ts been 10 months today since my boyfriend and I offically became a couple, and we met on POF. Just have fun, and dont worry if it doesnt work out - at the least you get a good meal out with some one!
WOW - thanks everybody for the advice. I love reading all of your success stories. The big day is tomorrow - and I'm just going to swallow my nerves and go with the flow.
Still paranoid - but like you said - I'd probably be paranoid no matter how much I weigh.
I will update after the date and let you all know how it went. Jerk or one of the good guys?!
It's so funny this topic was brought up because I'm going through the same thing. I've online dated off and on for about the past year. I've gone on probably 7 dates or so. I was a lot confident before, but that has steadily declined. Nonetheless, I was seeing one guy from OkCupid for about 9 months. I really started to fall for him, but he didn't want to get into anything serious since he's joining the Navy in 2 months. It has been really hard on me, but I've finally started to get back on the horse. I have been exchanging emails with one guy through Craigslist. (Don't knock it till you've tried it) I've mentioned that I'm a "curvier" female and exchanged pics, and he's really cool. We've been trying to meet up for the past week, but our schedules have been conflicting. I decided to stop emailing him because I'm too scared. I feel like he's not going to like what he sees and hightail it. My self-esteem has taken a serious beating lately, and it doesn't help that I now have braces at age 23. Anyways, back to the point, I definitely think it's worth the try. You're beautiful and I'm sure that bubbly personality you seem to have will shine right through. If it doesn't work out then at least you tried, right? You'll never have to worry about "what if". I think I'm going to practice what I preach and give this guy a try. Hearing what everyone else had to say has really given me the extra boost I needed. Thanks guys!
naijachica09 - if I can go through with it - YOU can too! I'm tired of letting my weight hold me back from opportunities in life! I'm just going to go - meet the guy and try to be myself - have fun. Of course I'm terrified... but I'm just going to jump in and see what happens. Le Sigh! OMG - it's tonight! What am I going to wear?! lol.
I met my fiance off of POF We were both first timers giving it a whirl...we were each of our first online dates. It wasn't creepy at all, it was just a normal date.
I was around my highest at that point and I was also paranoid about it. But, I put full body pictures where you could very clearly see my build on my profile. As embarrassed as I was by those full body pictures, I'd rather have somebody know what they were getting rather than be disappointed when they saw me in person.
And on our first date, my guy said I was way prettier in person, hehe.
I just went on my first online date last Wednesday and I wanted to throw up when I got into the parking lot...but once we started talking I was fine! We ended up staying there for about 3 hours and we've been keeping in touch ever since.
I hope your date goes well, you are a beautiful girl and he's going to be so happy to see you! But I'm not going to lie...I still felt like the girl that was 90lbs heavier as I was parking my car and walking in. Your mind will play some funny tricks on you; but just go with the flow...and no expectations on the first date = no dissappointments!
although I've never done the romantic thing online, I've met lots of friends through the internet (some of them through a game I played for two years, and others through random forums where I've developed real friends and efriends alike).
Obviously stay in a public place for practical reasons.
BUT remember not to commit, give yourself some credit, a LOT of good guys are out there who would be interested in you if given the chance! Don't get attached to this one asap :P I don't care how good looking he is or how amazing he is among other things ^_^
You're worth the wait, date around and use this opportunity to make some guy friends to do some fun stuff with occasionally.
Its more important to grow up a little and find your self-esteem than to find a man asap.
Ditto, waiting to hear some details! Hope you had a good time!
I've been toying with the idea of making a POF profile, but am not sure if it's the right route for me. All the "reviews" of online dating so far sound good, but I'm still conflicted.
I met my husband on Lavalife many years ago We now have a 12 week old son, a doggie, a home, and are happier than ever I was SO nervous before our first date! LOL!
Ok this is going to sound harsh, but I'm allowed to say it because I met my man on pof as well.
Online daters expect the people they meet to be screwed up in some way, or else they wouldn't be dating online. Everyone believes themselves to be the exception. SO when the thing that's "wrong" is a 34 inch waist instead of a 28 inch waist, it's usually a relief. Because at least you didn't turn out to be crazy or have a tail.
My guy loves me cuz I'm not insane, and he's never dated anyone with hips before. He better enjoy them before they're gone...
Also, I'm surprised and then not surprised how many of us on a diet forum also use online dating. HAHAHA!! Finally I've found my people.
I met my current sweetheart (and I'd say the love of my life) 4 years ago online. I dated a guy from India in college, and though he turned out to be a completele a**, he introduced me indirectly to a friend of his back home, online. We became fast friends (via phone, webcam, etc) and then best friends... and finally about 2 years ago we decided to just be together. A year ago, I bit the bullet and went to India to see him and I'm leaving again in 3 weeks to spend another month with him. We're both hoping his job transfers him here within the next year or two so we can take it to perhaps the next level (living together).
If this 7000 mile online relationship can work, and as wonderfully as it is.... then ANY online relationship can work!
Muahahhaha
We're both hoping his job transfers him here within the next year or two so we can take it to perhaps the next level (living together). 
