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I feel like I'm a child and being fat will keep men away from me. If I am thin i will suddenly be a woman. I want to change but it gives me a lot of anxiety. The following points pretty much sums me up. Thanks so much to the op for these. Reading all of your posts makes me realize that I'm not alone in this.
1.You may fear your sexual energy. Many individuals fear that they will lose control sexually if they lose weight.
4.Your fat may be a way of resisting the growing-up process (baby fat), because adulthood seems frightening.
6.Weight loss may require you to accept more challenges or responsibilities. Staying fat then becomes a form of safety.
7.You may fear being seen and therefore judged.
8.You may fear the loss of food as a drug and a hiding place from the difficulties of your life.
9.You may fear your own power: “Who and what will I be if I drop these pounds?”
wow u reallly hit the nail on the head for me! I have wondered why it is that everytime I try to loose wieght as soon as i drop a couple of lbs, i revert back to my old habits of sitting on the couch and doing nothing. i have bought 3 exersise videos in the past 6 mnths and used them maybe 3x . I see my self running and agile and light as a feahter and yet i cannot picture myself thin. I have never had a problem with attention from men in fact i have never liked that attention most girls like. i have been married 3x and have 4 wonderfull kids. they are what i want to loose wieght for. the funny thing is even though i have 100lbs to loose i can walk 6 miles and my kids start complaining after the first mile of walking w me lol but i feel the same as you ladies i dont think being thin will change me. but it will change the way some people treat me , then again do i really care what people think of me? not right now i dont, but when i finish school my employers may want a thin medical assistant instead of a fatty one........Originally Posted by prettygirlkacey
The things you girls are saying rings so true to me. I have been hiding behind my fat since puberty and I have no idea of how to deal with attention from men and sexual energy. I am afraid of all the changes in my life, that losing weight would create. I have been saying "when I lose weight I wil...." and it has really been a defense mechanism for me to have all this weight on me. I want a boyfriend but I am so scared of being intimate with anyone and even fear psychical touch at this point. Even a hug. I also have stretch marks so I feel like "damaged goods". I feel like I'm a child and being fat will keep men away from me. If I am thin i will suddenly be a woman. I want to change but it gives me a lot of anxiety. The following points pretty much sums me up. Thanks so much to the op for these. Reading all of your posts makes me realize that I'm not alone in this.
1.You may fear your sexual energy. Many individuals fear that they will lose control sexually if they lose weight.
4.Your fat may be a way of resisting the growing-up process (baby fat), because adulthood seems frightening.
6.Weight loss may require you to accept more challenges or responsibilities. Staying fat then becomes a form of safety.
7.You may fear being seen and therefore judged.
8.You may fear the loss of food as a drug and a hiding place from the difficulties of your life.
9.You may fear your own power: “Who and what will I be if I drop these pounds?”
