I was also thinking do any of you have any tried and true low fat comfort food recipes?? I love salad but when it is cold it isn't the thing I want to eat.... any tips would be great!
I was also thinking do any of you have any tried and true low fat comfort food recipes?? I love salad but when it is cold it isn't the thing I want to eat.... any tips would be great!
Homemade soup. I made soup twice last week and have several servings stored in the freezer. I made hamburger cabbage soup that is pretty low in calories. I also made ham hocks and navy bean soup a few more calories but so satisfying on a cold day.
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psychnurse- start small and build up from there. any exercise you like is good. the elliptical is great. I do it almost every day. you aren't going to gross anyone out! If I worried about that I would never have the confidence to go into a class or even go to workout. you're beautiful, you can do it!
bargoo- that soup sounds good. I like doing beef stew in my crockpot as well as pot roast and lotsa chicken recipes.
today I'm not working out but I'm going shopping later so that's gonna be a couple hours of errands and stuff.
rosebud, I am not an expert in your husband's illness but I suspect that he has enough awareness that he knows his actions are not quite his normal self. I bet he wonders at times why he does the things he does. What I am getting at is the statement that he is teasing you might just be a coverup or excuse for behaviour that he doesn't understand. rosebud, you must need the patience of a saint and I am praying that you can cope with this, it must be a strain on you.
BARGOO ~ that is so very insightful of you. I was just coming in to tell you that I thought the very same thing today. DH apologized for the teasing and told me that he was having a very hard time dealing with this condition. This was his way of coping.
Every time he can't remember something new, gets very upset. He cried today becuz he couldn't remember how to get to the grocery store. I told him not to worry about that, but it was the fact that he couldn't remember where is was that upset him so badly.
Then he reminded me how he had a "mental breakdown" after his first wife died and that he felt like that was happening again. I told him I had already suspected that, so that was exactly why I got him this new medicine from the doctor for depression and anxiety.
We spent our dinner praying, crying, and praying but it seemed to help him feel better (and me too). When he cries, then I do too becuz I feel so badly for him. I explained to him that the teasing was upsetting me becuz it's hard enuff to deal with as it is, but at least now I know that this was his way of dealing with it.
Oh, and talk about GOD-Inspired Intuition: today, I was feeling so weak and stressed -- my patience and mental strength felt like it had been stretched to its max; or sucked out of me like a vacuum. So, we prayed together on and off all day long for supernatural Holy Spirit Power & Strength & Peace. Prayer and/or Praise always seems to help me when this happens, like today.
Then we went outside to do some stuff and that helped get our minds off things for awhile. I made a list of things we can do over the month of November -- keeping busy can help us both in this situation. We cut and put out our indoor/outdoor rugs today; then we put out the markers for the bushes; and then we washed the kitchen cupboards and walls.
We do this big fall cleaning every November to get ready for Christmas, and the winter time is the best time to do indoor stuff anyways. DH likes to help me with all this; and today, he told me that it is helping him too. I think he'd like to put up some lights here this year, so I'll get him to do that too.
Spending some time outdoors in the always helps me feel better, so we did that for a little while too. I'll try to use my ski poles this winter whenever it is mild & sunny, like today was for a little while.
Thanks so much for your Prayers -- they are so appreciated at this time as we go through this ordeal (and it is an ordeal, trust me). I am as weak as the next person, and if it wasn't for JESUS carrying me through this, I really don't know how I could stand it. I kept thinking about you during your chemo sessions, asking Jesus to sit and hold your hand. I have been doing that a lot lately too.
We never know how something we have gone through or said will help someone else out, esp in a crisis; but GOD does and that's why sharing and supporting and praying for each other is so very important. We all will go through trials in this life and we need each other for that ...
BTW, I made homemade soups this week too -- chicken-veggie with noodles and tomato-veggie with dumplings. Today, I had a kind of chili soup for lunch too (I had some leftover frozen chili, so I added some chopped tomatoes & broth to it for a thick soup).
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rosebud, sometimes I just sing praise songs, they just seem to come to me, some I had forgotten about. Do you have a CD player, maybe if you could play some nice religious recordings it might be soothing to him.
So glad to read everyone's posts. You are all inspirations to me! Praying for each and everyone of you daily.
DH and I have been out of town for the last couple days. He had a conference about 3 hours away from our home & asked me to come along, so we left DS3 (who's 16 now) home with doggie and being slightly supervised by grandma (from a distance as she can't stay in our home due to her allergy and health issues). I'm so thankful that he's responsible enough for us to be able to trust him this way. But, I'll be glad to get back home tonight. Actually, being alone in a hotel room most of the time is a pretty boring 'vacation'. Went shopping a little, but, being as this is a pretty big city, everything's waaaay too expensive and, unfortunately, the clothes are still as ugly as at home, so I only bought some artificial flowers to put on our Christmas tree.
Tomorrow, we have to head out to DS2's college (3 hours away in the opposite direction) because he called Monday as we were leaving home with car trouble. The car is stranded in a Walmart lot in a neighboring town and he was fortunate enough that a classmate just happened to go to do her grocery shopping and saw that he was having trouble, so she took him back to his dorm. He helped repay her by using his employee discount card for her purchases We're not sure what's wrong with his car, but may be the fuel pump (which would be bad, because we'd probably have to pay a garage to fix it) or fuel pump relay (which would be good, because DH can fix that easily in the parking lot). Or.....could be something else I hate to think it, but it may be time to get him a different car...we thought this one would be a decent one, but we've had nothing but problems with it for 5 years. DH is working on replacing an engine in an old Escort we have and if he ever gets it done, it would be a good car for DS2 to finish up school with. Just too many issues going on right now and none of them getting finished.
Some of you may remember that my mom has bipolar schizophrenia and has been on court-ordered meds for the last 5 years. Well, she just found out that the court order expired a year ago this month and she was not notified of the change in status (which is disturbing on many counts, but we'll just let that go). Anyway, when she found this out, she called her nurse and told her not to refill the meds and that she wouldn't be needing her services any longer. So, ok, now Mom's off her meds. Last time she was off meds, it lasted 20 years and she was so nasty, combative, paranoid (people are after me, people are poisoning me, people are putting drugs in my home....), and out of control, we didn't even know where she was most of the time. She'd just pack up her stuff and leave because of all the people who were after her. She only ended up on the court order because she threatened to have the police chief here killed because he had apparently, in her mind, been paid by the 'people who are after her' to harass her and watch her.
Now, I've done some reading related to my own allergy issues and found out that wheat allergy can actually cause schizophrenic-like symptoms, so I've asked her to eliminate wheat, but I didn't tell her what I had read. Now, she's back on wheat, saying it was too hard and she gained weight the 5 days she eliminated it, so I guess I'm going to have a really hard discussion with her to 'lay down the law' and let her know that if she's not going to try to control this behavior on her own, we will have to have her committed again. If it could be as simple as eliminating wheat, I think she should do her best to comply with the diet. I can't let my family go through what she's put us through in the past. If anyone gets the chance, we could really use some prayers about this. The one good thing is that she no longer rents places to live. She owns her own trailer designed specially for her allergy issues, so she can't just cancel her lease and leave like she used to. She's pretty well stuck where she is and will have to deal with the situation here.
Sometimes I do wonder how I made it through my childhood and adolescence, with a Mom with her issues and a dad who handled mom's issues by drinking his way to oblivion every day, plus, being molested by a neighbor for a couple years. I've even had counselors ask me how I survived without becoming a drug addict or alcoholic myself and the only thing I can come up with is that GOD WAS WITH ME EVERY STEP OF THE WAY. People who didn't even know the full extent of the situation were praying for us. And, I believe God's angels were there keeping us safe at times when we were left on our own or riding in a car with dad way to drunk to drive. I remember driving him home myself when I was 13 and hadn't ever driven a car yet, but, in those couple instances, he knew it was safer for him to tell me what to do than to try to do it himself.
hmmm....don't know what brought all that back, except for being worried about Mom again.
Well, time to go pick up a fuel pump and pump relay for DS2's car and, then, see if there's anything to do until DH's conference is done about 3:00.
Thanks for listening to me vent a bit. Remember God is with us no matter what is going on in our lives. Our families are sometimes faulted, but He uses whatever situation we're in to show His glory and love. Praying 'without ceasing' for you all!
Ronni Praying for you and your Mom's situation. My babysister is evidently bipolar schizophrenia and my BIL calls me to tell me what is going on for me to pray for her. My heart goes out to him because my family seems to think everything is his fault. He and I both believe a lot of it is caused by things that have happened to her in her life... especially abusive marriages and she told him she's been raped when young. He went to prison for a little over a year and is now doing house arrest because he was getting drugs for her. He took the blame for it instead of letting her because he didn't think she could handle it. She won't take medicine and he is afraid to have her committed because he has promised her he will take care of her and see to it that she is never raped again. The said thing is that with him on house arrest she is able to off by herself without her. One of her 2 sons tries to go with her. She was such a sweet person, but her personality is completely different since this has developed and she won't take her meds. He says she say horrible things to him and her sons telling her sons she hates the day she had them. I didn't know about the wheat connection. I have no way of getting in touch with my BIL until he calls again because he doesn't want her to know he called me. He calls because he says I encourage him and make him feel better... he is a Christian and he knows I pray for him. But when I hear from him I will tell him about the wheat. He does the cooking so he may be able to handle that part at least.
Gary - Good to hear from you.
Rosebud - Sent you a website PM as I'm not always sure about sending them on threads.
TRISH ~ thanks, yes I found that site; it is a very helpful tool -- @http://www.openbible.info. Sending prayers up for your BIL and his wife/partner? and the kids too. Praying she will see that she needs meds to make her better again.
RONNIE ~ thanks for your prayers; and am praying that DS2's car can be fixed without too much expense, and for your MOM that she also will see that taking her meds will help her feel better and help her to function at her best too. This is so common with those with this disorder.
GARY ~ thanks, hope you're feeling well ...
BARGOO ~ yes, we have two stereos here with lots of Christian music, plus his own special stereo is set to our local Christian station and I try to put it on every day for at least a little while.
We kept busy today doing more fall cleaning and got a lot accomplished. Will be turning in early to rest this body though .... Take good care everyone -- you are all in our prayers every day too ...
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RONNI, TRISH, ROSEBUD, PATTYGIRL- praying for your family situations.
RONNI- I am so sorry you went through all that!
I, too, am stressed with family stuff right now. Our landlords (who are crummy landlords anyway) told us that we have to move out by Dec 1st because they will be moving into this house. They say they sold their home but I think it was foreclosed. Last summer we were getting mail from the bank about their unpaid mortgage. Our rent has kept this mortgage current so I expect they'll move in here until the bank forecloses on it too. So we are scrambling to make housing decisions right before the holidays. I don't think the landlords have our deposit money either, which is ridiculous because we have been fixing up this house to make it livable. (when we moved in there were holes punched in the walls and doors. Heck, the bathroom didn't even have a door! So we made repairs to make the place livable and I bet you dollars to donuts the deposit money won't ever be seen. Ugh. It's just the last thing we needed right now.
Other than that I'm ok. I had a good workout today to take my mind off things for a bit. And tomorrow I'll drive a little over an hr north and my fiance will drive an hour or so south so we can meet in the middle for a date night. Spending a couple hours with my hunny will make me feel a lot better.
LAURA ~ that is a tough situation for sure. DH and I went through a similar situation a few+ years back; and GOD found us a place to live and he will for you too. We put an ad in the local paper that we needed a place ASAP and that's how we got a place (then later, GOD helped us buy this place). It is possible that the place you are living in may be free & clear to your landlords; but that is conjecture on my part. Obviously, they are also in a housing bind too. Sending up ^prayers^ for all of you in this situation ...
RONNIE ~ I too am sad for you that you had such a rough childhood; so I am sending up some special ^prayers^ for GOD's healing grace upon you and your life ...
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always helps me feel better, so we did that for a little while too. I'll try to use my ski poles this winter whenever it is mild & sunny, like today was for a little while. 
We're not sure what's wrong with his car, but may be the fuel pump (which would be bad, because we'd probably have to pay a garage to fix it) or fuel pump relay (which would be good, because DH can fix that easily in the parking lot). Or.....could be something else
I hate to think it, but it may be time to get him a different car...we thought this one would be a decent one, but we've had nothing but problems with it for 5 years. DH is working on replacing an engine in an old Escort we have and if he ever gets it done, it would be a good car for DS2 to finish up school with. Just too many issues going on right now and none of them getting finished.
Take good care everyone -- you are all in our prayers every day too ... 
