Lori123321,
Oh my goodness. Just caught up on your posts. I will just say I agree with all who have responded to your heartache. Many many years ago when I went through my divorce and was left alone I had one thought that kept me going. I though of my life as a book (at least the books I read). Good chapters in my life, a few bad ones sprinkled in-between but always a happy ending. I know in my heart that everything will work out for you. Stay away from this guy and don't let him sweet talk you, move on. There is someone there for you AND YOU KNOW IT, maybe you have met them already and maybe not. Stay strong for yourself and your boys.

Oh.....AWESOME PIC!

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Loveamy,
Sorry you have had a couple of bad weeks. Motivation is sometimes hard to come by, just buckle down and start anew. You know how the plan works. Go to the store buy what you need, cook and prepare a few days worth of food and your will be off to the races. Think about how much better you feel when you are on plan and where you want to be. With the holidays coming up we are all going to be tested so the sooner you get back on plan the easier the holidays will be. Hang in there and don't give up!

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[QUOTE=rip;2981410]Lori123321,
Oh my goodness. Just caught up on your posts. I will just say I agree with all who have responded to your heartache. Many many years ago when I went through my divorce and was left alone I had one thought that kept me going. I though of my life as a book (at least the books I read). Good chapters in my life, a few bad ones sprinkled in-between but always a happy ending. I know in my heart that everything will work out for you. Stay away from this guy and don't let him sweet talk you, move on. There is someone there for you AND YOU KNOW IT, maybe you have met them already and maybe not. Stay strong for yourself and your boys.

Oh.....AWESOME PIC!


Rip - very well said - the book analogy is brilliant and oh so true. Offers all of us a little perspective to apply to life. Lori, you have loads of support from the folks here, considers us bookends if you will....take care and continue to nurture yourself. :balloons:

Thank you all. I can't tell you how much you guys have come to mean to me!
I was able to talk with him and say what I needed to say. I feel he really listened and understood what I was saying. It was good to let it out and feel like a load was lifted off me. He said he was truly sorry for hurting me. He also said now that he sees things through my eyes, he could see what a "@$*&" he was. He told me he never had intentions of doing anything with the EHDS but talk and laugh, he did not realize they had cut the two of us out of the conversation. He could see how that looked different from my perspective. I am glad we talked and he was able to see how his actions effected me. I am not sure if I will continue to be friends with him or not. That will have to come in time and with how he acts. I am not going to emotionally invest in him though.
I have enjoyed spending time with other friends. Lots of teasing about the 28 year old! I laugh everytime I think of it! Tonight I went to listen to some open mic night at a bar in town. I had ice water while my friend Scott had a glass of wine. It was in the bar area in a restaurant that my friends and I went to a lot. One of the guys who worked there was singing and he came up to me after and hugged me. Said he hadn't seen me in a while and I looked great. Told me he would try to find some single guys for me if I showed up more often!

Lori,
When I read your posts I just felt so terrible for you, that must have been an absolutely sick feeling and certainly breaks any trust you had with this fellow, unfortunately it seems his idea of a relationship is very different from the rest of us. I am glad you were able to talk to him about it though, I think he's had some time to think about it and make his excuses more rational sounding though so you are smart to be wary. I agree with everyone here though, you deserve so much better than that, someone who will love you unconditionally and completely, he's out there as rip says, maybe right in front of you, maybe you've never met him and maybe you have but he's there somewhere. All you can do is continue to work on yourself, making yourself happy and the rest will work out. Life is a journey, we never know where it will lead us or who we will meet on the way, some are with us briefly, others for a lifetime and our relationships can change daily. We love predictable sometimes but that's not always what we're handed unfortunately. I am thinking of you, hoping and wishing the best for you. In the mean time, have fun and enjoy your current company - Scott sounds like a nice guy. I know you already know all of this, you're a smart lady, but affirmation from others sure can help too right :0)

I can totally relate about the hesitation/motivation to get back OP. I had 5 days of totally binge eating (gained 8 lbs in 4 days) and went in to the center on Saturday to face the music and am glad that I did. I started Mediquick on Monday as a way to get my mind back in the groove and also it seemed like an easier alternative than having to plan my lunch for this week. I feel so much better now that I've gotten the crap (literally) out of my system. I'm happy to report that I went to WI yesterday morning and had lost ALL of the weight in just 2 days and today I'm down another pound. So I know it's hard, but just make up your mind when you're ready and jump back in before you go much further. I firmly believe that if I hadn't went in to the center on Saturday I would have continued down the wrong path. Just my 2 cents and good luck!! You can do this and you're SO worth it!

Lynn, that's kind of what the counselor i spoke with on saturday said. she was sooo glad i came in to "face the music" because if you keep putting it off (saying to yourself "i don't want them to be mad, i'll just wait until i lose these last couple of pounds i gained") it's less and less likely that you'll actually go in and more and more likely that you'll fall back into old habit. so although i'm not 100% back to where i was yet, i'm definitely back on the wagon and trying my hardest and i know that going into the center on saturday really made all the difference.

Leah,
I'm glad to know that you went in, despite all the things that are going on with you FIL! I told my counselor that it was very hard for me to walk in and as soon as I sat down I began to tear up and I don't know why, maybe it was just admitting what I had done. But I truly believe that if I hadn't have went in when I did that I don't know if I would've went back. Way to go and I'm proud of you!

I confess
 

Ok, so you guys have really been more support than you can even know. There have been several of us stuck it seems and I was one that was hovering around the same 4 pounds for the last several weeks and this past weekend I was just so frustrated that I guess I finally convinced myself it didn't seem to matter if I stayed OP or not. We had a family dinner at a great restaurant Saturday night and for a few days after that, I didn't stay OP. I stopped taking all the supplements, didn't pack my lunch, wasn't getting all the water I should, you get the picture. I have been so obsessed with the last .2 of a pound to get to sign the 50 lb board, but that just added to the frustrations. It's not that I was over eating or even eating a lot of junk food. I have ice cream at home, but I took a bite, then spit it out because it didn't even taste good. Looked around and the worst thing I had was a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and a glass of milk. It's almost funny that what little junk food in the house tasted so bad I wouldn't eat it. My NSV a couple of weeks ago energized me enough for a short while, but wasn't enough to pull me through these last few days. I had to buy some pants with it getting colder and they didn't have the ones I wanted in a 14 so I thought I would try on a 12. The 12 fit! Even with as frustrated as I was, Saturday night at dinner what did I have?? A 6 oz steak, salad, one slice of bread and one onion ring. I should take it as a good sign that even when I wanted to eat badly, I still searched for the healthier things on the menu and ordered the smallest steak they had. Anyway, I was trying to be supportive of others and thought it might be enough to get me through, thinking what I was dealing with was nothing compared to others problems. So, I have now confessed about my off plan days and the day before our mexican themed potluck at work, back on the right track. I will try not to let what the number on the scale dictate my mood and keep my head in the game to get to my goal by December.

This weekend I am starting the C25K(finally figured out how to load stuff on my ipod shuffle) and have a reward set for when I get to goal. I have always wanted to take ball room dance lessons, just for the fun of it, so that's going to be my reward. With or without the fiancee`! I think he will do them with me.

So I raise my glass of water to everyone who offers support/gets support, asks questions/answers them or just chit chats here. Thanks to all!:grouphug:

Hey Teresa,
These things can sneak up and catch us off guard sometimes and then we have a wonderful NSV like those size 12 jeans to remind us of how good it feels to have lost that weight and if we stick to it we will have more NSV's to come! Glad you're back with it, Wishing you the best :0)

p.s. I love to dance and have done a little ballroom in the past in my late teens, early 20's... I never took lessons, learned from an older gentleman in his late 50's/early 60's who was friends with my Grandmother and needed a dance partner. I've always wanted to take lessons with the hubby b/c I still love to dance and would love to get him involved but we just never seem to get around to it time wise. Great exercise and alot of fun too!

OK, so I know that everyone has already said this but I must add my 2 cents... I just tried the new DC Pudding and I agree, blech! Tolerable but not at all my fave desert any longer... boo hoo :( Oh well, back to Chocolate Drinks I guess :dizzy:

Great job for both of you! You both sound exactly like me on other diets. I never could get back with whatever plan I was on. you both went in and faced the scale and are back on track because of it. It gives me inspiration that I could do the same. Thanks.

They changed the hot chocolate too...It's still good, but not great like it was.:(

Noahsmama/TeresaG,

So proud of both of you. You faced the music and are forging on. Look at it this way when you fall off the MRC wagon.... If you actually fall you don't just lay down and not get back up, no you pick yourself back up and continue on, it is the same with your eating, if you slip up don't lay down. Pick yourself up think about what made you slip and continue on and try not to obsess about it. What's done is done, learn from it an keep going. But sounds like you know this already!

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thanks for the support and encouragement, guys, and i'm sending you the same!!