My boyfriend is a good 50 lbs lighter than me. I have to admit it makes me feel embarrassed because even at my lowest weight, I weighed about as much as he did. I don't know why, but I guess it just makes me feel less feminine. Even if I get to my goal weight, I'd only be like 5 lbs less than he is.
Of all groups (skinny guys, skinny girls, fat guys and fat girls), I believe fat girls are by far the most ridiculed by society. This could be why they are under such great pressure to diet. Being fat in and of itself does not mean being unhealthy. In fact, in addition to being healthy, many fat girls ARE INCREDIBLY STRONG!!! I engaged in various physical tests of strength (armwrestling, wrestling and weightlifting) against fat girls, some of whom were my girlfriends. Although I am a skinny guy, I am tall so I towered over each of the girls even though each girl weighed quite a bit more than I did. I was neither ashamed nor embarrassed to admit that I lost!!! In fact, one fat girl (my gf at the time) actually lifted me over her head!!! She and I were "play-wrestling" when she grabbed me and then she lifted me right up over her head!!! When she set me back down in a standing position, I couldn't help but blush !!! I blushed because while she and I stood face-to-face after she set me back down, I realized that I stood several inches taller than she did (a skinny guy, TALLER than the fat girl who had just grabbed him and lifted him over her head!!!). People better think twice before they decide to ridicule a fat girl, especially face-to-face. THE OFFENDER JUST MIGHT GET CLOBBERED!!!
My BF is about 5'10" and 144p and I'm 5'5" and 148p. :/ I really don't like that he weighs less than me but he's much smaller framed. I'm working on it.
Of all groups (skinny guys, skinny girls, fat guys and fat girls), I believe fat girls are by far the most ridiculed by society. This could be why they are under such great pressure to diet. Being fat in and of itself does not mean being unhealthy. In fact, in addition to being healthy, many fat girls ARE INCREDIBLY STRONG!!! I engaged in various physical tests of strength (armwrestling, wrestling and weightlifting) against fat girls, some of whom were my girlfriends. Although I am a skinny guy, I am tall so I towered over each of the girls even though each girl weighed quite a bit more than I did. I was neither ashamed nor embarrassed to admit that I lost!!! In fact, one fat girl (my gf at the time) actually lifted me over her head!!! She and I were "play-wrestling" when she grabbed me and then she lifted me right up over her head!!! When she set me back down in a standing position, I couldn't help but blush !!! I blushed because while she and I stood face-to-face after she set me back down, I realized that I stood several inches taller than she did (a skinny guy, TALLER than the fat girl who had just grabbed him and lifted him over her head!!!). People better think twice before they decide to ridicule a fat girl, especially face-to-face. THE OFFENDER JUST MIGHT GET CLOBBERED!!!
Sorry I don't believe you're a real person. This is rediculous.
This is a funny post and something I have thought about EVERY time I stated dating a new guy. I will say I always choose the same type. 6'1 to 6'4 between 200 and 250(highest). It never really had to do with the actual number on the scale for me with them though. It was their stature that does it for me. I am tall so I have never really dated someone shorter than me. I think it kinda goes back to the whole protector thing. He is tall and big and can protect me. My guy now is 6'4. I am not sure how much he weighs and it does not matter. He is not fat or skinny. He is a manley man. Broad chest, solid legs, nice arms, good midsection, beautiful hair (its prematurly grey) and a beautiful face. I love looking UP into his face and his smile. I like what it feels like to put my arms around him and feel some solid mass and how his arms make me feel protected. He loves the way I look. He tells me every single time I see him, multiple times in a day. If I don't see him he tells me on the phone or through text... Always starts out... Hey Beautiful... or Hi Gorgeous... or something more like "you looked so hot when you walked in tonight"...(such a nice feeling and so so sweet to hear). He saw me heavier and sees what I am doing now. We've talked about what I am doing to get healtier. He says he has gained 40lbs since we met a year ago. I can not see it. To me he looks exactly the same as he did the day I first met him. So in the end I think its ok to have a personal preference in size, height, weight, stature... men have them too and if your not it for him - you will find someone else that you are right for... thats always been my thought process.
My husband is 5'10 and ranges between 150 lbs and 165. I am 5'4 and when we met I was about 240. I have been as high as 280 and as low as 190 with him.
He loves me for me.
When I first met up with him that was my first thought, WOW! He is thin!!
My ex husband was 6'4 and ranged between 240 - 350 lbs.
So it took a little getting used to.
I think I used to be attracted to bigger guys cause I thought they looked like they could protect you better. I have since realized that isn't the case.
There are some men who are big but when it comes to confrontation are scaredy cats. There are some me who aren't as big but who know how to fight and are very capable.
My husband is awesome. He grew up a fighter and has lightning fast reflexes. He used to box when he was younger too. He is very strong. I always feel safe with him.
My past two boyfriends have been of bigger build - like rugby player build and both tall. Like 5'11/6' tall. And I'm a shorty at only 5'. The guy before those two was a skinny guy and again tall! But when we were together (we weren't officially boyfriend and girlfriend), I was 125lbs so I was slim myself. Regarding build or weight, I wouldn't have a preference to be honest. Once there is an attraction there, who cares what the number on the scales is.
My husband is skinny; always has been. He's 5' 4" tall and 120 lbs with his clothes & shoes on -- but, he's 122 lbs after dinner ... OK, I'm silly!
I don't think it matters; we all have self-esteem issues to address (my DH said he felt insecure for being skinny). Just try to accept that he accepts you the way you are. Looking at your avatar and stats, I don't think that you are overweight at all. It may take some time for your mind to catch up to what your brain sees in the mirror though.
I think if we could only realize that if we can love & accept someone the way they are, that they can too. I know it's hard though; cuz I still fight with this issue myself. It isn't easy to undo years of insecurity -- sigh ...
Last edited by Justwant2Bhealthy; 08-30-2012 at 08:56 PM.
My boyfriend is 5'8 and 156 lbs. he is Filipino so he has smaller bone structure and is a thin guy, but he is all lean muscle. He plays a lot of soccer and runs regularly. I feel incredibly insecure next to him, I hate weighing more than him. Now I'm only about 10 lbs heavier than his body is still much more fit than mine.
My current boyfriend has a pretty average build (6' tall, about 180 lbs...muscled but not jacked), but in high school I dated an absolute toothpick of a guy. There I was, 5'6'' and 180 lbs and my ex was 6'3'' and 135 lbs. He was trying really hard to gain weight because the other guys would pick on him, but it just wasn't happening. He was a sweet guy and we could have honest, interesting conversations on a million different topics, so the fact that we were so physically different never really caused an issue. At the time I did weight training for several varsity sports per year and could lift more than my own weight, so I would amuse myself occasionally thinking about the fact that if Tom laid reeeally still and stiff, I could use him as a weight and hardly break a sweat That was actually one of the few relationships that I've had that ended on good terms.
I’ve always found that a guys height is a bigger factor to me than weight. I dated a skinny guy who was roughly my height (5’5) – that felt bit weird to me, and I felt like “the bigger one.”
My current boyfriend is a lanky 6’4- while he has a skinnier build than I do, the height difference makes me feel like the smaller one.
He has no problem being leaner than me, and says he loves my "womanly curves." Which is sweet, and a big confidence booster.
I don't think these things should matter all that much...but I’m not going to lie—I do love that my awesome guy happens to be a foot taller than I am
!!! I blushed 
OK, I'm silly! 
That was actually one of the few relationships that I've had that ended on good terms.
