Kina, I am so sorry you had to go through that. I am amazed at how insesitive some people can be. When I was 265 pounds my kids had a kid over that they didn't know very well because we were new to the neighborhood. Well when they went to school at lunch that kid told them that their mom was fat at the lunch table. I hate to admit it but that hurt me in so many ways. I was emberrassed that my kids felt they needed to stick up for me and it did hurt me emotionally too. I still think about it sometimes.
I don't understand why people automatically feel they can call someone fat as a comeback. She probably doesn't even think you are fat she probably is just one of those low class people who think they can make themselves feel better by insulting others.
I would like to tell you to forget it but I know it is something you will never forget. All I can say is try your best to get over it because from what I can see you are a very BEAUTIFUL woman on the inside AND out!!! I hope you feel better.
You can lose weight but she'll always be an ignorant mean-spirited loser.
Talk about third grade level of name-calling! If you were wearing glasses she would have called you Four Eyes. And the honking honking honking. Jeez - obviously a little short on conversational skills, I'd say. Don't let her rain on your parade. You held your temper, you handled the situation with class.
The whole thing is like a lousy movie running thru your head - take out the tape and find something HAPPY to watch. LOL
I wish I could say that I've never been through something like that but I have. I almost got hit head on by this huge truck, he was speeding and tried to make a turn coming head on towards me. He went so fast he almost lost control and all I heard were his tires screeching. After all that the driver had the balls to roll down his window and start yelling " You stupid fat B__ch! get out of the way! I got pissed of course because here is a really large man,whichI clearly see his gut hanging over his steering wheel calling me a fat B__ch! I gave him the finger (childish) And the F-word too. He kept yelling the same thing " You fat B__ch! over and over. To make things worse my sister inlaw was sitting in my passenger's side I went about my business and went where I had to go. That whole day I kept remembering that man and what he told me. Words can and do hurt. That woman was just horrible tosay something like that. If she has a husband I'm sure he either talks to her that way or she talks to him that way. I've been with my husband for a long time. Its been a beautiful marriage with more ups than downs. No matter how mad or upset he can get he has NEVER,EVER thrown a "below the belt" comment about my weight at all.
One pet peeve I have is and I hope those who do this will STOP DOING THIS!!! Those people who find it their business to tell someone how much weight they've gained or how fat they look. There is always someone in the family or friends who does this. Believe me I know better than anyone else how fat I was,how many rolls and creases I had around my back,how many chins I had,how big my rear end was and what size I was wearing! I Could never brush off those comments. I would reply" yes thank you I have a full length mirror at home" then of course they would say" oh but dont take it so personal its just I have never seen you this fat" Yeah well I've never seen me this fat either . I know they're people who truly care and want to help and the words dont come out right.Some people just enjoy making comments fully aware that they will hurt. I remember a few of them being told to me " already on your second plate girl?"
"I cant believe you're this big !" " You're bigger than me now!" and that's suppose to be funny ,how? Now I know a lot of them are just thinking " Let's seehow long she lasts thin!" I'm not doing this to prove anyone wrong. I'm sooooooooooo doing this for how I feel and look ,inside and out!
Kina, I know it hurts right now .Especially right now that you've decided to make a change in your life and reach your goal. Our nerves at this moment are raw and so delicate. Trust me you will grow stronger from this. You will gain the high self esteem that you deserve.
Ahhhhh sorry for the long post but this hit a nerve in me!
Staying at goal is like working on your marriage. IF you quit things go downhill It's not as hard as some people think. I eat much more than I did when I was dieting in the beginning. Some days I eat everything super lowfat cause I dont find anything better to eat in my house lol . SOme days I'll have the mayo,Mcd or Pizza but all in moderation! Saturday I went to my nephews birthday in one of those " Chuck E Cheese type places. They had the thick deep pan pepperoni pizza,large chicken strips,roast beef sandwhiches... I knew I would eat whatver I wanted that day! I took 4 chicken strips with honey mustard.But my "Love" was there lol PIZZA! I had a thick slice.Then right when I thought it was enough I cut a small piece off another slice and had that too! That was enough and trust me my stomache felt it! I had a small light breakfast that day and a super light lunch. So things balance this way. Now today I'm back to my 95%fatfree turkey sandwhich with fatfree chips for lunch. Andddddd I'm headed to the Gym ina few minutes . That's how I've maintained it . I'm still working on it cause I dont want to keep eating in a way that I Very slowly lose weight every couple of weeks. I'd love toweigh 125 but thats really a number not a different look for me I think. I mean 4-5 lbs is not going to make much difference on me. I had my Goal Journal all written out with goal measurements of what I used to be. I had to lose like 40.5 inches total from arms,chest,waist,hips ,thighs and calves. I passed that and lost about 57 inches. So I'm at where I "Need " to be and not at where I dream to be. Make any sense?
ttyl,
Gen
Wheew... I feels good to be back in on the thread again. Boy lots of posts over the weekend. Man, I missed some stuff. OK I refuse to get on the scale right now. Mother Nature is here and she likes to bring her water bucket with her. I think I may wait until Friday. Is that ok?
Thanks Gen, That is what I did in the beginning. I ate out on Saturday and kept exercising everyday but for some reason it crept bak up on me until I just got depressed because I was doing everything I was supposed to.Then I just quit everything and I gained about 40-50 pounds this last summer mostly.Sad huh. I will do whatever it takes this time to maintain it because I refuse to be a yoyo anymore.LOL
Kempy, I missed you so much this weekend. I didn't weigh in on Saturday either same reason. I jynxed myself when I said we haven't really had snow for the last few Christmas' because we got hit with about 6-7 inches this weekend. I am off to shovel. Good exercise at least.LOL
Buy, I don't envy you. The thing I did yesterday for exercise was rake my back yard and pull these stupid weeds we have called dlloar weed. Do you guys get it up there? Once you get it it is almost impossible to get rid of it. You have to dig it up by the root. Not as easy as it sounds. I wish I could find a weed killer that would get rid of it.
Kina, you ARE beautiful. That freaked out, hysterical, classless, honking, sorry excuse for a woman is an idiot!! If she is going to honk her horn while you are trying to impart some sense into her.... her opinion shouldn't be worth much. She sounds like one of those Jerry Springer targets anyway. And I know it hurts. When I read those words it hurt me too, because I heard in my head every other time someone called me a Fat@$$... and that includes my grandfather... the rat *******... anyway, the point is that this mental patient isn't an authority in your life. She's a freak accident in nature... Believe me, she was just looking for something that would affect you. If she didn't call you a Fat@$$, trust me, it woulda been something else. Anything coulda flew out of her mouth at that time, I bet she has a whole slew of comments that should never see the light of day. Her internal insult machine was switched on and was in heavy rotation... you got comment "P" but a second later it would have been comment "Q." Don't worry your pretty little head about a thing. And don't take it personally, just know that her *** can get kicked just as readily as the next, and if I was there I probably would have been doing the kicking.
I'm neither a Lover nor a Fighter, I'm a Arbitrator who loves a good fight.
Kina , First of all have a hug I agree with everyone elses comments about this woman. My automatic response to people like this is :
'Wow, you're SO nasty- you must have really low self esteem, huh?" That always stops them in their tracks because its usually true. Just remember how special you are and that your life is obviously way happier than hers!
Kina, I am sorry I didn't say this in the first post I just made. I usually post first then read the stuff from the weekend when I get a chance. Everyone is right that woman sounded like she had some esteem issues. She knew she was in the wrong and was feeling embarassed about it and the only way she knew how to react was like a child. I feel sorry for her kid. I also hate that your dh had to hear all of that. You are luck to have her though. Esepcially since she is willing to help you see things in a brighter light.
Thank you all for your kind and uplifting messages. You all are truly wonderful blessings. This was the first time I had ever had to go through such an experience. Believe me I wanted to pull her out of her window by her hair but I thought of her child sitting in the backseat along with what would happen if I end incarcerated.
I have decided to turn this around and hopefully it won't be in a negative way. I know I have weight to lose but I am doing something about it. Her opinion is of no value but boy those words did hurt. If she had called me a B**ch it probably would not had phased me one bit. I never thought of how painful weight comments could hurt. At that moment and even now I look back on how I treated people of all walks of life and I am proud to say I never treated one person different from the next. Each person was special and unique.
I try to teach my children the same thing. And I hope that my 11 year old (Raevin) understands that even though she has the curvy figure and beautiful face doesn't make who she is inside. Vanity is not promised to anybody is what I always tell her. I just hope that by sharing my episode with her she understands people with weight challenges also have feelings and meaning in the world.
I want to say that without each of here I would not had had anybody to turn to and I would have had to hold it all in. I think it would have eaten away at me slowly but luckily I have each of you in my life and I have this site to cushion the falls. You are each very special to me and I may not mention it but you are very important to me and there is nobody that could take your place. I mean this for every one of you. I may have not met you all face to face but you are in my thoughts throughout the day and you are in my prayers every night.
Sending each of you many hugs and smiles. Thank you again for your overflowing loving messages.
Kina- I'm so sorry that woman ruined your day. I agree with everyone else. She is just an ignorant person. The fact that she chased you down honking just proves her ignorance. Don't let her take anything away from you, because then she won and got what she intended to do which was hurt you. People like that are just ignorant. You know they say what comes around, goes around and eventually someone will say something to her that hurts her and then maybe she'll regret what she said to you.
Angie- Thank you for the encouragement. I'm not sure I'll do as well this week. My TOM is here and so is the darn water retention! Argh! Sometimes I hate being a woman!
I hope everyone else is doing well. Take care. Di
How is everyone's Tuesday? Mine is going great so far. I got my computer last night at home. They are coming to hook up the dsl tomorrow. So, this will be my last day only posts. YEAH!!
I went about my business and went where I had to go. That whole day I kept remembering that man and what he told me. Words can and do hurt. That woman was just horrible tosay something like that. If she has a husband I'm sure he either talks to her that way or she talks to him that way. I've been with my husband for a long time. Its been a beautiful marriage with more ups than downs. No matter how mad or upset he can get he has NEVER,EVER thrown a "below the belt" comment about my weight at all. 
I agree with everyone elses comments about this woman. My automatic response to people like this is :
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