8 lbs 4 oz, 21 inches long, big head circumference at 15.5 inches, and one full head of hair!

I can't post a pic from my phone, but we should be released tomorrow.

Congratulations! I'm so glad you both are healthy and happy!

And he is so adorable, Keller. :)

Sakai 05-17-2012 10:02 PM

Manda- Yay!!! Congrats! So happy for you. I was wondering if it was going to be like my cousin a feww weeks ago who had contractions for days before the baby decided to rush out. Sounds like long contractions = fast birth. I'm glad everything went well dispite the cord and the bleeding. Sucks that you tore, must of been those shoulders ^.^

Keller- Awww look at his face! Adorable. and all that hair. It's good to get those staples out I bet.

Racrane- Huzzah for no more exams. I've been there, but I never had much pressure with them. (I really should go back someday and finish college)

Had belly pains all day...It made it hard to sleep. I woke up today with my belly still sore and really really hard. I was a bit nervious right now until she kicked a little. I'm still nervious until I feel her normal movment.
Honestly I feel bad because DF and I were a little more...Active.. this morning. Normally we haven't had a problem with sex but today I had to have him stop in the middle of it and change positions because it was really making the right side of my belly hurt. Which then caused my whole stomach to ache. I hope we didn't do anything stupid >.<

it's just weird because my belly feels really hard now. Could be gas, which would also explain the soreness I'm still feeling. Not sure what else it would be.

biancasimone 05-17-2012 10:28 PM

Amanda I was JUST thinking about you!!!! YAY Spencer is here!!! <3 Can't wait for pictures :)

butterflymama 05-18-2012 12:09 AM

Yeah Amanda! Welcome Spencer! Our second baby :D I was thinking about you yesterday and wondering if Spencer was here yet. Are you going to post a picture?

Sakai - Sorry about the sore belly. Maybe a warm bath would help.

Keller - He is so cute and tons of hair :)

Racane - yeah to be done your tests!

I am doing ok but so much to do! I have exactly 3 weeks today till the c-section date :dizzy: I got my cloth diapers organized. My lap top fell last week and died so I lost all my data including the awesome hospital packing list I had just finished :mad:

Sakai 05-18-2012 07:08 AM

I got worried and had to lie down on the sofa to do a kick count. i got 13 movments in 75 min. Not as active as normal, but she started right up as soon as I started eating. she calmed back down now with little taps here and there.

Realized my tight, hard belly is coming and going...Hicks contractions? They don't hurt any.


EDIT: it's been 5 hours and the pain is still going. Normaly I wouldn't worry so much but it's in the front where my placenta is, so I'm paranoid now. Good news is that Baby girl's movments are back up. I can feel her head and butt bumping around and not just little taps from her feet.
but also developed some spasim like pain on the pelvic floor. So, I called the clinic and they penciled me in right now, so I got to go. I'll keep everyone updated.

EDIT part 2: Went to the clinic and had a NST. she only moved 3 times and I guess she wasn't responding the way they wanted her to and her heart rate was iffy so they sent me to the hospital. @.@They didn't know if she was just being lazy or needed to come out.
I picked up DF because I didn't want to go alone and I know he would of just freaked out at home. so we went to hang out in Labor and delivery, which made me kinda nervious. Got another non stress test and hung out for aabout 40 min. about 20 min. in Baby started moving harder than I've felt in almost a week. So that was good. Her heart rate went up and there were no signs of real contractions, even though I hurt the whole time, (Must of been false? maybe bloating?) So anyways, they sent me home. DF stressed himself into a tizzy and is now unwinding with a hard drink and a wooden mind puzzle (He's such a geek) before going to bed. I feel bad because he has to get up for work in a few hours but he insisted he wanted to be there. Which is nice because I was to scared to go alone.

Gale02 05-18-2012 09:04 PM

Congratulations, Amanda!! :congrat:

Gale02 05-18-2012 09:07 PM

I had dr appointments today. I'm at 35w3d and measuring between 37-38 weeks. I'm 50-60% effaced, dilated to about 3cm and baby is in between -1 and 0 station. I'm so very ready do be done! He's so low I've had nothing but pain for weeks now. Looks like they will probably strip my membranes on the 31st if he doesn't make an appearance before then. Come on, baby!! :)

keller237 05-18-2012 11:26 PM

Manda- Congrats!! Can't wait to see a picture of the lil guy!

mandalinn82 05-19-2012 10:30 PM

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Since I'm home now, I can post a few pictures!

We're still doing good! Had a little bit of a rough night last night (he just did NOT want to sleep) but he's making up for it in adorableness today, and we're getting the hang of what he needs to be happy. I am SORE, though, from the stitches and swelling - hopefully the midwives weren't lying when they said that gets better every day. For now I'm relying on ice and ibuprofen.

mandalinn82 05-19-2012 10:31 PM

Mindi hasn't logged in since the 16th! I wonder if there's an update??

Sakai 05-20-2012 12:40 AM

Manda- such sweet pictures. ^.^ I love his cute little monkey pj's! I'm glad you're doing good.


My time in Labor and delivery kinda made it hit home that I am about to have a baby. I'm freaking out. I don't feel ready at all for this.

An older co-worker friend of mine said. If I keep her or not... my life is never going to be the same. I'm afraid that I'll be depressed forever. But if I keep her, I'm afraid I'll be the grumpy, unhapppy, over worked mother.

I don't know how to be a mother. My mom seperated from my dad when I was about 2 and he had custody of me. My Aunt helpped raise me. She wasn't the best mother, tired and mean all the time with me and her three sons. We got left home alone often while she was working. We would be only 12 years and younger. I don't want my little girl to have to take care of herself while we're working/sleeping.

With pressure coming from all over, It sucks to say I still don't know what I'm going to do.

Ugh, I feel like such a downer everytime I post here. -.-

berryblondeboys 05-20-2012 06:30 AM

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Originally Posted by mandalinn82 (Post 4339691)
Since I'm home now, I can post a few pictures!

We're still doing good! Had a little bit of a rough night last night (he just did NOT want to sleep) but he's making up for it in adorableness today, and we're getting the hang of what he needs to be happy. I am SORE, though, from the stitches and swelling - hopefully the midwives weren't lying when they said that gets better every day. For now I'm relying on ice and ibuprofen.

CONGRATULATIONS!!! and yes, your midwife is not lying - but also remember to take it easy. Your body is going through a lot of healing and with the hemorrhage, it zaps you even more (I hemorrhaged too). For the longest time I thought my soreness was the stitches - seems I also developed a hemorrhoid while pushing and that caused a lot of my extended discomfort (I tore all the way thru with my first - 3rd degree, just a tiny bit with my second).

ICUwishing 05-20-2012 08:51 AM

Congratulations to Keller and Mandalinn! Beautiful babies! :)

bargoo 05-20-2012 09:07 AM

Beautiful baby boy, Manda, congratulations ! By the way babies can't tell time , day or night makes no differance to them it always seems to me that some of them enjoy being awake all night with new Mom just wishing she could get some sleep.

butterflymama 05-20-2012 11:48 AM

Amanda he is beautiful!!!!!!

Sakai - that must have been so tense in L&D. I can not tell you that if you keep your babe that life will be blissful all the time and you will just know how to mother because it most likely wont (that is the reality of most mothers). There are times when you just feel crazy and like you don't know what you are doing and you just wish the baby would stop crying but we all go through that and it is ok. There are also lots of moments that are lovely and sweet and you feel like "Hey I am a pretty good mama" For me I love lying in bed before DS goes to sleep and talking about our highs and lows for the day. He always says "My high is loving you mama" Seriously that melts my heart and makes all the work, sleeplessness, worry, debt, etc worth it. He is a great kid who knows he is loved and feels safe, secure and happy so I know we must be doing something right :) I always say that my high is "being your mama" and he smiles and snuggles me up.

I had a crappy upbringing as well. I was a "mistake" and knew it all my life. My parents were forced to marry and they had a really unhealthy relationship and spent most of their time trying to get back at each other for affairs, wrong doings etc. We hardly ever had food in our house and my parents were rarely home. We spent a lot of time with my dad's parents. I did not feel loved unconditionally when I was growing up and I delt with a lot of anxiety and depression most of my life (well until I met my DH and he helped heal me) I knew that when I became a mother the thing I really wanted my child/children to understand is that they are loved unconditionally. Right now we don't have much money, I gave up my full time position to be with DS. We have a fair amount of debt and a lot of times I have to say to DS "No we can not buy that as it costs too much money and I only have money for food right now" But he is fine with that, he smiles and says ok mama. We spent lots of time together as a family and we go to the park and he loves that. I buy a lot of his clothes at second hand stores and he loves his clothes. I figure that my children are only little for a bit and I want to be there for them now. I pay the minimum on our debt and try not to run up more if possible and figure I will pay it down sometime later. The last couple of years I did take on a daycare kid and last year started working at DS' preschool to make some extra money. Now I have had to give those things up. I am currently trying to figure out what I can do at home while the baby sleeps or I wear her and DS is at school to make some money.

Sorry this is such a long post but I just want you to know that it is possible to be a good mama even without good role models (also you can go to groups of mamas that share similar philosophies as you. For me it was Le Leche Leaque and a babywearing group) I also do tons of reading and can suggest some great attachment parenting (healthy attachment parenting :) ) books. That not having "enough" money is something that you can work around and making sacrifices can go a long way. That yes there are tough moments but that there are lots of really great moments. I love being a mama even though I am not always the mama I wish I was. This baby I am pregnant with now was not expected but I will never ever let her think she was not wanted or loved. Life will be hard but I think that helps to build strong character and resilience in our kids if they feel loved and respected (which costs nothing ;) ) I wish you lots of peace and love in your last few weeks of pregnancy and in your decision about your daughter. I think you have a lot of stuff going for you like a supportive loving partner and lots of love for your baby. What ever decision you make remember that there are never "perfect" decisions in life and it was made with a lot of love and out of the heart of a mother.

Gale02 05-20-2012 01:07 PM

Spencer is beautiful, Amanda! Goodness, I always forget how tiny they are. Your midwife is right, the pain and swelling go down every day. And, as far as the sleep goes, most babies are born with their days and nights reversed. It generally only takes 2-3 weeks for it to right itself. Hang in there, the first 6 weeks are definitely the most exhausting. You and Sarah can do it! :)

midwife 05-20-2012 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by butterflymama (Post 4340129)

I had a crappy upbringing as well.

Sorry this is such a long post but I just want you to know that it is possible to be a good mama even without good role models (also you can go to groups of mamas that share similar philosophies as you.

This is so true. I had a horrible, crappy, abuse-filled childhood and I have overcome that to raise healthy, happy, well-adjusted kids. I know you are struggling with choices, but know that you can be a great mom even if you never had a great role model.

(Also, intercourse can trigger contractions which might be why you were feeling them the other day.)

biancasimone 05-20-2012 10:44 PM

Amanda, I love the monkey pjs!!!! And the picture of you and baby and wifey is soooooo lovely :D

butterfly: Sorry about losing all the info on the computer. :( Also, what helped you decide on cloth diapers? I've talked to a lot of people (who did and did not do cloth diapers, most of those who didn't wish they had) and read a lot of info online, but I like hearing from more people. Especially my 3fc mamas ;)

Sakai: *hugs* Someone once told me something interesting about kids. "Do you know how you spell love to a child? T-I-M-E." Whatever your decision is with your daughter, she will know that she loves you when you can spend a little time with her. My goddaughter LOVES my DF and he sees her probably 3-4 times a year. (He is a baby whisperer, so I know he'll be a great dad :D) Kids don't mind who puts clothes on their backs or feeds them, they care who gives them hugs and who plays pretend with them. If you and your DF decide that you two will not be the ones that can raise her, you will definitely be the ones who can and will love her. :) I try to tread very gently on the topic of adoption. I don't want you to feel like you're giving away your child and can never see her again, or that anyone is pushing you to go one direction or the other. And also I am a hugger. :) *BIG HUGS!*

Sakai 05-21-2012 01:04 AM

*hugs!!!*
Thanks everyone. I was having a bad moment. My grandmother called again and tried to talk me into keeping the baby again and it really upset me. I feel I'm letting her down and being a disapointment. She said she sees no difference in placing the baby with stranger, or with my cousin who lives on the very other side of the US. Which hurt.
She says she just dosn't want to see depression ruin my life, because I'll never get over it and regret it forever.

Which is scary.

I know their's help out there and my dr. already knows about the adoption and my struggles and wants to start me on meds for depression soon after the birth. She says I'm already getting to that point but I didn't want to take anything while still pregnant.

I'm tired of people asking if i'm excited because the birth is so close and truthfully...no, I'm not excited, I'm dreading it. I really want to meet this little girl, but then i have to say goodbye. It's just hard to get this across to people. No one looks foreard to sending their loved one far away.

On a different note: I'm 37 weeks now. i guess that's full term and she could come any day now. I hope to go into labor sooner rather than later because all the OB dr.'s will be out of town the 7-9th and i'm due on the 10th. (thanks docs)

MindiV- what's happening!! any update? it's been 4 days...is the little one here now? ^.^ oh, i'm so nosy..

Gale02 05-21-2012 10:27 AM

Bianca - We did cloth diapers with our first (Fuzzi Bunz, loved them!) The reason we didn't do it with our second and won't be with our third is simply because they are so close together. I had 2 in diapers for about a year and will have 2 in diapers again when little mister arrives. I honestly can't keep up with the demands of the laundry. It's another 5 loads per week for 2 in diapers, and I can't keep up with all the laundry that me, my DH and 2 toddlers create... and another infant will be a lot more. Also, we don't really have a good place to keep a diaper pail. Contrary to the propaganda, diaper pails stink (which makes sense) and in our tiny house it made the whole house smell like pee. Blech. So, just my 2 cents. :)

sprklemajik 05-21-2012 10:14 PM

Hi ladies -- two babies down and more to come :)

I'm ready for baby Jon to be here, hopefully it won't be too much longer. I've having huge feet swelling issues and it doesn't seem to matter how much I rest or how much water I drink it seems to continue on. The Dr. isn't too worried about it though, my blood pressure has stayed down on the low end of normal so apparently I'm just puffy :O

Good luck all...

berryblondeboys 05-21-2012 10:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Sakai (Post 4340804)
*hugs!!!*
Thanks everyone. I was having a bad moment. My grandmother called again and tried to talk me into keeping the baby again and it really upset me. I feel I'm letting her down and being a disapointment. She said she sees no difference in placing the baby with stranger, or with my cousin who lives on the very other side of the US. Which hurt.
She says she just dosn't want to see depression ruin my life, because I'll never get over it and regret it forever.

Which is scary.

I know their's help out there and my dr. already knows about the adoption and my struggles and wants to start me on meds for depression soon after the birth. She says I'm already getting to that point but I didn't want to take anything while still pregnant.

I'm tired of people asking if i'm excited because the birth is so close and truthfully...no, I'm not excited, I'm dreading it. I really want to meet this little girl, but then i have to say goodbye. It's just hard to get this across to people. No one looks foreard to sending their loved one far away.

On a different note: I'm 37 weeks now. i guess that's full term and she could come any day now. I hope to go into labor sooner rather than later because all the OB dr.'s will be out of town the 7-9th and i'm due on the 10th. (thanks docs)

MindiV- what's happening!! any update? it's been 4 days...is the little one here now? ^.^ oh, i'm so nosy..

Sakai - I just want to say, I've been reading this thread through the majority of it and I commend you SO MUCH for thinking about your baby's needs first and foremost. And I'm so sorry that you are being pressured by family and being even more torn in two with making this heart wrenching decision.

Whatever you decide in the end, feel good about your decision. A lot of thought and love went into it and you can always feel confident about that - you did it all for the best of the child and she can only respect that of you now and forever.

"I" respect you for it. I wish more people would put as much thought into what's best for the baby as you have. Truly.

MindiV 05-22-2012 02:53 PM

Spencer is gorgeous Amanda!!!

:) Yes, there's an update. And a little Laney Jae!

On Thursday, I woke up at the normal time. I'd had some low cramping the night before but nothing major. Then as I was changing into my yoga clothes at 5:15 am my water broke! DH was already gone to work and was hours away so I called him, then called my SIL to come help me because I wasn't even able to get off the toilet to do ANYTHING for all the fluid. Later I found out I leaked so slowly because the tear was at the top rather than the bottom. The nurses said they'd never seen so much fluid.

Anyway, I got to the hospital at 6 am because we had no CLUE if I was dilated or not. I wasn't contracting, but I was literally supposed to go to the doctor at 9:30 that morning to get checked for the first time. Anyway, doc came in at 7 am and I was 1 cm dilated. He let me go on 'til 1 pm on my own before Pitocin was started. I got my epidural at 9 pm when the contractions were a little too much and I was 4-5 cm dilated, and started pushing at about 1:30 am.

Laney Jae was born at 2:26 am Friday, May 18, weighing in at 8 pounds, 11 ounces. She was 21 inches long and had a 14.5 inch head! :) big girlie! We went home Saturday, and I was on my own with her Monday. Kinda overwhelming! Today my SIL came over this morning and helped out, and DH has been WONDERFUL helping as much as he can. Had some tearing as she came out, so I have some stitches and have to take it easy. And it's been hard waiting on my milk to come in so we've started supplementing with formula. She had lost nearly a pound at her little checkup on Monday :(

Barring any problems we don't go back to the doctor again until she's 2 months old. We go for a blood draw at 2 weeks at the hospital, and she has to have her hearing test again. The machine was broken before we were discharged, then we went yesterday but she had reached the point of being really hungry and didn't want to sit still for it.

But life is good! I'm working on pictures now so I'll share some soon!

OH! And it was interesting...my 18/20 week sonogram said she was due May 13, but then that came and went. My "official" due date was May 21. But judging from the dryness of her skin and length of her nails and all, the doc and nurses were saying they estimate she was about a week LATE being born on May 18. So maybe May 13 was correct all along...

ICUwishing 05-23-2012 09:22 AM

Congratulations, Mindi! Looking forward to those pictures!


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