I don't get jealous, really. Other people's tickers and stats motivate me. I want to be as successful as them. I want to look and feel as great as them. I stopped my diet for four months and gained back weight. I am just now starting to lose again. So, it is encouraging to see the tickers, and see that others have successfully lost. Especially you Eliana - your loss is very motivating because I remember before I became inactive that you were having a hard time getting the scale to move. However, you did not give up! So, seeing your ticker at 156, is very, very encouraging and inspirational.
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I definitely get jealous...but only really when my own weight loss has decided to pause for awhile - at which point I remind myself that I don't have any idea of how long their weight loss really took or if they're also stuck on a plateau at the moment and just as frustrated ~
I think your "75lbs lost" thing makes me super jealous! You clearly are very motivated, and keepin on track. Can you rub elbows with me? Maybe some of that will rub off. :P
Jealousy keeps us on our toes sometimes which isn't always a bad thing, but unproductive jealousy is the pits.
I'm very jealous of people who weigh the same as I do at my height and wear a smaller size/look smaller. And obviously everyone who is proportionally thinner.
I'm inspired by the maintainers and the people who seem to have it all figured out. I honestly sometimes feel like a fraud since I still struggle big time making the right choices and as recently as just a month ago I've had a pretty severe weekend blowout. It isn't easy for me and I've been at this for a long time.
I wish I had the wisdom of Robin, the dedication of Lori, and the enthusiam of you Eliana. I wish I could say that I've mastered this thing, but I sort of just plot of along still learning and even changing things that don't seem to work.
I'm not a genius at this. I'm more the C student who just gets by because he keeps trying even though it doesn't come naturally.
I don't get jealous really. I am happy for folks that are doing so well.
I do get sad, however, when I see folks who I went to Onederland with at the same time - right before my health crisis. I am so happy that these six months has brought them closer to their goals and farther away from 199. I wish it could be me too.
So many folks greatly inspire me - because losing a huge amount of weight is not easy task. It's really rare to have so many successful losers and many maintainers. People here are generous sharing their experiences.
Im jealous of all the people who get to shop in "normal stores", and also jealous of the people who can take their jealousy and turn it into something productive, instead of misery-wallowing!
Oh yeah. I'm definitely guilty of this. Participating in those "getting out of the..." threads really threw me for a loop. Until then, I hadn't really noticed how much slower I was losing than everybody else.
I agree with saef, I get far more wistful or hopeful than jealous. I don't NOT want that for them, rather I want to work and get there, too, and wonder how they do it (probably the same way I do, one pound at a time ).
I so, so want to be at my goal. It's helped me stick to my plan today, I know I just need to keep rinsing and repeating and I'll get there in time.
I don't get jealous of tickers or hefty pounds lost avatars but I admit to an inner snarl when someone of my weight or higher can fit into smaller clothes than I can.
And I literally have to close my heart when I read people say "I weigh X00 lbs. My boyfriend/husband/partner and I ....." For so many years I 'knew' that the only reason I've never achieved a relationship of significant emotional depth was because I was fat. If fat women have romantic partners, then it's not just because I'm fat; so what is it? I am not ready to dig farther into this yet but reading about it always stabs me slightly, because I know I've still got so much work to do.
Oh yeah. I'm definitely guilty of this. Participating in those "getting out of the..." threads really threw me for a loop. Until then, I hadn't really noticed how much slower I was losing than everybody else.
I stear clear of those threads! They frighten me simply for that reason.
Rosinante: I wish I knew the right words to say here, and maybe if I was ready to share one of my biggest inner deamons they would come to me, but just know that the right person is out there for you, your paths just haven't crossed at the right time/place yet.
I get jealous sometimes of people close to my age who can lose 1 to 2 pounds a week on 1400 or 1500 calories per day. Then I just have to remind myself that we are all different and that I am successful. I am just successful slower.
I so get it. Its like you are in my head, saying the things I think but don't acknowledge with my heart. Kudos to you for putting the words out there. Hugs all the way around.
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