I don't actually tally up my calories, except once in a while, if I'm feeling like the "eyeball" plan isn't working right, I will put up a few days on daily plate and also at that time check my protein/carb/fat balance. I still hang out with the calorie counters, since IMO, portion control is calorie counting, even if you don't write down everything every day. Plus, they are nice people, so come join us if you like! I mostly hang on the current holiday challenge thread on the Calorie Counters forum, listed on the main page under Diet Central (New Year's challenge right now).
There is also a General Diet Plans and Questions forum under Diet Central, or the Support Forum, Exercise forums, age group forums, you name it. Just cruise the boards, check out the chat and challenge threads or whatever strikes your fancy. Start posting in different places, and you'll eventually find a group or two that just feels right to you. Pretty much everybody I've met on this site is friendly and really accepting, and welcome all comers, so do jump in anywhere and start making connections.