Crying at Work - 3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community

QueenofThorn · 03-01-2012, 03:04 PM

So, I have been happily married for four years now. I found out yesterday afternoon that the guy who broke my heart in college got married (a year or so ago, I'm guessing) to the girl he dated after me. I only found this out as part of research to write a funny blog post about Googling people you hate. I had a good laugh about it. But then, last night, for some reason, it hit me. Like, it REALLY hit me hard. I am confused as to why. I don't love the guy any more. It's not like his wife was some model-hot girl, either. I make more money than the guy, and probably more than his wife. But it triggered something in me that started me crying last night and then I cried the whole way to work and now I've been crying on and off AT work for the last 3 hours. How on earth do I stop these tears? I am MARRIED TO SOMEONE ELSE. I am a (theoretically) bad-@$$ career woman. This is SO embarrassing and undignified. Who weeps over an ex when they've been happily married for four years???

PrincessAmy · 03-01-2012, 03:22 PM

Do not feel bad...was this your first love? My first love got engaged and I balled my eyes put even tho we have been broken up for almost two years. He also broke my heart and I have been over him but for me I think because he was my "first " the first cut that that's why it hurt a Lil to find out he was engaged...I think its normal and a lot of us do it...but if you continue to feel this way it might not be good. Lol I was upset over my ex being engaged for like two days then was over it...hang in there

QueenofThorn · 03-01-2012, 03:25 PM

Yep, first love.

astrophe · 03-01-2012, 05:36 PM

There you go. First love's hurt the hardest. But don't worry -- let it run its course and you will feel better.

A.

QueenofThorn · 03-01-2012, 06:36 PM

I already do, thanks. Man, that was embarrassing.

femme fatale · 03-01-2012, 06:41 PM

I still cry over my ex. I was 26 when I met him and never loved anyone the way I loved him..we have been broken up for 2 years and I even had a one year relationship with someone else(yeah, THAT didn't work). But for some reason, it still gets to me.

digitalbath · 03-01-2012, 07:52 PM

It doesn't have to make sense to be sad-so don't beat yourself up over teh illogical side of this. I know how you feel.
As for the crying at work thing- I don't really have much advice except a quick bathroom cry (as quiet as possible) and getting really involved in a work project. Has helped me a few times in my office.
Finally- please feel better!!! It will pass.