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Originally Posted by skm0005
Blonde Angel
For what its worth, I have been thru much of what you mentioned re: marriage/divorce. I promise you, there is light at the end of the tunnel. I was controlled, lost every ounce of self esteem, worked full time, while raising our ( more like my) three children. I too, packed on the pounds and am now in a better place and ABLE to put myself first. It IS tough, and if you ever want to email me directly to chat, I would love to offer a warm shoulder and an understanding ear.
It's letting go and it's really hard. But once you make a conscious decision to move forward, your life will change for the better. You dont deserve to feel like this. Keep on making yourself a priority- You are worth every minute.
Sandy
Hi skm0005/Sandy,
I can't tell you how much I needed to hear every word you said. I'm in tears as I write this. I am so glad I found this site. I will be sending you a private message but I am going to say this for all to read in case there is someone out there like me.
As much as you may love your husband - If he has frequently been kind, generous and encouraging to others but singles you out to be cruel and has never really appreciated you as a person. Makes you feel that most of the time nothing you do is enough or ever right. Then, guess what, even though he has never hit you, you have been abused. If you feel no one will believe you because he's "such a great guy" - you would be surprised how many will believe you. I don't know who said these words, and I'm going to paraphrase, "Being me means I don't get to be loved". I 'm so far from perfect myself but if he's such a great guy, why am I in such pain? If these words are words you could say about yourself then seek help.
Well, I gotta go - The sun is finally shining today in the Puget Sound area and I am going to take a walk and soak it up!
Thank you so much,
Blonde Angel
