well my husband is not supportive in my weight loss. when we workout together he always shows off. and i can't keep up with him. he doesn't believe in me. 2 days after i started my "new lifestyle" we were talking about what we should eat for dinner and i said something low fat and he said "whats the point, you're gonna go back to eating what ever you want anyway in a few days." does anyone feel the same way? or doesnt have someone to support them or doesnt believe in them?
It is not the same for everyone. Sadly, sometimes the people we need most to support us either don't know how, or can't.
First thing I would suggest is talking to your husband. Saying that in order to help you, it'd really be supportive if he would not say negative things about what you're doing. Or that you'd rather he not bring you down.
The exercising thing could be different. Maybe he's doing it at his own pace, and it happens to be faster. How about you do it at your pace and be happy with it? Or work out alone without trying to compare yourself to him?
no you gotta see him. he really does this on purpose. by going super fast and doing funny moves that are not part of the workout then laughing. its all a joke to him. he even trys to make me lose focus and starts talking to me. he asks me stupid questions like if he's doing it right. he mocks me. and i did talk to him about it. thanks for your reply. i'll just wait till he's at work. i just thought it would be nice to have a workout buddy! ya know?
Maybe you can still find a friend to workout with... but unfortunately from what you describe, your husband won't ever be that buddy. A shame, but at least you can wait until he goes to work (like you've said) and do it on your own.
Maybe try telling him he is hurting your feelings. Guys joke around with each other in ways that don't bother them, and then don't realize we don't take it the same way.
Don't work out with him anymore, if he is going to act like a douche. I think that you need to stick with your plan and do it at any costs. Over time he should realize that you ARE going to lose weight and will stop with the shananigans.
Let him show off. Mabye he's trying to be a strong man in front of you and it's just coming out all wrong and silly. As far as eating, when he says things like that you need to tell him that it's 1. very hurtful, 2. not at all helpful and 3. will not be tolerated.
Then show him you can do it. I find that shuts them up real quick.
Last edited by LandonsBaby; 01-16-2009 at 12:14 AM.
Have you talked about losing weight before? Sometimes when you've brought it up many times and failed many times, men just want you to skip the big to do.. my boyfriend was kind of like that. He heard all the talk and saw no action. Then I convinced him how important it is to me, now I can't get him off my case to go to the gym, to eat healthy, etc.
Often the best way to convince people is through your actions. Just keep working out, keep eating healthy... he'll see. And yeah that's too bad you can't workout with him. I wanted to work out with my boyfriend but he's just not interested in exercise. Can't win them all!
i have complained to him about being fat and how i want to lose weight but after a few hours i always say i'll start the next day. but this is the first time that im commited! he apologized already, now i feel alot better.
Sounds good that he was man enough to apologize. It bodes well for the future that he was willing to apologize. After he sees that you are working at weight loss, he may turn out to be a big support. But even if he never becomes supportive, keep working at it. You are worth the effort! You can do this!
Actions speak louder than words. Show him you are sticking with it this time. Don't talk about it, prepare healthy meals, workout when he isn't there (women and men need different workouts if they are at different levels of fitness), do what you need to do - weigh and measure your food, keep a food journal, etc. It sounds like you have a history of half-hearted attempts...just like the rest of us. I wish you good luck and we'll help you reach your goal and convince him of how serious you are to be healthy.
I work out with my sister and she's MUCH faster than I am- but in the end I still burn more calories than her- which we tease each other about- but she's never really commented on the fact that I run slower or climb slower than her.
I did injure my foot a year ago so I'm so wary of doing it again. Because of that I am very careful with my workouts.
I do not work out with my husband because it's like putting a square peg in a round hole- 1 he doesn't want to do it. As for cooking I just cook what I want to eat- I told him I will not make a seperate dinner for him, he can eat what I make or fend for himself- after starving for a week he finally has started eating the food I make without complaint lol.
I just realized that all the weight loss has to be about me and no one else.
Honestly I prefer to workout without a buddy cuz I feel like I get more done on my own- my old buddies would want to talk while working out and I was like can't talk running! lol.
OH YEAH things have been alot better. Its week 2 and I am going strong. I even went to Mc donalds for my family and didn't order or eat one thing from there. came home and popped in a lean cuisine. (220 calories) WOO HOO
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he doesn't believe in me. 2 days after i started my "new lifestyle" we were talking about what we should eat for dinner and i said something low fat and he said "whats the point, you're gonna go back to eating what ever you want anyway in a few days." does anyone feel the same way? or doesnt have someone to support them or doesnt believe in them?
