Hello my name is Dawn, I live in New York. I am 33 years old,single and living with my Mom. I have been gaining weight steadily for the past year. At this time last year I weighed 294lbs. My Doctor put me on Topomax. This past year I have gained over 50lbs. I do not know where to start or who to turn to. I need help. I am too big to do this on my own. I need help. I have given up on my Doctor and my life. I am afraid I am going to keep on gaining. I can hardly walk and have trouble breathing. Where can I go for help? This is the first time I have searched the Internet for help. Can you help me or give me any info on clinics or anything? Please I am running out of time. Thank you for your time, Dawn

Welcome, Dawn. You have made the first step into getting healthy...you have come here and asked for help, and there is a lot of it here. You are not too big to do this (on your own or with help). You know how you do it? One day or one hour at a time, what ever works for you. Start by making small changes. Drink more water, make healthy food choices, move more. Losing weight is not rocket science. Make better food choices, eat less and move more. It is that simple. Do you have a plan on how you are going to lose? I personally am a calorie counter and that works for me. There are a lot of different ways to do it. Calorie counting was my choice, because I can still have anything I want, just as long as it fits into my calorie range. If I deprive myself, off the wagon I go.

You can do this and we are all here to help. Post as many questions as you have, everyone is very helpful here....you have come to the right place.

Welcome!
I used to be on Topomax for migraines and noticed I gained a bit of weight on it. Now that I am off it, I have lost 16lbs.
If you have insurance, you could see a nutritionist and they can help you.
Also you can look into weight watchers, its an excellent program!

Welcome to 3FC. Believe it or not, there are a lot of people out there in the same situation as you. I know it seems like it's impossible for you to do this on your own, but there are more resources out there than you might think.

Do you have the option of going back to your doctor? Ask for a referral to a nutritionist and a counselor. Speaking to a counselor is the best thing you can possibly do. They'll help you find your way to all the other resources that you can utilize.

I would also recommend going to over-eaters anonymous meetings. You can find meeting times in your area by searching on google for the OA website.

If there's anything else I can do to help, feel free to ask.

hi iam very bad i fell like iam going to die and not be a round. i want to have a bf but there is no guy will date fat big girls likes us dawn. i need hlep please

Hey there Dawn, I'm also a Dawn and started out at 330 lbs, You can do this and you are not "too big" to do this on your own, And you wont be doing it on your own either! You have taken the first step to good health. Now you need to make small small changes every day to insure that you are (and will stay) on the right track! What have you started to do as far as change? If you need medical help I would go back top the dr or look for a new one someone out there can help you if you feel you need that kind of help, You are not alone and if you need to talk I'm here and know how you feel!

kelly i fell like i cant get a bf bc of my weghit it just hurts so much. please can u help me dawn

Dawn,

Have you checked out the 300+ board?..... there are a lot of people in the same boat as you.

http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=124

You CAN do this Dawn. Take care of you and the boyfriend may come later.

You are worth it.

hi i have been this way all my life. i need somone to love me for me

please talk i need hepl

of course you need someone thats going to love you for you but you still need to take care of yourself first, then worry about a boyfriend (I know easier said than done) ((huggs)) You can do this!

hi dawn please can u help me i like a guy like brett miacles that will love u for who u are. but i fell like iam going to die soon

can somone please im me that i can talk