[Kahokkuri]

Unfortunately, I have to agree with everyone who says that talking about weightloss as being a minefield. Even in my short time actively trying to get healthier I've noticed that people often disregard or actively attempt to sabotage my efforts. Come on, people, eating McDonald's is not compatible with what I just told you about eating healthier! Whatever their motivation, it's definitely tough to deal with harsh comments, people disregard your wishes or active sabotage. I also know what it's like to have a socially awkward guy point out something about my weight that I very clearly already know. I was able, at that time, to laugh it off, but sometimes I wish I hadn't.

Just like working towards a healthy lifestyle, one mistake in social interactions doesn't constitute a total failure; go back in on the next shift and be your upbeat, outgoing self. No need to re-hash the past. Best of luck!

[luciddepths]

He shouldn't have said it but he said MOST likely which in reality is true. Even if you fractured your feet you gained because you could not move even if you wanted to. I think he shouldnt have used the word lazy but the lack of movement is true!

After working with guys and being best friends withguys my whole life I've come to realize they can say things that hurt a girls feelings with out knowing it. He was just being frank.

Hopefully you two will be back to normal

[dragonwoman64]

I have all female co-workers now, in their 30s to 50s (boss). My boss is very petite, never mentions a weight problem or concerns about eating (she doesn't eat a lot), and eats pretty much everything. The other two women are maybe slightly over weight (I'm guessing 10 to 20 lbs, at most, to my eye, though I may not be the best judge). They talk about needing to diet and exercise. And being used to talking to bf and posting in this forum, I've gotten used to being a little more open than I think is wise. They're very nice, but I've had awkward moments, when I felt embarrassed about talking about exercise or what I eat. (it's like bringing my size into the spot light, and seeing skepticism in my dieting success, they've only known me a short time, not when I was much heavier.)

Having had so many discussion with a guy (my bf) about weight and weight loss, I do think they respond differently and what's been said about it here does ring true to me. I think guys tend not to have all the emotional baggage around weight and weight loss that women do, so they talk about it in a much less "diplomatic" way. As a generalization.