Is it possible that I am having sympathy PMS? I ate LOTS of chocolate covered macadamia nuts last night. I don't have PMS for another 2 weeks. My body can't afford to be having 2 a month. I listen to all of us struggle and then one day we just fall right back into the groove so I know that we will all get back on track soon.

I have a serious green thumb. I will buy the sad looking plants and in 2 weeks they are huge. My specialty is ferns. I have to run by the garden store b/c I will end up taking a few home. I had to force myself last year not to buy any but now that I have this huge deck I am going to go all out.

I am running to have lunch be back later.

Hey girls! It's been a year at least since I"ve posted here. God almighty, you girls can talk up a storm. Last time I was here, it was like 10 pages... woo hoo! kay, so my computer is broken, and I"m waiting for the computer geek at work to fix it, or pronounce it dead. In the meantime, I've been acruing e-mails in my inbox like crazy,a nd feening to get back here. I"m at work now, scheduled a light day, so I could get here for once.

Still beign a good girl. I quit the Aerobics class yesterday, after being pulled in many directions. Work is hectic, and knowing I can't be wiht hubby, cause of that class, is upsetting, and getting into the car, right after dinner, and going to that class, for an hour, and then coming home, tired... not my idea of a way to decompress. I went to my favorite place this past weekend: Thrift Store! Bought some spring clothes, still in size 10, thank you jesus! ANd bought a couple workout tapes. One, a Boot Camp aerobics tape, that I've done 2 days ina row,a nd i'm feeilng muscles, I should've been feeling in my aerobics class, and weating more wiht hte 30 minute video. That says volumes to me. Not worth the fee and the time and the hassle.

SO, I"m doing the video, and weating, and working, and bought bigger weights, i'm up to 5 pounds now, which is sooo big a difference to 2 pound weights, trust me when I say.

And, I"m eating right. I"m weighing in at 145, bless that scale!!! Doing well,a nd hoping to look and feel good this summer. There, y update. I'll have to go back and read the posts, I feel so put o the loop lately. Sorry I'm so gone all the time. I"ll try to get here more often. Miss you all... still hanging in there!

Chris it is good to see you again. That is great that you are still doing well. I am sure thatI can speak for all of us when I say that I am proud of you.

How is the adoption process going?

Where is everyone today?

Hi girls, just got back from my walk. It's a balmy 39 degrees here today, but I was sweating when I got done. I finally remembered to take my sons cd thing with me and that seems to make you walk faster.

Angie: You are not a fatt momma!!! You have come so far!!! Pull those pictures out and look what you have done!! You are an inspiration. The PMS will pass and you will be back on track, so don't get upset. I still think your great.

Chris: Quitting the Aerobics class sounds like you made the best decision for you and hubby. Besides, you say the new tape you bought seems to be doing more for you, so thats good and you can be home and do it. You are also an inspiration. Hope the adoption process is proceeding as planned and wishing you all the luck in the world.

Mele: hummmmmm desserts? Well you can always mix up a package of sugar free ff pudding and top it with some coolwhip. Or make an angel food cake and top with strawberries and coolwhip?

Kempy: Wow someone with a green thumb? I bet your plants will love the new deck. I can see it now in my mind transformed into a garden oasis. Remember to post some pics for us to see.

~~Sandy~~

Thanks for the sweet words ladies. As for an update on the adoptoin process, we've been receiivng wonderful letters of reference, but still waiting for the 'oh-so-important' letter from my Dad. I'm curious about his opinion. I think he's stalling on purpose, because he doesn't know what to say. I'm trying to light a fire under husband, to get him to ask people for references on his side of the fence. I'm on overload, but he's running short. Of course, we've got pastor's letter, and Mom's letter, they both mention Chris in them, but Chris needs to find people to speak specifically about his character. He's stubborn, and is nervous to ask people for it. Well, he better hurry up ---

Cause the Social Worker is scheduled to visit the house, for the first interview of I think 4 total, on Sunday afternoon. Pray that we aren't so nervous, and that she says she's meant to be our advocate, not our judge in this process. We're vulnerable enough as it is. So, that's what's up with that. ALso, I'm planning to create a scrapbook on the whole story, with copies of the reference letters, and the emotions and stories that went into it, from beginning to end (baby)... should help pass the time whie waiting. Pray for strength and patience for both of us.

Where do I start? I could see myself going way off of the plan today!!!!

Heres what happened. Last night we were getting ready to go to the sons play. Well everyone got to eat supper but me after I cooked the damned turkey. But I had to get everyones butt moving, get the video camera ready and get my turn in the bathroom. Well finally we are ready to go and I look and hubby is only in his Shirt and unders. Well I said are you going with us or what? He said, what time do you have to be there? I said we have to leave NOW, I have to drop Lexi off at my moms and pick your mom up because she wants to go and Evan needs to be there at 6. Okay, he says I will meet you there, so this ticks me off a little!!! Then when he gets there he walks in with one of my best friends and her daughter who decided to sit behind us. Well I told dh he could sit with us beside his mom, and she also said that, well nope, he sat with my friend. Mind you, I know nothing is going on, but she is a divorced mom of 3 and we tend to help her a lot when needed, like this winter he plowed her driveway for nothing because she could not afford to have it done. Anyway, I just think a husband should sit with his wife at a public function like this!!!! So this a.m, he finally asks whats wrong and I tell him and now I've managed to blow this thing in to a huge fight I guess, because when I asked for a kiss goodbye he said "NO if you want to drag something stupid like this into a fight we can" and I said I was only trying to tell you how I feel!!!! I mean really, if I had sat next to another man (friend) instead of him, he would have been wild!! Yes, we are both jealous people, not that either of us have anything to be jealous of, we are committed to each other. But, I was hurt and trying to explain that to him but have only managed to blow it to pieces. NOw????Do I stand my ground or what? He says its an insult to him for me to think that way. But even my friend looked up and said, oh my we are gonna have the whole town buzzing, you walked in with me and sitting with me. RRRRRRRRRRRRRRR, men!!!!!!

Any advice?

Teary eyed,
Sandy

SvelteChicky -
Good luck with the visit from the Social Worker.
If you seem a bit nervous, perhaps she'll ignore it, as I'm sure she's interviewed "adoptive parents to be" before who were nervous when she showed up. Keep positive thoughts in your head.
Everything will work out alright.


Sandy -
More details are too long to get into, but (in 1991) at BIL's wedding rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding, there was no assigned seating because hubby and BIL's parents were with me and we were given wrong directions to the restaurant....hence we got there after everyone else and there was no order to the seating since MIL had the task of the seating arrangement.
Everybody there was seated in no particular order, but they Were next to their spouse or directly across from them.
Except for me.
Hubby was his bro's Best Man, and he did NOT save a seat near him for me and I was livid (I was already p*ssed cause I'd been given wrong directions). I didn't say anything to anybody......and he didn't speak to me the whole time we were there, and I wanted to cut his throat for it.
The key issue was the humiliation of him not wanting to have me seated next to him at a table full of people who Knew I was his wife.....public humiliation.
He was clueless, and I was angry and got more angry over the next 48 hours, as I never had a chance to give him a piece of my mind for embarrassing me in front of the wedding party and a few extra people. Hence my anger bled into a few other areas, but not during the wedding or reception.

Men just don't get it, and most of them Never will. I think it's a universal genetic fault that can't be fixed. It may even be pointless to try to explain it to your dh any further.

But I FULLY understand your frustration and embarrassment !!!


If your dh continues to not understand what the big deal is.....maybe just remind yourself of this (it's what I did)......as long as you continue to be angry about it, and allow it to disrupt your life....They WIN (and they don't even acknowledge a disagreement).

Hope this helped.

Sandy I had something similar happen too. The only diff. was hubby was in a weding and I wasn't. At the rehersal supper the bride had the whole wedding party sit at one table. I had to sit with people I have never seen before. I am not a person to just start to talk to someone I don't know so I just sat there like a bump on a log and all night hubby would turn around and ask what was wrong like he had no clue. So, the whole night they sat around drinking and laughing and there I was by myself. Even the people at my table had moved and went to talk with other poeple after they ate. He still has no idea why that bothered me so bad. I think Gar is right it is a genetic malfunction.

Oh Sandy, I would have been livid too. I don't know what to say except that I agree with Kempy and gargoyle. Men don't look at things the way we do sometimes but I do see your point that he would be pissed if the shoe was on the other foot and there is no reason that shouldn't make sense to him. I hope you two can work things out. We are here for you to get it all off your chest though.

Okay girls, I am NOT losing my mind!!!! I have been eating and eating and eating. Like so much food that I don't want to list it for all the embarrassment. I went to Bangor today and I brought home Little Ceasers for supper(I KNOW!!! slap me). I had no bake cookies for breakfast and a Garden Sensations salad from Wensy's for lunch(Those are soooo good but not low fat at all!!!)

GET TO THE POINT ANGIE!!! Okay here goes. All this week I thought I have been losing my drive to diet but when I got home I started my period....4 days early this month and last month was 4 days earlier. weird huh? I have a massive headache, I haven't exercised today and I feel really crappy. Now I know I have done some major diet damage over the last week so I vow that tomorrow morning I am starting over and I am going to get this damn weight off once and for all!! I wished I knew why my PMS was making me so damn hungry all the time now though.

Do you think you need to change what you are eating? You have been eating the same things for awhile now. You body may be trying to tell you to switch that is why you are having all of those cravings.

By the way, shouldn't we start a new thread now that it is a new month?

Sandy, I feel for you. If it makes YOU feel better, consider this: All men are idiots and I married their king. I agree with the others though, some men just don't get it. I only got a chance to get here (the site) now because I've been in a meeting w/a sales & advertising rep that my hubby didn't want to make time to meet with. I use my time to meet w/this guy and make the finalizations, signed contract and all. THEN hubby calls me after the paperwork is signed and asks me what transpired. After I tell him the details, he gets all hot and bothered about why did i do this a certain way, I could've, should've done ... blahblahblah...I cut him off and told him that if he was SO concerned about it being done a certain way then he should've met with the guy himself, then I hung up. He's such a bonehead. The sales guy's been hounding him for months and finally since it was nearing the deadline he asked me to "handle it". :mad: So I did and that is that. I need a job. Does anyone need an assistant?

Anyway, I'm doing ok for now...stomach's growling since I haven't eaten my morning snack yet and it's almost lunch time.

Angie hang in there! You're lucky your TOM arrived and maybe those hormonal surges & cravings will calm down. Maybe you need to shake the variety of foods you eat up a bit. Sometimes if you eat the same things everyday you may be missing out on some vital nutrients from other foods and you're body knows it. Could be the cause of your weight slowdown too--your body just needs some time. I know how easy getting into (and falling out of too!) a routine can be. Eating the same 'legal' foods and not having to think about the fat/cals--I do the same things, except I 'cheat' a heck of a lot more than you do :lol: . Anyway, this too shall pass. You'll get your groove back soon Stella, I promise :D .

Anyhoo, the stomach is calling and I must heed the call. I'll check back later.

Wow Neolle! I love the new pic. I can really see a difference since you first started to post. You look fabulous!

link to new thread:http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/show...threadid=26303