Keller - I'm sorry it has been so frustrating! Can you ask someone else to take on hosting duties for the shower?

Mindi - how is the extra Tylenol working for you? Any improvement?

Bianca - Just wait! I was tired, but otherwise OK until about week 20. Then the uncomfortableness started to really kick in.

We made some GREAT progress on moving toward having a set up nursery in the past 2 days. We ordered our crib, moved the treadmill out of the nursery and into its new home in the old guest room, got the baby's closet cleared out except for his stuff (we have SO MANY CLOTHES! It's ridiculous), took some stuff out to Goodwill, etc. I feel like I'm much more in control now!

I'm currently getting the heck kicked out of my insides - active baby tonight. Sarah's dad/one of baby's grandpas recorded himself reading Winnie the Pooh when his twins were in utero with the surrogate (she used to play the twins their voices, so the twins would know their voices), and he sent it down to us, so we played it for the little guy since I knew he was awake. He calmed down while it was playing, but now he's awake again!

Oh, and I got myself a pregnancy pillow! I had a GREAT night of sleep last night and woke up way less stiff and sore than I had been.

Biana- Welcome to this thread. A little boring? Just wait! It's gotten better as the times have gone by. Do you have a due date yet? Or an expected due date i guess? I feel like my life is a soap opera. Both mine and DF's families are large(Minimum of any one family within his family is 7 people, max of like 13 and mine all have at least 5 if they have kids)

Manda- I don't want to ask anybody. I want somebody to offer and not feel like i'm impeding. I don't even care to have one but DF really wants one. I just don't want the drama. I just want my family to recognize that my son will be a part of their familes to. Is that to much to ask for?

I mean, throughout the 25 1/2 weeks so far, only his sister in law has even bothered to ask how me or A is doing. But yet his sister is pregnant and they give her a place to stay and free stuff and the whole works. They didn't even have the decency to say "congrats" on finding out we were having a child or to mention anything when we found out he's a boy. just thought they had the right to be pissed that we didn't personally call them to tell each of them. Also, they're pissed because they think they have the right to be in the room when I give birth and told me it's not MY choice---- Huh? NOOO! Me, DF and the doctors/nurses will be the only ones there.

Ugh, i just want to strangle them all. We've been living together since Nov 2010 and now all of a sudden his family all have a problem with me, can't stand me and claim i'm taking him away from his family. I'm having his child and marrying him. They need to understand that it's no longer all about them but also about the family that he's created. I really need a ****!ng punching bag tonight. Excuse the language. But i'm beyond heated!

Deep breath!

It is SUPER FRUSTRATING when family doesn't meet our expectations of what we'd like them to be. My MIL (the baby's grandma, for hecks sake) has not acknowledged our little guy at all (except once, to say to Sarah "I hope she's not cleaning the litterbox"...literally, that's it). We sent her an "It's a Boy" mug for Christmas, and we called on Christmas and asked if she'd gotten her presents, and she just said "yes"...nothing about him being a boy. Which meant my wife spent part of Christmas morning sobbing in the bathroom. So trust me, I get it. But at least I don't have to live with her!

Maybe if your DF really wants the shower, he can put out feelers on who can host? Or talk to your SIL for you? You don't need to stress about all of this stuff!

One key to my sanity has been making Sarah in charge of dealing with her family. That means if we have an issue with them, or even if they have an issue with me, it's SARAH'S issue. So if they're giving you crap about how you're taking him away or whatever, HE needs to tell them that it is flat-out unacceptable. When it comes to conflict between me and her family, she and I will talk about it and try to arrive at a compromise or solution that works for everyone, but ultimately, she's willing to go to bat for me if I need her to. And I do the same for any drama with my family - if it's my blood, it's my issue!

That's the issue. He won't deal with it. He's always been the one to try and please his family- especially his mother who is freakin crazy! He won't do or say anything that will upset her because she was verbally abusive all of his childhood and anything he says sets her off into angry rages. He tries to keep it calm- but he doesn't think about how his decisions affect other people and then it starts even more drama. I just avoid them but somehow they always bring me into the situations and blame everything on me and he doesn't even take into account how I should feel about them because he thinks it's just his family to deal with when in reality, that practically is my MIL, FIL, BIL. Etc and if i'm the cause of "their family problems" I think I should have some feelings in the situation.

His SIL lives in Cali while we live in Nebraska. I just don't care anymore. I'm over the shower. If he wants it, whatever but I want nothing to do with it. But more so, I don't want our families together. Our parents have never met each other and I plan to keep it that way.

The Tylenol helped when I took it first thing in the morning, Amanda...but by 1 pm (6 hours later) it was so bad again that it didn't help a lot. I've gotta see how often I can take it. Says every 4 to 6 hours on the bottle, but that's for 2 tablets. The doctor said to take 3.

I'm still sleeping mostly on my belly too!

Not just a ton of movement the past few days. Well, at the basketball game I was covering last night she was moving a lot - and kicking my bladder!! Hard to take photos of a game when you have to run to the bathroom every 10 minutes!!

I'm getting frustrated with my husband. He's not invested in this at all. I keep talking to him about all we need to do...and he's not interested in helping with any of it. I was even trying to get a ballpark figure on what we want to spend on a crib, and he won't discuss it at all. His response to everything is "Wait until after the shower, we'll worry about it then." But I don't want to wait until April to get stuff figured out!!

keller237: I"m sorry you're having such a rough time with family right now. Sending you sweet thoughts and prayers over this.

Bianca: Welcome and hi, nice to meet you :) When are you due?

Mindi - sorry your husband isn't being helpful in getting things organized!

Keller - it sounds like this is an argument you need to have with your husband. He needs to understand how his family is affecting you. I have had huge issues with Sarah's family (her dad's partner said some things to me at one point that were permanently damaging, and the whole group sort of fell apart for a while), and while I had to work on the issues themselves, she was in charge of setting up any space for discussing them. You have three options - remain miserable, you and your husband find a way to manage the issues with his family, or cut his family off.

We're officially registered for childbirth classes as of today - there's another check off on the list.

Bianca - I am also strongly leaning toward a waterbirth, but in a hospital birth center that permits them. But as long as you have strong advocates and a strong idea of what you want, you should be able to have a non-medicalized birth, even in a hospital. You may be able to negotiate to have a hep-lock instead of an IV, for example, or intermittent fetal monitoring instead of constant, so you can move around. It's all your choice, of course, and if you want to be at home, more power to you! But it's not necessarily true that hospital birth = high medical intervention birth.

I may or may not have eaten 8 delicious, soft, chocolate chip cookies just now. You can't prove anything. :D

Gale- You crack me up- as i May as well be sitting here eating girl scout cookies!

Mindi- Glad the tylenol helped out a little bit more. Hope you get it figured out soon.

Manda- You're right. And i'm sorry bout the issues with her family as well but it sounds like you guys have a great way of figuring it out now!

We did sit down and talk it out when he got home from work. Surprisingly, because it's usually something he gets really upset and angry about. He told me that he was going to have a talk with his mom and sisters as they are the main cause of it all. However, they refused to talk to him about anything and claim they do nothing wrong, rather that i'm the cause of it. So then he told them that until they are willing to talk, he won't be having contact with them. I myself will be avoiding them until A is here or at least that's my plan. Maybe by then they will come around.

I think as long as they aren't causing drama and talking to DF that everything should be fine as he won't be so angry about it. blocked his mom and sister off of FB so that drama will be gone and they can't contact me, as I don't answer my phone. I also suggested to him to find counseling and told him I would go with him if he would like me to.

Glad some of the family stuff got resolved for you, Keller! It's hard not talking to family, but maybe they'll come around soon for your DH's sake.

I'm about to have family drama of my own with my sister-in-law (DH's sister). She said she's going to plan a shower for me, but hasn't done anything at all that I know of. I'm needing to know dates and times, and she's dragging her feet. That's not the big issue though.

The big one is this baby's name. She's being SO pushy!! I told DH to not tell anyone what we're deciding...I want something to be just for us, you know? So he hasn't. We haven't picked a middle name yet, and our first name search is narrowed down to a few. But she is being SO over the top pushy trying to make us pick names she wanted for the little girl she didn't have (she had a boy and won't have another). And she's pushing family names - for their side only of course. I'm trying to stay AWAY from family names because I don't want to offend anyone on my side. My brother mentioned once that it would be nice to name a girl after our grandmother or mother...and I honestly don't like their names at ALL. So going to the other family will just cause problems.

This baby needs to quit stepping all over my bladder. Really. :)

Sounds like everyone has a lot of things going on.

Keller - I'm glad your DF is standing up for you, I know that will go a long way towards easing some of your troubles. At least you can know he's on your side :)

Mindi - Stick to your guns girl! That's your baby and you do what you want.

I've been pretty close to a meltdown lately - Hubby has been really patient with me, I think the whole world is just starting to get to me and I'm feeling quite overwhelmed. He sat me down yesterday and explained patiently that everything I'm panicking about is not a huge deal and that life is going really well right now. He somehow managed not to make me feel belittled while also making me realize that I overworrying (not easy to do with me when I get all wound up right now). I'm trying to stay quite calm... just a few more days until I find out if we're having a boy or a girl. That will be awesome!!

Hope things get calmer for you all as well. I'm going to read a bit and then head to bed early.

It just sucks because it's not really resolving the issue, just ignoring it. Better than not as I don't want the drama in my life but i know DF doesn't really want to avoid his family that lives here but sees it as his only option right now without putting stress on our relationship.

My sister randomly texted me today and asked me if her and my mom could throw me a shower. Not the sister who suddenly changed her mind as I have three. I said whatever, I just don't want anything to do with it other than a guest list. DF offered to help if they needed it.

I'm really going to try and destress/not stress for the next 14 weeks and let nothing bug me. Hormones/Emotions just drive me up a wall. My mechanic is looking for a car for me(so i don't have to go through the stress of a dealership. I gave him a list of exactly what I want and he said he'll do whatever it takes to find it for me!) We found a company with apartments we really like. They won't hold a deposit this far in advance but they said they should have many aots opening up in the next 6 weeks that we could put one down on. And i'm looking for a place that does prenatal massages around here and taking a spa day before he is here!

I bought the crib and nursery furniture today and it should be arriving in about 3 to 4 weeks. I just want to get everything done now.

Off to do homework- I have a million things to do and no energy to do them!

Manda - where did you find your pregnancy pillow? I was thinking about getting one... we just improved our bed by ditching the crappy, broken box springs!

Keller - my date range is late August to early September, not for sure but will know when I get my first US in about 2 months. Also, sorry that your DF's family is cray-cray and can be mean/rude/disrespectful. Glad he stepped up to the plate for you!

Gale - LOVE IT :)

Sparkle - <3 your hubby! He is great for helping to calm you instead of ignoring it and saying you'll "get over it", or making it worse. Keep us updated on the baby-gender front :D Do you have a preference on gender?

My mom sent me the best text ever this morning! She said, "Happy birthday, mama" ;-) I sent her a cute, sappy message back that said she's the best mom ever and when she graduates to Best Grandma Ever I get to become Best Mom Ever, like Miss America for moms :D :D :D :D :D

Today I have an interview scheduled which I still think is awkward because I'm not showing in and can probably conceal it for quite a while with passing it off as weight gain... but I don't want to spring "I'M PREGNANT, BYE!" on my new employer after being there for less than 90 days (no maternal leave) or more than 90 days (to make it seem like I just jumped on to GET maternal leave). DH is taking me out to lunch today and we are touring one of the facilities one state over (really just a 10 minute drive) that I would like to have a baby. It's part "birth center" (which has rooms for water births and other low/no intervention type births) and part hospital (so if something does happen, heaven forbid, they can rush momma and baby there). The lady who runs the center/hospital is super nice, so I am excited to go :-)

So...after my workout this morning I had some bright red bleeding. Just on the TP and not a ton, but everything I read online (obsessively and immediately) said to call the doctor immediately. Well it was 6 am so I had to wait for the clinic to open at 8. So I've got an appointment at 9:30 this morning.

Just worried. I haven't had any bleeding so far at all, and now suddenly at 24 1/2 weeks I'm bleeding? I worry about my cervix because of the LEEP procedure I had years ago, and I've heard that can start causing problems in the second trimester. No workout has bothered me at ALL so far, so hopefully it isn't that. Guess I'll see in a bit.

I came on to work to wait for my appointment, though. The dogs were spazzing out about someone across the street and yapping non-stop, and DH is 4 hours from home working and having a HORRIBLE day and taking it out on me. I haven't told him what's going on today because he has a pretty bad anxiety issue and will go into a panic attack when it may be over nothing. I'll tell him later...

MindiV- egads I hope everything is okay. Let us know how it goes.

I just started working out consistantly (sp) Cardio with a little toning with 5 and 2 pound weights. I've gained my limit of 15 pounds, not sure if my Dr will say anything though..I figure I'll just keep in shape and eat as good as I can (which I fail at daily)

Yikes, Mindi! Keep us posted! Could be something minor but it's good to be sure.

I bought my pregnancy pillow on Amazon. http://www.amazon.com/Leachco-Preggl...pr_product_top They're all annoyingly expensive, but honestly, the comfort I'm getting makes it worth it.

My mom and dad are coming this weekend to help with the heavy lifting in moving furniture around. Also, our crib mattress got here yesterday, and the crib is due to come on Monday! We still have some major purchases to make, though - a glider/rocker (about which Sarah is INSANELY picky, so the only ones she likes are horrifically expensive), a long, low dresser for our bedroom (which will replace 2 pieces of furniture in there, our current tall dresser and our TV stand, so that we will be able to fit a playyard for the first few months), and a futon to replace the guest bed in our guest room since there is just no space for it anymore. My savings account is NOT happy!

Oh, and we ordered nursery paint samples, so we can pick a color and get moving on that. And it looks like we're going to be having a shower the first week of April.

I just love reading about all of the preparation you guys are doing! It reminds me of when I was pregnant with my first and setting up the nursery, buying clothes, etc. Now, I'm pregnant with boy #3 in 3 years and we live in a 2 bedroom house so there's not really any prep to do. :-/ It's nice in some ways, but does take some of the excitement of anticipation out of it all.

Enjoy it all, there's so much fun in the preparation!

Mindi - I hope everything is ok! I'll be praying for you. Keep us updated when you get a chance.

So here's the update:

Cervical length measured a 3, which the doc said is fine. He said they want anything above a 2.5. So that was good. And it made me feel MUCH better knowing it wasn't too short. He did a visual exam too, and said there was some discharge that could indicate an infection, so he called in a couple of medications to knock it out before it gets too bad.

As for what caused the bleeding, it could be the infection. Or I may have pushed it too hard on the elliptical this morning. :o Got to playing with the incline a lot and might have pushed it too high. May back off a bit from now on.

AND now good news!! After the sonogram dude checked my cervix he did another full anatomy scan "for fun." Brain was "great," heart "looks wonderful and strong," got to see the frontal view of the face for a second and there was no sign of any problems there. He measured the femur and said the baby has loooooooong legs. Still mostly leg!

And then....the money shot....100% girl!

Mindi, I'm so glad everything is okay and that the baby girl is healthy!

I want a pregnancy pillow, now. :D

I am very exhausted. I've a theater major and was in my last show this week before the semester ends. (There's two more shows to go but I'm not going to be casted and will just do wardrobe or something.) Anyway, I was playing Charlotte in "Charlotte's Web" and had to climb up and down the ladders for 8 shows this week. I am going to drop dead now and I have two more shows to go this weekend. I haven't told anyone in the cast I'm pregnant but anyone who complains they're tired I want to smack them. I am so physically worn out. I'll be so glad when this weekend is over!

On another note, performing for 500 five year olds is making my heart melt. They're so cute. It doesn't help me make my decision of what to do any easier. There's nothing better than a little child you don't know come up to you and give you a big hug. :)

And I'm very scared I'll miscarry still. I'm nine weeks along, but I'm still so worried.

Mindi - So glad it was good news from the doctor!!!!! <3 <3 <3

Sakai - Just curious... how come you have a 'cap' of 15 lbs weight gain? Cardio is good, just remember to listen to your body! My friend said something funny about eating healthy. "You can start eating right at any time. Even in the middle of a bag of potato chips! The first step is to take your hand out of the bag." :D Eating healthy is easier than we think!

Amanda - What is it about the people we love having expensive tastes? ;-) What colors are you thinking about for the baby's room?

racrane - I want to smack my friends who complain about anything... "I've been under the weather the past two days" "Yeah, well I'm under the prengant for the next seven months! Get over it!" I try really hard to be nice, but some days it's extremely difficult. I think we are the same # of weeks along, or very close :) My estimate has been between 8 and 11 weeks.

Today was an interesting birthday... I had my interview (mediorcre at best! ugh :(). Then DH and I toured the birthing facility... it is GORGEOUS and I'm frustrated that it isn't covered because I'm in another state, we will keep looking in this state. Or, save like crazy and pay out of pocket. THEN DH took me out to lunch! I really wanted pizza (I'm sensing a theme, I think pizza is my go-to pregnancy food) but the place I wanted to go was closed down! :mad: So we went to a chinese buffet instead. I noticed that, in the past when I have gone to buffets, I can down 3-4 plates without batting an eye... Now, I can barely get through 2. It's not a bad thing in the least! I just wonder if cleaning up my bad eating habits has helped me not eat as much, or if it's the baby.

Mindi- Happy to hear it you got great news and 100% confirmation of girl!!! Maybe you guys can do some more shopping now if hubby will participate.

Racrane- Have you had an ultrasound yet? If you know baby's healthy and on track, there's much less of a chance to miscarry(though it could always happen.) If you haven't had any warning signs, I wouldn't worry much. Everyone i know who has a pregnancy pillow says it helps them sleep wonders. I however have a sectional with ten oversized pillows. I've put half the pillows on my bed and never slept better in my life! It cushions me in every which way I sleep. DF works overnights so I don't have to share my bed either. And the exhaustion should eventually get better. I remember both times it was horrid but it does get a little better.

Bianca- Happy Birthday! Two months is such a long time to wait for an ultrasound. Do you not get a first trimester one to estimate a due date?

Sakai- I understand the eating habits. I try to eat healthy but fruits and veggies and salad and stuff just make me sick =/ Did your doctor set a 15 pound gain limit or did you?

Speaking of all the decorating, glad I have cheap taste- anything black makes me happy! LOL I did end up getting an espresso nursery set but only because it was almost two hundred cheaper than buying the three pieces seperately in black. I wish I could paint the walls!

Gale- No fun you don't get to decorate for this little boy. Maybe you can find some ways to tweak the room! How odl are your other boys?

Manda- I don't know her style but we got our glider from shopko. It's a 360 swivel(both chair and ottoman). We got ours on black friday for cheap but they're usually on sale for about $140-$170 even though they normally cost around 300 around here. Maybe you could check into that!

Mindi - glad to hear your baby girl is safe and sound!

Welcome Bianca

Everyone else is very busy!

Just had my son's 4th birthday party tonight :) Can not believe he is going to be 4 on Sunday!!!!! The other night I was putting him to bed and he asked me where the baby was again and when I pointed to my bump he gave it a kiss and said "I just kissed baby" :D

I had an ultrasound at six weeks. She said she noticed there was a healthy heartbeat going on and everything seemed normal. So I know the risk is lower, I just worry. That's kinda normal for me. My boyfriend says I should relax because our baby will be born stressed like me.

Happy Birthday Bianca! :)

Keller, I actually asked the doctor about getting the ultrasound but she said I should wait. I don't really understand why. I don't think I was clear with the staff when I scheduled my appointment because they gave me another urine test to see if I was pregnant (I did that about 3 weeks prior to my appointment)! When the doctor came in and said "You're pregnant!" I just looked at her and said, "I know. I thought we were doing an ultrasound?" then she said we'd wait until my next visit. I guess because I had the pregnancy confirmed at another place and I wasn't clear with the staff as to the nature of my visit when I went to their facility, they assumed I was getting tested for the pregnancy? :?: I dunno. They used the little circular chart and my last missed period to estimate my pregnancy. I got frustrated because I have irregular periods in the first place, and I don't have bleeding with my period but I have everything else, so it was difficult enough for me to estimate when my last period was!

I've been reading up on KY laws/regulations surrounding births, and I have to say that we are having only this child in KY, if we have it in KY at all. There are no CNMs (which means no water births) only Direct Entry Midwives--and none in the city I live it, which is one of the larger cities in the state!!!!! :mad: Homebirth is practically illegal here, but if I want to get the birth that I envisioned, that's pretty much what I'd have to do. I doubt highly I'd be a "candidate" for safe homebirth because of my weight, my Rh status (I'm Rh positive), and my family history for diabetes. All of these things separately knock me out of being classified as healthy (much less all together), so a midwife would probably recommend I go to a hospital anyway. I just don't want to shell out $3k to have this baby the way I want as opposed to paying zero dollars to stay in-state and get a generic hospital birth.

*sigh* Sorry for the long rant. I want to punch my roommate for being inconsiderate over the past few days, but I don't think he fully understands the things that he's doing are wrong or inconsiderate or rude. He's a teenager trapped in an adult's body, and short of chucking him off a bridge, I don't know what to do with him. I had to sit him down multiple times to tell him to keep his noise level down (he plays loud, terrible music at night... I guess to help him sleep but this is why we have headphones! in the mornings he gets up and loudly plays video games or loudly watches--and comments and laughs at--the television) and to tell him to stop telling people that I am pregnant. He told his boss (also DH's boss) that I am having a baby. DEFINITELY not his place!!!!!!! He also believes that because I have a car and he doesn't that just because I am driving somewhere that I will "drop him off" wherever he's going (or somewhere near where I am stopping) and not have to pay me gas money. He makes more than DH and I and yet he's too cheap to give me $5 for taxi-ing him around. :mad::mad::mad:

EDIT: Thanks for the birthday wishes all. I was just focused on frustration!

Mindi, in an effort for us to continue our pregnancy twinship, I started bleeding/spotting tonight. Of course, since my midwife office was closed and it was 9pm, she had me to go the ER. Everything was fine, and they're not sure what caused mine either, but it had stopped by the time I got there. But man, I was in a PANIC for a while there. In the ER waiting room, my blood pressure was 157/85 (normally I'm 112/65 or thereabouts). Which of course meant they had to do a whole pre-eclampsia workup. Of course, by the time they had me listen to his heartbeat and had checked to make sure my cervix was fine, my blood pressure was back down to normal. I was worried! I AM having Braxton Hicks already, though (which was confirmed on the monitors). They're short and I can barely feel them, but it's a little early to be aware of them!

He sounds great, though, and everything is fine, cervix is closed, so yes, I'm saying that this was just the universe making me and Mindi twins, again (and our boy has loooong legs, too!! Seriously, are we secretly related?)

We do appear connected this pregnancy, Amanda...how weird!! My BP was 120/64 yesterday...it normally runs 106/54. So "normal" was "high" for me. The baby's heartbeat was pretty fast too when the doc heard it with the doppler in his office, so I tried to calm down. I'm not having any BH contractions that I can feel...but in spite of what DH thinks I do have a higher tolerance for pain and discomfort so I may just be ignoring them.

I kinda think maybe I overdid it on the elliptical yesterday morning. I was feeling good so I picked up an extra five minutes...and pushed a little too much as well. I really love the new elliptical and can't wait to really see what I can do on it! But I guess I'll have to.

I was just thrilled to hear that my cervix is fine so far. I was really worried about that!

On the legs, I need to look it up. Should the baby be proportional at this point, or will all babies' legs be long around 24 weeks-ish? Hmmm....

Amanda & Mindi - So glad everything was A-okay! I know it has to be a relief to get confirmation that your babies are healthy.

I'm so twitchy, just three more days until I find out the gender. I'm so excited. My Mom really wants a girl, my husband's family wants a boy... I just want a baby :) It's certainly starting to sink in that it's all real.

Keller - My oldest turned 3 at the end of November and my second one is almost 17 months old. This one will be our third boy in 3 1/2 years. Life is definitely not boring around our house! :)

I'm kind of curious. I'll be ten weeks in a couple days and I really don't feel "pregnant." Yeah, I'm queasy but that's been about it. For all of you, when did it hit you that you really were pregnant? Because asides from no periods in two months, it just doesn't feel real to me yet. Anyway, I was just curious.

Oh, and I'm quite the emotional type today. I live in the dorm hall at college and saw a little black cat wandering around outside in the freezing cold. (I live in Wisconsin.) I started sobbing hysterically to my friend about all the poor animals out in the cold. She just started laughing at me.

Racrane - honestly, it was when he started kicking regularly. The little flutters did it a little bit, but it was the big kicks that really convinced me.

We got so much done this weekend! Nursery is emptied of all of the old office stuff, we picked out paint colors, and we set up my office and treadmill in the other room. Plus we took care of some other maintenance stuff, stocked the house with groceries and farmer's market goodies, and took 2 truckloads of random stuff to Goodwill and the dump.

I think we found a glider we like at Target, so that's good! Crib/changing table combo gets here tomorrow, and I just know that with our OCD, we're going to insist on assembling tomorrow night. The mattress is already here - we splurged a little and got an organic one. The way I see it, there is almost no surface his head will be close to so many hours as his mattress.

Same here, Racrane...when I started feeling movement. Really it was at the sonogram I had before the one on Friday. I saw the baby's little mouth opening and closing, and the little hand up by her face, probably grabbing her ear, and it was opening and closing. It really hit me right then that I was having a BABY...not some science experiment. Took me a long time and I felt horrible forever that I wasn't feeling connected to the baby.

We are still totally unprepared. Took me all weekend to find a few books DH and I want to read. HAVE to start shopping. We plan to do that this next weekend. I really want to look at this little "gently used" second-hand baby shop on Saturday before we buy anything new.

Biancasimone- My Dr. recomended that I not gain more than 15 pounds if I could help it because I'm at risk for Diabetes during the pregnancy. I've already gained 17 so I'm trying to work that number back down.

MindiV- Yay for girls! glad it was all good news.

Racrane- I didn't feel pregnant until around 16 or 17 weeks. I really feel pregnant now, but only because my stomach feels so distended(sp??)like I'm forcefull sticking my gut out. And I have to squat to pick something up, which is reall new to me.

I'm 21 weeks as of yesterday....and I still haven't felt the baby move. it's kinda bumming me out.

Sakai: I'm sorry you haven't felt the baby move yet. I hope it's soon for you!

I'm at that point where I'm just dying to tell some people, if nothing else to get their support. But I'd rather pass the 12 week mark first. I also can't wait until I'm further along to feel the baby kick, like Mandalinn and Mindi said. :) I'm definitely getting more excited now.

We told close friends and family before 12 weeks, but the news got out at large at 12 weeks. Just felt better keeping it as private as possible until then.

Other than being on here, I didn't tell anybody except DF until I was in the middle of my 14th week. Symptom wise, I "felt" pregnant at 3 weeks(before I even got a postive) because my nipples were super sore. Actually connected to him, around 22 1/2 weeks when he really started moving and when we found out the gender is when it sunk in that I was having a baby.

Dr appointment today went great. Fundal height was a bit bigger than average, but he wasn't worried about it. High 140's for heartrate.

Best of all, I do NOT have gestational diabetes.

However, I have Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction, which basically means a more severe bout of pelvic girdle pain. There's nothing they can or will give me and said i'm going to have to deal with it until i can't any longer because i'm too close to the end that pain pills could cause baby boy to have addiction in-utero. I was told that if it continues and gets worse(and it most likely will he said ) that as soon as I make it to 36-37 weeks and baby is measuring well on an u/s that we will begin talking about inducing.

Keller - did he recommend or have you looked at pelvic support belts? They supposedly make a really big difference for some people with SPD.

We told very close family right away, but waited to 12 weeks to tell most close friends, and went widely public/Facebook official at 15 weeks.

Manda- He didn't. I have a appointment in a little less than three weeks. He gave me some pelvic exercises to try and said to take tylenol whenever I feel pain to try and keep swelling down so it doesn't hurt as bad. We'll discuss other options if these don't help. I found some online a couple weeks ago and so far- they haven't helped and neither has the tylenol. But he still wants me to continue since theres different exercises.

He said I could try a weekly chirpractic session but my insurance is state-aid so it doesn't cover it unless medically necessary with referral from at least two doctors. He may give me a referral after the next appointment.

You might try picking up a belt to see if it helps.

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There are reviews from people with SPD who said it made a huge difference. If it keeps you comfortable while that baby cooks a bit longer, it's totally worth the 40 bucks.

Glad to see everyone is doing well :)

I felt pregnant pretty much right away, but it is my third and I felt so crappy for the first 16 weeks. I guess I started to feel a connection to the baby during the first ultrasound and seeing that the baby was a perfectly formed baby and I was further along then I thought I was.

We told my DH, my mom and my close friends as soon as we found out because I was in shock and needed to tell someone. Then my sister found out a few days later and my mom announced it at my nieces birthday a week or so later. We made the big Facebook reveal the day of our dating ultrasound, I was 11 wks 1d.

Went to my MW apt today but she was called to a birth 5 mins before we got there so we need to reschedule. Was a bit bummed because I was looking forward to hearing the baby's HB again. I am feeling squirms, wiggles, the occasional hiccups and a few kicks but not to much since my placenta is on the front. Baby has been pretty quite the last 2 days. I finally have some clothes and some small cloth diapers for the baby! So happy. I had given away/sold all my newborn/baby clothes and small diapers/covers and we have really no money to buy new stuff so I was feeling a bit anxious about not having stuff for the baby. However I went to check my act at the consignment store and had a 85 dollar credit! So I picked out some stuff and still have 24 dollars left.

Ok take care everyone!