Thank you, 65X65 and everyone for the kind words. I was DETERMINED that I was going to pick a dress that was far away from an old lady dress - like the kind I was forced to wear for years because there isn't much in a size 22.
Got a great pair of Ann Taylor heels that are a black, cream, and tan snakeskin sort of pattern which I thought went well with the texture of the black lace.
You are going to look and feel SO sexy in that dress and those shoes sound like they are to DIE for! How exciting for you.
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Amber... You know we all DOOO get it here. More than anyone else we understand.
It's a process and you are both the passenger and the conductor on this ride. You just don't get to pick which hat you wear on which day. Sometimes you need to reward yourself for staying the course though...Something just for you that says..you are special...and you are sooo doing the right thing. I'm a big fan of that, and no matter how small your budget...New nail polish...a bubble bath soak {even at 10PM after the kiddoes are in bed} with music don't cost much....that new book by your fav author...a new bracelet? Even fresh flowers on your table. That is a reminder of all the stuff you did not put on your table or bring into the kitchen to eat recently....and that you are on track.
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Amber..look at how far you have come...what is your average so far per month? Over 15 lbs??? Girlfriend...you are a champ!! And also look at all the posts about how sometimes the weight does not relate to the size you want to be, but you look good!!!!...It takes time for everything to get to a level playing field.
Truth or dare time:
You will be seeing the really hard work from now until your goal or stopping point is hit. This is where the rubber hits the road...and your perseverance will make all the difference in going those last miles.
We are all different, but there are a lot of recurring themes in the journey. It took me all summer to lose the last 20 lbs last year...and before that, I was trucking along at an 11 + pound per month average for the first 4 months...and wanted to keep going at that rates. My head was calculating my numbers for each and every event all summer.... So..Reality check for me. It did not happen that way. The fact it slowed down was apparently not unusual. It was also not unusual that was not OK with me....
What did happen with the slower lbs coming off though was INCHES. Melting..MAN-o-MAN...I needed new britches every 10 days last summer it seemed...so relax...enjoy your progress...see where you are at vacation time...It is hard to imagine you are NOT going to happy with your progress...!!! You are already way ahead of where you were at the beginning of 2014..right???
Such wise, encouraging words, and great advice. This forum is so inspiring and is a definite lifeline for everyone -- both the newbies and the veterans.
Had a super rough work day today..was so upset when I got home. All I wanted to do was dive head first into the bag of jelly beans leftover from Easter. Luckily, I didn't, but I am ashamed to say that the thought even crossed my mind to cheat. This really is a mental game as much as it is physical...
Had a super rough work day today..was so upset when I got home. All I wanted to do was dive head first into the bag of jelly beans leftover from Easter. Luckily, I didn't, but I am ashamed to say that the thought even crossed my mind to cheat. This really is a mental game as much as it is physical...
I just learned how to do dancing for you, RosieRosie to celebrate your move to "normal". What a great felling that must be. I am determinedly working my way down to being "overweight".
I recall when I was in college getting a letter from my late mother that she was concerned that I was obese. In those days we did not have those handy calculators for this sort if determination. Being a teen, I challenged my Mom who loftily told me anyone 10% over their ideal weight was obese.
Now I loved my mother dearly and yet the pain of that situation stays with me 40 years later. For me personally, the true tragedy of the whole thing is that it has taken me all those years to get a handle on my weight.
That was an age for me when ambitious daughters and very successful professional mothers could find themselves at emotional loggerheads. I do not know even today whether my mother was trying to be helpful or whether it was a mother vs daughter sort of moment.
I do know that if she had an idea the lifelong pain that sort of comment/help caused, she would have been distressed.
Hard when those who love you have such great power to hurt at exactly the place they should have been helping.
So I look forward to getting out of obese in 12 more pounds!
Thanks for the dancing carrots Schenectady!! Made my day.
The relationship between mothers and daughters is so fraught with danger. And you are right in that if your mother knew of the distress she had caused for such a long time, she would have felt awful.
The best news though is that you are working on yourself now (no matter how much time has passed) and you are amazingly successful at it. I have really appreciated your honesty in this journey. You describe the emotional side of weight loss so well - it really resonates with me. I am so looking forward to seeing the picture of you in that dress! And I want to hear when you move out of the obese range. You are so close! You are going to rock it!
I had a colleague who I haven't seen in a while - works on a different floor - tell me that I looked amazing today. It definitely came at the right time as I've been feeling a little tired and maybe a bit blue at the moment. The weight loss is slowing down as I get smaller and sometimes I just want to take the easier route and get take out on the way home and say yes to the chocolate on offer at work. But taking the easy route was what got me here in the first place and now I've picked my 'hard' and I'm working on it. Here's to another successful hour, day, week and month on IP.
I had a colleague who I haven't seen in a while - works on a different floor - tell me that I looked amazing today. It definitely came at the right time as I've been feeling a little tired and maybe a bit blue at the moment. The weight loss is slowing down as I get smaller and sometimes I just want to take the easier route and get take out on the way home and say yes to the chocolate on offer at work. But taking the easy route was what got me here in the first place and now I've picked my 'hard' and I'm working on it. Here's to another successful hour, day, week and month on IP.
I've been out-of-sorts this week and had a colleague do the same thing to me.
She actually called me "tiny".
Now, I'm far from tiny with 20 lbs before I get to the normal weight range but the people who knew me well know how BIG I was! It really felt good, esp in a week I've been tired, hungry, and dealing with gut issues. Its been one of those weeks that I feel diet fatigue, BIG TIME.
April 24, 2014 - Think Thin Thursday Tip (Beck Diet Solution)
If you think, “Dieting is too hard, it’s not worth it,” remind yourself that dieting is hard but the benefits of weight loss make it worth it. Telling yourself "it’s not worth it" is an excuse to give up and not try. Keep working on it! It does get easier over time.
I'm working overnights this weekend and my official weigh in day is typically Saturday morning when I first wake up. I'm wondering when I should weigh in now since I'll be awake/working from 7pm-7am Friday, Sat and Sun....
I'm working overnights this weekend and my official weigh in day is typically Saturday morning when I first wake up. I'm wondering when I should weigh in now since I'll be awake/working from 7pm-7am Friday, Sat and Sun....
I find that when I have to rotate on my overnights I better bring an extra couple packets because the whole sleep depravation can play tricks on my mind and I need a back up plan. I always throw a jar of pickles in the fridge. the girls laugh at me but they might grab one too! good luck
I find that when I have to rotate on my overnights I better bring an extra couple packets because the whole sleep depravation can play tricks on my mind and I need a back up plan. I always throw a jar of pickles in the fridge. the girls laugh at me but they might grab one too! good luck
Awesome tip!! I'm packing pickles and a few back up unrestricteds.....maybe I should bring some extra lettuce too!
Weird question for married women...since I've lost weight my husband has this fear of me getting raped. Anyone else have something like this happen? How do I make him feel better? I think it's slightly funny....but I also don't want him to freak out when I am out at night (sometimes I have to be, for school and stuff) and he's really worried about a mission trip I'm going on this summer. Anyone have any advice?
Weird question for married women...since I've lost weight my husband has this fear of me getting raped. Anyone else have something like this happen? How do I make him feel better? I think it's slightly funny....but I also don't want him to freak out when I am out at night (sometimes I have to be, for school and stuff) and he's really worried about a mission trip I'm going on this summer. Anyone have any advice?
Holly, relationships can be weird things! Your husband is getting used to the new you and it can bring out a lot of fears and insecurities sometimes. We not only have to be patient with ourselves, but with those we love too.
I suspect he's mostly worried that men will start noticing you more and you'll start comparing him to other men - keep reassuring him that you love him and will be careful and cautious. Of course, I could be wrong - it's happened before!
Weird question for married women...since I've lost weight my husband has this fear of me getting raped. Anyone else have something like this happen? How do I make him feel better? I think it's slightly funny....but I also don't want him to freak out when I am out at night (sometimes I have to be, for school and stuff) and he's really worried about a mission trip I'm going on this summer. Anyone have any advice?
I'm not sure that this will calm his fears, but in back when I was college I volunteered at a women's mental health center. They had a group therapy program for rape victims, and I can tell you that rape victims can be of all ages, sizes, and shape. Rape occurs at night, and it occurs in broad daylight. One woman was actually targeted because she was very heavy - her attackers said that they knew that she would have a hard time fighting them off and running away. In short, your previous weight didn't protect you from sexual assault.
Are you required to be in a more dangerous setting than you were previously? New campus? Parking lots? New neighborhood? Is it just your weight, or has anything else changed? Do you carry a safety whistle? Buying one might help him relax. If you're in a dangerous neighborhood he might feel better if you asked him to pick you up, or walked with a female friend. Walk in well lit populated areas. If you drive, ask campus security to escort you to your car. (I'm sure you know these things, but by explaining to your husband he might see that you are already aware of personal security.) I'm afraid I don't have any other suggestions, other than letting him help you plan for your safety. If he feels involved, he might worry less.
Question of the day: My boss is taking us all out to lunch today. I have only been with the company for 7 months and I feel that I should go for political reasons. The place they chose: serves mostly bar food. I checked out the menu and called the restaurant to ask a few ?? and discovered there is absolutely nothing on the menu that is IP friendly. I hesitate to bring my own food and order a side salad because it will be a small group and surely my choices will be noticed and commented upon. So either I go and get talked about or I don't go and get talked about. Or maybe no one will even notice.
How exciting for you.
You know we all DOOO get it here. More than anyone else we understand. 
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